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what's the best way of getting over this? i wish i had a cute boyfriend to distract me with sex and stuff.
should probably get another tattoo soon but they're so expensive. would it be completely weird for a 28 year old to get ear pointing to have elf ears? when i first heard of it i kinda joked about getting it done but now i think i'm getting pretty serious about it.
anyway i'm really sad and alone and lol it hurts.
friends? :(
just be depressed like me, anon. i have the same problem but i don't feel sad about it.
>>17205870
Eating spinach for some reason always helps with that. It feels weird that it works but it does.
>server at a shitty restaurant
>stingy ass general manager decides he wants to eat but also wants to sit at a table and be served for some reason
>sits in my section
>I get him his Mountain Dew and chicken tenders basket with a side of bbq sauce
>never let his drink empty and make sure he's taken care of above all my other tables
>go to give him his check and he says oh that's okay just have a manager 100% comp my meal
>go get a manager and they do it
>go back to my gm and he's gone and left me no tip
I'm in the middle of trying to get out of this shitty place where they treat everyone like shit.
How do I confront my gm and say wtf how you gonna stiff me like that?!? Without saying it in a way that makes him fire me?
It's too late to confront him if you're already at home posting this. Now you'd just look like a salty bitch. Next time stand up for yourself and call him out in front of everyone. There has to be a limit on how much you're willing to sell your pride.
>>17205867
Your fucking manager left you no tip?
Holy shit, that might be worth getting fired over.
But, if you want to avoid that, be direct without being confrontational. Something like, "Hey, just to let you know, even if your meal gets comped, it's pretty standard to leave a tip anyway. I did serve you just like I'd serve any other customer."
HOPEFULLY the guy realises he fucked up and apologises. Even if he doesn't, firing you for the audacity to ask for a bloody tip would be so...
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>>17205867
Just take care of your other tables first next time and get around to him when convenient for you. If he gives you shit just say that you were putting the customer first. If he gets particularly saucy just point out in earshot of another manager that you focus on customers that tip.
He will be a fucking pussy and back down because that is what bullies do. If he threatens you with firing tell him to go ahead and that your cousin is an attorney specializing in labor law.
If he still fires you then make an anonymous phone call to the state inspection board and complain about cockroaches, they will do a surprise inspection and make his life shit.
Basically you just keep escalating the situation to face the guy as far as he wants to take it.
Never take shit though, EVER. You don't need the job as bad as you think you do.
I'm in a pickle here. There's this girl who used to date my friend. My very close friend. I had a crush on her before he did and it ruined me when he started dating her. She broke up with him about a month later and she has no interest in him. I was kinda happy. Now, about 5 months later, he has moved on to a new girl. My feelings for this girl have continued to grow to a point that I can't stop thinking about her and calling myself a pussy for not talking to her. She is somewhat shy and likes to read. I want to start talking to her, but I don't want to piss...
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>>17205864
>Not just a girl...
But she is. Take her off that pedestal, buddy.
He swooped in not giving a shit for your feelings, who gives a flying fuck about his feelings? If he throws a bitchfit over it when he is in what should be a happy relationship, he is shit friend material.
Just go for it.
>>17205886
>He swooped in not giving a shit for your feelings
I'm pretty sure OP never made it clear he liked her, given that he hasn't even talked to her
>Ask a coworker out for coffee because she's cute
>She agrees
>Texts me later to say "This isn't a date by the way..."
Is it even worth going to save face or am I better off cancelling it
Go and make sure to talk about how you took your girlfriend to pound town the night before.
>>17205869
Why would she care about that?
>>17205863
Go. Just go.
You won't get the girl, but maybe you'll get a nice chat.
Hi, I'm currently learning Korean. Where I'm studying there is a contest to win a trip to Korea. The contest is about to talk for three minutes about Korean treasures. But, when I search for Korean treasures in Google, it doesn't give good results.
About what should I talk?
Thank you very much.
>>17205811
Korea's greatest treasures are boats and airplanes. They're highly valued because they allow one to leave the shithole that is the Korean Peninsula.
The treasures of Korea are the culture you fucking idiot. They don't mean literal treasure. Talk about a particular aspect of it that you are really looking forward to (food, kpop, historic site, whatever).
>>17205811
Here, watch this thing about Conan O'brien visiting Korea. It's hilarious but also strangely insightful because they go out of their way to show him what it's all about. You might learn some Korean too since they try to teach him.
http://teamcoco.com/korea
Alcohol... for when you're sick and tired of worrying about everything.
(warning: will ruin life)
Alcohol will only get you drunk. You're responsible for ruining your life.
I ignored my girlfriend for a while because she pulled something that I didn't like. She apologized but I didn't really acknowledge it at the time since I was in a bad mood. So I tried to fix things up when I felt better but she told me that she thought we should spend some time to ourselves and that she needed to think things through.
I think she's going to break up with me.
How do I deal with it? I feel myself getting depressed at the thought of it alone... I'm not sure what I should do... I don't want to break up with her. But I think...
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>doesn't communicate properly
>is surprised when girlfriend wants to break up because you can't communicate properly
nothing you can do but save your honour and pride. if she does break up, you're going to be depressed as fuck. at least now you have the advantage of seeing it coming, so you can have a fucking spine and not go crawling back - it'll only make you cringe years down the line when you're over it. everybody has breakups the least you can do is save face
>>17205728
I see... That's true. I don't open up much.
>>17205734
How do I deal with it though? I don't want to crawl back asking to be with her again. What if I get so depressed that I just make stupid decisions?
How do you meet new people make friends get a gf etc. I can usually talk to people in class and such but how do you start conversations around uni or talk to a chick you think is cute.
