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am i overly bitter or something? Every time I even see people that give each other "the look" when they like each other, every time I see people holding hands and being all lovey dovey, every time I see people hug and kiss their friends. Any display of love or intimacy (especially in movies and whatnot) I cannot help but cringe.
I'm 19 year old college bro, i've never had a girl friend cause I was fat most of high school (currently losing a lot of it by cutting calories and shit, so far so good), and I've never hated women or anything. I just am physically repulsed by any displays of affection. Is there something wrong with me?
>>17246016
You sound like a 5 year old that never grew up
It's called envy, dude.
I feel worse when i look on happy couples too, a fate of a kissless virgin
>I'm bitter that I'll be alone forever and I'm not afraid to show it
Should I care about how many guys a girl has been with?
Should this concern me at all? Even if the number is high like say 10?
>10
>high
desu in this day and age that's normal
ive only had sex with one person, my bf, but I feel like that's extremely rate
>>17245973
It is high.
Also this thread is guaranteed 200 replies
I'm about to start a job at a hospital as an anesthesia technician. I'm very excited but the physician I'll be working under is my girlfriend's father.
How do I not fuck this up? How can I make a good impression on him and show him that I'm not a shitbag or a dumbass?
These are Seinfeld problems man
>>17245972
Stop being so negative--you're already imagining the worst. Live in the present, and just focus on being calm, doing the job correctly, and take it one day at a time! GL with the new job!
>>17246050
Nah he's not imagining the worst yet.
OP, what if one of your patients died under anesthesia, and your girlfriend's father is convinced it's your fault because you administered it wrong? What if the patient has children and they all grow up blaming you?
Would it be a bad idea to fuck a pregnant girl? I met her online, she's 7 months along but she's a qt. She wants my dick and I want to splurge all over her baby belly.
Careful, you could impregnate her again and end up paying child support for both babies
probably
>>17245784
Or he could end up getting both pregnant. Don't do it OP.
Is it possible to get rid of a vibe that makes everyone hate you? I've always had it since I was a kid people would tell me not to come hang out with them and shit. If I hear good news like a girl getting engaged and I ask oh who's the lucky guy I just get a weird look and nervous answer but if someone asks they just smile and answer normally. If I go hang out with people everyone is passive aggressive against me and treats me like an outsider and hate me.
What do I do? I have currently 0 people to talk to and I'm in the middle of nowhere with no way to meet people and I only see the same people who hate me everywhere I go
Some things in life you cannot change no matter how hard you try, just accept it for what it is and try to find happiness with it being part of your life.
You're not giving us much to work with here if you want advice. Do you at least have some idea of why people treat you like that?
>>17245806
A side question attempting not to disturb. I really like your GIF. Do you use it often?
Me and this girl have been 'checking it'. We're both 18 and virgins, she used to call me everyday for 2-ish weeks. During the second week we went on 2 dates. We made out, grinded/dry humped and I sucked on her tits in the changing rooms of a shopping mall. This is the furthest me and her have been sexually (unless she lied).
3rd week we didn't talk as much, but on one conversation over the phone she said she loved me (first time hearing that from her). Later that night she got angry at how she was the one always calling me and how I rarely called her (She said sorry and said she overreacted the next day). So I started calling her more often but she never picks up and rarely responds to my texts.
Last time we talked on the phone was last Sunday (she called me). I had an exam on Monday, she had her last one on Wednesday morning.
I called her Monday Tuesday, Wednesday and she didn't pickup, call back or let me know she was busy. Thursday I gave up and didn't call her but we talked on Snapchat for a bit.
Friday, we saw each other in person and chatted for a little bit. I wanted to hug her but we need to keep our relationship on the 'low' to prevent her big bro from finding out about us. So I just went for a quick boob squeeze and she said she would call me later.
I didn't get a call (she's done this before and I called her out on it yesterday night). Still no response from her yet.
how do we go from talking everyday for hours to nothing so quickly?
