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I have visited both Japan and Korea but tbqh japan was better.
Today for breakfast I ordered scrambled eggs. It was fried too long so it had a texture of an omelette. Still, it was tasty.
I want to sleep with several of my ex's best friends. When we were still dating, one of them said that she wanted seconds as soon as she's done with me.
>>17237255
I constantly check in and around the toilet to check for spiders/bugs because I'm absolutely terrified of one crawling up my butthole.
I hate how high and nasal my voice is. I feel like I still sound like a teenager, but I'm in my mid 20s. Is there any way to change how my voice sounds; for it to be a bit deeper and richer? It sounds so...dry. Like there's no resonance or depth. I've been a smoker for years but not even that seems to have changed my voice. The ideal would be to sound like Mark Sandman, but I know that'll never fucking happen.
Link for reference. http://vocaroo.com/i/s0kEpdYtS4yF
>>17237251
What? Your voice isn't high at all, nor nasal.It's kind of nice, actually. If it weren't for the way you said die, I wouldn't have pegged you as an Ausfag. Quit smoking though, that shit isn't cute, and I can hear the rasp.
can we get a Rate voice thread? I want my voice to be judged
>>17237267
I don't know. It's weird, but I just feel like my voice is unusually high and teenage-sounding compared to the people i'm surrounded by. It could just be in my head though.
Yeah, my mum's from LA so I guess I picked up a bit of a trans-atlantic inflection.
Haven't smoked in three weeks, too. Getting there I guess.
tl;dr hard to speak and write coherently on exams and in general. I study and have ideas but can't elaborate or put them in sentences them because they're mostly abstract or just keywords.
I try to understand what I read and always revise before the exams, but I seem to store information in a rather abstract and chaotic way. It's very hard to extract coherently and elaborate on ideas even when I have quite a few. Sometimes, even after studying and pondering a subject a lot my head is empty.
Actually, it seems almost impossible to put my ideas on...
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>>17237231
How are you studying? Are you just reading things, and doing nothing else?
Your vocabulary seems fine. Do you have some sort of learning disorder? It shouldn't be this hard to process information.
>>17237238
Also, can you give an example of how you would respond to a exam question? Do you start thinking of your keywords and then try to make sentences?
>>17237238
In my field of study, mostly just reading (a lot) and correlating information. At least that's how I go about it. What else should I do? I read slowly to understand it logically so I have the impression that I got it and that I can pass on what I read. That's the case until I put away the book. However, this applies to a lot of things, even reading up on things that interest me or just reading a news paper.
I hope I don't have some sort of learning disorder, I feel like I'm learning at...
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I'm easily influenced, I read leftwing propaganda, I become lefty; I read /pol/ I become extreme right-wing, I read /r9k/ I get depressed, I read wizchan I think humanity should be euthanized. And other than that I get manipulated by others easily as I get all butthurt whenever I recieve even the slightest offense,critic or refuse.
How do I stop being so volatile?
>don't ask me to go to psych take meds or similar, been there done that
>>17237214
Form your own opinions and stick to them?
>>17237220
How?
Sit down and form your opiniones on different topics. Debate with yourself what you truly believe. Then stick to your opiniones (except if they are wrong, obviously).
There is this girl that have me a bit fucked emotionally, but to understand it better, heres the story -
>be me age 19
>work as cashier, its ok.
>one day I look up from the register, and before me stand this grill
>10/10 in my eyes
>I am stunned for some seconds, went full retard
>she smiles and laughs
>leave work later that day, realising ive fallen in...
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>>17237211
You know what's wrong with this story? You want to be the victim. You want to blame all your shit on someone else.
Uh no. She didn't treat you poorly. She didn't lead you on. She didn't break your heart. All she did was reject you because she was seeing someone else.
She didn't force you to do drugs, have depression, or anxiety.
What to do? If you can manage to not be a little bitch who's gonna be all wrapped up in your sense of entitlement and butthurt if things...
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Stop being obsessed. That is fuckibg wrong. Hace respect of yourself. I think the best choice is to forget her.
>>17237211
Pick yourself up, man. Have some self respect. A girl rejected you and you're in rehab now? And you're asking for RELATIONSHIP advice? I think you have your priorities very, very wrong. Fix yourself first, you dumb fuck.
Me and my GF:
>4years together
>we are each others first partner
The Situation:
My Girlfriend is into music and playing guitar. She recently got to know a guy who works at the local music shop. They probably have a good chemistry togehter, you know, like, when you can just talk and have fun with someone with ease. She went to two concerts of him and a month ago I checked her phone. She was flirting with him on instagram, and on facebook his name was the most searched term in the last month. I also read...
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>>17237206
Cont.
Now, she didn't tell me yet that she's going out with me, but it just doesn't go into my head why she would do what she does.
I don't want to break up in the next two months at least, but if it goes further with those two i'm going to do it.
Honestly, it's tearing me apart and i couldn't sleep the whole night. How do I confront her now? What she does is clearly wrong, her best friend who really supported our relationship offered to have a talk with her.
I...
