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>Be me
>Just graduated HS, about to start college after this summer
>Taking a class from 5:30-7:30 on M/W/F
>Interested in finding a job before I enter Uni
>All I can find is generic retail jobs like Albertsons, Target, etc...
>Don't really have a resume (my resume right now is geared towards college admissions, but that process is over now)
I'm kind of lost in trying to find a job... I'm interested in getting any job whatsoever, but I'd appreciate getting a job closer to what I want to do in college (like Electronics/Software) that's still entry level... Any suggestions?
'Generic retail jobs' are more likely to fit around your uni work, plus they'd give you more of an opportunity to expand your skillset than something that's more related to what you're studying. And if you want/need a job, you can't really afford to be picky
>>17246020
Alright... Thank you.
Aside from the usual Target, Albertsons, Safeway, do you know of any retail chains where I could apply for a job? (I just finished applying for Target and Albertsons)
>>17246039
Not really, considering I'm not from the US
>be little me
>grow up loving medieval fantasy. warhammer, warcraft, runescape, guild wars, lord of the rings
>i loved everything about it, was a little nerd.
>still listen to music from any of the above just to chill and relax
>even listen to folk/death metal from time to time.
>grow up some more
>realize every one of these things is well... medieval. it's european. White.
>I'm black
I'm self-conscious about it. I feel like some weird reverse-cuck weeaboo where I'm in love with all this fantasy shit but not only is it fantasy aka not real... it's fantasy that isn't intended 'for me'.
Make no mistake, I still love this shit but I question myself a lot. If there's some nerd-fantasy oriented meetup or event, I feel like I'd look like a confused fool, a black man with a lord of the rings t-shirt on. back when i was growing up i'd make gandalf nerd jokes with my friends and be outward with my nerdiness and not give a fuck. now I'm older and a lot more wiser to social cues and I just don't know if I can pull that off anymore.
i've met other blacks/non-whites who were into this stuff and they were all cool and chill and they seemed fine with themselves at least on the surface, the issue I'm having is just an internal struggle.
I feel like i shouldn't like all this european oriented stuff... but if I hear LOTR music from a friend's tv or I watch a WoW video on youtube, man, it feels so fucking good. Everything is amazing, the music, the aesthetic, the dramatic hero stories, everything.
Are my thoughts warranted? Is it OK to keep liking this 'white' stuff and just go on with my life? I feel like if I did the latter it'd just be the equivalent of sticking my head in the sand and ignoring the racial elephant in the room.
>>17245895
That's your inner slave master great great great grandpa in you. It is alright.
I don't know if this makes me a sjw or whatever but, your race has nothing to do with liking what you like.
Flaunt it or don't enjoy what you enjoy.
>>17245895
>i have interests that aren't stereotypical
My class in highschool only had me and 2 other white kids. Im like 36% black (40% for college admission). Most of the people in the band were weebs and as a matter of fact they ran an anime club on friday. Just be yourself -- i spend time reading hindu books and watching Ramayan.
I geinueily have better conversations with myself than with my friends.
I don't feel like i can truly talk with someone because then i have to follow social paradigms and be a pleasant and social person
I mean i have friends and a bf, but shit the only person ive ever felt close to was myself
Is this normal? to like talking to yourself better than others.
Too much time online.
It's time to leave the house for something more than the mandatory food run.
>>17245879
I go to work and such,
And i have a dnd session with my friends.
I do leave my house, but its usually necessary responsibilites
If i was outside i wouldn't be drawing at my computer as much. and i wouldn't be able to get better at it
plus all my interests involve being alone inside.
>>17245885
Well then you'll only ever be able to relate to people that do the same.
So there's this girl I really like. I see her about once a week or less often since we have mutual friends. We get along and today I think we clicked a bit more than usual though I saw her for a short time.
I really want to ask her out to do something this week or whenever, but I can only contact her by facebook until next weekend when I may or may not see her again. I think I'm okay irl but I feel very awkward when I text. And she doesn't go online often so if I do text her I may need to wait for her replies.
I'm not a huge fan of using technology to talk and neither is she, but we don't "hate" it.
So how do you go about asking someone out by facebook (unless it's a very bad idea and you never should)?
Also she seems kind of immune to my advances, for example today I made some sort of joke comment about us going out someday and she laughed and said something like "yah we could" but sort of sounded like she didn't really consider the possibility, and went on talking. Should I extend that joke a bit again on facebook? I can explain it if you want.