I remember her telling me how she gains and loses interest in guys often.
I have some ideas as to what's going on,
1) She's losing interest in me, if so what do I do?
2)She's shit testing me, if so how do I pass the test?
3)There's another guy who she's interested in too, and is stringing me along in case him and her don't work out or she doesn't know which one of us she wants to go for.
1/2
pic related, this song describes how I feel right now
>>17245744
2/2 cont.
I don't have proof of her and another guy other than last Saturday night her and her old friends hung out at her place while their parents were out. She called me during this time but it was very on-off (called and talked for 15 mins, then had to hang up for a bit then called back). During the start of this there was supposedly 5 people at her house, I think 2 of them were guys. She called one time and said she was in bed and about to go sleep in 10 mins, I can hear a girls voice in the background. 5 minutes into the convo she says she'll call be back and then goes "oh shit" and then the phone drops. We text 1 hour later and then she calls me, she said her parents were back and asleep and most of her friends had left and I could hear 1 guy and 1 girl in the back ground and she said she was watching a movie downstairs (she was narrating what was happening in the movie so I believe this part and she had snapchats of her and her girl friend watching the movie but the dude wasn't in it).
Also on Thursday when we were talking on snapchat and towards the end I asked what she was up to. She replies an hour later with a picture of her and her cleavage saying "I dunno why I'm up so late at night". I couldn't double check but I swear her snapchat number (total number of snaps you have received/sent) went up by two. Meaning she sent that cleavage photo to me and someone else (or I was just seeing things, it was 3am at the time).
What should I do then lads? I was thinking maybe sending her snapchat today and say I'm planning to call her later tonight and then call, but there's a high chance she won't pick up.
I could just wait until I see her at school on Monday (next week is our last week of school).
Any of you guys know what the hell is going on between me and her? (either one of the 3 things I said before or something entirely different?).
If any of you anons actually read this whole text, thanks! and big thanks if you reply.
fucking hell op, TLDR lad, wow
I'm not fucking reading that
Has anyone here successfully went from shy, low self confidence to one hundred percent comfortable and outgoing around people?
I used to be the latter, until an incident in my life, so I know that I can go back to it.
any tips?
Depends what was the accident?
Also be yourself, not everyone has to be a superstar.
>>17245716
My best bud living with me ended up killing himself. I got depressed and stopped being a people person. Got shy and low self esteem.
I used to be super bubbly, confident and outgoing
>I used to be super bubbly
gee, I wonder why someone who lived with you would want to kill themselves
So I graduated high school today. Tomorrow is my first day of being a NEET, ever. For about three months though as I start school in the fall. What can I do so I don't feel so miserable? I had surgery on my leg and it's not fully healed so I can't get a job. I can still walk around fine though. Just not for 4-8 hours a day straight.
Learn a language, read books, play video games, hang out with friend (though I'm guessing you don't have any)
Simple as this
>don't let days go to waste
>split time between your friends and girlfriend
Few tips
>shower every morning
>eat healthy
>get a cup of coffee every morning and make friends with the bartender at the closest bar
>get a beer in the early afternoon with your buddy and make plans for the night
>get buzzed every night but get wasted every few
>don't spend too much money
>don't trust anyone or take anything seriously
>>17245702
> hang out with friend (though I'm guessing you don't have any)
I do have friends but they're all gonna be busy as fuck with work. We only hang out in the weekends so most days I'm gonna be trapped inside. Will be probably try to learn a computer language (Python maybe)
>>17245712
Good tips, thanks mane.
>tfw drinking age is 21 in america
That's an annoying question, but does your first maybe childhood love stay in your heart for years? Is it special?
Some anime and manga picture it going, and i don't think it's pure fiction.
Because in childhood we don't hide who we are inside and affections are genuine. It was easier to click with each other. Yeah, when you have the feeling that you're thinking the same it's just.
