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How do I lose weight efficiently? i graduated highschool and am going to college soon and I'm a fucking fatass manlet thats 220 lbs and 5'3. I want to know good ways to start and do it asap so that I can look good, the problem is that I'm really fucking insecure to the point where I dont wanna go outside and exercise cause I feel like others would look at me and shit
>>17273712
Read the /fit/ sticky and actually follow the advice listed. Do you mind posting a pic for reference? I'm the same height as you and fluctuate between 105-110 lb and I want to see what someone of your size looks like.
>>17273712
/fit/ will help you, check out the qtddtot threads and read the sticky all the way through at least twice.
Also don't worry so much about what other people will think of you while you're working out, everyone starts somewhere and desu the fitness community (outside of 4chan) is typically very supportive to newcomers, especially if they see that you're actually dedicated to getting healthy.
>>17273731
Fat af
>>17273748
Alright then thank you
How did you meet your current S.O? Pic unrelated
>>17273705
I was on a dating site for about a month in a half. She was one of the first people I checked out. I was afraid to contact her because her profile seemed a bit intimidating. One night I decided what the heck.
I'm happy I overcame by shyness for her.
I never have, Morgan.
Teach me your ways.
>>17273705
Knew my boyfriend since middle school, got together in first year of college. Still going strong 5 years now.
i have been in a relationship with a person for about a year now and about half way through we split up for various reasons, a larger one being not having sex for a few months
we end up getting back together and our sex life is good however i am into hardcore bdsm and during that time we were separated starting seeing some different doms and under condition of us getting back together negotiated that i needed playtime with someone to live out and satisfy my kinky needs since the person i am with is not into it
they agreed to this and ive been seeing a certain dom for about a month now and things are going great with that dom however whenever i get back from a session my partner is visibly upset however denies that he does not want me to stop doing what i am doing and wants to continue this relationship
my partner says one thing but is reacting in a way that is contradictory
i'm not sure what to do because i care about them and they are my priority but being involved in kink is a necessity as well
has anyone been in similar situations and how have you handled?
>>17273692
since this "kink" of yours seems to be a big enough driving force that you need to get fucked by someone else to satisfy yourself, tell your bf to manhandle you in bed or break up with him. that fucking simple.
>>17273702
i indulge in instense pain by the way of floggings, canings, electricity etc. it's not something you can force someone to be into let alone take on a top position administering those things. he knows and understands that and says "as long as you come home to me" he is ok with it and wants me to be happy however he is also bad at expressing his true emotions and seems to be down every time i have a session.
hoping for advice/experience from people who are involved in kink and dating vanilla partners/experience in open relationships
Hi /adv/. For a while now I've been trying to cut ties with this friend and it's become apparent now that it's not going to work.
She seems to have given up on making her own friends, opting to force herself onto all of mine instead - even going as far as to trawl through my FB friend list and adding people without asking them or me. I get complaints from my friends about her constantly, many of them don't want to be friends with her, but she acts so sweet, almost in a childlike way, that everybody feels bad telling her no. Even I feel bad, though I realize it's manipulation on her part.
We go to a lot of anime cons and the like, and she's constantly clinging around me the entire time. Even outside of them, she's inviting herself to group hangouts, and almost constantly messaging us in groups of 3's (her, me, and her chosen target) to schedule days together. It feels like she just includes me as a formality to get close to my friends and it's really starting to creep me out.
It doesn't just extend to friends either. She's done this with my crushes/romantic interests as well, which is even more odd, because I'm LGBT and she is very adamantly not. Any time she finds out I'm close to somebody she CLINGS like fucking superglue - cuddling with them "as friends", monopolizing any conversation with them, hell, even INVITING HERSELF TO UNSPOKEN DATES. Recently I called her out for doing so, telling her that said person and I were clearly going to a fancy restaurant to be alone, and asking her why she thought it appropriate to invite herself along in the name of "a great foodie friend day!" but she always acts like a kicked puppy when I confront her, with stammered and exaggerated apologies "oh I didn't know I'm so sorry can you ever forgive me" and I always come out looking like the bad guy.
I'm so sick of it! I feel so suffocated and like I can't even have my own life, friends, or even fucking love life without her trying to wedge herself into it! Please help!
Why don't you
>hide your friends list on Facebook
>ignore her messages
>don't invite her to things
>don't introduce her to people
>>17273646
I try not to invite her to things. But she finds out from mutual friends and invites herself along!. Unless I don't hang out with my friends, it seems like there's no way to avoid her finding out about my friends or introducing herself to them.
I will hide my friend's list though. That's a good point.
>>17273656
If your mutual friends know she's going to turn up if they mention going out around her, and yet they don't stop telling her this stuff, then I guess the implication is that they don't mind having her along and that you're the only one with a problem here.
Relationship adv
April: I liked this amazing girl and I thought she liked me too so I asked her out but she said no, ever since then we've been doing couple things like texting 24/7 and going on dates and hugging and holding hands and kissing?? I didn't think she wanted to date because she already said no to me, so I didn't ask her again. She started drifting away from me and I could tell. I asked her if she likes me and she said she did like me but when I didn't ask her out she thought I didn't like her so she forced herself not to like me anymore. The problem is I still like her.