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>>17237206
TLDR:
>GF meeting and chatting with guy behind my back
>he's interested in her
>I told her to stop
>she wouldn't fucking stop
>>17237219
I would just end the relationship.
No discussion. Just inform her of the fact.
You can make it easier by collecting her shit at your place and collecting yours if any before the moment. Cut the cord bro.
So my father passed away a month ago and a few family members that managed to get themselves on the of the house told dad they wouldn't try and sell the house and would take care us.
The past week they have been coming over and even ringing about selling the house or getting me to take loans out to buy then out (which I can't afford). According to solicitors they can't sell the house due to my mother be his wife and until she pases there is apparently nothing they can do (according to solicitor)
How do I get over the emotional state, should I cut my family off!??
>>17237195
Sorry for the bad spelling I am from Brasil
>>17237195
You become resolute. You tell them straight up that the house remains yours/mothers until she dies. If they can accept that good. If they bring it up again cut them off.
>>17237195
Cut them off already!
Is it legal in any country to have a surgeon alter your brain so you don't have emotions anymore ?
>>17237168
Just kill yourself i suppose if you cant handle emotions?
Actually how it works is the more you are exposed to emotions, the duller they get.
>>17237168
No. Also, we don't actually know how to do that anyway.
>>17237168
No, lobotomies are illegal
Hey ya'll.
I'm curious if anybody here has had any experience with dating in another country/adhering to their rules/social customs/etc.
Context: I live in Japan. I speak pretty okay Japanese (in comparison to other expats, which doesn't say much I guess). Well enough to be conversational and if I don't understand a word, can understand the explanation in Japanese.
I've tried my hand at dating several times but can never really get it right. Either guys are too into me (talking about marriage and how my 'existence' is...
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23/m/aus
I had a go with a Vietnamese girl when I was in Vietnam. Asian people are weird about westerners. I can't imagine it's any better in Japan.
Try going with a guy who can show you about. Have fun. You will be fetishized somewhat, but that's ok and they really do as through it later if everything works out.
Treat it like you are getting to know a country on a deeper level. Be honest that you don't know what's ok or normal. Encourage them to teach you.
It's win win. Either you have a meaningful relationship or you...
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>>17237164
Hey, thanks for the response.
Yeah, the fetishization is something I have a lot of experience with. I should have mentioned I've been here a year and two years ago I spent 10 months studying here. Part of my degree is in Japanese culture and language.
I know a lot about Japan already so when I treat it as getting to know the country on a deeper level its kind of difficult. Either they expect me to know everything and I don't or they treat me like I know nothing and I get a little frustrated...
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>>17237169
I've been an 'expat' for nearly two decades of my life (which is pretty much most of it) and honestly, you really just have to accept being an outsider. No matter how long you've lived there or well-read you are, you'll always be an 'other'. It's annoying and alienating, but it is what it is.
Hey anons.
Me and gf -> almost 4 years together
21/21 yo
great relation, ASIDE from sex.
She never even once in all this time managed to satisfy me really in bed. I always have to work it on myself to come to climax or even to start enjoying it. The fact is that she never managet to make me cum, not with her mouth, not with her hands and neither with her hips. i gotta do a lot of pounding (good for her, not for me) before i can climax.
that wasn't a big problem within the first years, but now I'm getting kind of bored and unwilled to always...
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>>17237051
Just tell her if she wants sex she better step up her game or gets none, another option is telling her you want a two way intimate relationship an if she's not willing to try say it's not gonna work out any longer
End it, you aren't physically compatible and eventually, as is evident from your post, you will end up resenting her so much you leave anyway or cheat and end up the bad guy. End it on your own terms and save yourself more misery in the future
>>17237122
Ignore this guy he's the type that only cares about sex, but yes she seems unwilling to compromise so try what >>17237106 this if she doesn't get it time to find a new meat toboggan
What options are there for someone who has failed out of university?
I am terrible with my hands and feel no attraction for trade-schools.
What other options are there?
Is military a legitimate career path for someone who is practically a NEET?
>>17237047
Military is legit. Trade school is a good choice, don't give me shit about having no attraction for it. Beggars can't be choosers. You have to do what you have to do to make money. What are your skills?
>>17237061
Unless my interpretation of trade-schools is wrong, I feel like I legitimately could not do one. I have a form of dyspraxia which means I lack coordination and have severe trouble doing precise movements. I did metal work, woodwork, glass-work, ceramics, and all those things as electives in highschool. It was a miracle if I could go an entire class without somehow hurting myself or messing something up.
Skills? I've really no idea, man. I'm practically the quintessential skill-less NEET,...
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>>17237061
I feel really cheated in terms of my genetics, given how everyone in my family is either a doctor, a lawyer, or ex-officer, and I've failed out of university. I don't want to live my life with a chip on my shoulder and would love to do something that I can be passionate about and succeed in.
I'm already moderately fit from cycling a lot and am either going to join a gym or buy weights, so that I can work on improving my self-image.
Gave up taking cycling seriously as I wasn't comfortable being so thin but regret allowing myself to get so out-of-shape. I'm not fat, but I'm just not used to not being fit, haha.