Either this, or i have no idea why i still remember him. I could date another person but it won't be the same. It may be better, but it will be different, i can't picture it in my head.
How to move on from it entirely? Is it even possible, i keep obsessing over it.
I don't think children are capable of love in the sense of adult romantic relationships, and I think it's abnormal for an adult to hang on to these feelings.
>>17245690
Did you actually compare the two?
Some adult romantic relationships are shallow, superficial and immature so i don't see a problem.
Childhood romance may be immature but at least you are liked for who you are.
>>17245710
You're barely even a person when you're a kid
>be 23
>got first job
>want to buy/rent a place in the "near" future
So, as I just started I obviously can't get a loan or even a rent warranty that some companies give you for renting.
What should I do? Save as much as I can every month? In a bank account? Standard or something special? Or should I wait until I have the requirements to ask for the loan (+1 or 2 years of continuous stable employment).
Also is worth nothing that the salary is about twice the minimal wage (code monkey job), saying the actual number won't help much cause a thousand bucks in different places means different possibilities.
I'm totally clueless about this, up until now I was just a student.
>>17245667
Some property management companies require tenants to earn three times rent.
I don't get it, why do you need a loan if you just want to rent?
>>17245667
myself I would start saving up and wait 2 or 3 years before going for a loan/mortgage
to be honest with ya i'm 33 iv worked in some real shity paying jobs and not have enough to save up for a place of my own its hard saving up
Here is a photo of my friend. This puppy and its deceased sibling was left alone 3 days ago under balcony of my apartment. Our neighbor fed him with cow milk and water for 3 days -his sibling died today and I even learned their presence today.
Tomorrow I will take him to a local animal shelter. But i doubt he can survive the night.
> Weather is hot here,
> I put him in a box with lots of clothes,
> He has water enough for night,
> I tried to feed him with a dog food specialized for puppies but he refused to eat -i ever tried to force him
> I don't even know any single thing about dogs
His health condition:
> I can feel his ribs easly,
> Always sleeping or sitting unless I disturb him, (but I know he can walk)
> Shaking while moving,
> Only drinking water but vomiting,
> Sometimes coughing -may be difficulty breathing
try /an/
>>17245636
Get off the internet and take him now. If it's closed go to the police station.
Alternatively, masturbate into his mouth and let him suckle on your semen of sustenance.
>>17245649
this desu except for the second part
tl;dr Ex boyfriend keeps making contact and I don't know what to do
>dated for 5 years
>horrific break-up where he started to love someone else and I cheated on him
>regretted it and understood I made a horrible mistake
>we both decided it would be best to break up
>I keep trying to make contact every couple of months and we talk like the old times, but then he leaves because he can't forgive me
>don't date anyone else, it's been 2 years
>we met at a party for NYE and spent the entire time talking
>he said he missed me, but could never be with me again and I told him I still loved him
>he cut all contact with me and moved on
>get a call from him today, said he didn't know why he wanted to talk but just wanted to hear my voice
>we watched some videos, talked and joked for about 7 hours
>we didn't talk about our feelings or anything, we just talked about anything
I understand that people probably won't be able to help; but what does this mean? I miss talking to him, but I think I'm finally over him and I know that he can't forgive me and won't want me back. I don't think I want to be with him, but I just miss talking with him and doing stuff with him. Was this just a one off? Was him contact me a sign that he wants to talk to me?
I know I'm going to get some /r9k/ responses about how I'm scum and how all women cheat, but I'd appreciate any help
>>17245622
Maybe you both just have a hard time letting go? It doesn't sound like you want to be together, but more so that you want **someone** to be with. You can't find that someone elsewhere, so you turn to each other. - At least that's my take on it.
How come you haven't dated anyone else?
>>17245622
Cut off contact with him. He committed emotional infidelity, which is as much cheating as sex with another.
>>17245628
I sort of slumped into a mild "depression", so I didn't look for anyone. I really loved him and when he told me he loved someone else I lashed out and cheated and I never really got over that I did that.
