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Any idea how appeals work when you get rejected from the university you applied for? Like what kind of preparations should I make?
What's your basis for an appeal? Was there a misprint in your SAT score or GPA? "I really really want to go to that school" is not a valid reason.
>>17247889
There isn't but they didn't say why they rejected me either. It's an arts school and I don't know what else to do at this point
>>17247901
Attend a different school (you did apply to multiple options, yes?). Maybe you can transfer in the future.
My retarded neighbors are running weed whackers and lawn mowers at 9:30 on a Sunday.
That's inappropriate as fuck right? Like giving them the finger and telling them to fuck off is justified right?
>>17247868
If you mean A.M. then no, that isn't early enough to get angry about. If you mean P.M. then no, noise complaints before 10PM or 11PM on the weekends aren't considered a disturbance, unless they're outside playing drums or something.
>>17247868
You could try talking to them & asking them to wait until later. But don't be rude. You're the one who's imposing on them, not the other way around.
Nope, that's completely appropriate.
You can legally make as much noise as you want during daylight hours. You could crank the bass until your neighbors house fell down, and they couldn't do anything about it. Insurance would label it as an act of God (depending on how good the music is) and they would be homeless.
What is wrong with my foot? It started doing this shit like two days ago. It's pretty sore and the red shit is spreading every day. However I don't feel any pain, only a slight itch sometimes.
>It's pretty sort, however I don't feel any pain!
Oh my god.
Just... Die.
It's fungal. Go get an anti-fungal.
Do you live somewhere hot? If so it looks exactly like a heat rash/prickly heat.
>>17247856
Fungal. Clean the shit out of your socks. Get some new shoes. Get an antifungal cream. Keep foot dry. Don't touch the area and then touch your mouth. Don't pick your toes. Keep socks and shoes dry as well.
Alright /adv/, my problem is a little strange but here it goes: I'm gay and when I masturbate I'll sometimes finger my ass. Whenever I do this I can feel this thing that feels like bone. It's solid and ends in a rounded point. I guess I'm worried about two things. Most importantly, could I be in any danger from this? Could this cause longterm problems? This isn't a new discovery, I've know about it for about maybe 3 years. The second thing I'm worried about is any problems it might cause for intimacy. I've never been with another person sexually but I wanted to explore that and I'm afraid that I might be unfuckable because of it.
Before anyone says it, I've been thinking about going to a proctologist but it's so expensive that I want to try the free option of posting on /adv/ first.
Thanks for any help.
That's your prostate you dummie.
LMFAO
>>17247875
Prostate is solid large protrusion?
Hi, I am 17 years old male seeking some useful knowledge, give me skills you found useful in life, anything from survival to massaging.
Know that knowing things is a weakness.
Understand that understanding is closing your mind to things.
Wisdom is a safety belt for the stupid.
Wear suncreen.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI
When theres a buy one get one free sale, get the item you want, and buy the item you dont like, i.e, clothes. Then refund the unwanted item and, boom, free clothes. Or whatever u got
I broke up with my gf 3 months ago, since that we didt talk much, she sent me maybe few texts because break up was mutual and none of us was mad It just didn't work.
Now she sent me text, and said that she cant get over me, she still loves me, but at the end she wrote
"I had to say this to you before i get out of your life forever.. i wish you all the best"
What does that mean? She had some problems with depression, and even wanted to kill her self, I help her get over that, im scared she is not depressed again, and don't know what to say to her now.... she sounds like in that time..
is she inexperienced with relationships?
sounds like she has oneitis, my friend
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/09/oneitis/all/1/
>>17247786
She had boyfriend for 1,5 years before me, but from her story she didn't like him a lot. And i think one for few months. She always said that I was her first love, she only loved me..
What should i reply to this message, I don't know what to say to her?
I'll try to tl;dr that shit, and if it's too long i'll tl;dr the shortened version; here it goes.
So this year I met a girl which was attractive, but not really my type. I'm more of a one night stand guy, I never really fell in love, I have several "plates" (booty calls I guess ?), but I never had an actual girlfriend. I find it very hard to connect with people, so I don't talk to them unless I have a good reason to.
