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So, my girlfriend of 1 year just put a passcode on her phone. Since we started dating she never had a passcode and would always let me on her phone.
I asked her why she just put on a passcode and she said that she thought she'd lost her phone the other day and wouldn't want anyone to find it and see her stuff. Fair, right? So then I asked her what it was and she laughed and said "hah, figure it out yourself". This just happened 5 minutes and she just left.
Red flag?
Huge red flag
it's her phone, idiot.
Mind your own god damn business retard
It's too late, she's been blacked bruh
Hey /adv/, I'm in a LDR and I'm having some problems. Me and my boyfriend have gone temporarily long distance due to me visiting my family on the other side of the country, and it has been kind of difficult.
I have noticed that I initiate all texts, Skype sessions, and snapchats first and my boyfriend will go silent for forever if I don't initiate contact. He says he loves me/speaks very highly of me to his friends, but the amount of effort he puts in to contact me says otherwise. What does this mean relationship wise? Does he just not give a fuck about me once I'm gone or am I over thinking it?
>>17242949
Whenever you call does he pick up right away?
>>17242965
Not all of the time.we don't call too much, mostly text/Snapchat/Skype. However text wise sometimes I'll message him and he straight up doesn't respond.
>>17242981
How long will this visit last?
How often in a day do you contact him?
I need some help with myself and the way I think. I've tried this before, but people usually just say "grow up" or "you're being a faggot" I know these both to be true but I want advice to help me get over it and methods to train myself to think better.
>have gf of 4 years
>she has always been the most loving person to me
>I still get jealous whenever she is having fun with someone else (her friends)
>It's a controlling feeling projected by my fears of her realizing other people are more fun
>logically this doesn't makes sense because she shares almost all of her life with me, but I have insecurities
>I've tried my hardest and practiced methods to being okay with her having fun without me but I cant ovecome this jealousy of her growing as a person without me
>I don't have many opportunities to work on myself and grow as an individual because of work and finishing up college, on top of other errands and such.
What can I do to help myself understand that I am who she wants forever and the fun she is having is not a deal about I love her more then she loves me. She is very reassuring and always lets me know that she wishes I was the one she is with doing the activities, but I'm fucked up in the head. How can I help myself? Thank you.
>>17242865
You don't go out and have fun with your bros once in a while?
>>17242865
And in addition to this anon above, you don't consider college to be conducive to personal growth? Really investing yourself in learning something new / fine-turning your skills and knowledge contributes massively to growth.
>>17242870
>>17242870
Well my best friends we use to do some crazy shit, illegal, dangerous, etc. I have a lot of responsibility lately, plus I lost my best mate the past year.
When rolling a joint do you add tobacco?
Actually, when doing weed at all, how do you prefer it?
>>17242840
not unless you're a poor black person putting it in a cigar wrapper and drinking a 40 oz in a paper bag.
I prefer baking. I hate smoking, and weed and chocolate taste pretty good together. Plus the high feels smoother to me.
>>17242847
god damn son, fuckin savage
>>17242840
Weed cleans the lungs. tobacco just sits there
gf problem.
so I woke up this morning to my gf telling me that she hadn't taken her BC pill for the past 10 days. She told me after we had sex twice and I came in her once. She bought a morning after. But told me all this after the fact.
Of course I was a bit mad/upset that she didn't tell me before we did anything. she said she was worried I was going to be mad. I told her it's not cool and I have a right to know these things. She claims shes sorry.
my question is . wtf? we have been dating for 3 years. no scares. shes 26 I'm 27. Why the fuck did this happen? we talk all the time. I don't understand. I get shit happens. but we are at 3 years of dating. We haven't gone on vacation / moved in. This girl just feels so irresponsible at times.
no glove no love
>>17242823
its def at that point now. where I have to step in and control this shit. it's just a bit of a "breach of trust" in my eyes.
Birth control is dangerous and unnatural, anyway.
