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>24
>autistic NEET, no friends
>living with parents
>parents think I am doing good at college
>dropped out and pretended to go to class
>decide I should move out of my parent's house in 2 months
>don't know how to tell them so they wouldn't get upset
>also, freaking out because I've never been independent
What...
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Do you have a job?
Continue living with your parents, reapply to college and don't fucking drop out this time. You already fucked up, pretending you haven't is just going to make it worse.
>>17275581
Not yet
What's a good toy to get for the birthday of a 8 year old?
Boyfriend or girlfriend?
Its for a boy. limit is like $65
Its for my nephew.
why does the thought of being loved by someone make me uncomfortable?
Do you feel like you are not deserving of love? Like you'd be tricking them, or keeping them from being really happy, or wasting their time?
>>17275576
yeah that might be it, i don't really see the point of relationships, not even friendship anymore
sounds like you're depressed and/or just need to spend time with other people irl more often.
So im pretty much forever alone, and previosly i was a forever alone virgin.
Anyways. The only girls i seem to be able to attract is fat chicks who are way fatter than me.
Should i date them, or should i stay alone?
Im having a hard time deciding, because on one hand im not attracted to these girls, on the other hand i don't want to still be living alone when im 40.
And yes, there is a girl, there is always a girl...
Any advice?
>>17275550
Fat girls are cute, make her lose weight so she's your eternal waifu
>>17275555
I kinda like her personality, she's into Japan, just like me.
Problem is she's fatter than me, just like the last girl i dated, and she's taller than me with heels on, older than me and kinda looks like my neckbeard friend...
Anways, im torn here. Im thinking about keeping her as a friend, but i also kinda want to have sex with somthing, no matter what right now... and well, she seems like a relationship girl. She didn't want to tag along to my palce after the first date, but she's...
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>>17275567
Get your blowjobs, don't tell your friends, and keep her a side secret that should never interfere with your life.
Or, swallow your pride, and love the fatty for all she weighs, m8.
Is there any way to deal with sexual hangups without going to a therapist?
>>17275528
Stop being a fucking normalshit and fuck off
>>17275528
booze.
>>17275551
what does that mean?
Never had a job before and i need help writing a CV
Never done it before so i need some help/suggestions of what needs to be added.
>>17275507
if you've never had a job before and have no body of work, you have no CV(a CV is a specific thing).
Do you have ANY experience or volunteer work or classes or ANYTHING that could go on something like a skills focused resume? If so look up skills focused resumes and model yours after one of those.
There's millions (probably literally) of guides online that you should read. Find a template online somewhere after doing some research and follow it. Hard to tell you as everyone will probably have conflicting bits of advice due to differing opinions.
Basically, from top to bottom (based on my CV):
>Name
>Contact details (phone, email, LinkedIn, personal blog)
>Mission statement (spiel about why I'm awesome, my career goals, what I know/can do - limited to 2 paragraphs)
>Key skills, e.g. programming languages known, types of vehicles you know how to operate, machines you're qualified to run, etc.
>Education
>Chronological work history, most recent on top - Organisation worked for, job title and start date to finish date
>Each job discusses responsibilities and achievements
>Notable projects worked on or things created. Anything big you can brag about.
>References
That's how mine goes.
>>17275531
I have zero work experience, will this affect me?
So I need to some career advice, or a reality check.
>26 year old
>Been neet for 10 years
>Only some GCSES from high school
I'm trying to turn my life around, or start to anyway. Career wise what situation am I looking at? I don't know what I want to do with my life but am I too old to try college and get a "high status" job? Supposing I could even motivate myself enough... I live in the UK.
You're never too old to get an education. I saw plenty of people in their 30s or even 40s at my uni. 26 isn't even that old, you can still make friends and party with most people at college without it being weird.
You need work experience as well though. You can't afford to do what most students do and live off loans throughout uni. If you graduate when you're 30 and don't have a single job under your belt that's a way bigger problem for you than having no degree.
>>17275514
Yeah, I started college at 24 after working in retail for like 6 years.
You can do A levels at local colleges and if you do well you can jump on a decent course at a good uni. Probably best to get some form of work experience too though, just in case
Ive never been too terribly affected over the loss of family members, but with my dog, its a huge exception, or will be, rather.
Ive had my dog for 14 years, i was 5 when i got him but now in 19 and his health is going down the drain. Hes been overweight for many years, has a limp, and now just recently, wont eat and lost control of his bladder.
I dont want to wake up one morning and go downstairs to find him dead. I know hes lived a happy life, my dad and I always played with him, and still do, so i know he isnt dying miserably but it just doesnt help my fears....
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Have you taken him to the vet and had him checked? Diagnosed? Make sure he's not in pain?
I ask because it may be that he needs to be put down, and then you'll know it's quick, painless and then it won't be something traumatic like accidentally finding him dead.
Read Tuesday's with Morrie. Torrent it or get a library card (you fuck.). It's a really good memoir about dealing with death, hell, even go to the sparknotes page if you can learn the lessons without fluff.
>>17275500
we have, he has a thyroid problem and breathing problems due to his weight, he takes 6ish pills every morning and night, we put them in cheese though, so he doesnt mind. The most pain he experiences is his one leg really. Im reserving putting him down until he is showing no more of his normal happy goofy self.
How do you deal with having your heart broken. I've been depressed for years and this is by far the worst fucking thing I have ever felt.
>>17275470
You stop acting like this experience is unique to you, find another person, and put your wiener in them.
