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How do I become an alpha?
It's not like I won the genetic lottery, I'm not the most attractive person, blond and blue eyed. I'm your average goy (although I have a very beginner-level social life, that's not really average)
What can I do? Is it possible for someone to go from bottom to top?
Fight another alpha. Steal his mate. Lead his tribe. Ooga booga.
You can not become alpha, you are born to be one. And from the way you talk I already know you are a faggot. Being alpha isn't necessarily bound to being attractive and it's especially not bound to being the least taken serious phenotype on the planet (blonde, blue eyed males).
Don't sweat it, if you try to fight your true nature it will only come off as cringeworthy and funny to others, even if you lack the self-awareness to realize that.
https://youtu.be/msy26315IE8
>Been talk to girl on Tinder for three weeks
>Meet up after about a week of talking
>Make plans to meet up again 3 days later
>"Ok, so when are you going to be free"
>"I'm not sure"
>Week later
>"Hey are you free at all this week"
>"I don't know"
Is she trying to...
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lol, he doesn't realize that she's juggling like 8 other penises right now.
>She seems less and less interested every day we talk
>It could just be me overthinking things but idk.
>Can't stop panicking because I'm scared I'm being an annoyance or something
Why can't I keep calm and rational about women
>>17274905
Women like to play these games.
>what do you want to do?
>idk
>how about this?
>idk or "no"
The only thing that has worked for me consistently is saying
"I am going here at so and so day at so and so time" are you interested.
If they make no effort to compromise cut them loose! They are just a waste of time and energy.
For reference...
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I'm gonna need like $2500 to retain a lawyer within the next week, I have about $250 and am getting a $586 paycheck on friday.
Do banks give out loans? Where can I get a loan from?
You can get a paycheck loan with an absurdly high interest rate.
>>17274895
what are you doing that would make you need a lawyer on retainer but not able to afford it?
>>17274902
I make $586 a week, If I eat ramen for a few months I can survive off of spending like $700 a month max after rent bills and gas. Am I gonna get buried by getting a loan like this?
>>17274906
Being a fuckup
Holy fuck I've never felt a wave of depression like this in my life. I know this girl was not good for me in every way (manitulative, greedy, spoiled, snappy, obsessive) but I'm really not used to not having a companion in my life. The consistent daily sex was really nice too.
How the fuck do I curb this feeling? I also lost ALL my social skills while I was with her because I never spoke to much people other than her, so I fucked myself hard in the long run. Pretty much at rock bottom right now. 22, summer has already started and I havnt found work yet, and...
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Bumpalumpin
>>17274890
Why did you waste all your time being with her you fucking nigger
>>17274945
Sex, did a lot of shit together, and mostly comfort in having a consistent schedule.
There's one thing that makes me happy in all this: I was an extremely good boyfriend and her dating life will be barren besides betas or guys looking for sex.
I don't trust my boyfriend. He hasn't cheated (as far as I know) or done anything to make me feel this way, I just don't trust him. I have never been able to trust someone fully in a relationship and I feel as though this makes things hard for us. He just moved in with a friend of his, and his friend came home with a bunch of people (and a bunch of females), this made me extremely uncomfortable and I feel worried about my boyfriend cheating on me because of this. Clearly his friend has a bunch of drunk people over often, and I'm afraid that when I'm not around my boyfriend will be too much of a beta to refuse a drunk woman's advances.
On top of this, last night we were having sex and he went soft. He said he was tired and sweaty, but I feel as though he just is not attracted to me anymore. This plus the incident with his friend bringing drunk girls over makes me increasingly nervous.
Should I just end things now before I get my heart broken?
As you say, the guy has done nothing to warrant your distrust. If you do end it, are you hoping that your next boyfriend will magically teach you how to trust? Or are you setting yourself up for an endless cycle?
>>17274878
If I ended this relationship I would avoid getting into another. There wouldn't be a next boyfriend, seeing as I've opened up too much to this current one. I can't see myself doing a relationship again if this ends.
>>17274870
There is nothing in your post that indicates that your BF is untrustworthy. You state that he's never cheated but you think he will unable to refuse another woman, but surely you recognise that this is all in your head. It has nothing to do with what would actually happen.
