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This may be kind of a broad question, but how does one find a purpose in life? I see people who are into sports, into art, into science, and they are passionate about what they do.The thing is, there isn't anything that I feel particularly passionate about. How can I find something to dedicate myself to, to put all of my effort into? All I do all day is watch anime and basketball, lift, and play video games
>>17232023
Help other people. However you want to.
The world will never have too many people making other people smile.
>>17232023
You just have to try everything you can.You WILL find the right thing,it's just a matter of testing the water.I was in the same boat as you,anon.Up until the age of 14 all I did was play video games.My only "hobby".My brother was musical so I thought "fuck it" and I got drum lessons.Pretty good but something missing.Tried bass guitar.Bam.Been playing in a band for 6 years.Those people you see with passions had to find their calling.Get out there and find yours.Good luck
>>17232023
Try getting into programming. It's relatively easy at start, and can stay as a fun hobby or get you a cool job.
Protip : start with Python.
I feel like I'm too tall. i'm a girl, 5'5" and I feel taller than most girls. it sucks, especially because I get the vibe that my boyfriend has a fetish or something for really short girls, like 5'3" and under. my idea height is like 5-5'3".
when I was younger, I was the shortest in class like in middle school and high school. I wished to be taller because that's how models are, and I wanted to be like them. now I hate my height. I'm know I'm not an awkward girl height, but it still bothers me, eseially since I feel like a lot of girls/guys are shorter these days... like I'm the same height as my boyfriends best friend.
also, I LOVE heels to pieces, but I never ever wear them because when I do i'm like 5'8". and then I'm taller than A LOT Of people.
help? :( do all guys only like really short girls mostly? like I know other girls of different heights can be a attractive, but I get really jealous around short girls even if theyre uglier than me. like my boyfriends best friend is dating a girl who's like 5'2" or so and her face isn't pretty but I hate when she talks to my boyfriend/is too friendly with him because I'm jealous of her height..
help meeeeeeee =[ should I find a different boyfriend? I know mine is attracted towards me, but I feel like I'm too tall for his ideal preferences and id be more comfortable with another dude who preferred my height girls..and my bf is like 5'11" or something (I think hes like 5'10" but he says 5'11")
help me:(((((((
There are plenty of guys who like short girls and plenty of guys who like taller girls.
> I get the vibe that my boyfriend has a fetish or something for really short girls
> I feel like I'm too tall for his ideal preferences
As long as you don't know, and only have a vibe or a feeling, you're worrying yourself sick. If it bothers you this much and you love him enough you'll bring it up. Otherwise you're making yourself worry with this thought of him not liking your height.
>>17232001
I mean... I just like know. I can tell. and all of his past girls have been REALLLY short.. like 5 feet. and I can see how he acts towards/around shorter girls, like I can tell hes attracted to them.
he said i'm the perfect height to me many times, but I just felt like he was kinda saying that.
like I feel like he likes everything about me except my height, but I don't think he finds me as too tall to not be with like as a dealbreaker, I think he just prefers shorter girls. kinda like...
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You're the average height of an American female. Is your guy short? Maybe he's insecure about his own height because being short usually make men feel less masculine. Short girls have short stubby legs and arms. Men love long legs. The few I've known to care much about a girl's height were insecure they were short. If that's the case, don't let HIS insecurity become yours
How do you tell the difference between when your woman is really horny vs. she's taken another dick?
Something happened with my girlfriend recently that's got me scared. I put my dick in her one night when she seemed really horny and it went in like smooth butter. This has never bothered me before. It didn't really bother me then except to tease her for it.
But then, a few weeks later, I fucked her out one night and then fucked her again in the morning. .... It slipped right in in the morning like butter. A light bulb went on in my head.
Either...
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pussies are supposed to be lubricated like that. if you have been sticking it in before without that level of lubrication, it means you did not do enough foreplay.
The writer has severe mental issues. Nice prose, though.
>either she took extra dick before I fucked her OR women really can be super duper fucking aroused to the point where they're too wet and it goes in like smooth butter.
I will solve that riddle for you. Vaginas can be naturally wet. The lubrication of of your girlfriend's vagina cannot reveal to you whether or not she is cheating. It is a very silly idea. It is hard to believe that someone past the age of 18 years old could even begin to think something like that with a straight face.
So i've installed Tinde and I've got a match with this really cute girl and I dont want to fuck up as I would probably gonna do so I came here for advice.
