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So the manager who interviewed me for a job on Friday said he would call today. But it sounded like I would only get the call if I was hired.
Is this a common thing, or should they call even if they aren't going to hire me? Would they maybe email me instead?
It's around the time he had called to arrange my interview now, so I think theres still plenty of time for him to call, but I am a bundle of nerves right now.
>>17226137
He hasn't called yet? Are you sure you didn't say anything wrong at the interview? What about your body language?
>>17226198
No, no call yet, but the work day is far from over.
As for the interview, I think it went well, I answered as clearly as I could, was as confident as I could manage, and I did my best to use confident body language (straight back, eye contact where appropriate, firm handshake, smiled, etc.)
I feel I have a decent shot because I have experience working in the same company in another country, so it feels like my biggest downfalls would be my age (I am older than the average employee by now) and the fact...
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Call and ask about your status tomorrow. Distract yourself in the meantime.
It's not uncommon for a workplace to call you with good news later than they said they would.
Get ready for a thread that is not about relationships, /adv/.
So, I need some help. There are bots that are scripted to record and upload everything that is streamed on camsites. Little did I know that they literally record /everything/-- private shows included. I thought it was just the free shows that were capped.
My question is this: are there any sites that have a safer interface that doesn't allow bots to capture non-free streams? Feels completely unfair to any viewer paying to see me naked, only to have that show reposted everywhere thereafter. Even...
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Interesting post.
I think your best bet is to group up with your fellow cammers and demand that the site you operate on fixes the problem themselves. It really is their responsibility and you're the ones getting shafted for it. Demand better service.
>>17226131
I've already sent a message to the camsite, criticising the security. It's been a few hours, no response as of yet. People who make free apps for the site have also criticised that they can't do their job to the fullest due to some "API limitation" that won't allow them to create, for example, true "hidden shows" (paid shows) without the possibility that just about anyone can watch it anyway without paying.. however, I'm not too tech savvy to reference this in detail to...
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>>17226149
even if you set it so private shows can't be recorded, if a bot can view the video, it can record it and re-upload it
i'm assuming you mean cb or mfc or some other high-profile site here
there should be no way people can watch private shows without paying, and it's absolutely the site's job to prevent this
I´m looking for an android app that prevents me from wasting time with certain apps on my smartphone. An app that lets me choose which apps to put on the blacklist and for which time period these will be blocked.
So far I just found apps which are easy to trick or enable.
Bump because I´m a fucking faggot
Delete the apps you're wasting time on
deletes these apps or "focus" on Google Play
How do you get a guy to like you?
So far my plan is:
- To be as attractive as possible
- To be as interesting as possible in conversation
But I don't know what else you can do other than those two things
I really want to have a boyfriend, please help
Female/24 btw
lose the second point, guys don't care about interesting conversations
not the guys you're after anyway
If you're interested in someone let them know, they might reciprocate and ask you out.
[spoiler]be yourself[/spoiler]
I will meet an online friend when traveling abroad. Is there a way for me to verify his identity?
>have known him for a few years now
>met when an rpg game based on an anime was removed from its server. creators no longer had a copy so it was supposedly gone forever. he asked if anyone had a copy on the fan wiki and i replied and we kept in touch
>i am now 19 and he is 18 (just left high school)
>has video skyped with me before - appereance matches photos...
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Sounds like you're paranoid.
Are you traveling alone? If not, just have someone else come with you.
Or, meet the guy in a public place and if he doesn't seem legit just leave.
>>17225972
Have you never Skyped or seen him face-to-face? For your own protection, do so before you travel.
Not you again. Why do you make this thread every day on multiple boards? You have been given multiple answers already.
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For girls, how do you feel about your date paying for you? Im 22 and this girl Im seeing and the past girl I was seeing both don't like me paying for them, as they don't want to feel like Im owed something etc. etc. Which I understand, cause guys can be pieces of shit. But I actually enjoy paying for them and taking them out?
>>17225779
Not a fan. I don't know if I've been here too long or what, but I don't like the idea of a guy going behind my back later and whining that I didn't kiss him or put out or whatever and how it's not fair because he bought me dinner and that somehow entitles him to sex.
>>17225779
>cause guys can be pieces of shit.
I'm a dude, but funny/sad story
One of the dates my gf went on before she met me, guy came in for a kiss at the end of the night, and she turned away. His response, "What the fuck bitch. I paid for your dinner. You owe me."
That combined with the fact that she comes from a poor household growing up means she wants to feel she has control over her own enjoyment.
Consensus from all my female friends:
It's...
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I finally got a good job, I'm making good money, I'm fit, love life is pretty easy, my life seems pretty good.