Sometimes guys go soft because they're tired. There's nothing unusual about that either.
Trying to stop your boyfriend from attending partied in his own home is a recipe for disaster. Break up with him if you want,...
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So, I have a bit of an issue.
I was raised pretty shitty, and consider myself a late bloomer. I didn't have any sort of social skills until I was 18 years old, I never set foot inside of a High School, public or private, and never got to play sports, or even have friends over growing up.
I was always the awkward kid. Well, when I was 17 I finally started working, and made some friends, and they were always having parties, and friends over, and being social an I really got into it.
I was drinking, and they'd play video games, which I could always...
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Wow. And some people can't even GET girlfriends. Yet, more than half the time, you pretend like you want yours to not even exist
>>17275006
If I keep this rate up, I'll probably be single by next summer.
I just want to enjoy life again. My doc put me on antidepressants, but they haven't kicked in yet, it's only been a couple weeks, though.
>>17274846
The entire first paragraph describes myself as well, except I'm 21 and still don't have friends despite effort. How is it you ever even fell in with these guys?
Is the Cute okay to listen to after going through a break up? Does it deal with some of those feels? If so, which albums go well with that theme?
How are they live? Did anyone go to the Madison Square concert?
Sidenote: I'm trying to listen to them as much as possible before going to see them live next weekend. Only listened to a few of their stuff before. It's time I go the full nine kilometers.
Don't listen to The Cure listen to metal bands covering The Cure it's a whole fucking genre unto itself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAzXH9k-p0Y
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qOae_p3r9YQ
Last one and then I'll stop but legit go to /mu/ desu
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cABKdx9CXoI
Gonna cut my shit hair and i was going for a mohawk hairstyle, but my hair is ultra curly/shitty and im afraid to cut it and end looking like a complete shit (more than it already is). Should i throw fucks to the air and do it, or should i try a different, normal hairstyle?
me in the pic (ugly as shit, i know, but im trying to improve myself)
You are not ugly as shit but I recommend playing guitar or bass if you don't, it goes with your style. If you are a good person you seem perfectly fine to me. I can't picture you with different hair, you look like a young Slash.
>>17274743
I think i remember you from a hair thread...
Anyway, long hair matches you IMO. If you don't like it, go ahead and cut it. But my advice is to keep it long, they are nice.
>>17274743
Can you just dye the hair tips purple from the curly point onward? You'll still have the impression that you have short dark hair yet still have your edgy long hair thing going on with something unique. Cause if you cut your hair short, you will basically look like a clean cut boy scout without a face that matches. It might be even more weird.
There was a suspicious guy who seemed like he wanted to rob me banging away at the door to the backyard the other day.
My "landlord" next door who attests he doesn't own the house said he wasn't aware of it. He was suspicious to me because he made no eye contact when I asked him "Are you here to fix the door?" He was around 6'0, white male, oblong face with light brown hair, light eyes, light frame glasses and kind of fat.
My question is, how do I check if someone has tried opening credit cards in my name or selling my identity?...
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shameless bump
>>17274742
>How to check if someone is robbing you?
Well, the simple way is to see if the person is uninvited but in your house taking your stuff.
>There was a suspicious guy who seemed like he wanted to rob me banging away at the door to the backyard the other day.
What reason did he give you for being in your backyard?
>how do I check if someone has tried opening credit cards in my name
Get a copy of your credit...
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>>17274881
>What reason did he give you for being in your backyard?
The house owner was supposed to fix the back door a year ago, so I thought maybe he was the technician sent. I asked him if he was here to fix it and he said "yes," without making eye contact. He removed the lower planks. I had to fly shortly out of town but I hid my documents in my living space.
> Get a copy of your credit report.
Where is a good place to do this? Excuse...
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Since my girlfriend left me three months ago I have become isolated and weird, like I don't give a crap about nothing but at the same time full of hate and resentment, I feel anhedonic, like a robot I do my stuff because I just have to do it, whenever I speak with someone put up a "yeah I'm totally fine" facade, also I've lost any interest in having relationships or sex. Is this normal?
ive been cucked by my uncle
shes younger than all his daughters
what the fuck?
anyhow i just go out because shes literally 50 meters away and i see her house and am aware of them 24/7 when in my home. ive been at a friends for the past 2 weeks and only occasional thought come up about her. try get out or drink or something dude.
