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Is it common for sons to have a closer relationship with their mothers?
And, do daughters more commonly feel closer to their fathers?
If this is so, why?
>>17273267
Yes
Look up the oedipus complex
For me it wasn't so much an attraction thing as it was "we both acknowledge she's nuts and can talk about actual things", but I was closer with my mom because she was always home and acting crazy.
>>17273279
Pretty much I just felt closer to my dad because he was on my intellectual level and peraolality type. My mom is just a fruitcake but my dad loved the pussy so he stayed and procreated.
What do you do when you miss your boyfriend (or girlfriend)? Gosh it's such a bad feel, like there's an empty space inside of you.
I know that feel right now.
I lied to mine, we broke up, and now I can only find girls who only want sex.
One time this girl told me that I am so handsome, I make her feel insecure I'll leave her for another girl.
My ex of two years left me for another guy.
That makes 3 women who left me now.
Ask me anything.
>>17273158
right now my wife has gone to bed because she works all day while i deal with our daughter that has cancer.
I will not lie. I feel pretty lonely right now. But sometimes doing the best you can to hold out is what you need to do.
>>17273202
Do you like hugs?
Also in my case, I'm in a LDR and we hardly speak anymore. I don't want to cut contact because he's the only person that truly cares about me in my life. In a world where nobody cares, he's really important to me
hooked up with alt / ratchet / punk friend of a friend, losing my virginity to her. I can't stop thinking about her, feel fluttery and hot and awkward whenever I see her. Ask my friend if I should ask her out, my friend tells me shes not the kind of girl a nice guy like me should date... that I should leave it at I lost my virginity and thats it... but I can't. Meet up with her again to hang out... she blows me by a river near a walking trail... I ask her out and she tells me shes no good and I should just enjoy what shes doing.
The more time I spend with her, the more I like her though, not just the sex, everything about her... I don't know what to do, shes driving me crazy... Shes really fucked up, but I can't help it, I want her so badly... my friend keeps telling me to stay away from her, she even says she regrets getting me involved with her... but I don't want to stay away.
Whats wrong with me? Why would my friend want me to stay away so badly? I'm so confused.
I need more advice.
well, if she does not want to call it going out then just go hang out with her and don't be surprised if she blows somebody else near a trail before you evolve into being a couple, because it's way more likely.
You've imprinted on her. It's not at all rare to imprint on one's first sexual partner, and that's what's happened here.
Women who avoid older male virgins are often specifically trying to avoid being imprinted on. In fact, I suspect that this is what your friend is now trying to do. Problem is, it's too late.
I am sorry, OP. I know it hurts, but you have to end this. It is not your fault that you imprinted on her, but there's a reason she didn't want it to happen. This cannot work out. End this relationship, such as it is, before things turn nasty.
>>17273155
If I was to guess I'd say she probably has some self-loathing issues, either that or she dislikes relationships or some personality characteristic of yours. Pick whichever makes you feel better. Although, if she is genuinely your friend the last one is less likely.
If you want a relationship with her though, I'd assume it's the first one and try to learn if she has an self-esteem issues and try to boost her confidence if you suspect she does. Next time you have sex whisper some sweet nothings about how great she is, using specific examples so she believes them.
At least that's how I'd write it if you two were characters in a novel.
please tell me how to get gf
I don't have a mother and I need a loving relationship
>>17273144
How old are you?
I'm sorry that you don't have a mother.
>>17273151
You don't sound like a fuckboy, so first understand where you want to be in life and look for someone who wants to be in the same place as you.
As for where to meet girls...well
tinder?
I don't know, man, I'm very asocial for a woman and I actually met my boyfriend off of /soc/, and no, neither him or I are trash.
So one of my good friends recently started ignoring me and I'm not really sure how to handle the situation. I know for sure she's ignoring me because we used to text / snapchat almost every day and now she does not even open my snapchats or return any texts. What confuses me is that she doesn't ignore me at work, we have normal conversations and she still says hi to me, albeit things do seem a little off. I don't really know how to handle the situation but it's been triggering my anxiety because she was a good friend and I have been losing sleep and eating less because of this. What should I do?
Should I try confronting her next time I see her in person or send her a text asking what's going on? I don't know if that will make the situation worse.
Or should I just leave her alone, give her space, and see if she comes back around? My anxiety would go nuts though if things don't go back to normal.
>TL'DR friend is dodging me and I don't know what to do
>>17273129
Just ask her to tell you straight up what's going on. Tell her you feel like she's been very distant and that you wanna know what's up.
You shouldn't worry about what'll happen if you do that and things don't end up going back to how they were. If you don't do something about it, there's no guarantee that it ever will, anyway. On the other hand, confronting her and getting answers might lead to you guys being able to working it out.