I dont know how to start the conversation because I usually just say dumb things and see how it goes but this girl doesnt seem into that too much.
Also any advice and experiences that could help me are more than welcome.
>>17231797
Hlp
>>17231797
Read her bio to see what her interests are then strike up a conversation based on her interests. If she doesn't have any listed, say hi or hello then ask her what are somethings she likes to do for fun.
Its not hard OP just don't over think it or be autistic.
Just curious; to the guys on this board who use tinder, are you looking for hookups, relationships, or just to meet people? I wonder what people use tinder most often for
How do i get over a girl?
We we never really in a relationship but weve gone on two dates.
we just had a , idk, heart to hear, and she said "I'd just really rather be platonic so I'm not sure what to say" .
i know what this means, im not gonna pester her to be my girlfriend , its just that ive sunk 2 years into this girl from the day i met her. I almost would say i love her. it literally just happened like 20 minutes ago , and im just preemptively dulling some of the pain. I just want to cry but i dont want to become a wreck sitting in...
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The best you can do is to get your mind off of it. Go out with yours friends, socialize, etc. Most importantly, try meeting other girls and next time don't fall into the same trap of tricking yourself into thinking you love a girl just cause she showed minor interest.
As someone who always falls too hard for a girl and then takes forever getting over her (like a year+) I've found that the only way to get over a girl has been to find another that I am more interested in. All the time in between you just distract yourself. I personally am a workaholic and that helps me keep my mind busy. This was useful until the last time, because I became depressed about the whole dating situation in general. I don't catch feelings for a woman often, and when I do I now just remind myself not to get too attached because chances are pretty high that...
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I'm not trying to minimize your feelings but look at it from another perspective. If nothing happened in two years you've been lying to yourself or something.
Hello. I'm dealing with depression caused by early balding. I'm 20. My thinning hair gave me major anxiety and exacerbated my BDD. Shaving is not acceptable in my social circle, nor closely cropping. I'm scared of finasteride but sooner or later I will take the plunge and get a prescription. Anyone with advice and/or in my same situation?
>>17231555
What kind of a social circle doesn't accept shaved or buzz cut men?
Go for the Christian troy on Nip Tuck look. Its a classy/sexy look for receding hair
>>17231582
This, what's wrong with your friends OP
My sister is 30 and still lives with her dad.
Has no prospects of a job, future, education, or anything.
Isn't even the depressive NEET type "i'm trying but i can't get a job etc etc". Simply doesn't give a shit. Doesn't feel remorseful for her current situation or anything.
Keeps guilttripping my father to do stuff for her since he "mistreated" her in the past, which makes me feel bad for him. The amount of money he throws at her is incredible. Probably does it so that he can convince him he's become a better...
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Post pic. I'm 33 and financially stable. I might consider taking her off your hands
>>17231553
>Post pic
Nah, not doing it. Too afraid of shit going garrity to do it.
Rest assured, you'll have to believe me.
Her beauty will only last for more five years at most, anyways.
And she probably lives away from you. Are you south american?
>>17231568
American born of Asian immigrants.
I rescind my offer
>>17224909
Has inspired me.
As a 21 y/o female who's had sex with approximately 100 men and 25 women anything.
Pic somewhat related.
Do you believe that Shannon Noll was robbed of the Australian Idol win in 2003?
>>17231526
No. I was pulling for Ruben Studdard.
How many magikarps used splashed on you
Theres a very cute girl who works at the el pollo loco drive through and I want to ask for her number. But they're always busy and I can tell she gets frustrated (though shes still sweet to me, she even told me "be careful!" as I pulled my car forward). I don't want to get her in trouble because shes always making little mistakes so she might be on thin ice with her employers, and I don't want her to get annoyed with me for trying to flirt when shes so busy. I was thinking of writing down a note and just passing it to her through the window so she can...
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Just give her your own number and let her decide etc. That means she doesn't waste time writing her number.
Seems sorta sweet, but could be seen as autistic I guess.
>>17231405
>Just give her your own number and let her decide
how though? Just give her the paper and speed away? Do I say something as I hand it to her?
>>17231414
Tell her you think she's hot and that you'd like to get to know her and hand her your number. Just be confident and chill about it...
i have a small jaw, what should i do ?
>>17231326
Are you slavic?
>>17231326
how is that a small jaw
>>17231326
Have you considered the usage of a large caliber fire arm? I hear that does wonders for your jaw
How to increase one's energy?
