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>I am planning on confessing to a girl I have not seen in person for more than a year.
I have known this girl for more than 5 years. We used to meet, go out for drinks, go on bike tours regularly, before she moved a way to pursue her studies.
One year ago, I moved into a town close to her.
All this time, we never had a chance to meet in person, because we have vastly different schedules.
Recently I skyped with her for the first time in ages and I noticed I much I had missed her in my life. Our mundane talks, our biking tours...all that came back to me. Just listening to her talk, just put a huge smile on my face.
This was not the first time I had thought about my feelings for her, but never acted on it because I thought that we wouldn't go well together.
>My friends and her sister seem to think otherwise.
Although I never was 'head-over-heels in love', my feelings for her have been nagging at the back of my mind for a while. She always stood out to me.
I doubt it would be a good idea to start a relationship across cities and different schedules and universities.
For me this confession is more of a way to vent my feelings, rather than aiming for a potential relationship.
Now I am just worried that my casual confession would be impolite or make her uneasy.
>Is it acceptable to 'confess' to a girl, while not necessarily aiming for a relationship?
>'We have not met in a long time and I have really missed you...maybe we could be more than friends...whatever you say, it is just something I wanted to tell you, something i don't want to regret no having told you' (not these words, but along these lines)
Please share your experiences and opinions.
Thanks.
>>17224247
I suppose it would be fine, so long as you don't make it cringy, I guess.
Just.. make sure it's the same person. A lot can happen in 5 years.
>>17224254
Thanks for the input.
The last time we met was about a year ago (not 5).
I planned to just go out to dinner with her, after spending some time with her. And when the time is good, just casually tell her.
>The last thing i want is to seem needy.
>Whatever she says, I just want to have said it - regret is worse than telling her
What worries me, is whether it is acceptable to 'casually tell somebody that you like them'.
Vent your feelings to a neutral third party, or write a letter and burn it. This isn't appropriate conversation. If you want a relationship you go about it by flirting with her and building interest until you get what you want. If you don't want a relationship you don't say a word of it. The ONLY time it's appropriate to confess like this is when you're cutting her out of your life to move on.
It will make her uneasy and damage your friendship. Unless she happens to already be interested in you as well secretly, in which case she'll want...
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How do I stop wasting my life on 4chan? It literally consumes all my free time. I've tried to do without it before but I get anxiety about all the cool stuff I could be missing out on.
Replace 4chan with other activities. Get some new hobbies that involve spending time outside.
Maybe get a bicycle, or join a boxing gym, or start golfing.
>>17224238
>all the cool stuff
Get a job, a job that makes you interact with people
Why did I have to be born as Butters?
You weren't born that way. You are just busy indoctrinating yourself that you are, instead of being observant, practicing not to be, and being proud of what you achieved.
>>17224232
>be proud of what you achieved
Which is nothing. Go take your hippie liberal 'everything is ok' advice and peg your uncle with it you flaming faggot.
OP change yourself, struggle, let your rage and anger fuel you to greatness. Start by getting off 4chin, get a gym membership, and go outside 5 times a week. School/work doesn't count.
>>17224215
At least you weren't born as... oh no wait even Jimmy isn't as bad as Butters. Oh or Craig, that guy is a real retard too.
My gf dildo is bigger and thicker than me, she makes herself cum super hard with it, im only 6 inches hard and about 4.5 thick, not sure on girth but not that fat, also not a pencil
How can i make her appreciate my cock and use my tool more efficiently, i am very capable of making her cum by eating her out and face fucking her, throwing her around, being very agressive for the most part, shes a good girl, she loves it when i grab her by the back of the head and pull her to suck my cock while i relax on the couch, so, to say the least, the intimacy is definetely there,...
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>>17224183
Lol. You're too small for your girl. It's literally only a matter of time before she seeks some BBC on the side.
Your best bet is to find a girl with a smaller vagina. If you're insecure because a piece of plastic is cucking you, you're going to be on suicide watch when (not if) she cheats on you with a BBC Mandingo Warrior.
Or you could wait for the cucks, nu-males, and women to chime in and tell you 'don't worry about it' or 'just bee urself lul'...
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>>17224183
Sometimes I wonder, if the shitposting on 4chan has created self-perpetuating bait threads. No human could be that sad and repeatedly post the same type of thread over and over again.
don't worry about it just bee urself lul
I need some advice on something that's really making me uncomfortable.
So, a friend and I hang out constantly at his place. He's a stay at home dad with a newborn baby, and he gets pretty bored and calls me over. I work night shifts and have nothing to do so I just go over. It's cool chilling at his place, but the problem is his 12 year old daughter. She's too flirty around me, and very touchy when my friend is out on the room doing something else or checking on the baby. Two weeks ago he ran out for a bit to run some errand, and his daughter jumped on me and sat on my lap. I gently pushed her off and explained to her that what she was doing was not okay and was really inappropriate and that it made me uncomfortable. At 12 I would've thought she'd understand, but I was wrong, she kept doing shit like this.
