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Found these, any idea what they are?
Mushrooms
>>17247167
Those are a rare species of fungi named for the rare Amazonian genetic twin "Ur a Fagget"
>>17247167
Eat them and pray that they're psilocybes.
Because my loneliness is my most faithful friend and my worst enemy
Ok. And?
>>17247169
and my right hand is getting really tired.
Anyone else feel like your self worth as male is tied to females? Its almost as if they determine what your worth as a male is. For example, I don't possess the ability or qualities to make a female fall head over heels for me. I don't have that enticing nature. So naturally, my self worth as a male is in the shitter.
How is it that females can determine this shit for men? I feel sick thinking about how little control I have over my life.
If a woman decides I am worthless, then I am worthless and there isn't much I can do to change that despite if I feel differently.
I feel like there are no help outlets for males. Like lets say you are a undesirable male, there are no.. like classes or instructionals or informationals that can help you. No one knows anything anymore. You have all these questions but no FUCKING answers.
What does it all mean? Being a male is super shitty sometimes. It just seems like you have so little control over shit.
I think you have very personal problems when it comes to women. You decide that your self worth is depending on women, but could it be that it's just the loneliness making you feel this way? Do you have a strong male role model? How old are you? Do you have social friends?
>>17247157
Western civilization is completely emasculated to the point if you even look at a woman too long the cops can be called on you
Its pretty fucking Orwellian
>>17247157
you decide what your self-worth stems from. if you don't like your self-worth being tied to females, then pick your own reason to feel worthwhile. nobody assigned this "self-worth = females" thing to you, it's not your social security number. you're not stuck with it forever unless you want to be. yeah it'll take some work to change your mind around, but you can do it.
women who are actually worth something won't think that you're worth anything unless you think you're worth something. and that will never happen as long as you place the source of your self-worth in women. don't look to them, look to yourself.
So I just graduated a few hours ago with a math degree. I studied a lot of insurance to be an actuary until I realized that I was losing me soul. That happened over the course of my sophomore and junior years. So, now I have no direction and no experience. I'm applying for a position at a company where I know people and I have a good shot at that.
BUT in the even that it falls through I'm screwed. So since I don't know what I want to do, how bad is temping as a college grad with no experience. I'm willing to work hard and would rather head somewhere than nowhere.
If you have a degree, it is the easiest shit in the world to get a job. It always helps to know someone, but you can still manage to get work without it. Just don't expect to make good money until you have several years on your resume. At nearly every company out there, age/experience = pay grade.
>>17247115
But I do not know what I want to do. I know I don't want to work with insurance though, that's about it. I'm also not naive enough to think i can get $+100k because hur dur stem.
Have you temped before or anything like that?
Bump before bed
I'm a male with a 4/10 face. My body is decent, not fat. Athletic, I have been doing martial arts for several years.
My problem is that I have no self confidence in my face and feel ugly all the time. Doesn't really help that I've actually been called ugly several times too. I am not a virgin, but I can't think how it's possible for me to have had sex with the 9 girls that I have been with. It is like, literally unbelievable to me.
All I want is the confidence to get a girlfriend. I've had a couple in the past, they weren't really bothered with my looks, but they weren't skinny supermodels themselves either. They weren't fat, they were attractive, but they were not tens.
I approached a girl about 2 years ago and talked to her for a few minutes before asking for her number, then she shut me down and said she had a boyfriend. I can't help but feel that was a load of shit though. I can't seem to get around the issue of feeling like I have an ugly face.
I'm in sexual counselling at the moment, because as it seems, my dick doesn't work. I dunno why, but my boners are pathetic and I'm only 24. I'm just so lonely.
How to either get girlfriend or how to get the confidence to get girlfriend? The previous two that I've had were, one was a girl from highschool and one was a chubby attractive prostitute off Tinder. I'm a genuine guy, I'm honest and I don't waste people's time. Why is this so difficult for me? I'm confident and funny too, in most situations.
I'm so lonely that it hurts.
