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For the past week my eyes have been feeling like they need to be rubbed all the time. Doing so doesn't make them feel better and sometimes get an eye lash which is worse. The roof of my mouth slightly itches too. Is this allergies? I don't consider myself as having allergies, I went through March,April, May just fine. At my work I can wear respirator rated dust masks, wearing them seemed to make the symptoms die down but yet they're still slightly there. What do?
OP here. Just looked in the mirror. What's this builddup thing on the part towards the nose?
>>17236329
wash with clean water
go to store and get eyes drop
common sense, do you know it ?
It's conjunctivitis, get some eyedrops at the drugstore for that
>meet up with a girl for a drink
>i had fun, actually liked her as a person and had mutual interests
>asked if she wanted to hang again, she says "yes definitely"
she friends me on Facebook immediately after. Didn't respond to my message to hang out a second time. I wait a couple days, try again, said she was busy for work.
That + short/no texts + long response times = not interested, at least normally.
She likes my posts on Facebook that no one else does and Instagram but apparently she ghosted me? Am I still on her radar or am I reading way to into this? I was thinking of not contacting her again unless she reaches out to me first. I'd assume if you were a girl and you weren't interested in a guy you'd just steer clear of all contact...
>>17236266
You know the answer Anon...
you typed it. Read your post again. Sorry.
>>17236266
I think you should stop thinking about her for now until she messages you.
Did she have any recent exes she might've gotten back with? Maybe she just putting you off, but also hoping if things don't work out with the ex that she'll have you as back up? Just a possible scenario
Is it normal that I sometimes find my gf really ugly? Sometimes I look at her and I think to myself, how could I get such a beautiful girl? I mean legitimately gorgeous and I can't keep myself off of her.
And then other times, from certain angles, or when she behaves a certain way, or puts on too much makeup or whatever it is, and I think she's just really bad looking. And I feel reluctant to kiss/have sex or sometimes even am embarrassed to be seen with her.
Is this a normal part of being in a long relationship? do most people feel unattracted sometimes? should I tell her she looks beautiful the times when I really don't think so? this is my first relationship and I don't know if this is a bad sign or maybe I'm a huge ass or what, it makes me feel really bad and stresses me out big time. pic unrelated not my gf
>>17236255
How old are you?
Also this happens to me... with myself
>>17236255
Thats because she's a human being. No one can look like a 10/10 knockout 24/7. Think of any beautiful celebrity and i can assure you there's an ugly picture of them. Hell im certain there's ugly pictures of you too
You seriously need to get off the internet and experience real humans more.
This is just sad lol
Gonna cut my shit hair and i was going for a mohawk hairstyle, but my hair is ultra curly/shitty and im afraid to cut it and end looking like a complete shit (more than it already is). Should i throw fucks to the air and do it, or should i try a different, normal hairstyle?
me in the pic (ugly as shit, i know, but im trying to improve myself)
Had long hair and went for a more stylish Mohawk.
Curly hair makes everything look cool. It's worth it man, but you look great just the way you are.
Others opinions don't matter, just what you feel.
>>17236249
Maybe if you try this...?
>>17236488
This...do this. It would frame your face perfectly and still show off your curly hair.
Fiance who I have been with for eight years now developed a mental disorder a couple of years ago she has had two pyschotic episodes since then and has been hospitalized each time,. She never fully came back after the first psychosis and has been meaner and more devoid of personality, have to walk on tiptoes around get and can't say anything that will upset her. What should I do, should I stick it out and see if it gets better or cut and run.
>>17236175
It's mental illness, OP. It doesn't just get better. She has to actively try to get better and catch herself in these moments, and probably keep up with whatever medication she's taking. If she slips up, or doesn't care to get better, then there's nothing you can do.
It's not going to get better. She needs to have help, constant and ongoing help in the form of a psychologist and supportive people in her life. And she needs to learn to cope with the effects of whatever illness she has. How to deal with her feelings and thoughts and not give into them by lashing out. She will never not have those feelings and thoughts though.