I have no desires for anything and I am bored and sad because of it. What do?
Take up something that's competitive. Competition is rarely boring if you're competing in something that you enjoy.
>see ayy eyy
If you want a thrill, do something risky. You lack excitement in your life
Sure you do. You just lack the push to do whatever it is. Isn't it there something you've always wanted to do but haven't?
It dawned on me earlier today that most of the things that make me feel really anxious involve trying new things.
Whenever I'm about to do something I've never done before I'm not excited, I'm terrified. All the "what-ifs" fly through my head, I constantly tell myself I don't want to go through with whatever it is.
Isn't trying new things supposed to be exciting? This is really holding me back, because a lot of the time when the opportunity to do something new comes up I just....don't because it makes me so nervous.
What do?
>>17225520
Had this same problem and what I did was had a friend (someone you really look up to during rough times) go and do it with you. Even if its trying new foods or getting on a "scary" rollercoaster you gain your confidence. I did this and I'll try just about anything now. The whatifs still pop in my head but I only think of the good things that can happen
>>17225550
Trying new foods is one of the biggest for me.
Having friends with me helps a little I guess, but not enough. I'm starting to think this is something I should talk to the doctor about. My friends all think I could have some serious anxiety issues.
>>17225577
I am a very bland person
On my burger I only put meat and cheese on it
What you need to do is instead of trying new exotic food like sushi or something go to your favorite restaurant and try something similar to what you would usually get. You will love it 9/10 of the time.
I'm addicted to porn and masturbation. How do I stop?
as with all addic(k)tions, you have to commit to it. the fact that you made this thread is a sign that you haven't committed to it yet. if you're masturbating four times a day, try masturbating twice a day for a while. do it for long enough that it becomes normal. repeat the process until you're masturbating to the levels that you think are okay.
or you can completely abstain from it in general, if you want. may be harder to commit to, but if you're up to it, go for it.
>>17225465
Learn to control gratification
>>17225465
remove internet from your home. you can answer emails on your phone.
consider taking the door off its hinges. kind ahard to masturbate without privacy.
put your computer in the main living area. kind ahard ot masturbate without privacy
get porn blockers installed.
masturbate daily if you want, but only right before bed. ideally you should jack off twice a week, befaore bed, no porn.
chances are you are going to think this is too hard for half of the suggestions and say 'id...
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I just moved into my first apartment and I have literally nothing. I'm sleeping on an air mattress and that's it. No chair, table, etc just an empty apartment with a mattress on the ground.
I make a decent amount of money so I will be able to afford furniture, but my job just started. What do you guys think is the best order to buy things in? I need:
>table
>chairs
>bed frame
>nightstand(s)
>lamps, kinda dim in here
>TV stand
>desk
>couch
Also where should I be looking for this stuff? There are thousands of sites online and I have no idea what to use. Please respond
What country OP? Don't you need a fridge?
>>17225456
http://www.search-for-apartments.net/rentalguide/apartment_supplies.php
Don't know about anywhere else but my city area has a store where people dump their old shit and they sell it. Some non-profit type thing. Look for stuff like that. You would be surprised by the quality of furniture some people with throw out.
So got together with a girl recently; we had decided we'd be exclusive. I knew that she had tinder prior to this. She said she deleted her account but I noticed she had the app still on her phone weeks later. I put that on backburner and thought I'd devise a way to confront her with it, but things were going well and kinda forgot/neglected it.
Now I see that she deleted it as we got more serious. How can I ensure she wasn't using it to cheat before? I should have confronted her earlier when she still had the app, now I think she'll just deny it. I...
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Relationships are about trust. Let it go.
>>17225379
I know, but it eats at me; this is the most involved I've ever been and its proving more difficult that I expected to let go and trust.
>>17225385
I would add open honesty to trust, just tell her exactly what you've told us, you shouldn't conceal parts of yourself from her.
How can I tell if a guy is into me/wants to date me? He's very shy so there is no way he'll tell me directly. Should I just ask him? Is there any sign I can look for to know I'm not going to be frienzoned?
>>17225190
Holy shit ask him and take initiative. It's 2016, you women destroyed all natural order of gender polarity between men and women so act the fucking part. Ask him. Make a move. Stop expecting that just because he's a guy he has to be some suave outgoing mother fucker.
You all made your bed now fucking sleep in it.
>>17225190
my advice? just be brave. i wouldnt ask directly, id make a move. maybe you think it sucks, but idk, i get katnis everdeen vibes from a girl who is bold. maybe thats dumb, but thats the way i think. perhaps this shyer anon will think the same way. maybe you can be his manic pixie girl. or whatever trope you wanna throw out there.
id start just by being a bit more rubby on him. if he doesnt go for anything after two weeks, id just kiss him myself.
but im a fucking faggot so what the hell do i know
>>17225194
>>17225195
Well yeah I want to make a move, I was just asking if there's something I can look for that gives me hope I wont be rejected. He's a dear friend to me, so I don't want to ruin things either.
