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Any psyfags here?
>I've always been afraid of compromising to change my identity.
>fear of telling people information about my weaknesses
>never tried to fit in and thus feel out of place all the time
So it goes like I don't trust people so I don't feel accepted by them.
The most asshole-ish thing is that their good attitude towards their perception of me feels offending and i go all passive-aggressive.
That is not healthy right?
I have a medical degree from a respected university and I can say with 95% accuracy that you're a big faggot.
>>17233255
Then how do i cure it?
>>17233205
Deliberately do all those things you fear and watch as you turn out just fine from it all.
>buy some normie clothes and wear them out
>tell some people about your weakness
>try to fit in more doing normal things
You'll realize right quick that your 'identity' was a sham and never defined you, it was only an excuse not to do anything you're afraid of. You can do normal shit and be the same...
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Can you help me get over my extreme shyness when it comes to admitting I like someone, and flirting back? I'm incredibly worried I will seem like an easy girl if I show interest, especially if it turns out the guy doesn't like me. Help, please?
L, is that you?
>>17233198
Guys do most of the hard work
Just respond in a way that you feel comfortable (be yourself), and just sure you don't keep closing conversations. It's usually easy for guys to distinguish between 'not interested' and 'interested, but having some difficulty in showing it" too, so that's fine
Probably something a rapist would say, but honestly, that's the case
>>17233199
No, sorry! Lots of girls like this, I guess.
I've had a few crushes throughout my life but I have no desire to fuck them or anything. I just want them to be my companion forever and the most sexual thing I've wanted is for them to keep me warm in bed at night and to stroke my hair. Is this abnormal?
>>17233111
If you are male, you have low testosterone.
>>17233119
Shit. Well... How do I get more of them?
>>17233119
I am a girl
Due to a lack of intimacy that was starting to put me down -- making me remember old bad relationships -- I decided to follow those sayings; "you don't have anything to lose", "if the opportunity comes, grab it", or something like that. However, not only I'm upset right now, but I also regret having done something.
College party, made out with two guys (didn't even like it, there were no feelings). The guy I do like (neither of them) sees or gets to know that I made out with one of them and proceeds to make fun of me, laughing. At one point...
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Cut your losses and look elsewhere. Clearly he doesn't respect you.
Maybe he did like you and then he saw you make out with some guys and thought to himself “Guess she doesn't like me, don't cry like a bitch and play it cool“
>>17233097
Heres the man hater I was waiting for this, he was making a joke it had nothing to do with respect and he even suggested another guy she might like.
Any parents out there? I got a three year old that won't poop in the toilet. He pees in it just fine but refuses to sit and let it go(lol) my wife thinks he might be autistic but I beg to differ. He's still not talking much. He makes out a few words but won't form any sentences. I do want to get his checked out and see what up with him. Any advice on how I can get him to poop in the toilet?
i hate to redirect people but you might have a better time getting help with this at /r/parenting
>>17233028
/r/? Request?
>>17233043
nope, /r/ as in reddit.com/r/parenting. Before you go all "reddit is AIDS" on me i don't think your going to get much help here with that, most of the people on here are single/childless.
ive got a kind of shitty fucked up sense of humor and managed to play a joke about wanting to off myself a little too well today
only told it offhandedly to my girlfriend but shes taken it real bad and cried for a pretty long time
any chance she wont leave me if i just go "yeah that was a joke sorry for making you cry for half an hour"
>>17232991
Topkek I wish more people appreciated self-deprecating humor.
By the way, what was the joke? I'd like to use it one day.
You haven't told her you were kidding yet? Are you retarded?
>>17233000
it was contextual so i dont really think i can help you :^)
>>17233004
just... fuck. i know. i shouldve left it as a joke but i drove it too hard for me to retract my statements now.
Hello, I've recently received my first DUI charge in AZ, aka the state that flays you alive for any kind of drunk driving. (Thanks, illegals.) I blew a 0.103, and the official DUI level is 0.08 and an extreme DUI is 0.15. More good news, I had a can of open beer in my vehicle. Fuck you, the line at Burger King was really long, and I took two sips from it.
I had had a few shots before leaving. We were out of liquor so I left to get some along with some food at Burger King. I was actually driving completely fine. I was pulled over for a busted taillight (it was early...
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>>17232974
get a lawyer
>>17232974
I would like to emphasize that the advice I sorely want is in cases where any of you guys/gals hired a lawyer. Worth it? Clearly it was, for one guy.
>>17232974
>thanks illegals.
Fuck you OP! I'm glad you got a dui. I got hit by some white mutt of a woman whilst I walked. Fuck shitty irresponsible drivers.