I need some legal advice about mental health care, I was kept in two different mental health clinics for almost 2 months against my will. These aren't "mental wards" as such or at least not the type that looks as part of a hospital. In fact I'm pretty sure that they are privately owned, they were nice. But I was there against my will and I asked to leave every day. Here's the thing, they told me over and over again that I was being kept there because they didn't want me to go back to drugs (I was only smoking weed at the time...). So they were keeping me there under false pretence.
When I was reaching the end of the second month they told me that I was actually being kept there because my mother was afraid of me. So for almost two months this private mental health place were lying to me about why they were keeping me there. Isn't that illegal?
If your under 18 then ye your mum can get you in.
If your threating to harm yourself or others then they can be obliged to hold you for 3 days (this may vary dependong on country)
>>17242817
Thanks for the response, I was 20
>tfw kidnapped
What if I was addicted to drugs, could they keep me there? Because that's what they were implying
What are your fucking damages? Did they abuse you there? Pain and suffering?
BS
If the defense attorney can establish ANY sort of drug abuse history aside from Marijuana, at ANY time, you don't have a case, since the mental health facilities can simply say they are protecting you from a deadly physical illness called substance abuse.
Sorry
I'm a 26 year old woman and I have a few problems with masturbation that I thought maybe /adv/ could help shed some light on.
First is the one I'm currently pissed about and that is that I find that, recently, I can only manage to orgasm one out of every 2-3 times I try to masturbate. I'm not doing anything differently than I have since I was a teenager and I'm looking at the same fringe fucked up type of porn I always have. Yesterday I came in like 2 minutes. Today, I worked for 45 before saying "well, if it hasn't happened yet, it's not going to", and that's how it always is. If I masturbate for more than maybe 15 minutes and I haven't cum, I'm not going to. What's going on here? Why is this happening to me now?
Second, after I cum sometimes (only when masturbating, not during sex weirdly enough) I get a really strong twinge of pain. I have stage iv endometriosis, which fucks all my shit up, but I wasn't sure if this was a part of it or something else. I didn't used to have pain when organisming, this started maybe 2 years ago. Like I said, it only happens when I masturbate, not when I cum during sex. Weird, right? Any ideas /adv/?
Your best bet may be to talk to a doctor or specialist about this.
Sorry im not much help
>>17242816
I have a couple of docs and I don't feel like any of them would have any clue what's going on. It doesn't seem really like medical issues to me.
The pain thing? Maybe, but the research regarding painful orgasm is essentially non-existent, just like how there are tons of male docs who think women with visible endometrial scarring are "faking it" for attention.
>>17243213
I hurt after masturbating too. So what?
How would you rate the pain out of 10?
Right after having sex, I had some pillow talk with my gf and I told her "I love you", to which she replied "I love you too" with a very big genuine smile on her face. She is an inexpressive person, that's how she's around her friends and around her family and me too, just not very extroverted. Then she looked at the ceiling and laughed and I asked her why she was laughing, she said "have you ever not been in love with someone and had to say you love them?" My fucking heart broke. I obviously thought she meant me so I replied "No, not really. Are you saying this about me?" and she said it was about some guy she was with that called her when they were 15 and he said he loved her and she just hung up.
Then a couple of days later (we send each other shit all the time through instagram) she sent me
>picrelated
I just laughed it off, but fuck.... I don't know what to think /adv/. Please help I am so so fucking torn. I do love her.
I told a friend in common (girl friend) and she said how can I be so stupid of course she loves me, she decided to lose her virginity with me and she had not even made out with anyone before that.
Am I just reading to deep into this shit? What are my options?
>>17242662
The really weird thing is that she says it often, so... I don't know what to think.
>>17242662
She's fucking with you and not even in a good way. In a cruel sort of way.
Life is a game of 'who cares less, wins'. Distance yourself, do some overtime or some shit. Go straight to a bar after work don't even text her.
Just to see how she reacts, if she cares at all.
If she doesn't, then you shouldn't either, break it off.
If she does react, thinks your cheating or some shit, then maybe tell her these jokes are making you uncomfortable and that you need space. She'll stop fucking with you then.