>>17247095
You weren't born into the caste of normies
You'll never EVER join them
>>17247108
I'm actually pretty normie besides for my 4/10 face. Sucks really. All I need is a better looking face and I'd have it all.
>>17247095
>athletic
>martial arts
Tippy toppity kikky kekkity
What is the easiest way to get someone to hang out with you?
Context, I've been living alone in a new city/state for 6 months now and have gone to churches, bars, rock climbing gyms, meetups of online groups, and ton of other shit, so don't suggest that. Every time I have an actual conversation with someone, especially women, I end up making super good friends with them. The thing is, I haven't had that happen with anyone except 2 people so far (one is newly married and can't hang out ever because netflix and chill 24/7, and the other was college/military dude that got deployed after graduation). With that, I still have zero friends here. At work, they just started this thing with new college hires (I still count in that regard although I'm pretty much everyone else's senior by a year or two) so I have a decent handful of acquaintances there. Thing is, I work in a restricted area filled with really old people so I only ever see the other young people I want to make friends with for more than a minute or two a week. I need a good line that will almost guaranteed get someone interested in hanging out with me. Has to be about three sentences or less.
I'm just really not sure how to communicate that I desperately want to hang out with someone without coming off as completely desperate (because admitting to being desperate has NOT worked ever before).
bumpalumpagus
>>17247264
Try "abracadabra". It's as likely to work as any other magic three sentences that will win you friends!
>>17247268
Not what I was asking for, but thanks anyway. Honestly, I should know better than to expect legitimate replies for anything other than a post about sex or dating on /adv/.
Do girls prefer getting fucked hard like in a porno, or fucked slow and sensually like in a hollywood movie?
Hard and choked plus spanking, but I know I'm freaky.
>>17247051
Male here, have the same question.
Am I fucked if I don't want it harsh and somewhat violent?
So...I need some advice...I have a problem with hos, escorts, prostitutes whatever you want to call them. I wasn't always this bad, but I now work a 70-100 hour job, all my friends have moved to other states, my family is distant, and I don't feel like, outside of work, I have anything. So every weekend I invite hos over and either have them spend the night, fuck them, or just watch netflix. It's not even sex driven...I'm just lonely.
I've been on dates with regular girls and they've all ended horribly, when they don't end bad, girls get mad at how much I work, and sometimes I can't even make it to the date. I workout regularly, I always get complimented on my smile and personality, and I'm generally trying to be a better person,( I'm not handsome, but I'm not ugly either, I normally get called cute so I believe I'm pretty average) but it seems all personal relationships are running away from me. I don't know what I can do, and working less is not an option. So I spend like 1k a month on women who care nothing about me... at the very least I want to stop spending so much money on people who don't give af about me.
tl'dr: Lonely and need to save money.
Pic kinda related
Why do you work so much if it requires you to be away from your family, and generally has destroyed your social life completely? As it sounds, you don't even make THAT much money to make up for it? Why is your work/career so important to you that you out it above everything else? What do you want to achieve by that? Getting respect? What for? Impressing girls? Why? To lock down a good one? How has that worked out so far? Have you taken into consideration that girls might actually not be THAT superficial and choose a guy who they can spend time with over one with a perfect career and lots of money?
>>17247044
>70-100 hour job
No sorry, you will have to look for a job where you don't get treated as a slave. Working less should be your priority right now.
Would you rather be rich, or happy?
I mak a good bit of money, it's just that I wanted to work for a maximum of 5-years before I started working at my own business and the job I have now is the only one I know of where I can make the money to support that dream. But that's thrown to shit if I spend a quarter of it on hoes.
>>17247052
But you're right. The longer I work the more I realize I would rather have one really good one than realize my ambitions, but those ambitions are pretty important, so idk I'm here for advice.
