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What's the root cause of jealousy?
>>17209983
I can't say for sure, but I'd say feelings of personal inadequacy. When we're talking jealousy, we're talking about relationships, right? Or are we talking about jealousy of somebody's lifestyle/belongings?
>>17209983
Someone having something you don't and you want it. There's nothing more complicated about it
>>17209996
Less "I'm jealous so I'll be over protective of my girlfriend" and more "I'm jealous of the 10/10 chad who doesn't need to be overprotective because everyone adores him" type of jealousy
How do I get into modeling?
I don't wanna wear really faggy or retarded shit
>>17209936
Usually somebody just finds you and offers you a job.
If not then you're uggo.
>>17209936
too bad that's exactly what modeling is about... wearing faggy and retarded shit. i don't think i've seen a single male model that was truly straight.
>I don't wanna wear really faggy or retarded shit
You're not going to make it as a model then. Modelling isn't about you, it's about what you're modelling.
I'm stressed.
So I've been working out for the past few months, I've seen some improvement and all which is good. But here is the problem. I can't stop thinking about girls... Working out has caused my T levels to go up a bit. And it forces me to think about girls often. NOT a good thing. It's driving me crazy, and it's starting to stress me out. I don't want to think about girls, but naturally being a male who is excerising, my god damn body is making me.
Should I quit working out? This shit is seriously bothering me.
Do you feel you're going to be a danger to anyone? If no, and they're just thoughts, then continue.
You're working out for you. You started for you, so end for you.
>>17209845
I never thought I'd have to tell anyone on 4chan this, but: masturbate more.
>Working out has caused my T levels to go up a bit. And it forces me to think about girls often
Anon no. Your T levels are not going up that high it's psychological, if it was you'd be having violent outbursts before you over sexualise girls.
Keep working past it and practice self control but don't worry soon you won't need it and they'll come to you.
So I just moved home after graduating college and a friend of mine lost his fucking mind and thinks hes a girl. Ive been trying to help him understand the serious issues with the line of thinking.
Firstly hes always struggled in relationships. Like just getting a girl, not even the actual relationship. But then if you are a tranny
>heterosexual men wont want you because thats gay
>homosexual men wont be attracted to you because they are attracted to men
>heterosexual women wont be attracted to you because they are attracted to men
>homosexual women probably actually want someone with a vagina but are your best bet.
And to make it worse trannies dont like other trannies which pretty much leaves you with nothing.
Then theres the suicide rates and the fact that trannies are usually the most degenerate people you will ever meet even if you dont count them being a tranny. Like most of them are furries.
tldr; my friend is very mentally ill and I feel bad because it happened when I was off to college and I fear its too late now.
OP you may be overreacting. I can't tell whether your issue is the trans thing or whether it's because you think they're gonna have problems with their relationships because of it. It could be true, I don't really know. Either way, you're not going to convince them out of it, so you can either learn to live with it or drop them.
>degenerate
there's that word again
>>17209869
Are you saying furries are not degenerate
>>17209867
Im not about to just give up on a friend without trying.
my boyfriend of a year is a super solid guy with great character and morals. he's very honest, considerate, responsible, smart, loving and sweet... he's been a volunteer for helping autistic children, willingly participates in charities, he would without fail hand over whatever change he's carrying for any homeless people he comes across, also he's a generous tipper, and just an amazing guy over all.
but his biggest flaw is how easily angered he gets. he gets angry at his cat meowing at his door and threatens to beat it up (he obviously never does otherwise it wouldn't go near him), when something of bad luck comes his way he rants and raves about it like it's the worst thing ever, and in some cases he would punch walls or tables if he is angered badly enough. like one time, when some drunk chick kept being really rude to him at work, he managed to punch a hole in the wall at his work place. (which he fessed up to to his boss even if he could've gotten away with it)
he has gotten short with me once when i gently suggested that he looks for another job (because i know it causes him so much stress) but he still said "i love you" before ignoring me for several hours while at work. later that night, he returned a text telling me he understood my concerns and knew i wasn't trying to make him mad. (basically his way of apologizing... he's the type that only apologizes when it's absolutely necessary)
i gotten out of an emotionally abusive relationship 2 years ago, and have been extra cautious since... i actively try to avoid starting fights and am very careful with not trying to escalate things. (thanks to the conditioning of my abusive parents and ex...) i'm afraid of his temper and want him to improve on it but i don't know how to bring this up to him... and to be honest i'm a little afraid of his reaction even though it's more likely he'll try to re-assure me that he wouldn't harm me.
also i'm not quite sure how to judge him... am i being excessively paranoid?
>>17209810
It sounds to me like he is expressing his anger just fine. He's not yelling or screaming at you or even intimating he would get violent. Frankly, I scream when I am angry so sounds like you got lucky.
>>17209824
If you kissed another guy, you deserve to be hit. What would be better for everyone if you just ended things.