>>17242662
>What are my options?
Your options are to talk this out with her, and... no, there are no other options.
Personally, I think she's just as scared ofmthis as you are, only with the roles reversed. But you'll never know for sure until you talk to her.
hey /adv/, i know theres probably thousands of people posting shit like this here, i don't even know why im doing this, maybe because theres no one to hear me out anymore.
I've finally lost my purpose in life. I really wanted to become someone and make people proud to know me, but i cant do it. My parents doubt me, don't care what i think and humiliated me every time i tried to talk about my dreams. My friends, the only time they cared about hearing me, pointed all the reasons why it would be impossible. When my sister was about my age, she was already in a university and living on her own, and i'm here. The ugly boy in the family that can't even get a job. I do not fear death anymore, and i've finally realized what a burden i am to my family and all those who know me. The only exit i see, is to take myself away from this life and free the people i know, from me.
As i said, my friends and family do not care to hear me anymore, thats probably why im posting this here.
I thank you anons for reading this, if you did.
DUDE! What is your Steam? I wanna talk to you.
Listen, anon. I was just like you, and then I got real fucking angry, and that anger gave me motivation to go out and actually improve my life. I ended up going to an Ivy after having shitty grades forever, and now I live a pretty comfortable life. Nobody expected it, none of my shitty hometown classmates or my parents. You need to get angry and get yourself out there. Prove them all wrong. You can fucking do it.
>>17242654
Why choose death though? For once, just once, decide that you are going to do something, grit your teeth, move away and get any job you can. Maybe a change in environment will help you recover. Fuck what others think, I am also a failure but I don't feel to bad about it. All my family went to university but I didn't even get accepted LOL
Pick 1 thing and DO IT. Stop being so uncertain about your life and realise that you don't get to come back once you're dead, if you feel like you want to have another shot at life
has anyone taught english in another country?
Ive been thinking of teaching in Japan for a year or two. I'm fairly familiar with the language (my ex-girlfriend taught me the very basics so I can at least ask for directions/order food) and have been to the country on holiday once.
I dont like animes, mangas, or any cartoons from japan besides dragonball and one piece.
Am i in over my head? What do I do? I want a decent job, but I'm more looking for a good experience.
Will i be allowed to bring my puppy? She's cute, but is a german shepherd and will probably bark at people since she doesnt like asians or mexicans for some reason. She's probably racist against them, but she likes white people, black people, and arabic people.
But for some reason its mexicans and asians she dislikes. She barks at my mail lady whos asian and barks at my neighbors when they do the lawn and they're mexican.
>>17242592
Do you have a bachelors degree? Are you white? Congratulations, you can teach English in Japan. You're not going to make a lot of money. The experience is interesting. No, you can't bring your racist dog.
>>17242621
yes and yes, my degree's in english literature with minors in business/management and computer science.
if she wasnt racist could i bring her (she liked my ex-girlfriend who is japanese/swedish)? Also i'm not too concerned with the money so that isn't a problem.
>>17242592
That an /aggydaggy/ gif?
How can I convince a girl I fucked and provably got pregnant to have an abortion? She likes to pretend she's Christian but she's a huge whore and pretty gross.
If I say I love her and want to start our life together right will that make her want to keep it more?
>>17242480
>If I say I love her and want to start our life together right will that make her want to keep it more?
uh, YES. Tell her the truth and say that you're not ready for a kid and won't be there for her if she has it. She will get you for child support however.
If you don't know for sure she's pregnant just wait and see, but it's a lot to ask a woman to do so you'll pretty much just have to be accepting of whatever she decides.
Tell her that there is a serious and terrible hereditary condition that runs in your family. Tell her you were lucky not to have it. Tell her you decided never to have kids until science had progressed enough and was able to treat the condition. Pick something that, when googled, shows a disgusting picture.
>>17242519
Shittttt this is so simple and beautiful
My friend was fired from subway for talking about Jared with a customer who brought up the subject. Can he sue the manager that fired him?