>>17247053
Why can't I have both?
im relatively new here so if i posted on the wrong thread im really sorry, so i have this problem that whenever eat or i talk or engage in a conversation with someone or even use my phone i start getting lightheaded and have difficulty breathing to the point i have to catch my breath, now this has been going on for awhile id say about a 6 months ago but it started as not of a big deal, also i have been to the doctors but its like they dont give a shit, so please can anyone help me has or at least has anyone experience this? BTW im getting dizzy even typing this up ;,,(
Sounds like you have AIDS
How attractive is your penis? People with nice cocks tend to be confident and vice versa
>>17247040
This sounds like the classic early signs of being HIV positive. Your depleted white blood cells, when heightened by slightly stressful situations, causing that reaction is . . . classic.
I would go get checked out.
Second time sneaking out, this time by myself, any tips? Fairly new to being billy badass
Spend the night doing nothing but posting on 4chan
>>17247012
Oh buddy sneaking out is big leagues my man. You should try going to a grocery store and picking random items on the shelves and turn them around so you see nutrition facts instead of the label!
>>17247018
Whoa dude... Why encourage him to go overboard like that?
I'm currently a community college student and I'm going to start submitting transfer applications to university at the beginning of next year. My transcript isn't great, as I've had to repeat some classes (the old grade isn't reported on my transcript, but that instance of the class is). My GPA will be between 3.4-3.5 having taken mostly math and science classes, and I'm worried I won't be very competitive. I got a GED instead of graduating high school, so I never took the SAT, and I don't have any extracurriculars at the moment. I'm reasonably intelligent, but I've also been the epitome of the "smart but lazy" trope until recently.
Is there anything I can do to make my application more competitive? I've been thinking about doing a ton of community service and joining some clubs at school. Given the number of credits I've earned, most schools don't require that I take the SAT. Would it still be a good idea to take it? If I get a great score, will it compensate for my relatively average GPA at a community college? Will taking SAT Subject Tests do anything for me? I really want to have a good chance of getting into a decent school, as I'll be the first person from my family to graduate college. How can I boost my chances?
>>17246992
OP again.
I'm also confident I can get letters of recommendation from 2 of my professors, who are reasonably educated and intelligent and would write a great letter. How much will it count for, though?
The letters of recommendation go a very long way. It can't hurt to take the SAT if you think you'll score well and can financially afford it.
>>17247010
Does the SAT cost that much? Google says it's about 50 dollars...
I'm really tired of having sex with my girlfriend. I feel like everything has been done, explored and experimented with and it's just not exciting anymore.
My recently (about a year) single friend tells me that the desire is fleeting, not worth acting upon and fulfilling it is unsatisfying. These are all things that I can agree with, not from personal experience but I can see how it would be an empty sort of thing, expectations and fantasies are never what you imagine them to be.
But I've been with her for 6 years now and for the second half of our relationship I've battled the desire to have sex with other women. There are so many other girls out there, so many of them good looking, differently shaped to my girlfriend and with different attitudes towards sex. I want to explore all of these.
Before the monogamy brigade conducts a full blown blitzkrieg on this thread I want to stress that I am not talking about cheating or being unfaithful here. I'm talking about this persisting and still very strong desire to "sow my wild oats" that I can't seem to get rid of. My eyes are always wandering and when I watch my friends with other women I become jealous.
How do I come to terms with living a monogamous life? I really do feel bored at this stage but it doesn't at all feel like legitimate reason to just end an otherwise happy relationship.
>>17246984
How old are you OP? If you're seriously not into monogamy don't force yourself into it. Serious relationships are nice, but if you don't sow your oats before the summer, you'll miss harvesting season all together. Then you'll have to deal with the Lord's army lacking grain supply and you'll be whipped or worse, lose a hand. And if this continues unto next year, say goodbye to your daughter. The war has been going on for the past 35 years and I don't see any end in sight, so it's best to keep your head down while the Lords fight it out, with luck maybe yours will lose his head in the fighting.
Anyway, back to your mundane shit. Ask her for a break or something, or let her know how you feel and maybe something mutual can come up?
Basically you find a girl who is cool with you just using girls for sex on the side.
>>17246984
Fuck someone, realize there's nothing to it, and move on.
