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I have no confidence. I feel like I doubt and second guess all the time. I can't do anything with women with no confidence.
It sucks because confidence is t something you get overnight as a adult. You get it as a kid and since I didn't get any confidence as a kid, my confidence is now in the shitter.
Help me... Where can I get confidence. All seems like a huge lie.
>>17242334
Cut yourself. It will help boost your confidence. Only a pussy can't do it, faggot.
>>17242334
Dedicate your life to Urox, a life spent fighting chaos make matters with other humans no big thing.
Op are you me man? I'm in the same place as well...
Hey /adv/, how do I become social with the people at my office as a new employee?
The problem is my department (IT support) is somewhat lonely. It's me and one other guy. He's a nice guy, but we don't have much in common. He's a lot older than me and doesn't seem to talk to the other people at work. There are lots of people my age working here who seem really friendly. Whenever I'm not helping them out with stuff however, it's easy to get secluded. I guess it's hard being a part-time job, but I'd like to hang out with more with...
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>>17242283
bump
>>17242283
help anyone?
Nothing?
Hey 4chan, seeking some sage advice here.
I have a group of friends consists of me and 3 other guys.
One of the guys, let's call him *Hwang* does some peculiar things.
*He always touches some of us molester style
*He manipulates things around in his favor
*His mannerisms in arguments always changes the subject in his favor -- he must have his way or he'll throw a fit
*He privately *disses* us to each other and calls me a homo sexual in a serious tone.
*Basically he's a nigger
So today, another friend in the group wanted...
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All of you should collectively ignore him until he gives in.
>>17242274
Seems like the kind of guy who'd immediately take things as an attack if you were honest with him. You did the right thing though. Just wait for him to come around.
OP here - adding on
We had a private group chat on hangouts (for the rest of us not including Hwang) because we play games with each other when he's not available sometimes. So he's also angry that he wasn't included in that chat.
Hey guys, I'm starting to realise I really don't enjoy my home life (I don't know why, my parents are great, I just feel alone and depressed at home - my sister is a manipulative piece of shit, maybe thats why) and I've felt like the military is the place I am destined to be. I've been interested in it since age 7 and honestly nothing really seems exciting to me anymore unless it's military related.
I don't have great A level grades (UK) but I have solid A's in GCSE. I was thinking an officer job would be good but I will take an...
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I currently serve in the IDF. The difference between us is that I was kind of forced to serve. It's the best thing that happened to me desu. I have a really cool service as a battlefield technician and have the training of a foot soldier + i learned a lot of physics.
Being a foot soldier is difficult but truly satisfying-try to get there first..
>>17242255
This is coming from an American
1. You can wear ear protection when your firing your weopans and weapons are being fired around you. Unless yourre going to be jumping out of airplanes then your knees and back should be fine.
2. Go whatever the uk s version of infantry is. Grunt life is best life.
Idk if you'll see action though. Does the uk even go to war? Besides special forces and ops I doubt you'll see any combat anytime soon
>>17242255
Stand by, typing a response but it might be a bit long winded.
In a big bind right now guys. Time is money. Basically I secured a new job waiting tables last Tuesday, and have my second shift tomorrow evening. The problem is last night I was dumb enough to get drunk and buy a tiny bit of drugs, speed shit. It was unplanned - ater a family argument - but I'm still pathetic for doing it. Regret it. I need this job.
I'm not sure whether it's in my best interest to call in sick for the shift (without lying) or to try and do what I can in between then to make myself look presentable. I find people are always in the know that it's lingering in my system, and that means customers tomorrow and more importantly, obviously, my boss.
People seem to always know and it sucks.
I'm considering going to the hospital since I can't see my Doctor, and asking for something they can give me. Some drug to wash my system (my eyes). Something to help me sleep this evening.
Any advice?
>>17242248
Just go to work and play it off. I'm sure most the staff drinks and does drugs.
The job is just so replacable. And it's a good job. And I just have the feeling - I'm not making it out of training if I show up to my 2nd shift with stink making my pupils shake/bend
>>17242443
Do you think you'll make it out of training if you don't show up to your second shift at all?
Hey /adv/,
Somehow I landed a get together with a girl waaaaay outta my league and now I'm slowly freaking out. This is the first time I've been "out there" since I got out of a three year relationship
We're gonna eat and then go catch a show together.
What do I do? Do I pay?
How do I keep conversation going?
don't be a faggot
Men are supposed pay. Just be yourself dattebayo!
>>17242190
Split the bills if you're strapped for cash. This way you'll know right away if the girl is just going along for free dinner and entertainment.
My girlfriend sometimes acts crazy.
She sometimes punches herself in the face, blames me for things I have nothing to do with, and gets very rapid mood swings (acting extremely cold to me, then moments later, smiling and acting sexy around me).
Is this relatively normal for a girlfriend? I wouldn't know since she is my first.
>>17242172
>She sometimes punches herself in the face
That's fucking funny!
>>17242172
Sounds normal for a girlfriend with mental health issues
>>17242172
Sounds like a woman to me.
Is this a reference to her period?
I've never heard that expression before.
Obviously NASA is sending 30 periods to Mars this morning.
>>17242156
I think she means she's on some kind of drug (30mg)
>>17242161
I mean just the "on my 30" bit. The rest makes sense with more context.
>>17242167
Like what?