Leave her alone and give her space. If you're losing sleep over her then it's more than just friendship. She's a love interest now, not just a friend.
Why haven't you made a move yet? There was obviously a connection if you guys were texting/snapchatting daily.
>>17273129
She just found a guy she likes and is taking with him
I'm 27. Two years ago, I started school again at a local community college part time because I work and can't afford to lose hours. Truth be told, I would rather be in school than than work. The first two semesters went really well, but then I just started losing it. I started losing to my depression. I wouldn't study, I would barely do homework, but I would still participate in class and do mostly well on tests. The semester had a rough end, but I passed.
The following semester, I just couldn't get my shit together. About 2/3rds through the semester, I just had a breakdown and stopped going, so I obviously failed my classes. I didn't even sign up for FAFSA because I wasn't planning on going back.
I told my family that I couldn't go because of scheduling conflicts with school and work, which isn't totally a lie, but now I'm getting hounded into going back. They say I should go full-time and live at school, but I am in no condition to go back.
I have no idea what to do, and I can't just tell them I'm a depressed wreck who can barely function.
You sound like what I will become in the future OP. I'm 20 and dealing with the same shit except I lived on campus and just felt trapped.
What I did was try to tell them what was wrong but they didn't believe me or the story I told them. I never talk to them about shit like feelings since I know how they'd react and I was extremely correct when it came to talking to them.
They have threatened to kick me out with nothing to my name and I honestly can't blame them.
Anyways if you think you can talk with your parents about and really share what's been happening with you I highly suggest that path. If they're crazy religious nuts who tell you you need god afterwards just don't bother. good luck OP!
>>17273260
I don't know if I could, to be honest. It's not something I'm comfortable with, and they have enough problems to deal with on their own. I'm not willing to dump my shit on them or anyone else for that matter.
>>17273481
Them being in the loop is probably a good idea. Unless they'll use what they learn to hurt you more.
Depression is pretty heavy baggage. Depending on how severe it is it can literally affect every decision you make. You have a decision to either continue carrying that weight or finding someone to help you. Vent your frustrations or you'll just burnout sooner or later.
Lots of shit have happened, been together for like a year.
But I just realized, at this point, that when we go out to a date or someting she's the one talking.
I'm just there, listening, for hours. If I try to talk she suddenly shuts me up with something of hers. I feel bad to be honest.I feel like a doormat.
Invited her to a theatre play and I bought the tickets, she said yes. A week later she told me that her best friend (femlae) also invited her (after I invited her) and that she:
>Didn't knew how to tell her friend that I invited her first, so she accepted
Had to return the tickets and buy another ones for the same day (different hour). I planned to go to dinner and that shit, everything got ruined.
Do you have any way or tip to fix this? The ticket shit is a pretty big red flag to me. I think that now I see her priorities, and i'm not one of them.
Did you told her about this?
>>17273299
She won't let me have the chance to say it!
>>17273088
i was a doormat to my ex as well
i say dump her and get with me bc u sound like a sweet qt
but on a serious note that shit is wack, either confront her about it or end it all together. if she tries stepping on your toes when you confront her she is mega manipulative and you need to get away.
Can I get some advice on job hunting?
Quick summary: Graduated with a degree in IT in May of 2015. Took a break for a few months and started job hunting in earnest in September (I thought it wouldn't be this hard). I realize now that I fucked up and my resume is pretty blank except for some volunteer work and some development work at a local start up. Startup went belly up and I focused on my degree.
It's now June of 2016 and I'm still jobless and it's really getting to me. I check Indeed, Dice, Monster, and a few other websites but everything requires +3 years of experience in super specific things and I don't know what to do. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.
If it helps at all, I'm looking for work in Charlotte, North Carolina.
Bump. Please.
get a different kind of job
>>17273113
You mean ditch tech completely? How would that be possible?
Basically I'm 20, living on my own, don't have health insurance, and going back to school. They wont let me attend full time unless I get a hepatitis B vaccination, or get a religious waver.
Basically I need to find a religion that doesn't vaccinate their followers, and it has to be a religion that is typically white, because I don't want to raise any suspicion.
>>17273008
How on earth are you going to afford school if you can't even afford a vaccination?
>>17273008
look up free hepatitis B vaccinations and get one. also consider just joining obamacare, its borderline illegal not to havei nsurance atm
>>17273013
Student loans, that I can pay off after I get my degree. Also, I haven't been vaccinated since I was 12 and I've never had a serious ailment, I'm not a mega "anti-vaxer", but I've just been fine this long, so I see no reason to get a vaccine at this stage in my life. I don't wanna turn this thread into a debate tho, just looking for some religions that will write me a waiver.
