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Had a LDR with my gf. We started strong, but as time went by well...u know. One day, she didnt replied to my texts for two whole days. One night, she texted to me saying "sorry, i cant do this. can i give up?". I surprisingly took it well and was fine for a few weeks. Then I asked how she was doing and she told me she had a new bf :,) (hello darkness my old friend) anyway, im sad now and i dont know how to handle it. Any advice?
P.S Sorry grammar bad if
She had a real boyfriend for a while bruh. She just didn't know how to tell you.
>>17244620
Hmmm...maybe :/
>>17244624
No, that's what happens. LDRs with people you haven't met seem fun, until you meet someone in the real world who your attracted to and you can touch. Suddenly the work, restrictions and lack of physical intimacy that comes with a LTR seems really silly/not worth it.
>gf wanted me to go to a gay bar with her and her friends
>said I didn't want to go
>she went
>now she's mad at me and says that I'm intolerant and insecure
I don't understand. It just didn't sound like a fun time going to a gay bar and hanging out with her friends that I don't like. I don't know where this came from. I don't have anything against gay people but why do I need to go to a place for gay...
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>The music is too loud, the beer too expensive, and the people are annoying
>I don't even like going to regular bars and clubs
She secretly wants you to come out so she can cuck you and bang Chad or Jerome
She sounds like a tumblrina with that twisted logic. As a gay man, I can assure you her and her friends' presence probably wasn't well tolerated there either. If gay men are going somewhere for the sole purpose of hooking up and finding other men, then it's really kinda rude to go and hang out there if you're a woman. Girls like her are probably the type to be into catfishing too. They just see us as a cute accessory friend out of their yaoi animes.
So no worries, anon. Just find yourself some better friends.
>>17244618
Gay bars aren't only for men. They're for lesbians, too. If you'd be irritated by women being in a gay bar, you're clearly up your own ass. There's no way of knowing just by being around women in a gay bar, if they're straight women looking for laughs, or actual lesbians looking to do the same thing as gay men.
I just lost my virginity to my fiance a few nights ago and we've been doing it pretty frequently since. The problem is that I have always been overly sensitive with foreplay(he has been able to make me come within five minutes consistently with just his fingers in the past). Now I find that it's even worse with actual sex; I last maybe two-three minutes of fast penetration before I start trembling uncontrollably and clenching up, making it a little painful(for both of us) and hard for him to do his job.
TL;DR - how do I stop being overly sensitive?
>I just lost my virginity to my fiance a few nights ago
>just lost my virginity
>to my fiance
Holy shit - what? Is this bait?
>>17244576
the more you have sex, the longer it will last as time moves forward. how come you waited so long to your virginity? just wondering.
>>17244677
I hope so, I mean he doesn't seem to mind but it is a little frustrating/embarrassing always having to finish him off with my mouth or hands.
Also we just didn't have the right time or right place- we were in a long distance relationship for a while and when we would meet up we were never alone for enough time to do the full do (plus I have this insane phobia of pregnancy and wanted to make sure that there was a 0% chance that I could get pregnant, which means until I could stack birth control I...
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You can call this bullying, bullshit or whatever, but here goes: I message with my friend, just the usual chat, whatever comes to mind, we often make fun of one other. The problem is that I aint no good in that and often it happens that I end up being the butt of the joke, lately very often. Sometimes I write something like this aint funny anymore or something like that, they continue even more, as if they aint my friends or anything, just want to poke fun of me, as if I were untermensch or something. Anybody has been in that situation? One of them said that I should ignore...
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>>17244544
*my friends. there is more of them
Sorry Arek
I didn't know if upset you so much
>>17244564
Not Arek
I've been accused of having a "black & white" way of thinking. Amusingly, the people who insist that the world has all types and that I ought to appreciate that are the same people who say I need to "fix" this way of thinking.
So what's so bad about black & white thinking and how do I stop thinking like this? Is it the same as just stopping thinking altogether?
Empathy. Stop and think about why someone would be retarded enough to disagree with your unmatched intellect.
Because nobody is all good and pure and nobody is all terrible and awful. Real people are somewhere in the middle. Real life is messy.
People with black and white thinking tend to completely discredit something once they've decided it's "bad", and then refuse to change their mind based on new evidence. If somebody wrongs you once, they are terrible forever, no matter how many times they try to make it right. Or if you have decided that somebody is perfect, inevitably they will fuck up because everybody does, and then you cast them down because they...
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>>17244525
http://arstechnica.com/science/2016/06/we-dont-update-our-biases-even-after-they-lead-us-astray/
You're not a computer, you cannot just change your logic. Enjoy your biases, they make up who you are.
At 2 am this morning I got an out of the blue call from a girl I hadn't spoken to in 8 months. She used to be my best friends girlfriend (but I don't hang out with him anymore). She's drunk, and crying because her friends all dumped her, she was stranded it was raining, and she told me she was feeling suicidal because everything in her life is wrong. Against my better judgement I took a cab to meet her because I legitimately did feel sorry for her. I am not really one to just abandon people if they are in a bad place. Anyway, long story short, I ended up at her...
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>>17244517
I say nex time you're about to spank the monkey you should give her a call and use her as your personal fucktoy instead.
Life throws you little wins every once in a while, take them.
>>17244616
You think so?
I want to man. I really want to. But I don't know. What if she goes full crazy?
