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Has anyone ever reached out to a girl you are friends with on Facebook but don't keep in constant contact with, with the hopes of dating?
There is a girl i had a crush on in High School, and haven't spoken to or seen since. She appears to be single. We were friends, not great friends, but friends.
How do i go about reaching out? Or is this too cringe worthy to even think about?
Try it anon if youre not creepy
I regret not doing this
You got nothin to lose
Since she's recently single she's going to know your game from the get go. But also you haven't spoken since high school (I assume won't otherwise unless you make a move anyways) so I say go for it.
Besides life's too short not to take risks
>>17242567
Ask her out to a bar
Why do I fantasize about every other woman in the world accept my gf, she's actually very pretty... What do I do? Is this normal male brain bs?
Except*
I used to find my wife attractive but all I can think about now is other girls (mostly 2D)
>>17242415
Forbidden fruit. You're in a relationship, so other women are off limits to you and people tend to crave what they can't/aren't allowed to have.
It's incredibly common, OP.
For some reason I sweat from my armpits and it just fuxkin won't stop but when it does stop I'm usually good. When it starts though it just goes until my shirt is literally nothing but sweat. It doesn't even feel like sweat it just comes out cold like colder than tap water and it smells like cat piss. What the fuck do I do?
>>17242042
Sorry to hear that.
When does this usually happen?
Does it smell even if you put on deodorant.
>>17242045
It usually happens right after I shower of course and usually if I get really worked up I get so nervous I feel cold and clammy and notice it
The smell doesn't show past deodorant but I'm worried that people can still smell it a little bit
Sometimes if I get really fuckijg cold it makes me sweat like that no clue I think it's my diet
>>17242067
I noticed it happens more than ever when it's really sunny out even if it's cold in my house and the heat doesn't really bother me or anything
Is it possible that it's an allergic reaction to the sun? I'm the palest person in the world and if I sit outside in the sun I never tan or burn
Why would a girl who has been texting me constantly for about 3 weeks out of nowhere become disinterested and flakey?
I don't understand. Is she suddenly perceiving me as ugly? Are her friends talking shit?
What am I possibly doing wrong here? Is there a way to salvage? We talked a lot and really got a long. Should I just do the same bullshit to her and see how she reacts?
halp
>>17242016
In those three weeks did you make a move/do anything to show your interest?
>>17242139
Yes. I blatantly told her I liked her and she reciprocated. This was earlier in the week.
Apparently, I'm not a nice person because I don't believe in tipping at a restaurant if I received bad service. Will tipping regardless of the service make me a nicer person? Will tipping more make me even nicer? Or do I need to care about the waiter to be a nice person?
>>17241848
Tipping makes you look like a neutral person, your attitude makes you look like a mean person. Just buy groceries and make a meal if you're that concerned about tipping.
>>17241848
Im the same way I dont feel bad. I rarely tip 20% unless its great service. I will tip 15% for decent service. For mediocre 10% and if the service is just appalling I have sometimes not left a tip.
Tipping is meant to be a form of feedback.
>>17241855
Seriously, OP sounds far up his own ass. It's for the best if you just cook at home.
I've chosen to be a MGTOW. Women never gave me their affection so I started beginning today ignoring them unless the communication is necessary.
I don't wanna be a bitter though.
How do.
>>17241552
I had to look that up. Some new red pill crap?
By definition, being MGTOW is being bitter. So, it's impossible.
>>17241552
It's not actively avoiding women like you say, that's bitter by definition.
It's about not doing anything for them because they are woman. Just doing what you want to do and ignoring all the woman bullshit. That's not bitter.
>>17241552
I'm also curious as to how one makes themselves desire women less. Is there any reliable method to make it so you can walk through life and not be burdened with not only your desire for women, but also the emotional pain of rejection?
Will I be happier if I have children while I'm still young (18-22 years old)?
Wait until you're already happy before you make another human being, so that it's born to happy parents.
Also, no, you'll miss out in a ton of experiences. I know a few people who had children in their early twenties, and they're the most boring, ignorant people I know. Kind hearted and good at their jobs and all, but it's obvious they haven't seen a lot of what life has to offer.
Maybe. On the other hand, maybe not. We can't tell you.
Can you adapt to the changes children will bring to your life at such a young age? That's the real question. If so, then yes; you may be happier. If not, then you probably won't.
>>17240906
If you marry someone you love then sure.
Will god be mad at me if i kill myself in the future? I think i might after my parents die, I'll be 40+ and people used to die in their 40's or sooner, never older.
People also used to wipe their ass with their fingers without inventing soap yet.
Pretty sure an all knowing, all seeing eldritch entity can understand your plight and desire to end your existence early.
The teal people that'll be pissed will be the ones that'll have to clean whatever's left of you up, so make sure you tie up all of your loose ends and end yourself in a way that least inconveniences other people.
>>17240620
Why wait? Do it now.
Also there is no god or afterlife. You are on a time clock and its ticking down to oblivion.
i just want to fuck them. when i see an actually hot guy (not narcissistic gym rat) i think of all the dirty shit i want to do with him and not our 12 children and picket white fence and all the other crap women are supposed to want.
most of my casual relationships have been pretty tedious but i bet with the right guy it could be hot. i'm not really into being used as a toilet tho.
is this normal?? & should i try to find a reasonable substitute to my excellent german vibe already. what do /adv/???
https://radishmag.wordpress.com/2014/02/14/pump-and-dump/
Just read all of that. It's long, but you obviously need it.
