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>>17232023
Help other people. However you want to.
The world will never have too many people making other people smile.

>>17232023
You just have to try everything you can.You WILL find the right thing,it's just a matter of testing the water.I was in the same boat as you,anon.Up until the age of 14 all I did was play video games.My only "hobby".My brother was musical so I thought "fuck it" and I got drum lessons.Pretty good but something missing.Tried bass guitar.Bam.Been playing in a band for 6 years.Those people you see with passions had to find their calling.Get out there and find yours.Good luck

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>>17232023
Try getting into programming. It's relatively easy at start, and can stay as a fun hobby or get you a cool job.
Protip : start with Python.

There are plenty of guys who like short girls and plenty of guys who like taller girls.

> I get the vibe that my boyfriend has a fetish or something for really short girls
> I feel like I'm too tall for his ideal preferences

As long as you don't know, and only have a vibe or a feeling, you're worrying yourself sick. If it bothers you this much and you love him enough you'll bring it up. Otherwise you're making yourself worry with this thought of him not liking your height.

>>17232001


I mean... I just like know. I can tell. and all of his past girls have been REALLLY short.. like 5 feet. and I can see how he acts towards/around shorter girls, like I can tell hes attracted to them.

he said i'm the perfect height to me many times, but I just felt like he was kinda saying that.

like I feel like he likes everything about me except my height, but I don't think he finds me as too tall to not be with like as a dealbreaker, I think he just prefers shorter girls. kinda like being in a relationship with a blonde when you prefer brunettes sorta thing, you know?

but I'm also self conscious about it... and also maybe I'm prokecting because I feel like my bf isn't tall enough?? like I feel like for my height, I need someone who is ike 6'3" jus tbecause if I wear heels, I'm like 2 inches taller than my boyfriend and its SOO WEIRD I don't like it, so I cant even wear heels and I love heels...

You're the average height of an American female. Is your guy short? Maybe he's insecure about his own height because being short usually make men feel less masculine. Short girls have short stubby legs and arms. Men love long legs. The few I've known to care much about a girl's height were insecure they were short. If that's the case, don't let HIS insecurity become yours

pussies are supposed to be lubricated like that. if you have been sticking it in before without that level of lubrication, it means you did not do enough foreplay.

The writer has severe mental issues. Nice prose, though.

>either she took extra dick before I fucked her OR women really can be super duper fucking aroused to the point where they're too wet and it goes in like smooth butter.
I will solve that riddle for you. Vaginas can be naturally wet. The lubrication of of your girlfriend's vagina cannot reveal to you whether or not she is cheating. It is a very silly idea. It is hard to believe that someone past the age of 18 years old could even begin to think something like that with a straight face.

>>17231797
Hlp

>>17231797
Read her bio to see what her interests are then strike up a conversation based on her interests. If she doesn't have any listed, say hi or hello then ask her what are somethings she likes to do for fun.

Its not hard OP just don't over think it or be autistic.

Just curious; to the guys on this board who use tinder, are you looking for hookups, relationships, or just to meet people? I wonder what people use tinder most often for

The best you can do is to get your mind off of it. Go out with yours friends, socialize, etc. Most importantly, try meeting other girls and next time don't fall into the same trap of tricking yourself into thinking you love a girl just cause she showed minor interest.

As someone who always falls too hard for a girl and then takes forever getting over her (like a year+) I've found that the only way to get over a girl has been to find another that I am more interested in. All the time in between you just distract yourself. I personally am a workaholic and that helps me keep my mind busy. This was useful until the last time, because I became depressed about the whole dating situation in general. I don't catch feelings for a woman often, and when I do I now just remind myself not to get too attached because chances are pretty high that I'm going to get rejected. When I'm not attached to someone I just don't feel very motivated to put any effort in to the relationship. I have no idea how people are supposed to get and lose feelings so quickly or how they're supposed to find the motivation to actually date one another when they barely care about the other person. It's all very isolating. Overall I would recommend only using workaholism as a last resort, and instead do something social like a previous anon suggested, because it will help stave off the feeling that you can't and never will connect with someone romantically. It also helps you to meet other women more frequently.