Alright time for honesty
I was just on a thread on /b/ where they were posting tribal women. I saved a couple pictures, but then I noticed that some people in the thread were yelling CP. I reverse searched the pictures to make sure they weren't CP and it didn't say they were underage anywhere but I deleted them anyway. Fuck they all looked like they were in their 20s to me. The thread didn't get deleted and there were no mods but I'm still freaking out
What the fuck I don't want CP that's fucking disgusting. I DONT WANT CP WHAT THE...
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>>17237041
If it was CP it would've gotten deleted, in /b/ if it looks like they're under 18 the mob mentality sets in and everyone freaks out. I doubt it was, but deleting it was probably the best choice.
>>17237049
Fuck I hope you're right. I'll kill myself before I get my life ruined over shit I didn't do fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck
>>17232552
I'm this guy
This thread was a huge eye opener for me and you guys helped me realize I had to get out of my toxic relationship before it was too late, so I thought I'd share my experience here and maybe I can give some helpful advice to fellow poor souls trapped in a relationship with suicidal, manipulative bitches.
Yesterday my gf and I were having an argument because she got mad when I forgot to hold her hand while I was talking to my mother about helping them out with some house renovation business. The argument turned into a fight and after about an hour or two of shit talking it ended up with her threatening to break up for the 9000th time. I said "fine lets break up you fucking cunt, good riddance" which made her snap completely. She head butted me right in the nose, slapped my face and tried to strangle me. I laughed at her childish behavior and removed her hands from my neck, which led to her grabbing the biggest kitchen knife she could find and pressed it agaist her throat. I tried to calm her down for maybe half an hour without getting physical, but when she started applying a dangerous amount of force to the blade I tried restraining her and removing the knife. She resisted and instead cut my fingers - twice. After I finally got the knife from her she pleaded me not to break up with her for maybe 20-30 minutes, and when that didn't work she banged her head agaist a fucking stone table and later a wall several times so hard she got a mild concussion and fainted. I then gave in and said we wouldn't have to break up.
(cont...)
However, today I called my parents for help, told them everything and they came to my rescue, helped me get my keys back from her and got all her shit back to her own apartment. Now I've blocked her number and all social media, gotten rid of all gifts from her and finally said goodbye ta her and wished her sincerely good luck with whatever life has got in store for you. She said nothing, probably because my parents where keeping guard in the living room next to us. Sorry for the bad english btw, I'm Norwegian.
For what it's worth we were...
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>>17237020
What the fuck? Do you have evidence of her behaviour? Save all the texts you have of her freaking out and record her anytime you meet in the future.
>>17237029
I've taken pictures of my hands and recorded 15 minutes of our argument last night. I've already deleted our text and Facebook conversations though, that might've been dumb. Hindsight 20/20...
The reason I don't ask out women at my college is because when you ask someone out, you usually have a date in mind. Thing is, I like DOING SOMETHING when on a date. I hate sitting at a table or watching a movie for a first date. It feels cliche, boring, and forced.
nb4 "Ask her to something you already enjoy and could go out and do together"
>Hiking/Camping/Rowing
>Shooting guns at the range
>Walk in the park/picnic
None of those things would make good first dates because
>I imagine she'd think I was a serial killer if I asked her to go hiking with me for a first date
>How would I not come across as a school shooter?
>I've done this before, but I feel like it comes across as I'm a sensitive/romantic, which I'm not.
I've also thought about a simple "Let's go downtown and goof around" but I'd imagine that would also come across as unplanned and not giving a shit.
I can handle relationships just fine, but the first date is always a hard thing for me to grasp. So what's a good idea for a first date for college students?
>>17237009
Also, is the dinner/and/or/movie a hurdle that everyone just has to get past, or is there a way around it?
>>17237009
Umm I've gone with a woman to go shoot , clays and targets and she loved it. Not just serial killers go shooting.
>>17237009
I REALLY like going to movies on dates, but perhaps it isn't a first date thing. Why not just get some coffee or go for lunch? Sounds cliché, but who cares? People choose to go on dates to these places because they work and are familiar.
Dated a girl two years ago, dropped it because I studied abroad for a few months. Meet her at a party and we start catching up and she starts getting more flirty than usual. She's got the looks and similar interests and stuff, but she's kind of neurotic and pretty clingy.
Then there be other girl, she's cute,mature and emotionally stable, but pretty shy. Last time we hung out she got a little flirty and dropped hints on how she wants me to take her out...the day before she left to go to Europe. She's gone for more than a month and then goes back to school a good 3 hours away from me after a few weeks back in the states. We text a lot, but it's usually me initiating. Not really sure if that's a bad sign just because she usually reciprocates in length and quality of messages and tries to keep the convos going. So Idk.
Regardless, I got two bitches, one is hot, kind of crazy, but at least dtf. Other one is cute, not crazy, not sure if anything between us will even happen.
Wut do. My life is like one of those shitty harem animes.
>>17236964
>My life is like one of those shitty harem animes.
You wish.
>>17236973
you're right, I've gone delusional. The lines between 2d and 3d are blurred. Give me a second, I'm going to go see what the barrel of my glock 9 tastes like.
>>17236964
Get them both together. Give them 1 cup