>>17240114
Tbh this is how I feel about women. It seems like it's easier (social stigma notwithstanding) to be a slut as a woman because it's expected. I seem to always end up with women who want me to be their soulmate and/or father figure, and I don't have the callous heart required to pump and dump them.
You're gonna get a lot of hate from r9k types but before that shits up this thread I guess mostly I just wanna say I know the feel anon.
>>17240139
i think it's bizarre to rely on men for emotional support anon. they clearly don't have the capacity for such. i love my male friends for their bantz but that's all i really expect from them.
pump and dump isn't quite what i'm looking for either, maybe just someone to fuck who's willing to stick around and work on getting better at it. first time sex is never good which is why i always choose the vibe over hookups.
Can you guys help me analyze her texts to me?
I'm "the guy out there" if that isn't obvious to you guys, she doesn't know I like her, we're pretty close friends.
She's not interested. Like at all.
This is what I do when a guy tries to talk to me and I know he likes me but I don't want to be a bitch and tell him outright that it's not gonna work. I thought it'd be obvious by her one word responses but I mean, I guess not.
The thread that has come back from the dead, I have come back to help you all.
I guess helping other people is my own therapy
In this thread, you can get help in:
-venting out
-demons (exorcism, information about them, etc. I am currently exorcising one out of me at the moment.)
- hitting on a girl/guy (I am a guy, and I hang around a lot of different girls, so I know them both well.)
- Relationship problems
- Dream interpretations
- Angelic and some religious matters
- Etc.
So if there is a problem with your life, feel free to ask about it...
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I'm gay, how do I not end up like >>17235618
>>17238901
well, I have not been asked this before...ever.
but I have some answers!
people that are become and are gay is becoming a widely growing trend, and there are many ways to go about it
online dating is a specific tool in which would eliminate all the guess work by simply searching under gay (or homosexual, whatever)
there are also bars labelled "gay bars" that are spread out within the U.S.A and Canada, you just have to find out which ones are closest to you.
pretty much...
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I need to vent. I guess he was using me for emotional comfort and stringing me along. I feel shitty. He said he only saw me as a good friend, but what kind of friend tells you they want to cuddle with you? I'm not entirely sure why he wouldn't want to just date me, I'm athletic, skinny, and good looking and he always hit me up to go do stuff, so I feel there must be something else wrong with me but I know it's just him being a fuccboi. I blocked him on everything but still feels bad. He gave me a half assed apology of him stringing me along by saying he was...
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I started dating this guy about three weeks ago, and on the first date we hit it off pretty well. The second date went even better -- it turns out he knows how to sculpt with clay -- and tonight we had our third date. However, instead of being in bed with him, I'm here.
See, it was all leading up to sex, and he said he would go buy condoms and be right back, and I told him he didn't need them, since I was on the pill. I mean, that usually turns a guy on, right? The prospect of cumming inside? But that didn't happen.
Instead, he started trying to...
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He was trying to help you.... Maybe not in the most tactful way.
https://www.google.com/search?q=birth+control+raises+risk+of+cancer&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8
actually prolonged birth control pill use does affect the body. my friend was on it for YEARS and it finally got her sick.
anyway, he was a bit of a fuckhead with the way he told you ill admit, but he had good intentions
>>17243282
It sounds like he got preachy, so he doesn't sound like a fun person to be around, but honestly, any chick that eager about me not getting condoms as of the third date is going to send up my signal flares immediately.
I don't know your sexual history, I don't know if you have something, I don't know if you're just crazy and want me to plant a kid in you and then make a terrible decision, I don't know if you want to abort a kid or keep it in the worst case scenario...
Good...
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How do I be less aggressive?
I do act pretty aggressive when I'm joking, (physical contact, raise my voice, jokingly make fun of them) but I'm not angry when I do so and it seems that people are taking it as if I'm angry because they cannot tell if I'm joking or not.
I feel like it stems from my insecurities but those aren't getting fixed any time soon. How do I be less aggressive?
I can give examples if need be. I wrote about 3 huge posts but they got deleted because fuck my mouse.
>>17243228
Examples
>>17243234
Today my friends and I decided to play a game that, I didn't want to play, one wanted to play (Friend A), and one had played up to the final boss (Friend B).
Beforehand, I joke to B that he didn't beat the game. B responds, "I made it to the final boss".
I respond, "This is a yes or no question. Did you beat the game?" I was raising my voice and would like to think that I was smiling to let on I was joking.
He says, "No I didn't beat it.". I laugh and...
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>>17243301
>>17243234
Time passes where I'm not paying attention because I checked out.
They reach the final boss in about 40 minutes. A insists I have a turn after the two of them died to the final boss. I get the boss down further than they did.
B says, "No, anon is gonna beat the boss". I give him the controller and say
"Since I'm so good you can beat the rest". He refuses the controller until I chug a solid amount of alcohol...
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I've reached the conclusion that the universe is random and pointless.
Happiness is balanced by sadness.
What now? Anyone else feel the same?
Kill self? Wait it out till death?
Seek some stupid hobby to keep my mind busy till death?
Pretentious faggot.
>>17243019
There we go ... proving my point. Random response.
Actually , no , why pretentious? Did I use big words? I think not.
Wait till your 19th birthday.
Can I give out free candy to kids for community service hours?
Lol no. You could probably buy hours though. Just find someone in charge of a shelter or food pantry or something and donate to the cause if they sign off on hours.
>>17242993
Bit I really like being around little kids. I also like touching their hands and this lets me do both
>>17242980
>Can I give out free candy to kids for community service hours?
No, though it's an excellent way to get sentenced to more.