>>17242444
Most likely. Go talk to a lawyer. There a any lawyers that won't charge you unless you win.
>>17242444
>Can he sue the manager that fired him?
Depends. Did your friend break company policy?
>>17242458
>let's just sue
Christ, that mentality is so dumb and just goddam dumb. You think you can take on a multi-million dollar corporation? Even in the slight chance you actually do have a case they'll just settle out of court. 9/10 you won't even get that, but in the off chance you do. Guess where that money goes? To that attorney you hired for "free" to take on your case. Plus, even if you do have a case you're going to be in court for years. This costs a lot of money that you can't afford. They planned on that. People whose first response is "sue" are fucking retarded and obviously don't use their brains.
>slightly triggered
>you ppl are fucking dumb
I think I'm catching feelings for a [spoiler]21yo single mother[/spoiler]. She has a car and a job and lives with her parents, as do I. I feel a strong emotional connection with her which is unheard of for me. How can I stop this? Or do I go thru with it? Am I king cuck, ruler or all things cuck? I don't think I've ever been so indecisive in my entire life.
>>17242375
>single mother
>21
>lives with her parents
nigga what the FUCK are you thinking
>>17242384
Dude I don't fucking know anymore. We're basically cuddle/fuck buddies, but there's definitely more to it underneath
>>17242375
I made the same mistake you are about to make a couple years back. Save yourself the heartbreak, baby daddy drama, and all around horseshit that comes with her. Plus if you get attached to her kid or kids like I did then when she leaves and she probably will because single moms are unstable you will have to grieve a whole family leaving you and not just losing a girlfriend.
Well to make a change, rather than hearing people begging for a girlfriend, why not read my greentext?
>be 22
>older brothers 10 and 8 years older
>have a sister 3 years younger
>Older brothers call me a freak for my entire life and make me feel like one too
>Little sister says I'm going to only get married to a mail order bride, no wait die alone. Actually yeah mail order bride.
>Moved 8 fucking times in my life not including uni
>It's my fault I couldn't keep long term friends according to my mum
>Everyone reckons you're the sainted one in education
>I actually just used a few big words I copied off of my brothers when I was about 8
>be now.
>I've failed university
>My sister got a job in London with no GCSEs
>One brother has a family and effectively stole my mother's business
>The other is pretty cool but still compared me to Dahmer last week
>It's a Friday night
>I've already had a lot of beer
>I go out to get more with the money I've earned
>Mother asks "you're not getting more beer are you?"
>on another Friday night alone because I had enough of looking like a fucking freak trying to talk to people who don't know me (I work for my brother in another town and he belittles me in front of the other staff and makes me look like a complete dickhead)
>I did by more beer
>feel like a fucking waste of space
Please tell me I am wrong /adv/, please tell me I am a good person.
>>17242372
KYS.
Seriously. Become an hero.
>>17242393
Is that because of the picture I posted? Because I got that from /int/. I'm not much of an anime fan. Just thought it applied to me.
I'm sorry to hear you've been bullied so terribly.
If you don't mind my asking, do you know what was going through their heads when they did this to you? I'm not trying to say their reasons are good -they probably aren't- bit it would be useful to know their motives. They might hold a clue as to how to get out.
I found out that the Basket Ball American, I went to high school with, in pic related was arrested for robbing a pawnshop, with a gun and an accomplice. He was out on bail for second degree assault, which is also a felony, so I'm quite sure he's going up the river.
I knew him a little bit in High School and expected him to at least make it to some small community college on a Basket ball scholarship. (He was pretty good)
I was thinking about sending him a letter in prison, with a Bible or something, in hopes that he turns it all around. What do you guys think, and how would I send him that?
>>17242339
Bump, none of you guys have gone to prison/known somebody who went to prison?
He made the decision to rod the pawn shop.
I wouldn't bother sending a letter and a bible probably won't be allowed.
He needs to want to change and if prison time doesn't help him, it won't matter what you send him.
>>17242339
Send a letter. Burn the Bible.