Thanks!
Also should I text her today?
I don't really see what's wrong with it in this day and age if you don't have much of a chance to see her in person
>>17245893
The awkwardness/maybe creepyness I guess.
MILFs
I work as a bank teller in the US and noticed I've been getting lots of compliments from some of the ladies i help but mostly older women (30s-mid 40s) im a 20 something year old guy and never dated or hooked up with a girl older than me but some of these women are damn hot and i feel like i should take advantage of the opportunity. A few in particular are probably interested, from their body language and comments but i dont know how to follow up with it. Should i slide them my number or joke about meeting out of work? Even my boss tells me quite a few seem interested but again i dont know how to make a move since i only see them at work and dont want it to be awkward.
Any advice? Other anons been in a similar situation with older women?
>>17245736
Older women are always flirty with young guys because its funny to see if they get embarassed
Since you're a bank teller I guess you could try to befriend them if they're regular customers or something because you don't want to become the boyfriend of a married woman with three kids. Surely bad for your career.
>>17245883
I figured im nothin too special but at least two of them seem interested but youre right i dont wanna pursue if it'll get me in a shitload of trouble. Its tempting af though some of these ladies aged well
Im already friends or pretty cool with them but being at work its never much more than small talk. Im trying to figure out how i can bring it next level without sounding strange. "Wanna hang out sometime" probably aint gonna fly. Definitely not trying to date either if they have a family but hooking up or a fling would be cash. is there a sly way to get the message across? I wanna be bold and just slip my number on a receipt or somethin but all i can think about is how many ways it could go wrong
>>17246015
You better grill them on if they have a family or not since you may actually go through with it.
If you want to spit some game do it on a dating site. Just not worth it. Im telling you playing it safe is the best because at worst you can buy a hooker with all the money you made not losing your job.
Testicular Cancer
Any of you have experience with it?
I have a small pea sized lump on my scrotum, it hurts if I futz around with it, but otherwise isn't painful. I also seemingly have swollen lymph nodes just to the left on my inner forward facing thigh (can feel little lumps that feel strange when I mess with them under the skin).
I have no insurance and no money at all (literally $0 and no means of making any income). I am crippled living on someone else's charity.
I had cancer when I was a kid, so I guess that makes me more susceptible to cancer or something I think... But that cancer and its treatment destroyed my genitals... Like my testicles are underdeveloped and inert... They serve no function and literally just sit there doing nothing.
I have had seemingly similar bumps on my genitals before, usually sores from a scratch or something like that... But I never noticed swollen lymph nodes before which is why this one seemed more to me.
Assuming it is testicular cancer and its not aggressive how long can I go without treatment before it kills me?
Thanks
>>17245717
Is it on the very bottom of your testicle? It could just be the epididymis. It feels about pea sized at the bottom of the testicle.
Get it checked out REGARDLESS, but don't stress too much in the mean time, just make sure you get in to see a doctor.
not a doctor but I think most testicular cancer affects the actual ball, not the scrote. if the lump is in the skin then you're probably not in any super serious danger
>>17245808
Its actually near the top, it might not even be the testicle, it feels like it is right at/below the surface. I can't really tell because like I said, I had cancer previously in my pelvis as a baby. They blasted baby me with radiation and all that jazz back in the early 90s... So my testicles are basically the testicles of a one year old baby... Small, weird, underdeveloped, undescended, etc... I am fairly certain the bump isn't on a testicle though, but it is still on the scrotum.
But yeah, I don't have any money or anything, I don't have Medicaid, even if I did I can't afford the 15% copay and all that stuff... I genuinely can't see a doctor without financially ruining my already shit life.
Hi everyone
I am a big fan of books.
I have many of the Top 1000 Amazon best selling books in pdf format, and I am searching for few others.
As Piratebay is down, I am not sure what are the options, where can I find to download or upload new 2016 pdf books?
Thank you very much for any suggestions you will have
nobody can help at all?
Nice try FBI bookpolice.
Libgen.io
Have fun
I'm chronically sick, and there is nobody to help.
I am too sick to work, I have tried to get through university twice, but in both years my health has impacted my ability to attend or perform.
I'm in my early 20s, the doctors are doing nothing of importance to improve my situation, and are just doing busy body hand-offs. They run the same tests over and over again, but never find anything. Because they can't find anything, I can't get any external support or help.
