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Ok I've had enough today. I got kicked out of Applebees for being politically incorrect this evening.
I sat down wearing my Donald Trump hat and shirt when I saw a white dude and his Asian girlfriend sitting across from me in another table. I became really angry at them especially the white dude. I stood up and went to the bathroom. I stopped by at their table and told the white dude that he's participating in the white genocide of this country and he should be ashamed for dating an Asian girl. I went to use the bathroom and when I got back, the manager was there. Manager told me to leave for threatening comments made at the couple and being "racist". I told the manager that I was exercising my right to freedom of speech and that I was going to sit back down and eat my food. Manager then said to leave or he was going to call the police. I shouted at him saying, "White power!" and left.
How is this fair? I want to continue making comments directed at couple who are interracial dating/marriage in public. I'm not a racist. How should I go about making them in public?
>>17246320
NICE B8 I RATE 0/8 M8
0/10 what the fuck are you doing, son
dumb frogposter
Specifically men that are in long term relationships and are happy. I'm having a hard time dealing with my girlfriend past sexual encounters. I have never mentioned it to her or let her know how I feel about it but I feel like things would have been ideal for us. We both have our history and it doesn't make me think less of her as a person but it is something that plagues me. When she tells me details about her encounters it makes me sick to think about it. I've always been of the opinion that transparency in a relationship is preferable to ignorance or denial....
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It's normal to feel that way, especially when you're relatively young. However, you have to get over the feeling and accept that she has a sexual past as do you. Don't dwell on it.
Bear in mind that she almost certainly thinks far less of her sexual past than you do about yours, as that is normal for women to be much more focused on their current relationship than men (in my experience). You will grow out of these kinds of feelings as you age and mature. Unless she is really talking about it way too much, don't insist that you not ever discuss your...
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>>17246259
Don't ever talk about it or think about it, it never happened, that's the only way to deal with it.
I really hate when this feeling, it comes up so often.
One thing that often worked for me was doing something others hadn't -- maybe sex in the car, maybe anal, whatever it is. That validated my subconscious enough for it not to bug me.
Sup /adv/
There's a girl in my test room at the uni who I recently got an interest. All I know about her is that she is like 3 years newer than me and is in a class other than mine. I find she very beautiful and really wanted to meet her, to know more about her personality. If I like her personality, I would love to take it to a more serious relationship.
But what's missing for me is the "kickoff". Like, how the hell I start to talk with her without looking like a weirdo? Like, I need a very favourable situation to start the talk. But the problem is...
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>>17246252
you're being beta, fucking talk to her about anything it doesn't matter, talk to her and smile, chicks at that age don't give a fuck what you say it's how you say it, if you don't feel confident act like a motherfucking alpha.
>>17246265
But the problem is HOW I should start the conversation. It's not like any situation is acceptable. What situation would be good to roll the talking? And HOW I should talk about the subject? HOW I can get closer to her without being strange and start to talk?
> Like, I need a very favourable situation to start the talk.
No you literally don't. You're just being a coward and afraid of rejection. Get out of your head and just do it. The most favorable conditions could be there and you'd still botch it.
Hey /adv/. I need help, desperately. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 3 years now. We met hit off on my freshman year of high school. The catch to this, is that we met online. She told me that she has a medical issue, and she often self-harmed. As we fell deeper in love, I tried to help her with that. I took her under my wing like a father would (her dad is an unsupportive douche, and her mom is a religious zealot). We worked together. Oh my God, we were in love. We couldn't leave each other alone, we were so happy to be with each other, even if it wasn't...
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that's called a pen pal, not a girlfriend, you stupid fuck. either way: relationship over.
The year before when I visited, I was a flakey faggot. Her mom (who we both agreed was crazy) wanted to drive over to my grandparents and meet me and have dinner. I got scared, because for some reason I can't explain well, I want comfortable with telling anyone about me being in a relationship. Her showing up out of nowhere would be too sudden. I told my girlfriend I refuse to do that. She took it well, at least I thought.
