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I am 21 years old, a smoker and occasionally drink (sometimes hard, rarely tho). I have a girlfriend(sort of, we are not officialy together) and my problem is that i can't get hard when i need to. I am hard during foreplay and when i am giving her oral(i make sure she comes first because of my problem) sometimes that hard that it hurts me. After she cums (which can last up to 1,5 hours, I don't know why, when i finish eating her my whole upper body hurts) and it's my time I go soft if I'm not already soft. Most of the times i manage to get it up by focusing,...
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i need help
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>am hard during foreplay
You don't have ED, you have minor performance anxiety problems.
and how the fuck do I solve them? My mind is indeed fucked up
Before going through the images, I'd like you guys to read this post first.
Today, I came home to some death threats from an ex-boyfriend of a female coworker. Why? Because he thinks I'm fucking her, even though I just hung out with her after work a couple days ago, and she didn't mention to him that she'd be home late.
But yeah, I feel kind of ill and unsafe, she's sleeping in my living room for the night, and I have no idea what to do. So, I'd enjoy some questions about this whole ordeal.
Go to the police. Death threats are significant and it's clear that this person has psychological issues.
Somewhat OT, but why the fuck is she still living with her ex?
Is it possible to rape yourself?
Can you make yourself like sex if you don't?
>Is it possible to rape yourself?
No.
>Can you make yourself like sex if you don't?
That depends on why you don't like sex.
>>17203524
It fills me with irrational rage.
>>17203501
>Is it possible to rape yourself?
No.
>It fills me with irrational rage.
You need therapy.
So next week, I'm going to be going on a vacation with 2 other guys and 2 girls. 2 of them are good friends and 2 are acquaintances that I know through said friends. And apparently they want me to take part in an orgy.
I'm a bit why and can be awkward at times. I've only had sex with one person before (ex-gf) and I've been dry since last June.
I'm excited but also nervous and don't know what to expect. Any general pointers for anything in regards of what to expect, tips for being gud or to stop myself from getting too nervous when...
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>>17203446
Chances are overwhelming that it won't happen, because everyone will chicken out.
>>17203762
I mean, everyone else is pretty open to it and this isn't the first time they've done this shit. I'm the only one new to it and the only one who's kinda shy when it comes to this kind of shit.
Don't be a bitch
I'm a girl
>meet girl on dating site
>talk sporadically for months
>finally meet up and have lots of fun, then she gets distant
>says she wants to be friends because emotional issues
>still wants to hang out
>still talks to me but she's distant and flakey sometimes
Is it solely her emotional issues and her depression? I like her I want to hang out more, I want to be her...
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Girls usually say this if they are not interested. Don't be surprised if she goes out with someone next week.
>>17203428
Hmm
That's what I thought at first but like
She really seemed to like me and she liked kissing me and stuff I think....and she send me selfies here and there so...?
I'm still new to dating other girls so I'm terribly confused honestly
She straight up told me she has anxiety and depression but not to what extent so I'm not sure if I'm being hopeful or stupid
I like her so if I just need to be more patient I can so idk
>>17203437
Why don't you date guys? They are much more simple to be honest.
Is guys having long hair "just a phase" or you can be a mature adult with it?
Talking about heterosexual cis-males.
Long hair is too attractive (in real life of course)
Depends how long.
>>17203314
Like longer than chest-long. To the waist or hips.
what is a phase about it? hair grows, cutting it is the strange thing to do.
I need some advice,
I keep hitting points in my day where i feel depression at its fullest but it never leads to anything just out of nowhere i get this sad, lonely, and morally crushing feeling of regret and sorrow. It has no causes but lasting effects on me. Every time this happens i feel closer and closer to a pit of nothing.
Can anyone help me?
>>17203264
I hate to just pass it off, but if you can't identify a reason, you might want to consider seeing someone to help you pinpoint what is causing these feelings and thoughts. It's definitely not nothing, you just aren't aware of it, and a professional can help you figure out what it might be, then you can work on it from there.
Do you jerk off a lot?