Anyways, one night I end up alone with that girl, and I was very surprised : we had an actual conversation, for hours, and it's not like these conversations that die off and that you have to restart with a new subject, we literally talked naturally for hours, we'd kept laugh over stupid shit (to tears sometimes), until we had to part ways.
After that we kept talking regularly on Facebook, I learned she had a boyfriend, and at that point I became wary, mostly because I noticed that each time I spoke to her I felt a warmth in my chest, I was getting too close to her. I knew how this would end up. So I stopped talking to her. But she started messaging me, so I obviously answered back, and before I even saw it coming we started flirting, and she wanted me to call her "sweetheart" (well, Petit coeur in French), and added that she wouldn't really know how her bf would react, but she still insisted that I called her that, and I did, and it hurt.
Many details hinted that I should probably make a move on her, so I found some decent reason to go get a drink together, she accepted, then she cancelled at the last minute, so we rescheduled 2 weeks after, and again, she cancelled at the last minute, then we rescheduled, and Again, she cancelled, again, at the last minute. So I thought that I was probably imagining things, and that she doesn't want to be alone with me because she doesn't want me to have the wrong ideas, so again, I gave up, and the school year ended.
cont.
So here's the thing, next year I wont be in the same university as her, at first the plan was that I was going to go study 1 year in a foreign country, that's what I told her, however that plan is fucked for several reasons that I wont explain. Except at the time I told her I wanted to see her one last time alone, except she wanted to invite friends, so I gave up again because I honestly thought she didn't want to be alone with me.
Then she came back, Again, and now she wants to go get a drink (alone), and she asked me if the night before she could stay at my place because she was going to meet with some classmates/teachers in my city and she lives a bit far (however to me it's not really a good excuse, the trains stop at, what, 1-2am ? Since it's a thing with teachers I don't actually expect them to stay that late). She also asked if another friend of her could also stay at my house for the night, but since there's only one guest room I said it wasn't possible.
I don't know what the fuck are her intentions.
tl;dr Girl I like that has a bf wants to stay at my place tonight, what do
Suicide mission that shit, get her alone and try to fuck or something. She's being stupid so just take your advantages
>>17247769
she either was busy or her bf wanted her. honestly she probably has trouble breaking it off with him if she wanted to be with you. at least she didnt get physical with you.
While travelling Southeast Asia I have met this local girl in Thailand. I have stayed in Thailand on and off for about 8 months in total and know the country and culture fairly well. Anyway, I have known her for about 6 months now and she has became one of the most important people in my life. She is a wonderful, clever, funny girl very different from your average Thai girl. I can share everything with her and I really trust (try to find a thai girl you can trust) her quite a lot by now.
However, she told me that she has previously worked as a bar girl (prostitute - for those not familiar with Thailand) and I'm really struggling to get over that fact. I understand this is a very common thing in Thailand and a convenient way for poor people to take care of their families and I have seen it plenty of times and while I never really liked it I never got myself hooked on that thought too much. Since I've met her and know about her story, though, I'm so caught up in my mind trying to deal with this topic. I try to rationalize it and tell myself it's just another way to make money and knowing my lazy self I might just go the same way if I grew up in Thailand and I had the choice between working 10 hours a day and being piss poor my entire life or sleeping with some old sugarmama every other night and live the high life but I still refuse to accept it.
Except for this one issue I like absolutely everything about her, but every time I look at her I can't help thinking about all those old men she has slept with and it disgusts me. How do I grow a pair and deal with this?
>>17247734
you sure she is not a gold digger?
>>17247734
Does she have diseases? If she has HIV/HPV, break up with her.
I can see where you're coming from. But you do realize that she didn't enjoy sleeping with those men at all?
>>17247741
This so much. My dad ran off with a thai girl he 'loved'. And boy did he pay...
I've been working on a project for 12, almost 13 years, and I'm beginning to realize I might need help.
If I could build a good team of people who are skilled at what I require I am fairly confident that the project would turn out quite well.
Heres the problem, I'm a broke, talentless, introvert that has no idea how to get this thing to the next step
Shameless self bump
God, I hate ambiguous shut like this
>muh seekret project
How about you post some more info?
What exactly do you need advice on?
Also if you've been working on it for 12 years you could have easy learned atleast 2 required skills needed for your project.