Any time someone came close I just compared them to him
Ok so my girlfriend says she wants me to have sex with her while she's on her period. We've never had sex while she's been on her period because it doesn't really seem that appealing to me. But ive started to reconsider it ever she brought it up. So my questions to you guys are: how is it to have sex with your partner while she's on her period? Is it a total turn off or is it not that big of a deal? Also, how is it to go down on your partner while she's on her period?
And a question to the femanons: would you like to have sex while on your period? If you already have, how is it?
Pic not related
Male here, I personally dont enjoy it as much as "normal" sex since its not that wet, and a bit harder to penetrate, still worth it though. If you foreplay enough it shouldnt be a trouble, if so try using lube idk.
>>17245621
That's so weird. I guess she's in the "almost over" stage of period where the excruciating pain and cloudiness of mind dissappears and the horniness begins.
> And a question to the femanons: would you like to have sex while on your period? If you already have, how is it?
I've had sex on my period because it was my exs birthday. It hurt a lot, wasn't enjoyable physically at all. Then again all sex with him was really bad but this one was especially bad because I was still hurting from the inflammation.
Current bf couldn't hold it together and wanted to give me head so much, he did it when I was right at the end of bleeding. I was worried about him and I didn't want to disgust him, but he didn't seem to mind.
It isn't that different from normal sex, you just need some precautions. We'll usually put a few towels down/keep some wetwipes near the side of the bed. If you don't want blood on your dick just use a condom, though it'll probably get on you anyways. Even if a girl is on her period she can still get "wet", you just have to turn her on enough, so lubrication shouldn't be an issue. You can always use lube, too. Sex can help with cramps as well. If you don't make it a big deal and just go in the shower/wipe up afterwards it's fine.
Oral is just a no-go for me personally, the ick-factor is too high even though I've thought about it
>31
>No education, job skills, or savings.
>Crushing depression, though able to function at the menial jobs I've held.
>Kissless virgin. Would be dateless too, but sister tried to set me up with one of her friends a decade and a half ago.
>Hadn't felt driven or alive for decades.
>Find out dream girl exists.
>Feel motivated to exercise, quit soda, and look into trades.
>Feel fucking alive for the first time since I was a kid.
>E-mail back and forth with her, she's everything I'd ever hoped to find.
>She lives a third of the globe away, in a country that doesn't speak my language, but that seems like nothing after a decade of gnawing emptiness.
>She has someone. Married infact.
>Die a little more inside. Try to stay optimistic when writing her.
>Motivation slowly fades.
>Can feel the darkness laughing in the back of my skull.
>Try to keep moving forward.
>Try a couple dating sites.
>The only messages I get back are scammers, bots and cam-whores trying to fleece what little money I do have.
>Back to feeling like there's nothing in this world for me. That no one will ever need me That I'm surplus to requirement, simply waiting for the junk collector to arrive.
Why don't I feel like I can succeed for myself?
because you have no drive. improve yourself and the rest will come naturally.
>Find out dream girl exists.
>She lives a third of the globe away, in a country that doesn't speak my language, but that seems like nothing after a decade of gnawing emptiness.
sounds like you're stupid. just dumb as shit.
>>17245653
yes. stupid that he thought he was going to be with a woman hapf way around the world when he doesnt have his life in order. as i said. if he improves himself the rest will come naturally.
GF said if I got fat she would dump me. I asked if she was serious and she said yes.
Would it be a dick move for me to break up with her? She said this over text (during a convo, no point in sharing the context), and I haven't responded since she said she was serious.
>>17245522
Obviously she is a shallow Stacy and has been letting Chad pound her whenever you fall into a trance and stare at vending machines for the entirety of your relationship.
Leave her before she takes his seed and saddles you with his sire.
>>17245522
Have there been any other reasons to break up with her or are you simply very offended, at her comment?
>>17245522
I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years.
I told her from the start that if she go fat I would dump her.