Sounds like you need closure. What about the scenario is still eating away at you?
>>17275470
That feel, I know it.
Were you also the one that fucked up so you can't even be mad at anyone but urself?
Has anyone here ever ended a relationship simply because they had become bored with it? Like the other person didn't do anything wrong but you kinda just wanted to break it off because it's just become stale and boring and being single and having fun seems like such a better option at the time?
That's how I kind of feel right now :/
>>17275437
I did it with a relationship that was going on almost 5 years, then I got back with them for a month and a half, now I'm back to single.
Regardless if I am single or not, it's me who is miserable all the time.
Sometimes I feel I made a mistake, other times I think about the opportunities...
If you can make it work for you, make it work. I find it hard if you keep in contact with the ex, it makes it really hard in my case.
Nope. I've always felt like the novelty/thrill of new sexual partners is overrated. It pales in comparison to having somebody that you've worked to build a bond of trust and love with.
Of course, I know plenty of people who disagree with me. They can't handle being sexually exclusive with somebody for months or years at a time. I wish those people would do everybody a favor and quit wasting time for people who can handle/actually desire long term relationships.
Yes. That exact situation happened to me. And it turned out it was happening to my partner too, at the time. I was lucky enough to have them bring it up first before I did, though I'm a little embarrassed to say I wasn't the bigger person there for not being first to talk about it. But since we both felt it was the right thing to do, we stopped seeing each other, but kept in contact just as friends and started to try to see other people. Which lasted about a year. Then we got back together again because we missed being together and wanted to hook up. That was years...
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Does anyone know the odds of getting pregnant off of pre-cum 2 days after your period? I know the odds that she'd be ovulating right after it are low and pre-cum doesn't always contain sperm, but I'm still worried. I'm also worried since emergency contraception apparently doesn't work for women over 165 lbs
1 in 6
>>17275441
How do you figure?
>>17275444
Look trips, if you don't want our advice then don't make threads.
I broke up with my ex 2 years ago and she took the dogs in the break up. I work too much to take care of them but I was supposed to be able to see them every now and then. No contact with my ex became more important and so I haven't seen them in 2 years. How can I see them without dealing with my ex?
Sorry, but you're going to have to deal with your ex at least a little in order to come in contact with (what are now basically) her dogs. You can minimize contact by initially telling her you don't want to see or talk to her as much as possible and work out a schedule with her to work around that, but you are going to have to deal with her at least a little at first.
Just write up an agreement between you two on when the best times for you to visit will be and what you two will do if something comes up or either of you changes your mind about that initial schedule....
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>>17275440
Yeah I guess dealing with her is an inevitability, and I'm not afraid of it or anything, and maybe I'm assuming too much but I feel kind of like a deadbeat dad or something. I feel like she might think I don't have a right to see them anymore for going no contact and I don't want to have to explain myself to her.
>>17275458
Well, it really depends on how she sees things. For all you know you might be doing her a favor, though. Lots of dog owners hire people to walk their dogs for them when they're busy, and consider it a chore. And here you are pretty much wanting to do it for free. If she ever wants to go on vacation and can't bring the dogs, maybe you could offer to be her free dogsitter too. Just try to be a nice, honest, reasonable adult about the whole matter and treat her like you have faith she can be too.
So two of my friends starting dating about two years ago when they were still in high school. One of them is a gay(ish), dude with clinical depression and an affinity for mind altering substances. The other is this nerdy chick from a low income family (straight girl, btw) who drinks/smokes occasionally. Gay friend's depression has only gotten worse since high school, and subsequently, so has his drug problem.
So they date on and off- she insists she isn't going to put up with his escalating drug habits (weed, alcohol, coke) and cheating. They keep getting back...
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>>17275366
You niggers really need to learn to greentext
>>17275366
As a friend you need to slap some sense into those two. However, I'm afraid your druggie friend is beyond hope at this point. You can be a white knight and just "rescue" the girl, or be a true friend and get help for your druggie fag friend.
Other than that there isn't much of anything else you can do. The way I see it though it isn't going to end pretty, be prepared for bad news.
>>17275504
Do you even know what a white knight is you dingo
Me (25) and my wife (22) had a daughter in April. She is our first child, and ever since she was born, my wife has wanted nothing to do with her. She won't hold her or feed her if I'm there to do it instead. She won't talk to her or play with her at all and keeps referring to her as "it" or "that thing", most concerningly talking about "getting rid of it".
While I know she won't do anything to hurt the baby, I don't know what to do.
How do I get my wife to mother our child?
>>17275319
Sounds like post-partum depression. Get her checked out by a shrink.
>>17275319
Post partum depression, get her to a fucking doctor. She could potentially harm herself or the child, she NEEDS help.
>>17275333
>>17275335
Could she actually hurt her?
What do I tell them?
I've been offered multiple jobs and have my final interview for the one I really want this week. The problem is that, while I have a good feeling I'll get it, I'm not 100%, and I want a backup.
I have one in particular in mind for a backup, but they want an answer now. What is the best way to keep that option open without lagging it on a response?
>>17275318
Go for the job interview and let the other job know that you're right now exploring your options and that you'd really like to still be considered for that position. Report for duty at the one that you really want to work at.
What type of job is it? Just curious because I'm in the exact same boat.
>>17275439
You don't tell them this at the interview. You tell them that when you get an offer you would like to know when they need an answer as you have another offer. This also helps you to negotiate a bump in salary sometimes.
