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Is it immoral to sell off something gifted to you?
>>17237729
No, but it's not particularly appreciative or sentimental.
No...yes....idk
>>17237729
Depends. What is it?
So, my current gf confessed me last night she has been with another guy before me, someone she never mentioned before (we are very open about our exes btw). A guy i also happen to know, he works as a pilot, 5 years older than she is, bald and a big guy. Can't believe i even met that guy during a masked party one month ago, and he seemed so cool and friendly, like he totally didn't bang my girlfriend just 6 months before. Or maybe "casually" meeting me was part of his master plan, who knows
I mean, i know it shouldn't be a problem and whatnot,...
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Good thing she realized now what a massive insecure faggot you are. Seriously, you are throwing a fit because you're not her first bf?
>>17237696
this
get a therapist bro
always remember this, OP: you're in charge here.Tell her about the guy, why does he make you feel uncomfortable and everything. Call it in and if nothing works out, just crash the relationship altogether, with no reminders of her at all. Not even her friends; you don't get to keep her friends no matter who they work for.
May the fires of a relationship rises for you, OP.
I went onto my girlfriends tumblr where she had done one of those survey things where you answer random questions about your life for fun.
She mentioned me multiple times, and even said she was super happy.
But there was a question, "Are you attracted to the last person you kissed?"
She said "Yeah, but I wish I wasn't."
Does this seem very odd to anyone else? Nothing else was alarming except that one specific line.
thats pretty fucked up
>>17237663
So she has acadently kiss someone...
>>17237663
Jesus Christ girls are stupid. she's obviously hiding something from you because she admitted it. But she's too stupid to realize that you could see her post. that or she is feeling guilty and too embarrassed to tell you directly, and was hoping you'd see it.
Either way, it appears something is going on.
Help me get rid of this pain in my life, any advice?
>>17237639
Liberal amounts of moisturiser and a steroid cream. Go see a derm.
>>17237639
If you actually want this to get FIXED.
Go see a Dermotologist. I get so pissed off seeing threads here with people bitching about acne and skin sores, but don't want to go see a Specalist.
I had shit acne, and always was depressed because I couldn't get it to go away. I finally got fed up and went to a Dermotologist. And she fixed me. My face is clear now.
Do it
If it's a mild case:
>wash with Chandrika soap- you can get it online or at health food stores.
>Use Palmer's moisturizers- that's an excellent brand, and they're all good.
>Use Selson Blue to control itching under your hair or beard
If it's more severe, your doctor can prescribe steroid creams and medications.
How do I tell if I have a deep-seated hatred for women? I don't think I do but how do you people see it in another person? If you looked at me, what would tell you that I'm a bitter guy??
Being cold to women. Saying bad things about most women. Making a lot of sexist, crude jokes. If you blamed being single on women instead of problems with yourself.
>>17237642
I don't do any of that except maybe being cold, but I feel like I'm cold by nature to everyone. What do you think of as being cold?
Manipulating and controlling women you have relationships with, making women miserable with gender based language and violence, blaming all women for your problems in relationships or life, not viewing women as individuals, not giving the same respect to women that you would to men, inability to have a civil working relationship with women in work and school (non-romantic), getting irrationally angry over the concept of women's rights especially when it goes against the "perceived" rights of men (see sjw topics re: rape, domestic abuse), viewing women as complaintive...
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Is it true that the bigger a guy's foot is, the bigger the penis?
>>17237588
That can't be true. I have huge feet yet my dick is only 8 inches.
No
>tfw big feet but average penis ;_;
I have small foot and have a tiny penis ;_;
Are there any ways to deal with anxiety at home? Without illegal or perscription medications?
Id suggest counselling, it is available online but it'd be better for your condition to do it face to face. Just coming back to normal myself after a violent assault in the winter thanks to cognitive behaviour therapy from my counsellor.
>>17237552
I am sorry for what happened to you.
Where can you get counselling online? Does it really help? Isn't anxiety a physical brain chemistry thing, like depression or PTSD?
>>17237545
Most people would tell you to do breathing exercises like focussing on the breath, the idea being when you're anxious, your breath is in a disarray.
Essentially how it works is
Thought > Feelings > Physical reaction.
If you can train the body's physical reaction to anxious thoughts back to a normal state (normal breathing in this case), it kinda works like how it would in reverse.
Normal breathing > Feel restful > Anxious/Urgency provoking thoughts lose their...
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>Fap for the first time in weeks
>Jizz is yellow, and with weird consistency ranging from superthin to gelatin-like
What's going on here?
>>17237509
Totally normal, don't worry.
You don't drink enough water.
>>17237509
How does it taste?
I need advice. I've tried breaking up with my girlfriend a few times, but in the end we didn't as i felt I'd lose the chance to be with a wonderful girl like her. Sometimes I feel really lucky to have her, but at other times it just is so clear we're very different people. Conversation runs dry at times.
So now these feelings of wanting to be out of this relationship keep coming up twice a week on average.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
I feel the same way currently, so I can't help you.
>>17237500
Have you broken up with someone before?
If so, why is it so difficult for you now? Have you had this before? And if so, how did it end up?
>>17237475
I had a gf for 2 years and half, more or less like you.
We both were very diferent (I can see cleary now), but on the moment I never saw it.