Ok, so I'm balding, but my gf doesn't like short hair on guys, but I am much more comfortable with a buzz, what do?
I'm thinkin buzz.
I don't believe a buzzcut is going to appeal to your girlfriend or fix your image problem due to balding.
>>17272909
Get the cut that you like for yourself. Whether she likes your haircut isn't as important as whether you like it.
>>17272926
basically my thought process. I just want to MAX my appeal 2 her, ya dig?
So i made a really dumb move to join the army. 7 months into my 5 year contract and i want out. Its to the point where i want to put a bullet in my brain.
What can i do to leave this hell before i do something stupid?
>>17272846
Why would you sign a five year contract? Anyways, just do your duty, OP. If you absolutely must get out due to mental issues, go see the mental health officer. Other than hurting yourself badly or committing a crime, that's your only out.
>>17272846
why is it so bad
>>17272854
For some people its not terrible. Infact i would encourage it. But i joined for all the wrong reasons and lied my way to get in.now im a complete mess.
>>17272849
Thought as much I dont think i can go on though.
Hey /adv/
So I've got a girl question...
There's a girl I work with who started maybe a month ago. We both work in different departments, so I can't exactly talk to her with ease. She's pretty good looking and seems fun to be around.
But the problem is that I haven't really spoken to her for the entire time she's been working here. I've only said "Have a good night" to her as she was leaving the store one day. When I said this, she smiled, and then looked down at her feet while still smiling. I took this as a good sign that she was shy and almost embarrassed that I spoke to her.
The other problem is one of the other guys that works there is fucking infatuated with her. He's about 5'6", scrawny, and really not the best looking guy. Think of the school shooter type of person. However, he's been flirting with her for a week or two now, and just yesterday she offered him a ride home since they both got off at the same time and he doesn't have his liscense or a car.
I just learned today that she is single and I'd like to go for it.
My main questions are;
Have I waited too long to initiate?
Is she just being nice to the guy?
Was her looking down and smiling a good sign?
Should I even bother?
Other info.
The other guy is extremely needy, almost comes off as creepy, dropped out of high school due to reasons he won't say, and killed rabbits and squirrels for fun in his backyard.
Now is when you need to pursue her the most. Now or never OP
Ask her out faggot
What is love?
How do i know if it's love i'm feeling or something else?
Is there someone for me out there ?
>>17272745
Hello anime girl i am here 4 u
>>17272758
There is someone i like and they live on the other side of the country and next time i can se this person is in 2 months at a festival we are both going to (we have only met once one month ago) and i'm thinking of asking this person out there but i just found out there might already be a special some one in this persons life.
Do you have any advice for me ?
>baby don't hurt me
Anyway no one knows what love really is and people will tell you something isn't love often but never what really IS love. A widely accepted but vague definition is that when you love something you feel like you want to take care of it regardless of what you get in return.
Love is a word people say too often and it's easier said than done. It's one of those things people think they know the answer but if they actually have to give you a definition they have to stop and think for a while.
It may be important to know that you can want something without loving it. Which is not wrong at all. And I think you can love AND want someone at the same time.
The question is often would you rather let your significant other be with someone that can take care of him/her better than you do? I think that replying No doesn't mean you don't love that person but many will disagree with me here I think.
A very wise friend of mine gave me this example: You see a flower, you really like that flower. If you want the flower you pick it up and take it home, but it will die soon. If you love the flower you will come see it every day wherever it is and make sure it gets sun and water so it can live alright.
Coming from a confused high school graduate. Politics, law and adminstration are kind of my thing, but what reasonable careers would a degree in PS provide? Since state jobs are very saturated in my area, I'm just trying to be realistic and study something that will actually make me hireable.A little insight from anons would be of great help
All 3 of my poly sci friends went on to grad or law school. presumably it seems like a springboard degree that sends you to become a lawyer or politician or civil servant. But honestly, all degrees are pretty much all the same apart from STEM degrees.
>>17272723
MA in History here and going for my MA in Poli Sci. I want to teach but most Poli Sci guys go to law school.
>>17272723
>>17272861
>>17272946
Every last person told me that the only use for a PoliSci degree is to get into grad or law school. That involves getting into debt and I'm already 25,000 dollars in the hole. Plus my parents are dependent on my income to live because theyre unemployed and I do not make a lot money. I simply do not have the money, and my polisci degree is worthless despite living in DC because everyone has it.
Is it safe to have multiple orgasms by repeatedly stimulating the penis and stopping short of climaxing each time?
those words don't make sense together
What do you mean? Like are you like stopping stimulation as you build up and riding an orgasm? It should be safe but I'd probably talk to a doctor. Medical advice from strangers isn't the smartest thing to do.
No, switch to anal simulation