4 weeks later(today)
Last night we went to a concert and she hugged me for a while a couple times and we held hands a lot. I still don't think she liked me idk? I would love to have her back, what do I do?
>>17273625
You said you asked her out but she rejected you, but you already been on dates with her.
you need to fuck her man, she probably wants the D already
>>17273625
>we held hands a lot.
Why the fuck didn't you take her home and give her the orgasm she needs ?
Yeah I should've but how do I get her back?
Alright, advuh, here's my situation
>older brother is an asshole
>Threatens our family when things dont go his way, and when they dont he loses his shit saying nothing goes his way
>dad moving out (faux divorce I guess) so my brother has it in his head that he's the boss now
>demanding that my mom share a room with me instead of getting her own room
>will not listen to reason
how do you deal with someone so hot-headed and stubborn? His idea of solving problems is fighting. I'm not an idiot, I'm not fighting someone 3x my weight, let alone family.
Why should my mom have to share a room with anyone? She's sacrificed so much for us and all he does is bully her and swear at her. I try to defend her, but I have no idea how to explain what goes on when I do.
We're considering kicking him out, and I can pick up the rent from there. My parents dont wanna do that, since I'm paying for college. But I'll do just about anything for my mom.
>>17273616
>advuh
you fucking autist
>>17273616
the only solution is to accidentally run over his leg with a lawnmower.
>>17273616
You already said it, kick his ass to the curb. Don't let your hard-working mom get abused by this asshole, especially after going through a divorce. Though honestly it's partly your mom's fault for being soft on your brother and not commanding her parental authority over him. If he puts up a fight over getting kicked out, call the cops. Causes more trouble after that? Restraining order. He'll be gone from your life and you two can live more peacefully.
Hey so anons, why do I dread football practice.
I have no clue why, I just hate it. I love the sport just get this general anxiety from practice.
It would mean a lot if I got an answer
Worried about performance at practice as it might affect game time?
>>17273598
are the people u play with assholes? is ur coach a douche? are ppl putting a lot of pressure on u to succeed?
Let my girlfriend be in an open relationship with me.
Now she left me for the other guy, who she feels 'loves' her more.
But I'm like 99% is just using her for sex.
Needless to say, I feel like complete shit.
I wanted our sex to be more interesting and I guess I pretty much fucked up everything.
Any thoughts, guys?
>>17273595
You completely brought it on yourself. Not sure what you thought what end up happening.
>>17273603
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Learn from this experience OP
You dun goofed. Once you take the bpundaries off, you'll be forever cucked.
Take it as a learning curve and move on. I gather that the reason why she's saying that he loves her more than you do is because he's not going to let her be in an open relationship.
How do I man up?
>>17273581
Whats the situation ?
Do you need to man up and have a punch up with someone ?
Has your girl called you a little bitch and told you to "man up" ?
>>17273581
I don't know the situation, but what motivates me is honestly thinking about my own mortality and place in history. No one is going to care 100, or even 50 years from now if I failed or was rejected. In the same way, given that you have around 70 years on this planet at best and then oblivion, why not to everything you can to bring solid happiness and contentment into your life. That likely means doing something hard, letting toxic people go, telling someone how you truly feel (not in an autistic, high school, roundabout way), and work towards making yourself a better, more interesting and whole human being, confident in your ability to choose your actions.
That's what manning up means, doing the hard stuff because you'll be a better person for it.
>>17273581
you don't 'man up', you learn to stand on your own two feet, set up your own morals to live by and live life the way you want to.
Most people will recognize this and admire you for it, but at the end of the day all that matters is how you feel about yourself and the goals you set up for your self.
You don't need to be 'manly' to live a good, fulfilling life. Sorry if that sounds preachy as fuck, but seriously. Stop worrying about being a certain way, because nobody actually cares in the end about that shit. All that matters is you've lived a fulfilling, confident life.
i am currently dating a guy for ~3 months now. We've been going out together, engaging in romance, and sharing our interests. We're friends on Facebook and this weekend I found there were some photos uploaded and tagged. It has hard to identify with the face with the wig he was wearing. I initially thought he was a part of a crossdresser group before I researched on lolita fashion.
He looked beautiful and has a good sense of fashion. I could never wear lolita fashion myself because I find it to be child's play. I asked him why he never told me. He felt I wasn't ready to be told. He separates his Facebook feeds so I never see his statuses on lolita fashion.
I felt betrayed and upset. This is not the guy I envisioned him to be. Should I continue this relationship or should I break up with him?
If it's a deal breaker, then yeah break up.
If it's something you don't mind that much, then stay together.
Whatever you do, don't try to change him or make him give up his hobby.
>>17273569
Are you also a dude?
There is something you find fundamentally wrong with his personality so you will either have to break up or accept that he's a freak.
>>17273569
>I initially thought he was a part of a crossdresser group before I researched on lolita fashion.
Wait, so does he wear women's clothing or not?
I want to buy my sister a dildo as a joke sorta for he birthday. I think it would be funny, but would it seem kinda weird if she's a bit younger than me?