I talked to my friend about this and he gave her a talk, and that pretty much settled it. Now the problem is that she sent me a friend request and a chat request on facebook. I blocked her. Now I just try to avoid going over as much as possible, it's just so awkward and uncomfortable. But this is like the only friend I still have contact with and I don't want to fuck it up.
I would just keep him updated cause he is aware of the situation so you shouldn't have anything to worry about. You can even say it's uncomfortable for you but obviously don't want to insult his daughter so you are looking for him to help you out. Also, I imagine this is also uncomfortable and embarrassing for him to so don't feel like it's just you.
Sorry you are in this weird situation.
>>17224163
ha
I feel bad for guys who eventually have to go through this. Hopefully she wont resort to blackmail or anything.
Try to explain what could happen to you if she doesnt stop. Hopefully she wont use that against you.
>>17224205
Hopefully. This shit is kinda scary.
the 3 yr ex shitposter is back with anther update
>last night tells me shes done
>tell the boyfriend shes been fucking me the whole time they have been dating
>he wants to fight me and believes her
>fuck this bitch, im done
>texts me this morning "hey..."
>reply hours later and we start talking
>she says he believed me and "you ruined everything"...
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Dude don't you have friends you can tell this shit?
Lmao this isn't even asking for advice
>>17224141
i have no friends what so ever
im just asking for peoples opinions as i dont have anyone i can tell this shit to irl
>>17224146
Dude why won't you try to be happy?
Even if you ex and her bf break up they'll get new relationships and move on and be happy, you will stuck where you are.
Move on or die never living life past where you are now
I am in a relationship with a girl I genuinely love. Yet I can't stop coveting other women.
It is especially difficult when there are women that express interest in me. There's part of me that somehow can completely turn off most moral bearings.
When I was younger, I lacked the confidence and skillset to charm women, but somehow I do now, being in my late twenties.
It gets bad sometimes, as I fantasize about other women.
I've never done anything. Sometimes, I make lame jokes to my girlfriend about oral sex and lately she's been...
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>>17224078
You're completely normal and if your girl refuses to give you oral sex (???), then you should simply talk about other women with her. Especially if she doesn't give you something, it shouldn't hurt her too much since it's not like she's just too bad at it or something.
And if you don't cheat and cheating is out of the question, then you're not able to turn off moral bearings. You have no idea how bad that gets.
I'm somewhat similar. I've tried a lot of things to get my gf into oral and she isn't a real fan (cunnilingus not felatio). Every time I talk to her about it I get no where and it ends up at "I just don't like it," and it kills me a little each time hearing it.
So I cheated and feelprettybad desu but I'll probably keep doing it until she finds out and I kill myself :^)
>>17224107
Thanks for the response. It's not that I'm frustrated about not getting any blowjobs or whoopee from her.
The silly thing is I'm not all that crazy about receiving. I rally like giving oral, but that's not up her alley (pun intended) either.
It's that I more than often find myself being enticed and entranced by a woman I might meet. To the point where I want to be with her, intimately.
Casual blowjobs, get on, get in get off type deals do not interest me.
An old school...
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Hello /adv/. When my son was 2 his bitch mother (shared opinion) took him half-way across the US and got a restraining order saying that I have to stay 500ft away from her at all times. It was only approved because I had a few assault charges on me when I was 17 for some stupid shit and the police didn't want to take the chance she was telling the truth and that I was beating on her. I wasn't. She recently passed away and my son (16 now) and I have been living together since. From what I understand, he never really made any friends and he was basically a hermit who...
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>>17224063
Go to the gym together. Should make him healthier and possibly more social interaction.
>>17224473
Seconding this. Well, shared activity, at least, with chance of social interaction.
Ya, get him to work out also tell or teach him a few ways to talk to people and convince him to not be shy or something lol gl,hope he'll have a nice life.
How do I stop feeling so bad about a job I quit 3 goddamn years ago?
It sounds pathetic (and it is) but to this day I still have intense anxiety and panic attacks about a job I had for a week as a waiter. The guy I worked for was a prick who would always yell at me and the other staff and even his wife when she was over (several times, all in front of customers when I'm serving them which made things incredibly awkward). I work fucking hard and I'm great at my job but I felt this guy was really disrespectful to me.
When I was dealing with customers...
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Cheeky bump
Anybody?
one last one
I just want to lay down and die. I have no friends, nobody to care about me. I'm about to become homeless. I don't know what's stopping me from changing my life, but I keep being miserable.
Anybody have an answer to this?
if ur at emergency point with homelessness u could contact a parent or relative to stay with them or you could start camming on chaturbate (they accept all genders) to earn money, some popular models make £50k a month on those sites
>>17224033
This is going to sound ridiculous, but I think you should try looking at the bright side of things. Life is tough, it always will be, but it's never permanent. It'll blow over, unless you simply decide to give up on yourself!