What are some tattoos I could make a sleeve out of? I'm a white guy so no Japanese koi fish or dragons. The only things I can think of are Skulls, boats, and Celtic designs. I don't want any tattoos of women or things like star wars or video games or cartoons. I prefer something kind of traditional.
>>17242145
Or you could do the smart thing and not get a tattoo.
Get a single solid color
>>17242151
lol, nice!
Need gaming advice:
Should I sell my PS4, games, and put the money toward a gaming/work PC? Or should I keep my PS4 and build a PC (since the PS4 isn't worth much)?
Use the ps4 as kindling. It's no good as anything else.
A used PS4 isn't really worth very much. Unless you're really strapped for cash, I'd keep it and build your own PC.
>>17242109
If you're this pressed for money, maybe what you should do is sell your ps4 and games, and save the money.
My friend is having suicidal thoughts. They're a great person and don't deserve it. They think people walk all over them and they don't believe nice things people day to them.
How do I make them value life? How do I make them believe they're valued?
>>17242099
You can't save them, they can only save themselves. It's the sad reality of the matter.
>>17242107
This anon is correct, I've had a friend do the same thing and they only brought me down. I would cut all connection with your friend.
>>17242150
>>17242107
I appreciate the honesty, but how could you leave a friend behind?
Hello /adv/. I'm seeing this girl for the past month, and we had sex a few times, she really loved it. She told me that she never expected that I was that good at sex. Everytime we had sex, she had multiple orgasms.
Is there any way (other than sex) I can make her fall madly in love with me, and that she will always want me?
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>>17242089
Just keep banging her brains out til she falls asleep. She will eventually develop what you call feelings. Also try to make yourself scarce so she'd be wanting you more desperately
>>17242112
Thanks for the reply mate, sounds good. One thing tho:
>Also try to make yourself scarce so she'd be wanting you more desperately
I'm afraid that if I make myself more scarce she will find another one to bang her? But also I can't wait the next time I bang her, so it will be equally painful for me
>>17242137
How often are you guys meeting during a week?
Hey advice, I need a lot of help. I have been in an ldr for nearly 4 months now. However I am slowly screwing it up. I keep on asking what she is doing, and I ask too many questions about the people she knows. If she is speaking to someone else while talking to me I ask about it, and it bugs me. We have talked about this many time, but I cant seem to stop. She says this is starting to really annoy her. How do I stop my behaviour?
>>17242056
OP here, is this board really slow?
>>17242056
Stop, she doesn't have the same feelings for you m8. For all you know she might be swallowing Chad's load right about now.
>>17242129
Pretty much this, ldr's don't really work been there done that. My bitch went to a powwow and fucked some guy she just met, so just consider the disadvantages of not being there to fuck until she loves you, otherwise she'll find dick on her own accord.
What are your thoughts on accidentally having a kid at very young age with a dumb bitch you probably will break up with as soon as the time is right? What would you do or feel you must do morally? How would you deal with the kid? how would you deal with its mother?
>>17242047
Not up to you. She's going to take you for child support for 18 years. Have fun with that one.
As for being in the kid's life, that's up to you. If it were me, if I have to pay for it anyway, I may as well play with it. At least then I'd feel like I'm getting something for my money.
But you could just as easily sign away all parental rights and never see/speak to it.
Really depends on how you feel about kids, if you're an emotional type of person who feels a duty...
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>>17242047
How do you "accidently" have a kid?
>>17242063
lmao!
I'm looking for advice, obviously. But here's the story. I was kind of seeing this guy. We agreed it'd be fwb. Well. He was fucking crazy. Sent me literally over a hundred texts a night if I fell asleep and didn't answer. Cut the shit out of himself because I wouldn't stay the night with him. So I cut things off. It was made very, very clear we were not dating. Fast forward, I start dating someone. He goes fatal attraction. Comes to my work and tells my boss we fucked in my office(not possible, no door and someone always in there) starts slandering me...
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>>17242041
Go to the police. That should have been step one the second he found your workplace without you telling him.
Also why did your boss believe this random guy who appeared and said you did the deed in your office if it's not possible?
>>17242061
It's not that boss believed him. It was more of a "this is some bullshit I don't really want to put up with so you're fired".
I forgot to mention one other small problem. His father is a police officer as well. I want to go to the police, but I have no proof of anything. It's driving me crazy. Like I tried to explain I was done with him to my boyfriend, then he sent my boyfriend every picture he had ever taken of me. Nothing has timestamps. I don't know what I would even tell the police.
>>17242095
Start compiling EVERYTHING you can. If it's not too much trouble, try and start planning your days so that you're with a friend/someone who you trust enough so that if he does show up unannounced or tries some shit you've got something to go on.
Do you have those hundred texts he originally sent you? Turn on time stamps on your phone from now on.
Do you live in a small town? If not, you can try and avoid his dad if anything. You don't have a whole to go on, that's true. But if you go to the police, lay it all down on the table. Tell them that this guy's been acting crazy towards you and that you want help. Tell them that he's had people follow you and that he may do it again.
And if your family and friends can't trust you over the word of some stranger, you may want to rethink your situation. I'd also suggest you invest in some sort of PDW in the event he goes off the deep end.
Take this all with a grain of salt, as without anything to really prove he's fucking with your life, there's not a whole lot you can do yet. But he'll slip up sooner or later, and you'll be ready.