>>17244971
She will, that's why anon is trying to run your life by getting her pregnant. Trust me, any girl who says they "can't get pregnant", can and will. She lied about it twice already? Why would it be any different this time?
Has this website radically changed your view of girls for the worst?
>>17244487
how could it if there are only guys here
>>17244487
Man were you so butthurt by the >>17244215 ?
Faggot. I'm telling you redpill and MGTOW are misogynist gay cults.
>>17244487
no, it has made me realize how edgy and spiteful some guys are though. they are just pissed off because they cant get women
Girl from the Netherlands with a super close online friend from the states. Is it strange that I think of him in a brotherly way? Can I tell him how I think of him? I don't know if he thinks of me in a sisterly way.
>>17244453
This is why Europeans are fuckin weird man
>>17244478
Is it strange if I think of him as my best friend then?
>>17244478
Thats not the point. Whats weird is 1. You ask if you can tell him how you think of him, as if you're not allowed to do that. 2. You see others as brothers and sisters, what are you black?
I have wanted a tattoo for quite a while, but didn't know what exactly. A week ago I understood what I want (pic related), but the problem now is that I don't know how to tell it to my mother. I won't be getting it yet - I want to be 100% Shure I won't regret it, so 2 months I will be thinking should I change it up in some places, design and so on. How should I approach my mother saying that I will get a tattoo?
>>17244423
You might as well have this tattooed on you because it is the message everyone will get -
"Born trailer trash - will die trailer trash."
>>17244423
You want that exact layout and text? I'm Hindu but dude that's complete shit. Let the artist draw something up for you and maybe people will hate it less.
Also
>shure
Come on.
>>17244423
Text tattoos are stupid. No respectable tattoo artist will complete that design.
One of my good friends keeps pressuring me to have a relationship with him and since I'm asexual and he isn't, his proposition is for us to have sex only "once a month" and he will have sex with other people occasionally to fulfill the rest of his needs since we won't have constant sex.....NO. I don't want any kind of sex with anybody, I've tried it and it just does not work. Why do people NOT get it? Are people just selfish? Do they only think of their own pleasures?
He's a good friend, by the way, besides all the delusional sex-pressuring....
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>>17244316
He is not your friend. He wants to have sex with you. Good friends don't have romantic feelings for you, and usually they don't want to have a relationship with you, or want to fuck you once a month.
Stop talking to him.
>>17244319
Agreed.
Run, OP.
>>17244316
Doesn't sound like a friend to me
How the fuck do you have good phone sex?
use a handsfree kit
>>17244295
If you're both bad at dirty talk, it's not going to work.
>>17244297
Makes sense.
>>17244298
So, what IS "good at dirty talking" and how do i achieve that?
Hi /adv/. I want to change my last name, but I'm not sure whether the reason is stupid or not. My first name isn't ethnic sounding, but my last name is. The industry I'm going into is very conservative and WASP-y, where this kind of thing does matter. Jobs are hard enough to get as it is, and I don't want my resume getting turned away because they see my last name and assume I'm fresh off the boat. My qualifications are otherwise fine. wat do?
>>17244281
Do you really want to work for a company you'd have to do this for? Do you really want to have to explain why the Next Of Kin on your various forms has a different last name?
Do you really think the antisemetic bastards won't figure it out anyway?
>>17244477
I'm already at a disadvantage because of my gender, I just want to have the best chance that I can have. The job market is extremely competitive, even with my qualifications. My next of kin have different surnames anyway, it's not common for women to take the male's surname after marriage in my culture. Also, I'm not Jewish kek. There are a lot of Jewish people in this industry, though.
If you don't mind my asking, what's the industry?
Has this website radically changed your view of boys for the worst?
Maybe girls. I mean always posting nudes, I've seen them to things like make a moustache out of period blood and pubes.
>>17244215
I can't help but shake the feeling that all men want is just to fuck. It really does seem like most of you can't keep it in your pants. I also feel more paranoid about being cheated on in the future.
It's changed my view of myself for the worse, that's for sure.
Other than that, not really. People in general are complicated. Most guys are just extremely open about sex but equally withdrawn about their own sexuality and personal desires.
How to improve my aim in vidya games from a skill based level alone? I turned off mouse acceleration / have low sens but I still find myself getting fucked by strafers and my genuine retardation when it comes to accurate, precise aiming.
Short answer: Practice
CS:GO have some good flick maps that you can just sit in and practice reactions.
General aim just comes with time.
Depends on the game... for counter-strike style games:
- Keep your mouse to the side you're turning towards
- Never keep your mouse in the middle of two spots, you'll be fucked from both. Just aim at one, then the other, keep switching.
- Try to have some awareness of where the enemies might be going and which sections are clear.
- Check common spots.
- Don't rush to fire too much, it's better to have shots going towards their head/body than it is having them going into space.
Practice pretty much and prediction.
the internet, and especially this place, is a dark pit of complete social isolation that annihilates critical thinking and feeds you lies meant to enrage you and further distrust the outside while cutting all you connections to reality.
escape this shit
>>17244189
>the internet, and especially this place, is a dark pit of complete social isolation that annihilates critical thinking and feeds you lies meant to enrage you and further distrust the outside while cutting all you connections to reality.
Said a man on the internet.
>>17244189
>annihilates critical thinking and feeds you lies meant to enrage you and further distrust the outside
It helps if you're not mentally ill to begin with.
>>17244189
>escape this shit
to...?