I'm sorry I need to make a new thread for my problem
Alright people. Let's see what magic you can do. I have a friend, we'll call him Steve. Steve is a huge closet furry. Huge. He's very good at hiding it to, but he's going through a lot of PHYCOLOGICAL stuff because he has to hide it. I'm one of the only people he trusts enough to tell me. We go to a public school, so if anyone could. Out it would be on social media and everyone would literally rip him apart. He's well liked generally and takes good care of himself, ie not fat does track hair isn't shaved or trashy. Normally because I'm pretty much a therapist myself, I'd handle it but it's gotten so out of control. I'd like to see what you guys have to say.
The fuck you talking about. Nobody else tells the other schoolchildren their fetishes.
>>17209780
It's not really a fetish he's just into the fan culture or whatever it's called.
Then again he probably does gap to the stuff I wouldn't be suprised
>the fan culture
You mean the fetish community?
How does a guy know if he's attractive or not?
I've had girls stare at me before, but how the fuck am I supposed to know whether or not they want my dick? I know I'm not ugly, but I don't know if I look good enough to just be able to hit on random girls, which is pretty much my only option since there aren't very many females around where I work which is also where I happen to spend most of my time. Id post a pic of myself, but I'm pretty sure my friends would laugh there asses off if they found out I was this insecure.
Post anyway. At least you'll have your answer and more confidence
>>17209764
Let's see a picture.
Op here. Best picture I have atm, taken at dinner a couple days ago
About to graduate high school here. Never been too masculine myself, mostly due to genetics and my environment growing up. I understand it's entirely on me to change who I am for the better and as I head into college I've been preparing to do so.
Still, what should us men be working towards? What are some qualities the best of men exhibited, outside of blanket terms like leadership and charisma, or big muscles and immense confidence?
As a side note, do any of you think the view of what constitutes masculinity has changed in recent times?
Is there a modern definition of a man whose qualities differ from what they used to be?
Is it impossible for some males to become "men" by society's standards regardless of what they do?
>>17209712
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9HSj-2shbqY
>What are some qualities the best of men exhibited, outside of blanket terms like leadership and charisma, or big muscles and immense confidence?
Are you serious? You would be hard-pressed to fit everything there is to say about a single one of those into a book, let alone a post.
>As a side note, do any of you think the view of what constitutes masculinity has changed in recent times?
No.
>Is there a modern definition of a man whose qualities differ from what they used to be?
No.
>Is it impossible for some males to become "men" by society's standards regardless of what they do?
Depends on the observer's viewpoint. But "yes, impossible" or very close to it for those who are a combination of disabled, poor, and broken emotionally.
>>17209712
P.S. do you know what's on that bar in your picture? If not, you can start there.
extremely long face and autism
Hi everybody. How would somebody with Asperger's go about dating somebody? I'm 26 and have never been in a relationship due to a combination of things ranging from a strong dislike of physical contact and having a generally hard time expressing myself properly. How do I combat this and just behave like a normal enough person to be able to actually date somebody?
/Aspie/ reporting in.
I'm in the same boat as OP, kinda, except not at all.
I'd love for somebody outside my immediate family to have physical contact with me aside from hi-fives, it's been over a year since I've received human affection.
Still looking for advice if anybody has any. Thanks.
>>17209975
Give up. You're fucked.
How could you think you would ever possibly not be fucked?
Preface: This is a weird question and a lot of you are going to ask why I would be considering this in the first place or will simply want to say "No, don't do this, you're an idiot." I totally understand where you're coming from. However, the purpose of this post is to get information on some technical questions: Can you turn yourself in for committing slander (as opposed to someone filing a complaint)? Since the burden of proof is put on the victim, is it possible for me as the aggressor to volunteer that proof even though it would hurt me to do so?
Situation: I heavily criticized a restaurant, saying everything from saying there food was bad to claiming to know they had pest issues. A lot of what I said were exaggerations or flat out lies.
I would tell customers from my work not to go to this restaurant routinely (approximately 2 customers per shift, 5-6 shifts a week, for 8 years). Where I work, it's common for people to ask about restaurants in the area.
Assuming I'm going to do this no matter how stupid I would be to do so: Could I turn myself in to the police, tell them I've committed slander, and offer them evidence and approximate damages? Would they then call the restaurant and ask the owner if he wants to press charges? Alternatively, could I send a letter to the owner of the restaurant and offer to fully comply if he wishes to file a complaint and even maybe pay for his legal fees?
Does anyone have an answer for this question?
The police will tell you to stop wasting their time since slander is a civil matter, not a criminal offense.
Assuming you really want to do this, then the thing to do is to contact the owner directly, tell you what you've done, and ask him how much damage your actions have caused him and then pay him - no need to get a judge or lawyer involved.
I imagine it is possible somehow. Anonymous tipline should work at the very least.
What brings you to this kind of decision btw? Guilt? Attempting to get a criminal record? Is your name Earl?
Since i broke up with my ex, i changed into another diferent person.
I became myself on the internet but in real life.
I met my ex who was my first gf when i was 16 and i just made her laugh soo much and all that.
Well she left me 1 month ago and after me crying a lot i just choosed to move on and it worked in some way.