My parents want me out of the house, but honestly I couldn't take care of myself like this.
The small amount of money I had is running out.
Where do I go with this?
>>17245289
You will need to more specific. Are you unable to do any kind of work or just physical labour?
>>17245595
I'm sick enough that were I to work, I wouldn't be able to go full time. Maybe 3 days a week at a push. But I'd still need help sometimes when it gets bad.
You should probably go see a gynecologist. It seems like you have a massive case of being a giant pussy. Though I doubt they'll be able to diagnose you because unfortunately what you have doesn't exist.
You don't have some rare disease. You're just a pussy and you need more people like me telling you how it is and not coddling you. It seems as though your parents are on the right track with wanting you out of the house...
how do i cure my Gerascophobia /adv/? For some days now i have been filled with this immense amount dread, that i wont be able to do everything
i want before i grow old and incapable. Look at this picture. Why does this scare me so much? This is probably the best thing a man could ever wish for, yet just looking at it makes me feel anxious. Im only 19 btw.
>>17244337
You're anxious because it holds the realization that there's more out there and you'll change. You're afraid of change and, perhaps, growth.
Trust me anon, it gets better, a lot better, as long as you pUT effort into it and structure your life so that it has positive people in it and you fill it with good worldly experiances. I'm not saying you have to be all yoga n shit. Go. Drink. Sing with friends. Have cigars, flirt. Travel abroad. Make something. Inspire others. Teach others. Help others. Remember to do selfish things for yourself.
You only get one ticket on this crazy ride man. Make what you can of it. ..just make it good
If it bothers you you should be doing something about it.
You could be working hard to make money to donate to research, campaigning to increase government funding of research (of which there is very little for anti-aging research) or doing research yourself. But instead almost everyone just sits on their hands acting as if we are incapable and helpless despite all our scientific advances.
I'm studying the science behind it and donating to stuff like http://lifespan.io for the time being.
Imagine if everyone in the world gave just $10 a year to medical research to fight aging. $70 billion a year is sure to achieve something.
I give $200 a month and I'd be happy to increase that to at least $10k a year if governments taxed for it.
>have a girlfriend
>loves me very much
>cheated on her multiple times already and she knows it
>still doesn't want to leave me
>we don't live together but she mostly pays our dates and even cooks for me while at home not to mention she does my laundry
>really really kind to me and when I am in a bad mood she comforts me and will do anything to please me
>did all of my fetish and sex fantasies, learned to do deep throat, really good at blowjob, cum in her mouth and swallows as well etc.
>perfect girlfriend but I...
Yes /adv/ I care about her and all but I am really not satisfied with her. We're already dating for 3 years now and we already around marrying age but still I don't want to marry her. Is this ok? Maybe because my family and friends and even I are thinking twice because she already has a kid and she's older than me by 3 years. He's five years old.
I do feel guilty sometime but as long as I used her for sex and laundry etc. I don't feel compelled to break up. What can I do?
>>17244317
I feel so sorry for her. I hope she finds the strength one day to leave your loser ass. She can do much better than the likes of you.
How about stop being a cheating fuck for starters? Just an idea
Chastisement aside, you need to get your shit in order. Unless she wants an open relationship, you're being a selfish fuck and stringing her AND her kid along. Sounds like she wants this to work you just want a fuck able surrogate for your mom.
Man up or pussy out OP
>>17244328
>>17244329
When does /adv/ started getting a lot of whiteknights and sjw? If the girl is fine by that, OP doesn't need to change. Besides, her girlfriend already has a kid from another man. She's lucky that there's a guy who loves her even though he already has a kid. It's not OP's fault of her being a slut.
Hi
Ginger guy here
Does anyone know how gingere are seen in Asian countrys like South Korea or Japan ?
I heard some women really like western men. Also many asians seem to like pale skin.
In the country i live in redheads guys are seen as feminine and you rather get insulted then a date ( i am still a virgin)
Do you think i could pass as exotic to them and become lucky using tinder?
I wouldnt try it for getting sex only but also just to seek people to hang out.
Maybe someone who lives in asia could comment on this or other redheads who traveled in asia. Thanks.
>>17243718
If you're pale Asians will love your skin. I think Asian girls like white guys, but it also depends on your appearance (although I have seen, in Taipei, really pretty girls going after ugly ass dudes just because they are foreigners).