He blushes a lot when we're alone but that IDK.
I'm pretty shy myself so approaching him is difficult.
I'm 6' and 145 pounds, yet my face still looks "fat." Is there anything I can do, or is surgery the only answer?
Someone already suggested getting a tan, but every time I try, I just turn red because of my Irish genes.
>>17224951
Stop being insecure of your own face.
>>17224951
How old are you? If you want a more "manly" face, start lifting.
>>17225908
It's just that I made a goal when I was around 175 that I would improve my face but it's discouraging that not much has changed.
>>17226001
I'm 18. I've heard people on /fit/ say that losing weight is supposed to help your face but lifting won't do much for it. Have you had a different experience?
Lads, I need your help.
I'm laying in bed next to my drunk as fuck girlfriend, and i'm considering dumping her. Why, you ask? Good question. It's because she becomes a massive bitch when she's drunk. Abusive, spoilt, bratty; basically every trait I despise and loath.
That being said, when she isn't drunk, she's amazing. Intelligent, polite, selfless; all the traits I feel redeem humanity. She doesn't drink that often, we were at a wedding so obviously it was gonna be a bit of a piss up, so I was expecting the ugly side to come...
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Tell her you don't like how she is when she drinks. If she says that it doesn't matter because she barely drinks, tell her it matters to you and it is a problem, that the way she treats you then is unacceptable.
If she isn't willing to consider your concerns then the problem isn't only when she's drunk.
Be blunt. Someone recently made a near identical thread, and made his girlfriend realise how bad she was drunk (he actually dumped her after she punched him in the face.)
You likely don't have to go that far, but put in on the table clearly that she can't go too far with the drink or you might end up walking out. She just needs a wakeup call to how bad she is drunk - and no shrugging it off can help.
I don't know you so this is a bit of a stretch, but it sounds like you're making an excuse to get rid of her. And considering how much you like her when she's not drunk, it could (emphasis on could) stem from abandonment issues caused by something in your past.
Most people don't find someone that awesome, and honestly as far as glaring flaws go, that's pretty fucking minor. I vote to talk to her about it.
We've been together a little more than a year and living together for most of that time.
Here's my issue.
I work 5 days a week from 830am to about 4pm. So I'm out the door at like 745 and home at like 5. So 5 days a week she has 9 hours to herself to cook, clean, play on her computer, watch TV, etc... So 45 hours of alone time for her.
She only works about 3-4 evenings a week and only for about 5 hours on average. So 3-4 evenings a week when I get home from work I have about 5 hours of time to myself. So 15 hours of alone time for me.
I feel it's really fucking unfair desu and it sucks for me. I have lots of hobbies and interests and I like more intellectual TV shows/movies than she does. I feel like she gets so much free time to do what she wants, that when I get in from work, she just smothers me because she's been alone all day. Whereas I've been at work dealing with assholes (as well as on the commute to and from which are both during maximum aggressive/asshole driving time).
It honestly pisses me off so much. Sometimes I want to watch a documentary or even just a schlocky horror movie and I know I can't because she'll be bored by the doc and scared by the horror movie.
Or I want to work on some hobby stuff and I know she will just natter at me while I am trying to concentrate. Hell, sometimes I just want to play some video games and she will complain the whole time.
I feel like I know what the problem is. She gets MORE alone time than she's really comfortable with and I get LESS than I'm happy with.
How the fuck do I bring this up without starting a fight/hurting her feelings? No, she can't start working more for medical reasons. 3 days a week is about all she can handle physically. No she's not fat.
Bet it feels good to post all that.
I was in the same situation. In many ways I still am. My wife is studying to take a series of intense exams which will let her enter the career she's spent her life working towards. She studies every goddamned day, 8-10 hours a day. It's nuts. And I'm really impressed by her.
Yet I, too, wish I got some alone time every once in awhile. The thing is, I don't *need* it. I want it, and I want it all the time, but I can get by without it.
What's really happening is your inner bachelor, struggling to...
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Try 10 years of that AND being married. If she loves you she will agree to compromise your "me time" which is an understandable, healthy needed thing in your job field to help relax after being around people and noise. Just describe it what you go through outside your home and she should understand. If she has friends or relatives (i.email. sister, close female cousins or mother) maybe she can go out window shopping or just talk on the phone with them while you do what you want to do. Good luck
>>17224799
The god-tier solution would be a hobby for both of you