Try to make sure she gets the help she needs and stick it out as she relearns to interact with the world appropriately. Even if it was a few years ago, this is still quite new for her and she's probably really stressed out by the upheaval it's caused in her life and maybe hasn't gone as far in getting the help she needs as she could. She doesn't just need hospitalization, she needs ongoing therapy in her better periods and possibly medication. Is she getting that?
>>17236196
She's on state insurance and an lra so she is required to go see a counselor once a week (who only has a social service degree) and a psychiatrist every month and a half she is on a ton of meds and is half asleep and distant all the time. The doctors the first time thought it was bipolar the recent hospitalization which was a couple months at a high security hospital due to the voices telling her to kill people they were torn between bipolar, acute schizophrenia and schizoaffective
I am a job interview tomorrow for a software development position, and I am nervous as fuck. Any good interview tips or questions?
>>17236131
>I am a job interview tomorrow
Have, not am. Jesus, I'm a retard.
Assuming you did some research on the company who wants to interview you and that you'll bring papers and a pen for notes.
>Show up 5-10 min early
>Give a firm handshake
>Make frequent eye contact
>Speak clearly
>Be friendly
>Ask a couple questions
Follow up with the interview and give them a thank you note.
Take 1/3 of a xan bar 1 hour pryor to the interview.
How do you get a smooth shave without going against the grain? When I go with the grain, I don't cut myself but there's always some hair left. When I go against the grain I get all the hair but often cut myself. Using a safety razor because it's cheap.
Spend more money on a quality razor+foam.
Or buy top teir electric razor.
this won't solve your problem, but it could help
make sure your pubes are really soft before you shave. (if you have a vagina, i know this isn't the Best Idea but if you're careful you'll be fine) find some gentle conditioner and put it on your pubes, let it sit for awhile, then shave
>>17236141
I'm talking about shaving my face but thanks.
Using my normal voice, which I guess is white American, I tend to make the d consonant sound in place of the t sound, as well as occasionally, but noticably stutter.
However when I speak using a southern drawl, it completely leaves.
Should I start using a southern accent like Larry the cable guy?
Lol pic unrelated
>>17236119
DUDE NO WAY, FUCKING SAME. I can speak perfectly fine in a British accent.
>>17236119
It's not a speech impediment, it's a feature of the "Standard" American accent. It's called a flap if you want to look it up. All of you yanks do it, I'm British and I fucking hate it. It's even worse when you guys misspell shit because you can't say it properly.
>Shudder in place of shutter and vice versa
>Skiddish instead of skittish
etc.
>>17236149
I do that like times three. Instead of saying "to the store" I say "do da sdoor", and I don't know why.
>21 years old, NEET for 3 years now
>literally sit on 4chan/Youtube/Reddit for entire day
>mild Aspergers but handsome enough, normal height/dick, no physical problems
>have GED
>have grandma who is sort of saying she'll pay for my university, but she's a control freak and wants me to go to certain places etc...
I feel like I should go into Physics, but only because it seems like it would be infinitely interesting. It seems like it matters. I get weird thought about going into the military and trying out for special forces to test myself physically and feel like i'm in control and all of this sort of stuff, but that seems like a silly pipe-dream.
I can't be a NEET anymore. I'm 21. I can't play the kid who's taking time off before school anymore. I had my three years to sit around and not do anything worthwhile. I feel like I'm going insane. I don't want to be this guy that doesn't do anything and just wastes his life sitting around, being indecisive about everything. Three years gone, where I really didn't do anything worth mentioning. I'm lonely. I don't have any friends. I want to be in a relationship. I want something going on in my life. I can get about $4,000 together if I sell my things. That's all of my assets.
I keep thinking about moving out of my mothers house and going to another state to a "good" community college that has a good transfer program into a decent university.
I just can't make up my mind. What should I do?
Your idea about moving out to go to school is a good way to address your NEET problem. But it could be hell on your Aspergers. You know yourself. Would you be comfortable being surrounded by a population of 100% strangers?
I love how you mention "normal height/dick"
You could just take the ASVAB and see how you do, maybe pick something and go from there.
>>17236093
this is something good to think about
but dude, if you think about it and it doesn't severely bother you, go do it. take a chance.