I was glad to had her around, she was an awesome perter (smart, inteligent and sexy), but like you, we argued a lot due our very diferent opinions and visions, so we sit one day and decide to break up because isn't really going well.
This is not an advice, it's just my experience in this situation I had. Mabe your case isn't necessary to end like...
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whats meanest thing you can do to a girlfriend for revenge?
like the fucking meanest thing you can think of
it can't be ~unforgivable~ but god fucking damn it
i don't have it in me to cheat and i'm not interested in it
give me great ideas please
>>17237426
Send her nudes to her family, the more degrading the better.
>>17237426
dump her and go on to live a fantastic life
Make her gain weight and tell her how sexy it is.
Is it always a bad idea to get back together with ex?
My ex bf cheated on me (not physically, but he went online to look for people to have sex with but just never met with them, also he kind of tried to get his ex back twice during our first year together).
Well after I found out I gave him a chance on really strict conditions, like he had to go to therapy, I got all his passwords etc. He really changed. We tried working it out for six months but I was just getting more and more anxious and started having panic attacks and I had to break up with him.
Now...
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People will tell you it's a horrid idea and "hell never change", but you know him best. If you think he's legitimately changed and regrets what he did, then that'll do. Do what you think is right. If you think he's being totally honest with you, proceed.
>>17237418
always? no. in your case? maybe. people do change, but they don't change much in 3 months.
if you do get back together, give it a couple weeks to see how it's going, then sit down and have an honest discussion about how committed you both are to making things work this time around. if you're both extremely serious about the relationship, get into some couples counseling or some kind of support for struggling couples as soon as possible. if you're not both serious about the relationship,...
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You both are troubled people, it's time for your round of therapy.
Okay, so me and my friends have finally gotten our hands on some hash (yeah i know green is better but whatever), and we have really looked forward to smoking that dank, you know? Well, a really toxic friend of ours says that she's going to report it to the police. Not even joking. She says that it's a part of her deontological ethical views. She also says that we have a big chance of getting into heroin and other heavy drugs. I think she sounds absolutely ridiculous. But she is still threatening to report it to the police. What should we do?
stop hanging out with that kantian bitch
don't keep your hash at your place in case they show up
>>17237405
>it's a part of her deontological ethical views
Lol philosophy majors
Stop being a degenerate and quit smoking fag
If a mother of a small child is being abused by her boyfriend, who happens to be the father, and is also on the child's birth certificate, can she go into hiding and take the child with her to another state? The father of the child never established paternity and the small child was born out of wedlock. Can he ever take her to court to get split custody, which she doesn't want to happen? Will the government help her for the first couple of months or so until she finds a job? Or does this require money being saved up? How does witness protection program work? Please...
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>>17237362
>How does witness protection program work?
unless you've been offered to participate, it's not really realistic to try for that.
best of luck.
>>17237374
Can I save up money and move to a different state without him finding me? I just don't see how it's possible unless my name is changed because he will find me and possibly murder me and take my child with him, with her being subjected as his new abuse victim.
How would I move away without him finding me?
>>17237362
>father is on the birth certificate
>the father never established paternity
Clearly thinks work differently over there than they do here (Australia).
Hey /adv/
I had a friend for two years in highschool. We were pretty close but eventually we parted ways. Since then I deleted my social media and have kept very much to myself. In my final year of college (2013) he phoned me saying we should meet up over Christmas, but I had to move homes and I also changed phones at the time and lost the few numbers I had. He was always a popular and outgoing guy and I assume he's doing well for himself, so it's not as if I "abandoned" him or anything.
I've found an old email address he once used in my...
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>>17237344
>Does this sound cringey?
no
>Does it sound dramatic or something?
no
>Does it seem like I'm being pathetic by contacting someone from years back, as if I need his help or something?
no
>Do people move on and hate it when people from their past bug them like this?
no
It's not cringey. You might want to try a longer message though, something like:
"Hey X, long time no see! I'm not sure you're still using this email address, but if you do, I just wanted to say hi. If you wanna talk, now you know where to find me. Cheers."
It's not pathetic either really. People only truly wanna move on when there's problems. If he really wants to move on, he will ignore your email and do so, and you can move on too.
>>17237344
I think you're overthinking it.
What you've got is fine. Maybe "Hey X, still using this email? I'm back in town, want to meet up at some point? Anon"
Also, cutting yourself off from social media often results in these kinds of situations. Bite the bullet and get a Facebook, add your friends. You don't need to post anything.
My boyfriend doesn't seem very interested in sex most of the time, and I want to approach him about it but I need help on how to go about it.
A bit of background: live together for 2 years, I'm mid 20s and he's early 30s. Almost certain he's not seeing someone else, and isn't gay. I work office hours and he works evenings.
I would have sex with him almost every day if he'd let me, but it seems like he only wants it once or twice a week. When I indicate I want it at night, he'll not reciprocate and state how we should sleep. In...
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He's an old fart. People above 30 have way less sections than people in their 20-s.
Maybe you could put more into your sexy.
But gotta tell you, I hope my next girlfriend is like you. Nobody needs to ask me twice for morning sex.
>>17237272
Talk to him. Don't accuse him and make him feel like it's just his fault.
Ask him if there's something you can improve, or if there's a way to make your relationship better.
Work out on a schedule that allows you to spend quality time together, and fit sex inside this quality time. Work on your intimacy and your relationship.
I think that the lack of sex is more a symptom than the cause of problems.
