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My Macbook is very old and it gives me some headaches sometimes, but I can't afford another computer right now so I need to fix this. I'm using OS X Mavericks.
It started yesterday when, out of nothing, I simply couldn't do a thing in the computer. When I tried moving files from one folder to another, it gave me "error -50" (same goes for renaming the files). Firefox crashed and the Crash Reporter wouldn't open (instead there was a message saying it could not send reports and the program left a file or something). The game I was playing (Dungeons & Dragons Online) also crashed. Both softwares would not open again and Firefox gave me an error message saying it was already open. I also could not restart or shut down so I had to force it by holding the power button.
After that the computer wouldn't boot and I had to try several times before it actually did. When it finally booted normally (no Safe Mode), Firefox and DDO were still open (Force Quit showed then but there were no windows). After force quitting them they would open fine but after some time the same thing happened again.
It happened about 3 times and now I can't boot at all! After trying about 3 or 4 times, it started to go to recovery mode without me touching anything. I did check the disk and "it appears to be OK". Safe Mode also didn't work (it was shutting down right after the bar hit 100%).
I don't know if this have any connection but it is strange:
When it first happened I was cleaning some folders and then I noticed there was a locked .plist file in the trash. It was the file responsible for search using spotlight. I don't know how it ended up in there so I moved it to the right folder.
I'm desperate and using my phone right now. Please help if you can.
Um. The plist is a file that generally stores your preferences for programs, and deleting them can sometimes be beneficial depending on what program that plist is for. I'm not telling you to delete it but it's probably not the problem.
Have you tried resetting your pram?
>>17273483
Yes I did it and it still boots into OS X Utilities.
>>17273510
Can you restore from time machine?
How long does it take you to get over a breakup?
Is a month normal or is that too long?
Too short actually. For me it was like 4 months for a 3 years relationship. I think my case was even really a short time compared to others
>>17273467
We only dated for 3 months, and it's been one and I still think about it all the time. I think it's because I still don't know truly why we even broke up.
>>17273440
If building a MG is too short, get a PG.
Hey /adv/ here's a question for you.
About a week ago I was at my cousin's house and they were smoking pot outside for like 5 minutes. I was sitting across the table from one of them. How possible is it that I can fail a drug test from second hand smoke from this? I don't smoke personally, but i know that THC can be absorbed through secondhand smoke.
Kind of a stupid question but I'm sort of freaking out and I need someone to calm me down. Thanks.
Not a detectable level.
>>17273473
whats normally the level?
bump. C'mon /adv/ more people need to set me straight.
>go on tinder date with a girl from my uni who is a known slut
>meet up at a bar
>she says she doesn't fuck on the first date
>I knew she saw me as a beta and decided to act on it
>smacked her beer over and called her a cunt
>left without paying
>she's going to tell all her friends
Now I'll never get laid. What do?
alpha as fuard
>act like an asshole
>be surprised when things don't play out in your favour
>>17273432
"Oh good! thought you were going to rape me tonight and was debating over coming to meet you or not"
Am I a bad person if I don't want to be there for my friends' bad times because I wouldn't want them to be there on my own because I wouldn't want to bore them?
You know the answer to this already.
Aka, don't be a shitcunt.
There are people DYING for their friends. Now, I'm not saying you have to go that far. But just being a shoulder and an ice breaker is enough support and friendship solidificaction.
Just keep that in mind.
>>17273428
What I'm saying is: since I don't like people minding my business and trying to "help" me when I'm down, I wouldn't want them to expect me to do the same thing for them.
>>17273431
Ah, I get you.
>Jetlag is a bitch
Still, the shoulder bit I posted. Your friend will return the favour, and you'll be hard pressed to stop them.
You're not a bad person for being stubborn, everyone does it. But don't completely dismiss your mates and their desire to support you.
My bf used to cut himself and wants to do it again. I have no idea what to tell him or do about it.
Tonight he texted me that he has a blade and that someone made fun of his family member's death, and I had no idea what to say. Sure I said that this person was uncool for making fun of that person's death, but then I got insensitive and asked about that family member's death (it happened before we started dating) and he told me "do I look like I want to talk about this"
and well that was two hours ago, I apologized for asking this, and we stopped talking.
I just have no idea what to do or tell him, and I can't go to his place atm. Even so, I just feel like a really incompetent girlfriend and that I completely lack empathy. What to do when someone is getting self-harming urges? How can I be a good gf or at least a good friend about this? There's a limit to blowjobs I can do, especially since you can't text a bj :/ Plus I'm pretty sure that bj isn't the way to help him... I'm sure that guys expect more than just blowjobs from their girlfriends.
>>17273405
>Even so, I just feel like a really incompetent girlfriend and that I completely lack empathy.