Just a few days ago, my girlfriend went off on me the week before coming to her state. She told me how many times I made her cry, how much I pissed her off, how pathetic certain things I used to do were, and why she was so distant. She told me how I could do better. For once in my life, I absorbed all of that and actually felt remorse. I decided to take her advice, and tried to tap into "my feelings", in order to make her happy.
Then, as soon as I arrived at where my grandparents live, she resumed being short and rude with me. She was emotive for maybe a little bit, then back to short again.
Today I've had enough, and I went all out on her. I pretty much told why I was the way I was, and that I wanted her to stop being short with me. I mean, we're seeing each other in person soon. I want her to be happy, not short with me. She shot back with how it's all my fault, and we argued on the phone and via text for about 3 hours. It's seriously effecting my mood, and people are noticing. I told her I wanted to stop fighting and work together about out problems, and she stopping replying all together. What do /adv/?
Sorry for my shit tier writing structure, I type like a massive faggot when I need to get shit off my chest.
>I pretty much told why I was the way I was, and that I wanted her to stop being short with me.
I winced and stopped reading. you're awful and unfit to be in a relationship.
idk why but my bf is at a concert and I'm scared he is/going to cheat on me?
hes with his cousin and I'm worried hes gonna cheat or something because hes like 3 hours away. I mean hes pretty much been texting me during the whole thing voluntarily, but he just texted me and said he cant find his cousin, which makes me feel uncomfortable because that means they split up? why would they split up and why would his cousin go off somewhere alone? also theres a good chance they were probably drink too
should I be worried? also he didn't even invite me to the concert which I know its not a big deal but just a small part of me thinks its incase he wants to meet someone or something=/
Are you >>17246166 ?
>>17246249
yessss, but he just said he cant fnd his cousin and I just said "what do you mean did he just walk away? did you call him? like 15 minutes ago and he hasn't replied. and I'm just worried he got drunk and is cheating on me maybe not even having sex with someone but kissing/touching another girl. :( I'm so scared.. that I wont hear from him for hours or until tomorrow, and then I wont know what to believe=/
>>17246232
okay he said he found him but I don't get why they lost each other or went separate ways I'm freaked out......
like I know when I was single and if I ever got drunk, id usually find some random guy to parade me around/kiss me/ touch me ( I'm talking about at bars, but I don't see how a concernt is different, I'm sure theres tons of drunk hoes there..)
hey /adv/ I have an interview scheduled with this restaurant called "the melt shop" soon
Ive never done an interview before or had a job so what are some cues I should take to really woo them over and get hired?
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>>17246231
Talk about how it gets you off to provide great service (but in different words). For an entry-level job, if they're interviewing you there's a good chance they plan on hiring you.
>>17246309
cool
should I act overly enthusiastic or would that make me look like an aspie
comment on how you like the area
any history you can look up online is good
if you can look up who is interviewing you to get an idea of interest is good, maybe sports team they like, but only bring up those teams if you really like them
Try and relate anything you've done itn eh past to the job, like if you're going to clean at work, maybe talk about the chores you've done at home, if you're going to cook talk about how much you like to cook at home
30m here, messed my life up really, really bad. I probably deserve to suffer for the poor choices I've made, but I really feel like shit right now. I literally have nobody I feel comfortable calling at any hour and expressing myself to or asking to hang out. I really need friends, or just one good friend to talk to and do things with for the sake of my sanity. I feel so utterly and completely alone, it's like a crushing weight bearing down on me at all times. I have some family, but I don't feel comfortable calling them and breaking down and telling them how sorry I am for being so distant, selfish, and cold.