So.. what would a bright side be? Personally, I've always wanted to travel around, living out of a backpack, but I've been too afraid of leaving the comfort of my home. If I were on the brink of becoming homeless, then what would I have to lose? I'm already where...
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>>17224087
I will become homeless in a month or two. I have no money right now. I could get a job to save some money to go travel, but I don't know why I'm not doing it. My brain keeps me in place. I know I'll be miserable without money, probably have to beg, but I hate myself so I don't care. I keep procrastinating instead of getting a job.
How would you react if you ex told you she still loved you after a long time? Need preferred male opinions on this.
>we go out for 2 months
>i take his virginity
>in the first 2 weeks he really likes me and worships my looks etc, is a genuinely nice and sweet dorky guy, not a fuckboy/douchebag
>suddenly makes it clear hes less fond of me
>i ask him if he wants to end it
>hes like yeah....
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A girl who popped my cherry also cheated on me later so it's hard to relate.
He was the one who wanted to end this right? I am too proud to try something again in such case, even if I were begged to, but I'm a guy and I'm stubborn. Imagine that he probably boosted his confidence once he lost his virginity and wanted to level up, get fuck around and get some prettier girl. Maybe he failed at this job and comes back with his tail down.
You really want to be plan B and emergency goods he takes because found nothing better?
>>17224027
> Would you still wanna be friends?
Normally I would, but the guy didn't reply, even though he said he wanted to meet up. He lied to you and let you down.
> Would you be sympathetic/understanding?
I'm always understanding, but that doesn't mean that I'm forgiving.
> Does a girl have more significance if she took your virginity?
It depends on the situation. I don't personally care,...
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>>17224049
woah there . a girl who is more attractive than me??? your wit, sir, is legendary!
im just joshin ya but i did won prom queen. im very much out of his league. not to sound up myself or anything. i appreciate ur honesty though dude.
Oh god please help
About two weeks ago, I had both smoked and consumed marijuana. It was fun at first, but it got really bad really quickly. My heart started pumping really fast and the worst feeling came over me. I felt like I was dying. I called one of my family members and I had one of the worst panic attacks of my life. I was screaming in agony and they thought I was dying too. Every time my heart began to race and I began to panic a little bit, this loud buzzing/ringing sound started in my ears which made me freak out even more. Eventually, it calmed down, but there...
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>>17223995
OP
Then I started marijuana but not for long. Maybe only 3 weeks until that happened. Within those 3 weeks, I had also taken 1 hit (150 micrograms) of pure LSD. If I remember correctly, I had smoked once after with no horrible effect, but the next time I had an edible and smoked it had that effect. Oh the edible had about .3 of a gram and I smoked maybe .05 of a gram. I had never taken an edible before.
The past 3 days, I had been using chewing tobacco, and then the fucked up feeling happened again today,...
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>>17223995
Are you sure that was actual bud and not spice (synthetic)
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I would say it's unlikely since this dealer had quite the reputation around here. How would I be able to tell if it was synthetic? It looked exactly like bud too.
Am I going bald? No one believes me and they say it's just the way my hair is but I'm convinced I am and I'm scared to get my hair cut because of it
>>17223987
It's possible, but I don't think so.
It would be an improvement.
People I've asked said im just being paranoid. I have to like move my hair to get that PIC
Yay, yet more of this annoying things!
So there's this girl I like (no shit), and I managed to get her number. Issues are: She's leaving the country, don't know when; and the three conversations I've had with her texting have gotten exponentially shorter, like how did I fuck this up so badly kinda short.
I do want to be with her, but I also want to keep being her friend and know how she does when she leaves. So yeah...
Also according to my wonderfull facebook stalking skills her birthday was tomorrow (which I managed to forget!), so any help would...
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Move one you have like 35% with her and you're already mildly irrevelant after speaking less infrequently. Don't you know humans have short attention spans?
>>17223948
*move on
>>17223938
Well, we have no way of knowing what transpired in your texts.
Also, dismiss this "I want to be with her" stuff. She's leaving the country. Even if you two were together, she's going to fuck other dudes.
Admission to a long term relationship is how she gets you to keep giving her attention when there are no dudes around to fuck.
So now that we've put that aside, why do you even want to be her friend? Seriously, think about it. She doesn't even care enough to text...
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Nursing relationships thread.
All nurses invited, tell us about you nursing stories and toxic nursing issues.
Me:
>bipolar girl with rape trauma and abortion
>her mother has cancer
>girl spent some time in mental clinic
>her father is cheating on her mother
>she has panic attacks and bipolar changes
>me with her
>braking up many times but I always...
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Don't tell me I'm the only guy in here.
Are you a psych nurse, anon?
>>17223936
>braking up many times but I always come back because of pity, care and fear that she might just kill herself
>braking up
Clearly they didn't teach you proper spelling or grammar in nursing school. It's sad that I'm dependent on the likes of you to keep me alive.