So my car is currently being worked on. I'm trying to find rides to work. I got my mother to take me in a couple times and my roommate once. I get rides back from my coworkers who live in the same neighborhood as me. I live kinda close. To far to walk but real close when comparing it to a drive. Well my roommate is my only hope but he doesn't want too. I asked if he could take me in at 12:45 and he says "I don't get up that late. Sorry, mate" with a smile and laugh. I asked are you serious and he's said yeah. I get mad and tell him well I can't...
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Get an uber, or did you even offer to thwm for gas?
Uber x yo. Also, do you not have a municipal bus?
>>17232948
I did offer gas money. I always do to people who give me rides.
I'm in love with one of my best friend's sister.
I'm pretty sure she feels the same way, but every time we get close to each other I push her away because I don't want to lose one of my best friends or be exiled from our small friends group.
I've known the two of them for a decade now and I feel like the longer I wait the worse chance I have of being with her.
How do I tell her how I feel without losing friends in the process?
Ask best friend first. Are you really this autistic?
>>17232940
Just talk to your best friend what's the big deal man.
Don't say shit, who you or his sister fuck are none of his business.
Tell him after the fact, if it works out.
Can I ask my professor to not give me a higher grade than a C? For instance, if I get a C+, will he make it a C if I ask?
I have my reasons.
>>17232874
Go for it. Whats the worst that can happen? Also why? Im very curious
>>17232874
I'm going to use this as a reverse psychology tactic.
The professor will be like, no fuck you faggit, have a B
>>17232880
maybe OP is convincing his parents to allow him to switch majors
>Friends come over
>Go through my CD collection
>"Hey Anon, why do you have so much David Bowie?"
>I freeze up, I secretly know they'll never understand his rich rich discography is only second to Neil Young in terms of quality content
>I look back and realize I own 20 Bowie albums...
Do I have a problem? Should I cut back to 12? Can one have too many albums by one artist in their collection? Is...
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Never too much Bowie
>>17232835
>too much Bowie
No such thing Anon. Put on your Ziggy outfit and rape him singing Velvet Goldmine to teach him the error of his ways.
yes. Just pirate stuff. don't you believe in free speech? and plus he's dead so it's not like he'll be mad about it
I am a girl from Germany who will visit he states this summer, the country where my male online friend lives in. Known him for 2.5 years and have video skyped with him. I want to meet him irl for the first time when we are there, but he doesn't seem to want to meet me. The reasons? He thinks his family members will distrust me a lot because we met online and he doesn't want people to think that he was online dating me.
He is an 18-year-old who just graduated from high school when I will turn 20 soon. He doesn't seem to want to meet me (although he said...
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Komme bei California fraulein ;)
>>17232795
My friend lives in New York and I will only visit the East coast
I... Wow, girl, I'm sorry you gotta go through this. He's probably just immature and really afraid about what his family will think. Maybe he hasn't told them anything about you, and if he did it would be a big shocker.
>Uh, mom, dad, I gotta tell you, I've had a friend in Germany for over 2 years and she wants to come visit me
Tell him to tell his parents you exist first, THEN let him tell them you're going over.
hello
the police recently seized my laptop and phone in a warrant because im stupid. i have good amounts of pirated music on both devices, should i expect trouble?
to clarify the warrant was not related to piracy
>>17232739
They can't arrest you for something they didn't have a warrant for, but they may try.
>>17232739
Cheeze pizza arrest in progress, nice.
>>17232755
if there was cheese pizza i certainly wouldnt be worrying about other shit nahimsayin
is my boyfriend playing me if he says he wants to marry me?
he says it to me a lot and has since kinda earlyish (earlier than most people) in our relationship..i don't remember exactly but maybe 4-5 months in. we've been together for a year and 3 months now.
sometimes I feel kinda weird about it and think maybe hes just playing me or saying it to lock me in? ive met most of his family/friends, and hes told some of his friends hes thinks I'm his future wife (ive seen convos with them).
could he be playing me or legit? he's 23 and i'm 24.
He's definitely not "playing you" lmao. My bf and I did this. He told me he liked me by saying "you know I'm going to marry you one day". We've talked about it at length, and have been together two years now. Talking about marriage doesn't have to be some huge deal, it just means he really likes you and as of right now, wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
>>17232682
are you guys married?
and yeah I'm like super paranoid and stuff haha. plus I'm like 24, so I don't wanna waste all my young years. like I really do want to get married at about 27.
>>17232688
Most women want to get married around that time. You're not being paranoid don't worry - it's natural to feel that way. Just relax
>be me
>good university
>work part time
>church every week
>dont smoke/drink
>not a degenerate like most people my age
>red pilled
>vote conservative
>never had a girl friend in my life
>always see girls going for shitskins/niggers
>example:...
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>>17232645
Focus on yourself. The opportunities for good women will present themselves to you as you go on.
>>17232645
Can't you date other races?
>red pilled
Probably this. Girls don't like guys who buy into bullshit like this
