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Mexifag here, some friends are moving from the country capital (where I live) to Cancun they invited my to come with them and start living there, I dont know what to do, im 21 and I havent done anything interesting or important with my life here, I Just made an examen to a university here and im wating for the results but I think im not going to make it, I want to go to Cancun but im too scared of living my familie and everything I have here, scared of the reaccion of my parents and if they dont support me if I fail in Cancun (with support I mean they taking my sorry ass back...
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build wall
>>17243459
Not now
Go back to your shit hole country
Hey faggots. I'm looking for ways to improve my speaking skills. Right now I sound like a gay and retarded Elmer Fudd. Is there any software I could use to practice or something? I don't have the money to get therapy. Should I just record myself speaking and practice that way?
>>17243454
Get some children's books and read them aloud. You may want to record occasionally to measure progress.
>>17243454
Holy shit are you me? Because that's almost exactly how I would describe my voice.
>>17243454
Read books. You get a better grasp on words I found.
I need all of your advice about moving out at 19 while going to college
here's my situation:
>lived with mom and sister alone until 16
>moved in with shitty step dad, clear from get-go we would not get along
>he literally wants me to move out or pay rent at 16
>mother tells him how insane that is, he says i have to be out of his house before my 18th birthday (which is a few days before finals week of my senior year of high school.. yeah he's...
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>>17243445
Find a cheap extended stay hotel. Sublease on CL. Sleep in car. Stay in men's shelter.
>>17243550
sounds really shitty. i have a year to prepare, there's not any better i can do? i make roughly 700 a month at my job. only problem is i have no friends left in this town to share an apartment with, nor do i know how to get info about them.
>>17243445
Make some friends or live in a van. It's really not as bad as it sounds. If you've got the money, get a gym membership. Some go as low as $10-$20 a month, and it's an easy way to get a shower. And by "live in a van" I mostly mean "sleep in a van," you should be spending your free time at libraries and shit, they have AC and free books/computers.
How do I become better at pursuing and showing interest with women, especially really attractive ones?
I've been with some gorgeous women, and I have pretty high standards. I was lucky enough to be born pretty good looking, and I have a great job, active social life, and a solid amount of charisma. Girls come on to me, and I've gotten used to that, but it means when it comes down to a girl I really think is cute, I kind of just freeze up. Unless she's complimenting me relentlessly and making it super obvious, I always assume they're just not interested,...
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I relate to your post so much it IS funny.
I'm not better yet, but something that helped was going all out on one of those really gorgeous women in the bedroom for a really long time.
Once you've got a fucking breathtaking exceptional woman begging for anal on a regular basis it's much harder t be intimidated by the smaller mental hurdles.
As true as that is taking the oppurtunities all those beautiful women throw at me is still a total crapshoot for me. I'm just a lot better than I was.
>>17243411
>>17243437
I suggest you fuck off of this website chad.
>>17243478
not your secret club, robot
My dad hasn't answered any of my texts for the past week and isn't answering my calls. I haven't said or done to provoke him, although I'm fairly certain my mom has been pissed him off.
I think he's ignoring me right now. What do?
>>17243381
Are sure you didn't upset him?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2aKsoizx1w
>>17243398
If I did I don't know what I did.
he's dead op this is your mom. get off the computer right now and kiss your dead father goodbye
I'm going to kill myself.
Tell me why i shouldn't.
>>17243369
have you read yotsuba?
You're odds of being you are pretty much zero.
But seriously.
Because you really wouldn't. Just do it if you're gonna do it, faggot. You're probably gonna back out at the last second and go into another stasis of sadness and pondering.
>>17243369
because the world is a beautiful place
Hey,/adv/ I am a recent HS graduate and going to college, but im afraid i wont make it. For the past few years ive been fairly depressed and have self harmed for almost a year and things are starting to get worse. Ive asked my parents to help me find a psych i could talk to or have them take me to one (as i dont have my license yet) but they just keeping telling me to get over it or just to stop being sad. Im afraid im going to do something really stupid soon and i just want to prevent it.