Toke up bro
I have already filled out most of it, I just need help with the self summary part
Considering I had very few views to my profile and am generally a pessimistic faggot that has great difficulty saying anything. Ice about myswlf, I went full on honesty and probably scared away what little traffic I was having
>Currently trying to improve my life for the better; part of which involves me putting myself out their and trying get into a relationship for the first time.
> I have way to many personal hang ups and...
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My advice is don't have a dating profile tbhfam. But if ya really want to, here's what I think:
>Most people see "currently trying to improve my life for the better" as "I was an asshole once, but I'm better now, I promise!" The way you wrote it seems kind of deceptive, even though you probably didn't intend it. Just cut it out.
>You don't want to say right out the door that you have a bunch of insecurities & that you aren't confident enough to do this anywhere...
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>>17203226
dude you sound like a blithering mess of emotions and insecurity, girls want a stable stoic reliable man to date, you're such a mess most girls won't even fuck you
just keep it real brief, mention that you're a low key dude looking for something serious, I enjoy etc etc etc (this is the part for honesty, not I have a huge harry wart on my torso)
Updated a bit, still need to work on it probably
INTJ
>Currently trying to improve my life for the better; part of which involves me putting myself out their and trying get into a relationship for the first time.
>Not that my life is mess or I was some kind of asshole in the past, I am just getting older and everyone around me seems either be married with kids or in a committed relationship so I thought it was time to make a real attempt at dating
I'm 28, Female, with no kids but I want a bunch. My husband is on board. We both have really good jobs and can easily afford them, I want to spend years 28 to 35 with me being constantly pregnant, with a temporary 3 month break each time. Is this feasible? I really want to have 7 of my own children. Would I need to gain like over 100 lbs at the start? How long would it take to get back to normal.
First of all, can you afford seven kids?
Jesus just think of the grocery bill.
>>17203119
We did the math. This is the first time we are able to accommodate everything. We also took into consideration potential risks and disasters. Barring total tragedy, we're more than equipped to raise them.
>>17203107
Exercise as much as safe and practical while pregnant. Swim, do yoga and anything low impact.
Avoid sucking his penis. That will make it difficult to have kids.
Are you sure having seven kids is safe for your body?
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I'm 30. Been dating a 33 year old female with two boys aged 5 and 3 for about 10 months now.
We met at a legal education conference. She was married at the time. I was totally smitten from the first time I saw her.
Talked to each other over a week, then the second part of the conference required that we travel to another city and stay in a hotel for another week.
She invited me to her room the first night but I thought she was just being friendly and was happy with her marriage. Nothing she had said or done up to that point had led me to believe...
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>>17202720
Over time we've had on and off arguments and there are periods of time, like 24-48 hours where we won't talk to each other. But now, she's decided she has to move on because she's given me this ultimatum. Now my heart fucking hurts and all I want is to be with her. It's a shame it takes losing something to realize how precious it is to you.
I need advice on whether to try and make this work and win her back or to thank my lucky stars I didn't get her pregnant and move on with...
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Don't let the chemical in your head fuck you. This woman has a lot of baggage. Much more than you sound like you can handle.
Would you really want to raise another man's child and the fact that she cheated with him means she can cheat on you. You can't even hope to amend these things, even 10 or 20 years down the line these things will be in your mind.
Dodge the bullet, there are better women out there.
>>17202727
I am going to give you a serious answer because I've been there and know just what you're going through.
Although you've listed pros and cons there is just one answer that counts.
"Do you want to live with her for the rest of your life?" Ignore all the other factors, they're relevant but not the one big factor above all else.
>Pros:
Some people are gems in a pile of rocks. Is she really unique or weren't you noticing other women...
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>girl tells me she's asexual but still feels sexual attraction/desire
wat
Wat. Shes fucking retarded
>>17202713
Maybe she meant to say celibate
>>17202715
I've been googling around and this is apparently a thing, at least in some circles, but I still can't quite understand how it works.
Need help Pronto with my math...
/wsr/ is no help.