Just start talking to them about anything. It can seem hard to think of topics of conversation, but there are actually a lot of them, so think it over. At uni you can start off by asking things related to what you study, for example. Ideally, you want to get the other person talking about things they like (themselves usually works nicely), which normally means they're enjoying the conversation.
The one thing to be careful about is that you don't want to bother people or even seem creepy. Notice what they're doing and they're mood and don't talk...
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>>17205750
I mainly have problems telling when other people want to talk. I can't read their body language that well. If someone sits next to me on the bus or in line for food or something I can't really read em
>>17205825
Like I said, nothing can replace experience. The best you can do is try to put yourself in their shoes, but that's often not enough. You just have to try it out: sometimes it will go well, sometimes it will go badly and you will learn from it.
I don't know how much I want to be with him anymore, it's really depressing. Been a long 8 years. We're in our late twenties now, together since high school. He used to strike me as very intelligent and well-spoken, but nowadays it seems all he wants to do is go party and be drunk all the time. I've become so unattracted to him that I don't even think much about sex these days. He recently got in a drunken brawl that I just... am categorically not thrilled about, I don't have any attraction to those men who like to get drunk and pick fights and...
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I mean, I've got a few friends I connect with but it's kind of a nice bonus to have a friend you connect with that you're also down to plow with? Idk. I miss feeling like I'm in love with someone, I miss feeling like I have an "other half" of sorts. I have a lot of friends I can talk pretentious crap about, but... you know. It's different when it's someone you know you could reach for on a more-than-platonic level.
I suppose talking to him about changing his behaviour hasn't done any good?
>>17205680
Not much, really... We've had long, peaceful sit downs talking about how I don't care for his drinking problem / bar hopping and we've even had a few fights about it that had me spending the weekend with my family a few towns over (because I just did not want to be in the same house as him.)
It's crap. I don't want to leave him, but right now the more I think about it the more I feel like he's a lost cause. I'm still very in love with a person that, y'know, I don't...
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Will someone text me and pretend to be my girlfriend for a while? I need this.
>>17205648
What's in it for me?
>>17205651
I don't know, what do you want?
>>17205656
What can you offer me?
Was lied to by the court, and have been told to take another drug test. Since I've been smoking everyday for the last two weeks, can anyone confirm any detox drink that works? I see the HERBAL CLEAN DETOX Q Carbo, but I'm seeing mixed reviews.
Can anyone shed some light here? I don't want to get fucked again. Obviously I'm going to stop smoking and stay clean until the test, but in the case that I don't have enough time, will anything help?
What?
>>17205633
Basically, do Detox drinks work? if so, which ones?
Are you on probation?
Detox drinks don't work. Every single one has the same instructions: Drink lots of water, drink this, continue drinking lots of water. All it does it dilute your urine in the hopes that the ppm or whatever of THC in your urine is under the threshold for failing. It's snake oil...
If you're on probation then using some synthetic or subbing someone's piss is out of the question because you'll be watched.
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> 21 year old
> Not virgin
> Sorry bad english Argentinian-fag here
I cant feel passion for anything. When I was 16 I wrote tales, read books, read wiki, watched movies, tryed to learn everything because I was interested in everything. But now I dont feel interest in anything, I just feel hollow. I am in 3rd in Software engineer but I cant study anymore because I dont care of having a good life, or money or knowledge itself. I just feel like the apogee of my life has gone and...
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Hello fellow argentinian. Buenas, que tal.
I went through the same thing. Im still going through it. Therapy helps a lot.
Is there something you allways wanted to do but didnt get around to it? Like an instrument or something.
Te re entiendo. Se va el brillo. Pero en realidad sigue ahà man. Bajate mucha musica nueva o algo asÃ. Es fácil y te mueve.
>>17205646
Thanks a lot capo
I would like to get some professional help but atm I am poor as fuck, so im trying to look for a job, leave college and perhaps my life starts getting better.
The thing is that I am like this for like 2 years now, and day by day is getting worse, so I thing that I need some serious change in my life.
Bumping for thread recognition. 'Murica-fag here looking for the same answers.
I don't know why this is happening.. but
I keep having dreams about cheating on my partner. Almost every night. It's not all sex dreams, most are just I'm spending time with a new girl and having a blast.
We moved in together three months ago and she's let herself go and I keep getting attention from girls. I was driving and some girls flagged me down only to tell me I was cute. Then I drove by some girl on campus and she rolled her hips and butt at me. Then girls keep contacting me on fb despite me clearly being in a relationship. I have a...
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>>17205603
Maybe you aren't happy and your subconscious is trying to tell you through dreams that you're looking for more stuff.
>>17205603
Maybe spice things up with her or something?
I keep having dreams where people I know come to my home and beat me until I die
They mean nothing
what is the point in not being a neet? most people normal people are unhappy anyway, the only difference is that they momentarily cover it up with materialism, and drugs. most normal people are cucks, they are spending most of their time working just so they can live, what is the point? especially if they have kids, they have even less time.
>>17205600
The sense of achievement is the ultimate feeling
>>17205600
no point because you die anyways. You have awoken, OP.
>>17205600
If you have a job that you actually have passion for it's a pretty great time. If you just do it for the money it's definitely a slow mental suicide.
As for being a neet, you can either do it by leeching off your parents or getting tismbux.
People who leech off their parents are absolute cancer in my opinion, along with the parents who enable.
The people who qualify for autismbux are usually neets anyway.
I use coke just about every weekend partying with friends and have occasional urges or cravings to use during the week. I also have mild depression after a night of using. Do you think I'm addicted and need to be concerned?
Yes. Fucking stop doing coke dude, you've had the experience now stop destroying your body.
>>17205553
yes. coke is dangerous
>>17205556
I get the urge to use coke every time I drink alcohol. I don't think I can stop drinking alcohol completely. Idk what to do