I was looking through my bfs porn folder and I see he's super into bandage and being a dom. Up until now we've kept it vanilla and since today is his birthday I wanted to do something nice. So far I've decided to use some cloth belts I had in my closet to basically bind my feet and legs, and gag myself with and I have a spare set of handcuffs our police friend left here a few weeks ago (yes I do have the key and tested them!) So what else can I do? I was thinking about basically kidnapping myself and wait for him to find me bound in the back of the walking closet or restroom but idk. I've never done anything to deviant before I just want to make him happy! Can anyone help a girl out?
If he really loves that stuff then he will very likely love the surprise, or be confused, or excited, or all three.
Do you have any trustworthy friends to help you out with the bindings and stuff?
>>17247621
Not really... I didn't even know he liked this stuff. I knew he liked to be rough sometimes but not like this! I'm mostly just copying what I saw in his porn.. gonna get a blindfold going too I think
>>17247624
Tough situation. How flexible are you? It might help you out to bind yourself.
I kind of want to get into meditation how do you do it?
I'm not really looking for extensive literature on it, just a an explanation how I could go about trying it, like a technique or something
Relax and focus on breathing, but not force it.
It's a focusing exercise, the longer you hold the more mana you generate to cast fireballs.
No seriously, relaxing and focusing.
>>17247611
Google and get all the answers you want
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPpUNAFHgxM
You're welcome, famalam.
Is 4.5 inches of girth enough?
Whenever I see the dicks on this site mine looks thin in comparison. Would what I have be an adequate amount of thickness?
>>17247587
bumping with same problem
>>17247587
Probably just enough for vaginal intercourse. Will depend on the girl.
Stop worrying about the size.
Work on your oral game, if you can bring them to orgasm with mouth alone the area is always sensitive after orgasm so they'll feel it better regardless of size.
Size matters a bit but how you work with what you have matters more.
I got only like 5 inches myself but having good oral skills works in my favor.
I'll greentext is because it's easier
>join cool software company 6 months ago
>be in team of 8 people
>they are all really effective, knowledgeable as fuck and chill, i'm very impressed
>2 months ago new guy is hired in our team
>he is probably around 10 years older than I am, yet he is at the same position as mine
>I'm paired with him for half of his tasks
>he is talking to me like he is my boss and has the right to command me to do stuff ("now do X for me", etc), to the point my colleagues have noticed that and are cringing
>90% of the stuff he is telling me to do are not the right way to do things at all (understandable because he is new), while I'm usually correct
>always talk about his previous job
>when asked to do a task, he is basically never doing it conscientiously. Like he will do it, then chill for 1 hour, whereas I'll monitor if everything is going alright, contacting the persons who should handle the follow up, etc
>he reproached me to "micro manage" him because I reminded him TWICE in a day if he could send a mail to our manager asking him questions about what we should do for project X. It'd have taken anyone 5 mins to write this stuff right away when we first discussed it and just send it, so we'd have the answer much sooner. But he wanted to write it, and went away for lunch.
>left to take a coffee break at the exact moment we had a urgent stuff to do, which left me alone fixing the problem (did it twice)
>apparently complained that he doesn't have ownership of some part of the projects on our team (as in, he is the main guy responsible for component X). However I don't think anyone has specific ownership of anything in our team and certainly not with that little time in the team.
So /adv/, what do I do?
This guys is annoying as fuck and he isn't good at all... should I tell my boss / colleagues about it ? I don't want to be seen as an asshole. However it's true that he is way below the general level of my team / company
If he impacts your work in a negative way then you should absolutely report it to your boss. Avoid bitching to your other colleagues about him though as if word of this gets back to him/your boss it'll look real bad on you. I work with some absolute fucktards too so I know your pain brah,
>>17247577
These people are toxic, speak to your nice colleagues and go with them (at least 3 - 4) to notice your boss with :
- Why you think he is making everyone's job harder
- Back it up with a LIST OF FACTS, suff that happened and which are relevant to your point.
Do not listen to these faggots, they will lead you wrong. If he's as bad as you say he is and everyone else is as on top of their shit as you indicate, your bosses are aware that he's a problem. Right now, they're trying to mold him into something better as the costs of hiring him aren't cheap and if they can make him improve it's more cost effective than firing him. They'll probably give up at the year mark if he doesn't straighten up.