It would be weird to buy someone a dildo regardless of relations or ages.
That's kind of weird.
is the joke incest?
how do you physiologically fuck with people subtly?
Point out their flaws subtly so that it fucks with their confidence
>>17273547
There is no general answer to your question. Fucking with someone subtly requires knowing them very well, to get a sense of what buttons to push (and what buttons NOt to).
Do this
Cause fuck stupid comment limits
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/4owo8x/wife_34_cheated_3_times_on_me_23_m_and_i_dont/
So let me get this straight, you married a woman who was ten years your senior, a busted up stripper, a junkie, an obvious cheater considering she was naked with the 26 year old dude, someone who fucking stabbed you and put you in jail.
Not only did you do that, you stayed with her while she was constantly talking about cheating on you, while she was looking for a house for her and her new sugar daddy, while she constantly told you that she was using you, while she fucking said she was a demon that wanted to dismember you, while she constantly threatened to put you back in jail, while she told you she was in love with someone else, while she repeatedly used sex as a weapon, while she was making money pseudo-dating another guy and giving him bdsm style pleasure.
I'm sorry OP, a lot of people won't read your long reddit post but you are a genuine bonafide 100% insane fucking retard. That's the cold hard honest truth. You're just as broken as she is. But you're 23 fucking years old. You're still in your prime. I get it, I really do. You're lonely and worried that you won't ever find another woman if you leave this whore. Your first love turned out to be just as broken as you and you can't help but be with her. Gain some perspective though man. Surely you can see how incredibly stupid you sound by reading what you wrote. You sound like the fucking retard that dies in your average CSI crime drama style show. Reading that post infuriates the fuck out of me, I can't imagine how it makes you feel. Let that long ass post be a cathartic experience of you purging out your previous life.
Go back to your parents house, file for a divorce immediately and delete her from your life. Never and I mean NEVER, interact with her again in any place but court. I'm genuinely worried that you'll end up murdered at this rate, OP. You're obviously going to feel blues for the first love you had but please don't throw your life away like this.
>>17273623
Oh and post her nudes so I can fap to her cucking you.
>>17273623
I appreciate it bro, It's funny cause it's a big haze. I take responsibility for my actions, I saw a pretty girl and wanted to get away from my parents. I was in complete denial that she would cheat on me,until it started happening.
You got to realize tho, I was not in contact with my family, she was threatening the cops on me constantly.
I'm gone, I already started seeing other people, got a promotion at my new job already. Things are looking good. Feeling bretty good after a girl asked if I was a porn star and when I told her a little bit about my ex, she told me "how could anyone ever hurt you like that". I'm actually pretty handsome, fit, and tall. Already done with that one tho, too clingy and needy. Going to focus on myself now.
Yeah, I'm never dating a girl that I can't immediately spot has good values and comes from a good family. I appreciate it bro, I fucked up real bad but never again.
So this story has a lot of layers so I'll try to cut through them as swiftly as possible.
I'm a long term unemployed 28 year old male with a useless STEM degree. I live with my folks because I lack the means to do otherwise.
They've (and by extension I've) just gotten through a nasty bankruptcy and saving are essentially zero. Thought we were through the worst of it but now Mom is pushing for a divorce (they've been in a loveless cohabitation marriage for decades because they had nowhere else to go).
I loathe both my parents passionately, they are both horrible emotionally abusive manipulators that severely fucked up both my life and the lives of my siblings. The only reason I can even tolerate living with them is that there's enough physical separation within the house to keep my sanity.
If the divorce goes through whoever "gets" the house likely won't be able to keep it, and thus will be forced into temporary housing because again, they have no money at all.
Point is if they get a divorce, I have nowhere to live anymore. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this before and if so is there anything I can do? I can't force people to be in a marriage they hate, but there's no one in my life I can turn to for housing.
>>17273480
>I'm a long term unemployed 28 year old male
Stopped reading there. Stop being a manchild, get a job and move the fuck out.
>>17273489
Hey man it's not for lack of trying. I apply to tons of shit but the unemployment around here is obscene and I've got nothing to lift my application above the hordes of applicants.
>>17273503
Where do you live? East coast? West Coast?
Hi /adv/, I'm basically in a predicament that goes like this
>Meet this guy online, he offers to let me cyber with his gf on skype while he listens
>Whynot.jpeg
>Do it
>Send her a pic of my junk
>She sends some of her
>"How old are you?"
>"16"
>I think "the fuck?!"
>Tell her that that's against the law
>She says she won't tell
>Too awkwarded out at this point so I tell them I can't do it and I leave
>Delete fucking everything and block them
Can I get in trouble for that? The guy looked to be at least 25, so I didn't think he'd be dating a fucking 16 year old of all ages.
Pic unrelated
>>17273475
Tell the cops that some guy sent you a pic of an underage girl that he claims is his wife.
If doing what you did with a 16 year old is illegal where you live, then sure, you can get in trouble for it. The legality or illegality of their relationship is a separate issue and your liability is completely independent of it.
>>17273492
I know THAT much, but had I known she was 16 I never would've agreed to it in the first place.