Since im a funny guy irl right now because i feel soo confident and all that i've been with 6 girls now, which is a lot for me, just short relationships based on sex.
But my problem is that i just feel empty, i always remember my ex and i end up having sex with another girl and hurting her.
I am a really good person im loyal and since she broke up with me i just feel nothing.
And after 1 month, she called me, my ex called me saying that she just did not believe a person like me would be fucking all those girls and that our relationship didn't mean anything to me.
She left ME , after telling me she wanted to merry me, after telling me she loved me soo much she would do anything for me.
But in 1 day she just changed.
And now she wants to be with me again.
And guys this girl means soo much for me, she makes me happy and i love her but...
What do i do
Thanks.
She's just jealous that you're fucking other women.
If you get back together you'll just rip open old wounds and end up apart again, don't do it fucker.
I just texted her after a long time.
She asked me to go to her place tomorrow....
Should i go?
She says she wants to apologize about what she said.
>>17209731
Go, fuck her one last time and then move on
Hey everyone
Connected my pc up to an amp solid.
But now getting some annoying noises but sadly no not that type of noise that makes you want to drill a peep hole into your house mates wall.
Have tried earthing the case of my amp to the case of my PC with little success and when my computer isnt plugged into the amp there is minimal noise that comes out of the speakers even when turned up to high volume.
Im considering buying a dedicated sound card but its a little bit of money for me and I dont wanna shell out the cash unless Im confident its gonna fix the problem
http://www.pbtech.co.nz/index.php?z=p&p=AUDAS0015&name=Asus-Xonar-DSX-7.1-Channel-PCI-E-Sound-Card---Low-
Bumping for the sounds
Confused, your amp is making ambient noise?
>>17210441
Thanks for the reply
Issue is when it my baby AMP is connected to my PC I get lots of low electronic sounds in the back ground, wanting to reduce this as much as possible
/adv/, how do I get a job?
I've been in Uni for the past 8 months, and didn't bother then, but now, I'm trying to find a job for the summer. Out of the hundreds of applications I've put out, I've only gotten 3 interviews, none of which have worked out. I called them after the fact and asked how things were, etc. I have experience in retail and manual labor, as well as decent knowhow with computers. Everybody who's looked at my resume says it looks good, and I'm not exactly the most alpha, but I would at least hope I come off as confident in interviews.
What am I doing wrong?
Bump. C'mon.
>>17209606
>What am I doing wrong?
Applying for jobs indiscriminately. Employers know when you don't actually want the job and are mass-applying. You're better off narrowing down what you apply for and properly showing them why you want to work for them
>>17209798
What gives me away, and how can I demonstrate that I want to work for them?
So I live on the outskirts of Baltimore city and have been struggling in a relationship with my parents for a while. I lean a little right wing on various issues but my parents see that almost as treason. Every time I get home or have a rough day because of some stupid sjw of feminist if I ever tell them why i,was given a hard time they defend the feminist for the bs they pull or say they aren't a real [insert radical left group here] member. I feel attaked in my own home and I'm done fighting with the ones I love. I need to find a way to move out or something. I'm 18 and going into senior year of highshool and have no plans on dropping out. Is there a way to work part time and earn enough to get a small appartment and continue my studies? I love them and don't want to move out but Every time I talk to them they just hang up on me. And when I show stats they tell me that I'm causing unessisary stress in the family.
>>17209599
Tldr
I need advice on how to move out as a high school senior or how to advocate my possition in a way they will understand. I have an $800 starting budget from saving up from my summer job.
Hey man,I live around Baltimore too. I suppose the best answer I can give is get a friend or two and find an apartment or something. Maryland is expensive in most places unfortunately,but if a few people pitch in,it shouldn't be too bad,and they're always building new developments around here. Don't stay where you're miserable,it'll fuck you up in a long run.
>>17209819
Thanks for the help man. Too often do I go on 4Chan and get a sea of trolls. It's refreshing to get actual responses.
Been with wife for 7 years, we have 2 kids, when we first started dating we had TONS of sex. No sex going on 2 months now. Today the kids got picked up from school by their grandfather and we were alone for over 3 hours... and nothing. I have confronted her a couple times within this 2 month span i.e. are you cheating, did I do something, what am I supposed to do? ect ect She claims she has lost her sex drive and she just doesn't want to have sex now... or anymore... or who the fuck knows?!?! I really don't know what to do, I and starting to become agitated and its making the whole situation worse. I am very unhappy and would leave but I want to stay with our kids as I want them to have a whole family... I have no idea why I am asking for advice on 4chan but clearly it is pretty serious if it has come to this..! HELP what the fuck should I do???
That's pretty normal. Just do what every other man in your situation does and go pick up some girl at a bar and take her to a cheap hotel or hire a prostitute once in a while.
>>17209612
yea this has crossed my mind, one of the times I confronted her I asked her " what the fuck am I supposed to do...?" She was all pissed off I brought the subject up again and she told me "Go find some hoe to fuck"... Which yea could do that but... if she finds out she probably just going to get pissed off even though it was her idea...
>>17209612
This