Meantime, you are being evaluated positively for putting up with a difficult coworker and for keeping an eye on your surroundings. Just grit your teeth and bear it, you'll be better off for it in the long run. Making an issue of it makes you look like someone who can't adapt when needed and doesn't work well with others.
Srs question, where is the line drawn between flirty and creepy?
That's the question. That's why I never flirt.
I can't imagine complimenting anyone or being flirty without looking desperate or like some rapist or something.
It's right here
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>>17247583
I know right? It even lead girls to think I was gay cause I never flirt or show any interest which is awesome for self confidence.
I've become a weird and anxious guy after getting fired from my job and spending 2 months sitting at home all day. It was a shitty job anyways, but it was the only thing to force me into talking to people I didn't know, and it made me feel like I was doing something even though it was a shitty job I was about to quit.
I've always had anxiety, but for some reason now whenever I go out, I literally get body shakes when I am paying for something at store, and I just feel very self conscious and awkward everyday. I go to the gym everyday, but whenever a girl works out next to me I always move because I think that they might think I am looking at them, and I start shaking and can't focus.
My old coworker who was very interested in me sends me snaps of her every now and again, but I usually just throw my phone across the room because I am to scared to respond to anything, this comes off that I'm not interested in her, but I am too scared to talk. I feel like I am not even the same person. I lost about 5 friends in the same month after quitting, and I mean they are seriously gone forever. I fucked over two of them, and then my best friend for 3 years who I always knew was a narcisist fucked me over but I should've seen it coming, but I lost the other 2 since they are closer to him then me.
Not sure how to get back to my old self, I try to do things other than gym and internet, but I lack the spark I used to have and I can't get excited about anything. I should also add I have a minor opiate addiction that saps a lot of energy and makes me satistfied with my shitty state.
I feel like I am so fucked and I have no idea what to do, anyone have any advice for bringing myself back to normal? I can't get a job or start school until after summer
what are you so worried about OP?
i understand social anxiety but what do think is gonna happen? is some one going to just call you out for buying something with cash at the store? if a girl works out next to you that's her decision to go there and might think youre good looking.
Whats this stuff about your friends fucking eachother over?
and no one is normal. that girl who sent you snaps was probably nervous about how her message would come off to you
>>17247584
I think I have a pretty huge underlying fear of rejection ever since I was a kid, and I still haven't gotten over it. Also as far as being at the store and stuff goes, I am not 100% sure, but I feel like they think I might be dumb or something, or I think I'm acting really weird. I can totally justify how stupid everything is in my head, but when I am actually there in the moment I can't apply that there is no reason to feel that way, I know nothing will happen, but I still feel scared for some reason.
As far as losing my friends goes, one of my buddy's invited me to hang out, and my closest friend was driving, and he told me to be ready to get picked up, and so I get dressed and get ready, and 20 mins pass and I see a snap story of them all of my friends hanging out at a party. So I ask why the fuck I didn't get picked up and one of my friends said he didn't know, but my closest friend told everyone that he thinks I am annoying, and then the one that invited me didn't tell me they weren't picking me up, so I dropped contact with them because they fucked me over, besides one. And the others were coworkers I got close to who I bailed on too many times so I understandably am disliked by them.
I'm not even sure why I feel so anxious about everything out of nowhere, maybe it's from losing my friends because that has really made me upset
>>17247610
yea it just takes practice to get used to not caring how you think they think of you. just keep trying to apply the rationalized mindset when dealing with strangers. this part sounds like me and i'm working through it well enough. just be friendly using the store example, ask them how they are. it sounds cliche but you would probably be the first person to ask that day and they would be off guard and appear more vulnerable/not threatening to you. i was afraid of being called out for acting strange, shaky hands paying with exact change or whatever. what i did was prepare for the worst, kinda expect someone to yell from the line "WHATS WRONG WITH YOU" or have the cashier do something similar. no matter how you play out this scenario in your head if you would ask "whats your problem?" in response they would be in the wrong. has anyone ever called you out for shivering or being nervous?