For the past 10 years I've used weed to self medicate my loneliness and it's the only thing that excites me and makes me feel happy, but I'm realizing that weed abuse is responsible for ruining my social life, and it inhibits me from making new friends (I would choose to avoid parties and anything social so that I could get high, alone. also when high I'm very socially awkward). I've been trying very hard to quit for the past month. It's a catch 22 situation, I need to quit smoking but I need weed to alleviate the pain, nothing else seems to do it. When I'm sober my life is just utterly shitty, I have nothing and no one. I'm so bored. I'm depressed so none of my hobbies are any fun to me when sober. Anyone have experience pulling themselves out of a depressive, addiction-riddled, lonely state?
>>17246230
It's a long journey ahead, you better fucking commit to it.
>>17246230
Stop smoking fucking weed, you've said it yourself it's a catch 22. Some people can handle it, I was the same as you, I smoked every day and became more and more insular to the point I I felt awkard and weird even being amongst friends. It'll take a while, we're talking a year or so here but fuck the weed, start working out, go to a gym and feel better about yourself. You don't have to be a boring cunt, drink alcohol that's cool but forget the weed, you're not suited to it dude.
>>17246243
This except don't drink alcohol. You need to kick yourself in the ass and quit the shit you're doing.
Asked my gf to rate me. Never thought I was the worst looking guy. Get like 6-8 on /soc/. She says "you're like an 8, but if you work out, you'll be a 9 or 10". I was a bit angry because I wanted to know what was bringing me down. It was surprising because she seemed to have a high opinion of me before, but now I'm thinking she doesn't like how I look or some shit.
I asked her what was average on her scale, and she said 7.. which made zero sense to me. I asked her why, and she kept rating a bunch of guys I thought were ugly as 6s. She told...
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>>17246229
>I think she's like a 5 or 6
>i make her cry a lot
>muh ego
What you're doing wrong is being a douchebag to your girlfriend. Leave her so she can find someone who finds her attractive and doesn't make her cry.
>what am I doing wrong
Everything.
>>17246229
How is 8/10 "not that attractive?" I fucking wish I was an 8/10. Stop being a faggot.
>Have qt 3.14 gf
>Half the time we get along, sex is eh but I'm her first so she will get better
>But she's really judgemental of my interests and wants me to drop certain hobbies, she can be really selfish and makes little to no effort, Very superficial and rude
I don't know if it's going to work out, so I either have the choice of talking it out with her and hoping for the best or leave her for this girl who is nowhere near as cute but supports my interests...
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sounds like door number 2 is the better option
>>17246199
When I say "nowhere near as cute" I mean as in she's almost physically unattractive. Maybe as we get to know each other better I'll end up liking her?
I think you're right though.
>>17246199
He's right. Fuck her in the arse until she's so unbearable that you can't stand her and then spend some time rekindling past hobbies and interests while looking for a new girl
should I leave my bf?
I really love him and as far I know he loves me too. I'm 23, hes 24.
but I always have this fear he will cheat on me. I don't know why. hes at a concert with his 16 year old cousin right now and I'm worrying about him cheating on me. I'm also going away for a week to visit my sister and I'm scared during that time he will cheat on me.
what should I do? I honestly don't know if its him or me.... I kinda think its both.
well we've been together for almost a year and a half. idk why I feel this...
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>>17246166
sorry I'm 24 and hes 23**
>>17246166
Holy shit is this bait?
>I think it's kind of both
You have given us no reason to see why it is both of you? It really seems like it's just a you problem, and the fact that you want to break up with him over it is such a disgusting selfish thought. You talk to him about getting married and kids but you're the hoe who has interest in another guy. It doesn't matter if you would never cheat, youve already made your back up plan. This whole thing is pathetic and...
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>>17246185
lol not really. mostly because ivee seen him be extra friendly with other girls in front of me, and I feel that hes always been more into entertaining everyone else over me if were at something social (like he will just ignore me and speak to everyone even if I know no one there, and even if hes talking to other girls..).
lol I lost my virginity to him.. I'm just saying I don't completely trust him because ivee seen his eyes wonder and such.. I just don't know if hes a loyal/trusting person for life
I have liked this girl on and off for almost two years. Thing is, she always ends up dating someone else, and she's dating my friend now.