>>17274767
That's fucked up dude
>>17274740
>Is this normal?
No. See a professional.
I'm tired of the way my body looks I miss being skinny. I try to motivate myself to loose weight. But nope
I mean I can but that means I have to go back to tearing myself down and feeling like shit again and drinking nothing but water I don't know what to do ....
Being hot is worth the effort, think of all the fun and sex you will get.
You may temporarily enjoy food but if you are skinny you can enjoy fashion, have higher self esteem, higher chances of getting friends and a partner (people are nicer to prettier people and skinnier is prettier).
Good luck.
>>17274738
Either you sacrifice comfort and snacking to get skinny, or you deal with your choices.
If you stay a fat fuck, fine. I am one myself and I have made my peace with it (although I have been doing more exercise so as not to gain any extra weight.)
But you want to slim down, you have to do the work nd sacrifice. (Also I hope by just having water you mean cutting out sweet drinks etc, because starvation diets are fucking horrible for your body.)
>>17274744
I mean I have a partner that loves me dearly yet I my comfort with weight is on and off I was 170 now I'm 204 I've gained recently from stress and yeah I'd love to where nicer clothes also I've tried but it seems like nothing is working
Is a relationship with a woman worth all the effort?
Is it better than having friends and fapping to porn?
>better than friends
Absolutely, if you find a person who is decent to be with.
>worth the effort
See above.
>better than fapping
Basically if the above check out and she isn't a dead fish in bed, then yes.
>>17274718
I'm a 26kv but even I don't understand how you have friends and not get laid.
Unless your friends are basically clones of you.
>>17274718
With the right woman, it's not much effort. It's mostly reward.
The problem is that it can be difficult to find the right woman unless you are the right man. Basically, top tier people get top tier mates. This doesn't necessarily mean looks. It means being a person who understands what it takes to make a relationship work. Loyalty, honesty, communication, maturity. If you're under the age of 30, some of those things can be difficult to find and be.
Gotta go through some bullshit...
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Someone owes me money and they are offering me a chunk now and the remaining amount in 2 years.
How do I go about getting a legal document written up? If this individual doesn't pay me I want it to be a easy process for me to take him to court and pay me.
I called a lawyer and he wants $1500 as a retainer. I have never done anything like this, I am not sure of the process.
>>17274696
You mean a 1500 dollar pussy fee. Go beat out that motherfucker and take whats yours
>>17274705
Okay, But what if my head is not in my ass???
>>17274696
You could draw up your own contract, both sign it, and have that notarized--with or without the notary, if it's reasonable and both sign it, it's binding and will stand in court. GL!
It's been 6 months of chaos, the highest of highs to the lowest points. Me and this girl hit it off but she had issues getting close. She would often tell me she didn't deserve me and I know that's a red flag. It was very volatile and arguments would start over nothing. I wrote "lmao" on a random girls Instagram post and this one flipped out and blocked me on IG. Then I see her constant leading guys on and when I bring it up she gets defensive and says it's just "games". She's emotionally unbalanced but it's hard to just give...
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>>17274682
You KNOW that you must leave--that there's toxicity in this relationship and that she's unwilling to even try to address what's wrong, right?! Ask yourself, seriously, why are you holding on? It may be less about her and more about your own issues. There's other people in this world--she's not the only one. Give yourself a chance to meet someone better, and learn from this experience. GL!
>>17274682
Maybe it's time you gave something new a try?
>>17275033
Hahaha. I should my friend
How can I get my husband to dress better without upsetting him? His suits are cheap and ill-fitting, and he's not very good at shaving himself, and his watch is plastic.
>>17274672
Try offering to buy him some clothes and suggest how better fitting they are instead of what he usually picks.
How your husband dresses is his business. If you want him to dress nicer, buy him the clothes YOU want him to wear, with YOUR money. if thats not viable, maybe try talking to him? Whats goin on here OP
>>17274679
I have a tendency to be blunt, and he gets easily upset by criticism.
>>17274678
I've offered before, but he says "no, there's nothing wrong with my current clothes ".