Man I feel hollow inside now.

I'm not trying to minimize your feelings but look at it from another perspective. If nothing happened in two years you've been lying to yourself or something.

>>17231555
What kind of a social circle doesn't accept shaved or buzz cut men?

Go for the Christian troy on Nip Tuck look. Its a classy/sexy look for receding hair

>>17231582
This, what's wrong with your friends OP

Post pic. I'm 33 and financially stable. I might consider taking her off your hands

>>17231553
>Post pic

Nah, not doing it. Too afraid of shit going garrity to do it.

Rest assured, you'll have to believe me.

Her beauty will only last for more five years at most, anyways.

And she probably lives away from you. Are you south american?

>>17231568
American born of Asian immigrants.

I rescind my offer

Do you believe that Shannon Noll was robbed of the Australian Idol win in 2003?

>>17231526
No. I was pulling for Ruben Studdard.

How many magikarps used splashed on you

Just give her your own number and let her decide etc. That means she doesn't waste time writing her number.

Seems sorta sweet, but could be seen as autistic I guess.

>>17231405
>Just give her your own number and let her decide
how though? Just give her the paper and speed away? Do I say something as I hand it to her?

>>17231414
Tell her you think she's hot and that you'd like to get to know her and hand her your number. Just be confident and chill about it...

>>17231326
Are you slavic?

>>17231326
how is that a small jaw

>>17231326
Have you considered the usage of a large caliber fire arm? I hear that does wonders for your jaw

Take your vitamins and get plenty of sleep (but not too much)

>>17231149
Just to clarify, I'm on mobile, a newfriend and seemingly mentally deficient.
So, I've been struggling with minor mental health issues for pretty much all my life. Social anxiety, inferiority complex and dysthymia; that kind of shit. Recently I've been seeing a shrink, my anxiety is practically gone and my mood has stabilized a lot but I still don't feel like doing anything, or rather, there's nothing I'm really passionate about or look forward to. I'm kind of detached all the time, I'm permanently exhausted, so I spend time on my PC instead of doing things that would improve my life. But I don't really care about what happens to me for some reason.
Tldr: Basically, every aspect of my life is suffering because I'm a lazy twat and I don't know how to fix that.

>>17231167
Stop making excuses.

>>17230819
if it is not cost prohibitive to do so it doesn't seem like a bad idea to just apply to whatever schools you want. I know someone who took the shotgun approach and applied to like 14 grad schools. I did not have that kind of money.

>>17230823
If it's super unlikely I can use that application for something else

Trying to get into an elite college for undergrad is a massive waste of money and effort. Go to a state school, excell, then go to an elite grad school.

Also I started the offer with 10k and went up to 20. Also I'm talking about the physical , real cat, not shit like 'sell me this rare pepe'

If the cat is loved, it will never happen. People don't sell loved ones, even pets (extreme extenuating circumstances excluded.)

You are just going to have to give up and find a different cat.

Maybe you should reconsider the life choices that made you want to buy a cat for 20k. With that money you can buy a bunch of tigers.

I was born in Greenville, South Carolina in 1996. I spent the first 6 years of my life in a fairly classical suburban home with my two older siblings and a dog (though it died when I was around five or so. I wasn't bothered by her absence). I was an abnormally quiet baby, only really crying when I needed something. My memories of the place are about as poor as one would expect from life before 7 years old.

At seven, we moved to New Hampshire on supposedly spiritual grounds, and I do not remember whether these were an excuse, but off we went to Newberry, New Hampshire (might be Newbury; don't know.) It was another fairly idyllic suburban life (although not really as happy as the stereotype claims). As far as socialization and friendships go, I didn't really feel much of a connection with anyone despite doing a fair amount of classical "boy best friend" things, which foreshadows some detachment that would remain the status quo. The winter when we were there was apparently the shittiest they'd had in a decade. We also had another dog die, which I remember being slightly relieved about, since I didn't really like how the dog would play (read: teething puppy) with me, though I already knew to keep shut about that kind of thing. The church we attended was a straight-up cult, complete with all of the trimmings of intimidation, blackmail, and a following that whose lives revolved around the leader, which was later exemplified when said leader moved the congregation and most of the church followed him. This prodded my parents to get out, as the cult leader and my mom had a serious disagreement of some kind (or he was trying to have blackmail her for sex or something, I don't remember in much of any detail), but it was becoming clear (to the parents) that it wasn't safe for us there.