Take your vitamins and get plenty of sleep (but not too much)
>>17231149
Just to clarify, I'm on mobile, a newfriend and seemingly mentally deficient.
So, I've been struggling with minor mental health issues for pretty much all my life. Social anxiety, inferiority complex and dysthymia; that kind of shit. Recently I've been seeing a shrink, my anxiety is practically gone and my mood has stabilized a lot but I still don't feel like doing anything, or rather, there's nothing I'm really passionate about or look forward to. I'm kind of detached all the...
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>>17231167
Stop making excuses.
Can I get into Rutgers?
I want the new Brunswick campus. I have a 2.8 GPA and 24 ACT. Im taking the test again and expect a 25-27 (according to recent practice tests) my GPA had a steady upward curve which my GC says is really good
I have no extracurriculars so ik that's a problem
I've heard of people with similar stats getting accepted though so I'm wondering if I should apply
Also I'm an NJ resident
>>17230819
if it is not cost prohibitive to do so it doesn't seem like a bad idea to just apply to whatever schools you want. I know someone who took the shotgun approach and applied to like 14 grad schools. I did not have that kind of money.
>>17230823
If it's super unlikely I can use that application for something else
Trying to get into an elite college for undergrad is a massive waste of money and effort. Go to a state school, excell, then go to an elite grad school.
God damn /adv/ how do I convince this person to sell me this meme cat ?
Pic related, kot blini, I offered $20k to the owner but he doesn't want to fucking do it.
I really want to own this cat /adv
Also I started the offer with 10k and went up to 20. Also I'm talking about the physical , real cat, not shit like 'sell me this rare pepe'
If the cat is loved, it will never happen. People don't sell loved ones, even pets (extreme extenuating circumstances excluded.)
You are just going to have to give up and find a different cat.
Maybe you should reconsider the life choices that made you want to buy a cat for 20k. With that money you can buy a bunch of tigers.
ITT: life story thread, as much or as little detail as you want. Although this thread isn't directly an advice thread, I feel that it will help to facilitate advice formulation and assessment, and I feel that it fits nicely with the atmosphere of the board
I was born in Greenville, South Carolina in 1996. I spent the first 6 years of my life in a fairly classical suburban home with my two older siblings and a dog (though it died when I was around five or so. I wasn't bothered by her absence). I was an abnormally quiet baby, only really crying when I needed something. My memories of the place are about as poor as one would expect from life before 7 years old.
At seven, we moved to New Hampshire on supposedly spiritual grounds, and I do not remember whether these were an excuse, but off we went to Newberry, New Hampshire...
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We then moved to Athens, Georgia, and (at my mother's insistence, though I didn't know that at the time) we again pursued the suburban ideal (though my dad wanted the rural ideal, which was very achievable where we were, and made a lot more sense imo). This time, though, things went a bit poorly; Dad had employment, but it wasn't getting him much (it was a commission job in a dried up market), and Mom had decided to go back to college, which put our financially insolvent family into more trouble (though she did at least utilize all of the scholarships she could)....
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>>17228705
Additionally, my parents divorced and my dad moved away (for work, so that he could continue to support all of us (even mom)), and I started to feel trapped inside of childhood, spending my afternoons fantasizing about being left alone as an adult (an ideal that I've finally almost achieved), and at one point having a breakdown (the only one I have ever had, publically or privately. I have never again been as distraught) because I felt so trapped. When I went to the counselor, she was frustratingly dense, and...
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Evertime i get an erection my erection feels inflamed.
My testicals feels inflamed asweel.
Also when i uronat it feels inflammed
It started to happen two months ago. Before that my kidneys felt it was being stinged by bees all the way to the bladder.
Im not sexual like ive used to. Ive been starting to get less interest in women. (Hard to belive) i masterbate once every 2 months.
Is being less sexual a problem?
Im thinking to go hunt for antibiotics in a natural order.
Anyone had a experience?
Sounds like bladder infection or UTI. Go to fucking doctor where they will run tests to diagnose the problem. You can use natural alt medicine instead of whatever pharmaceutical poison they recommend
This is a serious infection/disease. Why haven't you seen a doctor yet what the fuck is wrong with you?
>>17232987
Possibly a uti by the sounds of it. Go to your doctor - they'll run tests. Then give you an antibiotic to clear it up in 3-7 days, depending. In the future, don't wait so long. Longer you wait, the worse it'll get.