I suggest making a trip to Thailand. The ladyboys are tremendous there.
So now that im 25 years old and have not had any relationship or interpersonal success, I figure its time to use an escort to lose my V-card.
Any advice I can get for this? Im in Canada so its not really illegal, so there are plenty of high class escorts.
Anything would be appreciated, thanks.
Sex isn't a big deal. One day you'll meet someone, whether it be tomorrow or ten years, and it will be far more meaningful if you never fucked some dirty hooker.
Keep it special. Sex isn't that great. But, you keeping it special will make it that great for your partner, whoever he turns out to be.
>>17246955
Very optimistic, but I hope that "he" was a typo. Im not gay.
>>17246955
this nigga nows the drill. An actual advice.
I am in love with a professor I took for a couple of classes. Aside from my mother, she is probably the best and most kind person I have ever met. Obviously I have no chance and nothing will ever happen between us, and I can never even tell her how I feel about her.
How do I deal?
Can you think of any places you can rape her lovingly without getting caught?
I've been in a similar scenario. Realize that what you are attracted to is her kindness, because it's missing from your life. Internalize it. Be kinder to people, andfyou will attract more kind people to yourself.
Smile at the world and it will smile back at you. Sounds cliche bs but it works.
>tfw I'm a phd male student and my own students hit on me.
I fell for one and went serious about this, never again.
My girlfriend broke up with me today. She didn't really want to do it and I could tell throughout the conversation she was on the verge of crying. She said that she felt she wasn't right for me in that she's too focused on her career to really give me the time I deserve. It's true, she turned down a lot of dates and opportunities to spend time with me in favor of schoolwork or personal projects. I always understood, she's a motivated person, but I kind of thought she'd relax a bit with the summer with university not being a thing for a few months.
I think I'll be okay /adv/, but I think it's going to be a while. I'm in love with her and that's not going away for a while. I tried numbing the pain with alcohol but that's not a long term solution, and now I find myself up at 1:30AM with work early tomorrow and writing a sob story to internet anons because I don't know what else to do, and I'll just cry myself to sleep otherwise. She made me happier than I've been in years, possibly the happiest I've ever been in my entire life. I used to say to myself I'd never let any obstacle keep me from her, but I never thought I'd have to compete with her perfectionism and work addiction. She said she wanted to break up because she feels I deserve better than her, and the worst part is she's not entirely wrong. But I love her so fucking much. What do I do?
Don't go back. Don't look back. Yes, it's over. She said "I really love my career and my work more than I love you" in a nice way. If you're not among her first priorities she's not worth it. She won't make you happy.
That said, google for coping techniques after breaking up, but right now I'd advice you to cry a river. Don't numb your feelings, feel them as deep as possible. Grab a pillow and cry on it, get your right to not do a single thing for a whole day, just do whatever, but don't numb your feelings, and for god's sake don't deny them existing at all. Feel them entirely.
>>17246896
I see what you mean, but I'd rather not totally believe it. I think if her career is her first priority, I was her second. Judging by how hard it was for her to do that she had some really genuine feelings about me. Fate is a cruel bitch indeed to make two people mesh as well as we did except for such a crucial part.
She told me she was sure I'd find someone wonderful in no time, but I don't think I'm going to get over her for a long time.
I don't deny my feelings, I just thought a 40oz would make me feel better since I enjoy moderate drinking even while perfectly happy. In the end it was just disgusting cheap shit that I wouldn't have drank if I wasn't between paychecks and got me a couple hours of buzz. You're right though, I do want to feel this. It's the kind of sadness that means the relationship was well worth my time in the long run.
>>17246946
>I see what you mean, but I'd rather not totally believe it.
Denial is a phase of loss.
>I don't think I'm going to get over her for a long time.
Don't, then. Just don't dwell on it for too long or you'll end with a big depression.
>You're right though, I do want to feel this. It's the kind of sadness that means the relationship was well worth my time in the long run.
This is positive. At least you're not exactly sorry about the relationship, which means moving on is going to be easier.