Is their anyway I can atleast help myself or have some else help me. Atleast until...
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>>17243340
K, I'll play pschologist. What's wrong?
>>17243340
If you really think you need psychological help and your parents don't believe you, then ask someone else. Find a teacher you really liked or something and tell them about it.
>>17243346
its just, it seems like my family hates me. Im constantly put down for mistakes or for not being good enough. And every since graduation i have noticed that i really dont have any friends. I just have a perpetual feeling of being alone or not being good enough
I recently had consensual protected sex with my girlfriend for the first time, and I did... Well I guess you could say, I got her off really hard just as I did really well with my fingers, but I couldn't get off. I just couldn't, she even jerked me off and blue me for like 15 minutes afterwards, nothing. We suspect there is a numbing agent in the condom we used but the package didn't say, and usually it takes me like 10 minutes to get off when I'm taking care of business. I don't want her to feel, unsexy and I want to feel pleasure too. What do I do?
>>17243312
Stop squeezing your dick so hard when you masturbate.
NEXT!
>>17243317
/thread
>>17243317
Actually not a bad idea
Hey /adv/ and especially any vidya playing guys out there, I need help. So I'm an almost graduated senior girl in college, and I've known this guy for three years, he's a year younger than me. I was really just friendly acquaintances with him up until this year, when I started to talk with him a lot more. Found out that he's into vidya and that he's a kissless virgin, along with many other things. Anyway, about a month ago, I started to realize that the guy was actually pretty dang cute, despite being awkward. So, I recently purchased badges to a gaming...
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>>17243271
Depends on if I was in to you or not, to be completely honest.
If we were just friends I would probably go anyway since it seems like a good time, so I would just ask him again.
If it was me I would think that I'm being set up for a cruel practical joke. I'm a very literal person, and I've turned down girls because they only hinted at a relationship without them openly expressing feelings for me. I have a very difficult time letting people get close to me in the first place, and being humiliated in that matter is very, very damaging to my fragile ego.
>>17243271
Is it sad that I don't believe that this post is real and that it must be a troll?
To answer your question though in the event that I'm wrong, if I had already said yes then I would say yes again if asked again, but you would need to make it clear that you are, in fact, asking him to go. Alone. Together. Also as a fellow KV, he might be dismissing the possibility that you're interested in him, so if you want anything to happen you will probably need to either take some (a lot of) initiative...
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Guys you're the closest ones I have because I have no one else to talk with. Does "the one" exist?? Give it to me straight. I desire the fantasy love that the Disney movie told me was real. Tell me I am not misguided.
>>17243253
I'll be your one if that's you, bb
>>17243253
I have yet to see it.
In my experience it's bullshit. Now, there IS something referred to as a oneitis.
That's a girl/woman/female that you're fixed on, that you're convinced is "the one." I can almost guarantee from experience that a oneitis will NEVER feel the same way about you.
Welcome to the hell that is reality. Have a good evening, anon.
Listen, there are billions of people on the planet. Statistically speaking the one is probably out there.
But get ready to travel if you want to find him. I hope you like train rides.
my boyfriend disappeared from the middle of our text conversation after he got out of work?
he got off work at 12am (midnight) and we were mid-text convo and he just disappeared. its been like 40 minutes (Iknow that's not a long time, but we were mid convo) so I said, hiiiii? and he still didn't write back.
I know that hes picking up his cousin and going on a three hour drive to stay the night in where the concert they are going to tomorrow is. (I'm sure that its his cousin and they are going to a concert tomorrow etc) but I don't get why he...
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>>17243232
It's text messaging. It's non-urgent in the minds of most. You put it down mid conversation if something comes up, because you're talking about whatever. If it was really, truly important and demanded immediate replies, it'd probably be a phone call (I've had serious conversations via text, but it sounds like you two were just chatting).