>>17243718
Just because you're a white guy doesn't mean Asian girls will be clambering over your dick. Are you ugly? Also, be aware that you will never be able to assimilate into South Korea or Japan, so if you're looking to settle down, look elsewhere.
OP here
posted my pic here a while ago and people told me i look fine ( did it cause i was concerned about it)
Also i do sports so have a good body and am 6'2 heigh
I dont want to settle there i would like to do a vacation but i travel alone
How do you cope with the world that operates solely on making money (the business world, the majority of corporate life today), when you are someone who almost completely grew up on fantasy?
I find it extremely depressing. Everywhere I go, everyone I meet, at work, through family, whatever — money dictates their life. Everything they do is to make more money. And there are so many schemes to make money, I learn a new one almost every single day. Another scheme that I would have never thought of, that almost startles me when I learn about it. It gives me this impression that the world is incredibly cutthroat and void of strong character, high moral fiber, values of any kind outside of monetization.
I understand that money is power and this is why people want it. I understand that you need power in order to do what you want to do and give back to the people you care about. Theoretically I don't have a problem with this and see how this makes sense, besides, every action is driven by power in some way. But that doesn't make me feel any better when I see people who at first seemed very nice, turn out that they callously took advantage of others for money.
>>17242486
Everyone is selfish, learn to embrace it. I'd deal drugs from my parent's house if they allowed it, just to make money. Money lets you have everything you need, so you can focus on what you want.
That is why everyone wants it. I want to buy my own house. I want a car. I want to take a holiday every 3 months to a different country.
All of this needs money.
I don't have any problem with it because I understand everyone else is thinking how I am, some are just more determined to reach the goal faster - criminals and corrupt bankers and the likes
That's how I cope.
>>17242486
You grew up in a wealthy family, didn't you?
>>17242701
I can't bring myself to want to embrace it, or want to do things that takes advantage of others. I've lived in fantasy so much and for so long it's made me very numb to these things and bad at them.
>>17242703
Not at all. More like I never really wanted much in my life.
Come on in, anon. What's been bothering you?
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>>17237378
I know that if she would just give me a chance I would show her that everything is okay and that we haven't changed as much as she thinks we have, but she won't even try.
It's hard really loving someone and not being able to show them.
We were doing fine just two weeks ago. Why break up all of a sudden? If long distance was too hard I understand, but we made a promise. Was I just a crutch to lean on until I wasn't within arm's reach?
>>17236925
>this is a major character flaw,but i compare myself to other girls
Don't worry so much about it.
I'm not exactly great with people, but from all I've seen, every girl struggles with this sometimes.
Even the most beautiful, intelligent, and interesting, who have no "better option" to be afraid of!
>>17237028
That's great, man. Don't fuck it up, try to be the man she deserves.
/adv/ help how do I talk to grill?
>Be me
>Single for a while
>Best friend notices I haven't really been scoring lately
>Says he has a good friend of his who is in a similar situation
>Tell him I'm comfortable being single
>ohyeahwellfuckyou.jpg
>He's trying to tell us about each other via DMs
>Refuse to talk to her
>Eventually do
>Convo starts off somewhat smoothly
>As it goes on we realize how awkward the situation is getting
>Convo slowly dies
>Haven't talked in 2 days
I wanna keep talking to her since I never really got to know her but I can't keep a combo going. Wat do?
>>17246233
If you really like her, ask her out and risk rejection.
If you just want her because you're lonely, find someone you actually like.
>>17246264
>OP
Right now I really just want to get to know her better, then decide whether or not I'll ask her out.
Also, I said I was comfortable with being single, but I'm not really lonely
>>17246287
I wasn't sure if you were "comfortable being single" or legitimately comfortable being single.
And isn't dating how you get to know someone? Personalities always seem a bit different online so you should really just ask her out before you build up a specific image of her.
Too much /pol. How do I become a less hateful person?
Is it best to be just like everyone else? Should I get a tattoo to show how unique and special I am, but maybe some Chinese symbol so I fit in with everybody?
For real?
Meditation helped me a ton. I finally understand the concept of "forgiveness", which before I thought was a cuck response, but now I see is about accepting what's happened and moving forward by letting go of your attachment to the past. It doesn't mean you forget what happened, only that it cannot be changed and the only option is to deal with the situation as it is now.
>>17246086
I never understood meditation. You just sit cross-legged and chant "ohm" repeatedly?