I feel very awkward around her in general because she still initiates conversations with me even when she's in a relationship. She sounds rather sad and acts comparably awkward when talking to me (as opposed to talking to others) which to me has always meant someone liked me. But, she dates other people and is dating my friend now.
I never initiate conversations with her out of respect for their relationship, but she...
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Dude you're her backup guy, her plan B if all else fails
>>17246535
How are you sure?
>>17246806
not op. but as a grill i may have done this. and thats pretty much word for word it. advice, move on, find someone else, and force her to choose.
She enjoys it when I lick and finger her ass, but doesn't ask for it...and forget the D.
I need help with the psychological side, getting to know how and why she's reluctant. I've talked to her about it several times and although she admits it feels good, she isn't that into it.
>>17246124
Anal itself doesn't feel good for women. The bigger the object the more painful anal is and the more risk there is to break your pooper. Is this really a question?
>>17246124
Because she doesn't have a prostate.
Female pooper isn't meant for sex.
>>17246477
>implying male pooper is made for sex
My whole life I've been an ugly, autistic fuck who can't talk to women, and I'm a 20 year old HKV. But a little over 3 weeks ago I began talking to this cute Thai girl I met online. We exchanged phone numbers pretty quickly and began talking on there. A week ago we talked on Skype for the first time, and just 5 days ago she said that she liked me, and because I'm a desperate 20 year old HKV I went along with it, so we're offically bf/gf.
Ever since then though, she's been extremely clingy and she says I'm ignoring her when I don't...
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You know she's just using you so she can move out to the West, right?
>>17246037
I've considered this, yeah. Once she was talking about how she was gonna move over here after uni, so I said "what if I moved over there?" and she started going on about how awful it is there.
I suppose I'm getting played
>>17246032
OKAY FROM A GIRL who has been in a fake sort arelationship with someone I never met who lived in another country..
I was a virgin and talked to him from when I just turned 17 for six months. he disappeared for a year because we got in a fight or something, and then we talked from 18 till like.. a year ago I think?? when I just turned 23.
during THOSE FIVE YEARS I turned down evry dude, blah blah, I WAS A VIRGIN WHEN I WAS 23 STILL because of this dude from the internet who I thought I was gonna...
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ok here is my situation:
>i want to buy a laptop
here are the options:
>new
.pros - 2 years warranty
.cons - expensive
>used
.pros - cheaper
.cons - no warranty
*sidenote: not sure if it matters but i just need a working laptop not gonna use it to play anything, just those school laptops know what i mean?
>tl;dr: should i buy a new or a used laptop?
Why not a cheap new one if all you want is something for school stuff? You can literally get them for a couple of hundred bucks
>>17246027
>couple of hundred bucks
not where i`m from, cheapest i can see goes for arround 400€
>inb4 minimum wage is 540€ so ...
>>17246031
I feel like you haven't looked hard enough.
I need some help about a certain lesbian girl I'm interested in (I'm a bisexual guy).
I talked with her online and we decided to meet IRL (as friends, of course.) We met up in a park and she was with her best friend smoking cigarettes. We talked about some stuff and she touched me a lot of times when she found an opening (she touched my arm and we compared our hand sizes).
As the wind was very cold, she invited me to her apartment and we spent some time together in her bedroom. I was a bit shy and she asked me to sit beside her on the bed.
After...
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Shes lesbian, so respect her choices and dont do anything bad to her or impose your shit on her. Didnt even bother reading past the first sentence
chances are that she might not be interested in you as you may be in her. She is lesbian after all. Takes things really calmly and slow and talk to her. Don't try anything risky
>>17246058
I don't think merely asking for casual sex is "doing something bad to her". She just have to say yes or no.
>>17246062
Yeah, sure. I'm just curious because she was way too chummy with a guy she just met. I don't know it it's just part of her personality, but she easily broke the touch barrier and this is very unusual.