More or less, don't worry about it. He already told you where he's going and he's in the car. Stop being paranoid.
honestly, if I don't get a text by like 130am, ill probably wake up every hour during the night and check my phone and not be able to sleep because that's what happens. I just don't get it. like and what if he doesn't text me till tomorrow afternoon? what am I supposed to think??? how hard is it to say "I'm driving now" or like anything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! like if he forgets to text me back then ill forget to talk to him all fucking day tomorrow right? I don't wanna ruin a concert for him but WHAT THE FUCK
>>17243241
but we were mid converaation. like the least he could do is say "hey I'm driving now, goodnight" and not just not reply back??? its just inconsiderate... like I'm gonna start doing that to him so he can see how it fucking feels. when I act like that he gets clingy and shit, and when I act like a loving person he acts like shit.
Hey I'm sure /adv/ hates girl questions but I wanted another opinion on how to proceed with this situation.
A female long-time friend of mine recently moved near me and bought a fixer upper home to start college here. I will be going up and staying with her for a few nights and doing a bunch of manual labor for her.
We had always been close in the past, but never really managed to make a relationship work, circumstances usually kept us apart.
I've been looking at this as an opportunity to actually seal the deal, but today she tells me that she...
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Or you could just hang around ITT and tell me what you're up to, at least that would calm me down some
I'm getting drunk and reading some Hemingway
Ask about her bf
If they seem really committed then its a no go
just be respectful, and keep in mind that if shes willing to cheat on him with you, she'll be willing to cheat on you with someone else. Test the waters but take it slow.
How can I tell if a guy actually likes me or is just trying to get sex? Most guys actually seem nice but then a lot of the time it turns out they just wanted to fuck and they turn into almost a different person. It makes it harder to trust new guys that I meet since I can't help but think they're just looking for sex and everything is an act.
What are some differences in you actions when you're trying to get someone in bed vs when you actually like them?
>>17243159
Don't give them anything. Wait for them to say the first I love you and bring you presents and tell you that they want to be your bf first.
Don't give sex to anything that is useless in return.
>>17243159
You've just been too easy and too nice to men. You want emotional security and he wants sexual security. It's a fair deal, but he has to give you want you want FIRST, otherwise he is not going to do what he's supposed to.
That boy better be on his knees before you take your clothes off for him, otherwise you're just wasting time.
>>17243159
Your attitude toward sex sucks.
If it isn't a gift you give freely simply for the sake of enjoying it (responsibly of course) then don't give it. Sex isn't a hook you reel in a man with, it's a dance you're both complicit in (Rape etc excepted). A man can seduce you and have your sex anyway because this is true.
Get with it, let go, have some fun and then maybe you'll be ready to actually love.
Online friends - are they closer to strangers or friends?
>>17243132
I had an an online friend that I knew for 8 years (who I met in an online game) that, imo, was closer to me than any of my real life friends. He passed away last year.
>>17243132
I've hung out with people that I had met online before. They were friends of friends in the area but it was like we had known each other all along when we hung out the first time.
I think online friends are more friend than stranger for sure.
Is it the same as a real life friendship? Not exactly
>>17243138
Sorry to hear
Did you meet him irl before?
There is a very cute trans girl living a few blocks from me who is willing to give me head in my car at 1 am. (what more can a guy ask for.)
Does this make me gay?
>>17243114
Trans girls give better head than real girls. Do it dude. Don't put any labels on yourself. I love pussy but don't mind getting head by a feminine trans girl. Wouldn't call myself gay.
I may be the only person on 4 chan who would think this is a bad idea.
>>17243136
Why?
>>17243126
Last time I hung out with her I was so nervous. Not like spill my spaghetti nervous, but questioning if just by being with this person am I gay or bi?
I had trouble sleeping when I came home. I felt sick to my stomach in a way, but I'm still attracted to her. We didn't do anything sexual that night, but we have traded nudes and I'm wicked horny thinking about it. I just don't want to feel ashamed or guilty...
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