Thoughts on plastic surgery? I have low self confidence and hate how I look, will plastic surgery really affect that? Pros and cons?
eh you could be left with less than desirable results.
>>17236042
this
if you're having it done, make sure you pay out the ass for it and schedule with the best in the world. also, consult with other surgeons (people who wont be the ones preforming the surgery) about whether it's safe, effective, etc. get a real opinion or two from non-biased doctors, ones who know they're being paid to tell you the truth rather than sell you a surgery.
>>17236026
Post a pic. It's an anonymous board and no one can give you tips if we have no idea what we're working with.
Probably ~80% of appearance is clothing based. That's why you'll see cute chubby women pulling off outfits despite being overweight.
Okie doke /adv/, I have a question. Friend of mine got raped six months ago, and it broke my heart to hear about it. She comes from an Islamic family, and she has told her family. They aren't too traditionalist and accept her still, but are aware that is will be hard for her to marry. Now, here is my thing. She recently confessed to me that she was heartbroken, not because of the whole rape (although that was traumatic), but because she was saving herself for me. Who she confessed her love to. Now, she's anot amazing person, pretty, into the same shit I am, altruistic, etc., but I am an atheist, and even though I don't believe in her shit, I don't want her to suffer in hell...or at least think that she will, and I don't want her to make a decision that would be bad for her. I do love her, but I want her to be happy with her life and content, and I'm afraid the cultural differences will hurt her in the long run. What do /adv/?
Meow
Okie doke, gonna bump it one more time, if only because I'd appreciate different perspective.
>>17235945
If the cultural gap is to wide and neither you nor her are willing to change, than I think it will be best for you to just be a good friend to her and provide emotional support,
Need some advice from shroom experts.
Found these in my yard in Australia.
Do not consume
Or will nothing happen at all?
What is the best online dating website these days?
>>17235810
BLENDR
POF
OKC
FINYA
LABLUE
>>17235810
From my experience, no luck at all on Tinder but a few women have messaged me first on OKC, which is surprising because I'd say I'm a pretty ugly dude. Maybe it's because Tinder is mostly just a hookup app and girls on there just look for the most attractive guy they can find. Idk.
>>17235820
>Maybe it's because Tinder is mostly just a hookup app and girls on there just look for the most attractive guy they can find. Idk.
That. And even with hookup apps there are better ones like BlendR.
Why do people start an argument themselves, say a ton of stupid or even sensible stuff and then, while you are in the middle of the argument, they just say a "whatever" or change the topic? How am I supposed to react in this situation? I don't mind at all if they have different opinions or don't agree with me but when they do this shit, it drives me fucking nuts.
>>17235748
Whatever.
probably because they figured out they are wrong, or got tired or arguing
>>17235858
This. I have a friend who does this all the time. As soon as he thinks he might be wrong, he claims that he never really cared about the argument in the first place.
It just seems like all anyone talks about is improving yourself to "be good enough for" a partner. What's the fucking point of hanging out with someone who is only attracted to your status in the first place.
Like I want someone to care about me and love me and instead there's this dumb system where she allows you to have sex with her if you meet her requirements but will drop you at any time.
Everyone always saying lower your standards. Then it's like no some fat gross slob won't love ME, she'll love that an average guy loves her below-average ass.
Every time I try to talk to girls I just feel lonelier at how fake the whole thing is. I used to dream of a happily ever after marriage and now I feel like women just tolerate your for the money and you tolerate her for the sex. How fucking shitty is that.
Spot on, it fucking blows.
Girls are pretty ruthless when it comes to dating, and they will drop you if they find someone who has more status than you. Even if they supposedly "love you".
I essentially just opted out of the whole thing and stopped caring.
You sound like a shitty person, you deserve that shitty dynamic.
>>17235711
You're not mad about dating. You're mad that you're so low worth that not even average women give a fuck about you unless you're going to bankroll them or you're willing to be their emotional tampon. Dating is a fantastic way for attractive people to meet people they can fall in love with but not so much for unattractive men. I fall into the latter category, OP, so I too am mad at my own lack of worth.