You're fine. You can't empathize with crazy. You understood that he may have been upset because someone did something dumb like make fun of a dead family member, which is horrible. That's the same level of empathy that any normal person would employ to understand why someone would feel upset - because he may have been close to the dead family member and hearing a joke about the death may have been hurtful.
To empathize with cutting, you'd have to understand why someone would want to self-harm, and if you've never done it, how could you know why these weirdos do what they do?
>>17273405
>I got insensitive and asked about that family member's death (it happened before we started dating) and he told me "do I look like I want to talk about this"
You weren't being insensitive, he's just being a bitch about it.
>>17273405
Dump him. Fucking autistic attention whore.
It is admirable that you're trying to stick with him through tough times but it sounds like he may use that to manipulate you into opening your legs, or in this case your mouth.
My seniors have been avoiding me for the past two weeks at work and I couldn't understand why. Several won't even say hello back to me while in passing. And earlier today I found out why.
One of our bosses took me aside and told me that she knew I was buying a house and that's the only reason why she was going to break policy...and if anyone were to find out I was told, she'd deny it and try to move it up... and said that next month I am going to be fired.
I am buying a house.
Closing on July 25th and I've already finalized all of the paperwork and paid 3k for the inspection, earnest money, and appraisal.
I have no idea where to begin with what to do. If I continue with the home purchase, I won't have a fucking job. If I don't continue, I lose the money I've invested, will have to pay a civil penalty and I won't have a place to live since I've given notice to leave by August 1st.
House aside, what the fuck do I even do about being fired to begin with? I've never been fired before. I've held a steady job for the past ten years. Never been in an exit interview? Are there things I need to ask? Are there things I shouldn't sign?
What can I do in the mean time? I've been sweating just thinking about this situation for the past four hours and I still don't have a plan of attack.
Why do you need to get fired because of a house? This sounds unethical as shit
well, you can't afford a house, so don't buy one.
do you have a union? are you being fired or are you being laid off?
>>17273391
No, I guess I phrased that strangely.
I am going to be fired.
A supervisor broke policy to tell me this because she knows I am about to purchase a house.
Hey loves.
So I'm a pro am pornstar and need a nice list of video ideas to shoot while I have a break from Uni!
>>17273359
Give me some ideas pervs ;)
What would you want to see?
>>17273359
SURRREEEE you are.
Give us a bit of evidence and we will help you out.
Fetish videos would be a good idea. Logically should be able to get more views / purchases of your content by crossing over into a new niche. Fetish clothing/shoes, Domination, etc. could all be worked into your regular work right now.
My bf has the typical loudmouthed white mom that never shuts up. She will go on and on and barely lets anyone get a word in. Whenever she finally goes silent I start speaking, then the bitch looks at me and interrupts what I'm saying to drone on again. All I can do is just silently listen and Bertstare her, not that she notices. Bf admits it's a problem with her and occasionally interrupts her back to let me talk. Hell, bf's younger brother even does it too so I feel massively disrespected.
I have social anxiety so I don't speak up when needed, so whenever I do and she interrupts me it just crushes my confidence. There were times I had to keep repeating what I was gonna say and they keep talking over me and I just give up.
What is the socially acceptable way to get her and other people in general to stop? Do I have to actually interrupt her and say, "Excuse me, I was speaking" or is that just plain rude? I don't want to get bf's mom on my bad side, especially since she will be my future MIL.
>>17273357
Just live as far away as possible from her and you won't have a problem.
If you can't avoid her, ignore her. You don't have to listen to a word she says.
>>17273357
Accepting a relationship with your boyfriend means accepting a relationship with his mom.
Everyone has been or is with someone who has an irritating family member. Stop trying to talk to her, grin and smile, whip out your phone and start playing angry birds whenever she drones on, do whatever it is you have to do but you need to accept one thing; nothing you do will change her.
Accept it or find a different boyfriend. I dated a girl whose mom got drunk everyday and told me the same stories a million times. I smiled and sipped my wine and faked surprise because thats what you do in a relationship.
Stop taking it personally and just accept the annoying situation for what it is. I doubt she even realizes it. Do what you have to do to be there for your boyfriend and endure his yappy mother.
>>17273373
>>17273376
Alright but what do I do for future encounters when other people interrupt me in a conversation? What's the proper protocol for this without coming off as too rude?
My parents got me a gaming laptop 2 years ago as a gift and I want to sell it for a car. Should I feel bad about this?
>>17273355
>Should I feel bad about this?
If I were your dad I'd be glad you were out driving around in the real world as opposed to sitting inside playing CS all day.
>>17273355
Two years ago? No, sell it my friend
2 years is a perfectly acceptable amount of time to use a gift, even an expensive one, before replacing it.
The power of association is real, and it is VERY POWERFUL.
If you surround yourself with things that encourage you, you WILL become better.