Did I get the following problems correct?
Find the value of each polynomial when x = 3
-3x squared + 7 my answer was -2
And the next is 5x squared + 4x - 20.
My answer was 217...
C'mon gais. I've got an exam this thursday. Don't let me down...
Also, how do I do these?
Solve for x: 7 (x -2) = 9x - 6
I'm probably doing it incorrectly. But I get it to 7x - 14 = 9x -6
I combine like terms and it becomes:
63x - 8
What...
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Isn't it past your bedtime?
-20
37
-4
I have no idea how you even approached the answers you got.
>>17202734
No, apparently it isn't. Got a better explanation cause I have no idea how you approached the answers you got.
For 5x squared 2 + 4x - 20
I multiplied 5 x 3 for 15, then multiplied 15 x 15 for 225 then multiplied 4 × 3 for 12. So it became 225 + 12 - 20.
Then it became 237 - 20 for 217
>>17202712
an exam? they have exams in 6th grade now?
So, recently got told by my GF that's she has pretty much come to the conclusion the she's bisexual. I'm somewhat conflicted as one of the traits I looked for in girls to date or find to be marriage material were being straight. Now, we've been together for 5 going on 6 years and I'm wondering if i'd be a dick move to break up with her over this.
I have nothing against bisexuals in general, but women who consider themselves bi are something I tried to avoid years ago, just like tattoos and cigs. I just feel weird about this, and no, I'm...
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>>17202684
As a married bi woman, I can't help but wonder why you seem to think we're all bad. Being bi doesn't mean you want to experiment with people, have threesomes, etc. It just means that, if you were single, you could go either way. I'm in a long-term relationship and wouldn't even think of asking for a threesome--it's not my cup of tea. I may be attracted to some women, but it's not anything I would ever act on. Because I genuinely love and respect the person I'm with. I think...
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>>17202684
it depends. do you think shes a slut? there is the idea that oen partner (being only male) wont be able to fulfil her and you are afraid she will leave.
but ultimately you have to ask: were those six years of faith a lie?
your call. it would be kind of a dick move, but are you going to stay with someone you dont want to just cuz its a dick move?
honestly though id worry less about who is 'marriage material' and who you actually fucking like.
>>17202709
>it depends. do you think shes a slut? there is the idea that oen partner (being only male) wont be able to fulfil her and you are afraid she will leave.
Nah, I don't think she is is, but a lot of girls I've seen who claim to be bi are pretty loose and/or have a lot of issues. I guess I'm paranoid she'll attempt to warm me up to letting me give her the ok to experiment with other girls. Last year a co-worker who was a known lesbian was hitting on her pretty...
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I'm going to be in my second year of college in the fall. However, I have essentially been living a NEET lifestyle since high school. During my first year of college I basically just stayed in my dorm, browsed the internet / vidya, and did not put any real effort into socializing or school work. I am currently at home for the summer break without a job or any social interaction. I don't have any real friends or hobbies and am feeling lost in regards to what direction my life is heading towards. Any advice /adv/?
Do you know what NEET means?
>>17202118
I meant that I'm basically living a shut in lifestyle despite being in college. On second thought, NEET isn't exactly the correct term but I certainly feel like one.
>>17202123
Hikikomori is the chinese term you're looking for
Hey, /adv/.
This person that I've been talking to is kinda pushing me to Skype with them, because apparently they want to watch anime and shit with me, but I have literally no idea how that would work?
I mean, they seem like the type of gal that enjoys commenting on shit as they watch, but I'm not? I normally watch my shows in silence ya know.
Plus I'm really not that interesting of a person? I can so see myself trying to be clever with some stray remark, and getting nothing but an awkward chuckle or sniff in return, what the hell do I do?
TL;DR...
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>>17202084
If you don't want to watch anime with her, you could certainly send her my way.
Try it and see what happens, my ex and I would do this all the time. We'd go in skype, count down from three and start it together, was pretty fun desu
>>17202104
No, I do want to watch anime and movies with her. I just don't want it to be awkward.