Not sure how close I'm getting to the length limit, so cont.

We then moved to Athens, Georgia, and (at my mother's insistence, though I didn't know that at the time) we again pursued the suburban ideal (though my dad wanted the rural ideal, which was very achievable where we were, and made a lot more sense imo). This time, though, things went a bit poorly; Dad had employment, but it wasn't getting him much (it was a commission job in a dried up market), and Mom had decided to go back to college, which put our financially insolvent family into more trouble (though she did at least utilize all of the scholarships she could). At this point, Mom's stress made her inaccessible to 7/8 year old me, as talking with her was like walking in a minefield of risking offending her, and this caused (or so I theorize) my siblings to become desperate for her attention (my sister started crying for no reason and getting sick/anorexic, and my brother had an abnormally far-out rebellion phase, which only made Mom's stress worse, as practically every weekend was another pregnancy scare.) and had become very competitive, which was terrible for the youngest, as I was subject of some bullying, would never be taken seriously, and was the least capable of standing up for myself. I began to seclude myself, and my view of interpersonal relationships was skewed to hell in back. When third grade came around I did much better socially; I had about five friends, and was on good terms with pretty much everybody, though I was held back by a conception that people would hate me if I lost contact with them for any period longer than a day (a mentality I still struggle with, to the extent that I even /friendship/ at all anymore). Fourth grade got a lot worse though as I grew to very deeply resent adults in general, feeling that they were a naive and complacent class of people with no real sympathy for children, and a general dismissiveness for them. Additionally, cont.

>>17228705
Additionally, my parents divorced and my dad moved away (for work, so that he could continue to support all of us (even mom)), and I started to feel trapped inside of childhood, spending my afternoons fantasizing about being left alone as an adult (an ideal that I've finally almost achieved), and at one point having a breakdown (the only one I have ever had, publically or privately. I have never again been as distraught) because I felt so trapped. When I went to the counselor, she was frustratingly dense, and would avoid confronting any real issues. I came out resenting adults even more. Throughout this time, I also noticed that I couldn't understand my peers at all, and to this day, children are still a weird, alien thing to me. I can relate to most teenagers or adults easily, but children are as opaque as a black hole to me. (On a minor note, I also lost almost all of my recess for that year of school because I couldn't bring myself to read a book and we had to read a book a week and weren't allowed to switch, so around the fourth week of school, I picked up an unbearably boring book and never put it back down. More sadly, however, I preferred being barred from the playground because I didn't feel like I had to maintain a reputation if nobody was seeing/thinking about me, which was a practice that would carry on for a long time.) Although not that important by itself, it indicates a lot that my mother would put me at the pool at opening (during the summer before fifth grade) and pick me up usually ten to fifteen minutes after closing, which gave me something like 60 hours of swimming per week, yet in all of that time, I hardly so much as conversed with another poolgoer.

The next few years are roughly the same, though one common theme is that everybody was incredibly fond of me for some reason; people in middle school would always ask me if I remembered them from elementary and talk about it as though we had been best friends or something. cont.

Sounds like bladder infection or UTI. Go to fucking doctor where they will run tests to diagnose the problem. You can use natural alt medicine instead of whatever pharmaceutical poison they recommend

This is a serious infection/disease. Why haven't you seen a doctor yet what the fuck is wrong with you?

>>17232987
Possibly a uti by the sounds of it. Go to your doctor - they'll run tests. Then give you an antibiotic to clear it up in 3-7 days, depending. In the future, don't wait so long. Longer you wait, the worse it'll get.