If you surround yourself with trash, you WILL become worse, or at least as bad as the things you surround yourself with.
You will eventually be on the same level as whatever you surround yourself with.
This is a TRUTH!
So, did you want advice, or...?
No, I was just giving advice.
Examples of how to use this practically?
Should I keep in touch with him as language buddy?
>Will travel this year and will visit homeland of a guy I've been talking to two years on the web
>Thought about meeting irl
>Photo of him appears on a sport organization's FB page but that organization has no official website
>Have video skyped twice with him - he said his parents separated and he has to go to his mom's home to video skype as only her laptop has a workimg webcam
>Said his previous smartphone did not allow Skype to be installed
>He said he never uses Facebook but I asked for it anyway
>Only has a girl he met online added as friend
>Said he wants to bring his brother along to our meeting as he doesn't know the biggest city in his province to go there by himself, his brother knows more about the historical attractions and he told me how his brother showed him the way to the exam centre in that city on the first day of his exams
>However, he didn't tell his brother about our meeting until two months latwr as he assumed that his family would distrust me and would assume that we were dating
>I confronted him about this and he sent me photo and video of his national ID card to prove his identity - in his country they contain very sensitive information
>Irl friend thinks his ID photo looks kind of different from his Whatsapp photo
>Cancelled the meeting
Was I catfished? In the past, I thought being multilingual was awesome and I picked his language to start with as it was convenient for me to practice it. Should I keep in touch with him solely for language buddies purposes? Should I think about switching languages?
Sounds like could be legit, but then again he could be a human trafficker. You might have dodged a life of suffering. Try Interpals for people to talk to. There's tons of people looking to talk.
>>17273312
Oh you think he may be legit? So should I jeep in touch with him?
The last time I sent him a Whatsapp message was two days ago. He still hasn't read it.
>>17273317
I mean, anything is possible. But the other side of the coin is pretty scary. Its hard to think he'd converse with you for such a long time and have criminal intent, but stranger things have happened. I'd say keep in touch, but if you do decide to meet, DO NOT allow him to isolate you or entice you into going somewhere out of the public eye.
My personality is of a hick, I wear camo chew tobacco and always wear ball caps... And for the past 17 years I'v never worn anything but jeans and my one and only pair of cowboy boots... Very recently that one and only pair has been destroyed, I can't get new ones in the foreseeable future and without them I'm feeling much like my personality is a lie for some reason, like this is what I've worn and who I am... Just kinda want your opinions in the matter
Find new boots OP.
Don't need to buy the same style.
Heck, try some camo hunting boots.
That's what Ive got right now.
>>17273294
Keep chewing tobacco and I hope you enjoy having mouth cancer a few years later down the road, I'm not kidding.
For the latter, get a job and buy your own clothing, and next time please buy more clothing than just "a pair of boots"
they don't last forever, you did know that right?
I dont think you guys understand the question.
Anyway, op, have you ever tried something different? Going to different places, talking to different people, eating different food, waering different clothes, doing different things?
If not, i think you should. It's hard to know who you really are without comparing it against something else. Hell maybe even give a shot to the things you've always made fun of or thought was stupid.
Why am I so fucked up?
I'll date a girl, destroy her emotionally to the point of insecurity and then have her crying and desperate for me.
Then when she finally wants to leave me, I am the one who flips the script? And try to keep the girl with me.
But I know that I would never even really change.
What is wrong with me?
I know I have a problem, and it isn't just affecting other people but myself as well.
>>17273286
You're an emotional terrorist. You plunge others into a state of chaos because you, yourself, feel trapped in a state of chaos.
You want things you can't have, and then when you have them you don't want them anymore. Its very common amongst young men and as someone whose been in exactly your position I still feel truly awful about some of the things I did to women growing up.
Own your shit right now and get help for it before you end up fucking over someone who actually loves you. You'll never forgive yourself.
>>17273308
> before you end up fucking over someone who actually loves you. You'll never forgive yourself.
I think it's too late for that.
But I've already accepted that.
Why did you do it?
Was it a powertrip thing?
I think, to be honest, I do it because it's sexually gratifying.
Did you ever get into relationships just purely for sex?
>>17273286
Go to a psych support group, you will find someone who can deal with you.
Bipolar, et al.
At least you guys will have balance.
If you do drugs, it sounds like you will need to be a psych patient yourself, so it's also an option.
I'll be driving half-way across the country for the first time starting tomorrow. Any advice for long distance driving?
>>17273284
Don't run out of gas. You don't want to get stuck in the bumblescum middle of nowhere.
Don't ever drive while tired. Always take the time for a rest stop.
Make sure your tire pressures are up to spec. Have extra fluids for your car.
>>17273380
Thanks
>>17273284
Mixtape. Food.
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