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So I met this girl a little more than a week ago on tinder and things kind of hit off from there. We went on our first date six days ago and we had really great time. She was smiling, I was smiling. So I suggested a second date and we decided to hang out at the place she is staying at and watch movies.
>>17275315
I surprised her chocolate strawberries and everything like so and I think we had a good time. I made the mistake of trying to hold her hand to where she took her hand away 5 minutes later, but I didn’t push it any further. She rested her head on my arm and she would play with me throughout the movie by pinching me and gracing my arm. There was no kiss at the end of the night, but I did hug her little longer than you would for a casual greeting and then went about my way home.
Neat.
>>17275315
>>17275316
>not kissing on first or second date.
Is this an american thing lol
Dude, go for it. She wants it just as much as you do
Hey /adv/, I'm about to go on a road trip by myself to visit my boyfriend in NY (I'm from MI). I'm feeling pretty nervous about driving that far by myself (About 500 miles between us), especially in my car that should make it there fine, but has a slight possibility of not making it.
Anybody got any tips for super long car rides? I'm gonna make a bunch of CD's, bring snacks, etc. But I feel like I'm just gonna be super bored and get tired. Also still debating on if I should leave during the day time or at night.
Pros for daytime: Will...
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>>17275312
Sounds dangerous.
Do you have a friend/relative that could go with you?
• don't stop anywhere to use the bathroom and except fast food places like McDonalds----no truck stops or rest areas.
>>17275321
Whoops! I meant only piss/shit at fast food places, not gas stations or rest stops.
>>17275312
Check the very basic things like oil and tire pressure. Top off your brake fluid and engine coolant. Listen to podcasts, stand-up, or audio books too.
hey bois, i'm a hetero guy in a 10 months relationship with a bisexual girl, recently she told me she couldn't stop thinking of an ex of her, we broke up for a day and told me that she wanted me because i really love her but that she can't help but also thinking sometimes of her ex. Everyone told me to let her go, but she looks so determined to stay with me, she wants me as a friend, at last. It's so difficult for me, i just keep thinking that she may be thinking of her ex because she liked more the sex with girls than with me (she's really honest) but...
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when you meet a girl: make sure she's been broken up with her ex for atleast a few months
Maybe she was hoping that a relationship with you would help her get over her ex.
If she's that hung up on her ex, you should probably listen to your friends and drop it. At least for a while until she gets over it. Otherwise you'll always just be the replacement, barely above rebound-level.
Btw., where do you live OP?
there is nothing complicated about this one. She is not over her ex. She is not ready to be with you it seems. Make sure gf is ready for the new relationship and for fucks sake - be ready for yourself as well
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Sorry this isn't a very deep or metaphysical issue I have, but I need some advice about something a little more commonplace.
Like an autist, I tried jacking off with shampoo in the morning and now I have a burning urethra when I piss. It feels like a needle in my dick, I simply can't use the bathroom and I have to pee really badly.
What should I do?
Wait it out
Pussy
>>17275272
You must be 18 to post here.
>>17275278
FUCK
How do i stop being scared of sex?
Im 22, living on my own, with decent job, renting a huge room in preety much empty flat, looking quite good, working out, new phone and plenty of cash in the bank all of that yet im still a virgin. Not a kissless one, i had girlfriends, girls at partys but ive never actualy had proper sex.
Not that im scared of talking with them, most of the day ive spent on skype with some girls while playing video games/doing some random sht.
There are girls chatting to me, flirting at work, with some of them ive been to clubs, they clearly want...
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>>17275233
If I walked into my room saw OP's pic related I would be scared too!
>>17275241
I probably wouldn't know how to react, lol. You know they know their asses are hanging out...but there's two of them, so how do you handle that? Hail mary threesome, or distance one from the other to better your odds?
>>17275233
You're probably the type that needs to be in a relationship first...nothing wrong with that, you're just not the type to bang girls willy nilly
I have been going through this phase of depression for well over a year now, and I fear it'll affect me academically on the last year of highschool; starting in August. The biggest problem is that only a total of like 40 days till I'm back in school and can't afford therapy at all.
I reckon the top reason is isolating my self from society for way too long. But how do I get back at it?
>>17275215
Ways to treat garden variety depression without medication or therapy, that you won't use:
>exercise, the more intense the better
>meditation, mindful meditation is fine
>socializing, preferably meeting new people
>doing something new/learn new things, too many benefits to list
>>17275224
>exercise
I've been going to the gym for the last 4 days in a row now and 2 weeks of home exercise at home prior.
>>17275215
Find some better fiends.
I'm not really sure where or how to meet women anymore. I turn 30 shortly, and these days it seems like there's nowhere to find anyone of actual worth - plus I grew up in this city, so I feel like I know everyone, or someone they know, etc.
I'm in shape, well-off financially, have a large set of friends, diverse interests... I know none of that "entitles" me to anyone, but I'm just saying, I'm not a virgin NEET with nothing going for him. I'm also not desperate for a relationship, but following the whole "wait for it and it...
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>>17275201
I met far more women after I turned 30. If you are in good shape and financially well off and still can't meet a decent woman it could be that your personality is offputting or you are attracted to women out of your reach. Could either of those be true?
>>17275201
Work, school, or friends.
Those are the only ways.
>online dating
Meme/10
>bars/clubs
Enjoy your HPV and genital warts.
>>17275214
This is some truly terrible advice. Why not ruin your career or existing friendships by poaching women from your job or friend circle?
Does anyone else have this friend that gets offended for random things and stops talking to you for a few days?
No, I'm an adult
No, I'm an adult
>>17275146
This. Part of maturity is knowing not to surround yourself with immature people. You are, typically, a sort of amalgamation of the people you are around.
We're all fed the idea the really fucking hot women are "one of us" at their core, so how does the average guy seduce/get in a relationship with one?
They get invited to yaught parties, mansion parties, photoshoots around the world, and all the exciting events you can think of. How do you walk up to a girl like that and truly impress her? I have hooked up with I'd say is an 8/10 at best, (just broke up with 7/10 qt) but those perfect women almost seem like another species. Any advice on scoring with them?
>still rating girls out of 10
You're not gonna make it.
>>17275127
Just rape them. Arabs have no problems breaking the rules to get what they want, why should you?
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>>17275134
My 10 is obviously not your 10 specifically. I'm referring to high tier women who most men would find desirable
How does nofap work? I'm doing it because I'm getting erectile problems with the gf. I know I can't/shouldn't watch porn, but can I still masturbate?
For fucks sake anon keep your hands off your dick for like a couple of days.
No porn, no fap.
>>17275124
When I did nofap I had a ton of energy that I never had when I was jackin it 5 times a day. And I was so horny if I saw a the hole in a toilet paper pack I was on diamond mode.
>>17275174
Well I can easily go a few days, but it's been a whole week now. I've never gone longer than a week.
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I'm a MS Chemist
Could someone tell me a great career path that takes me out of this lousy field, makes me a decent salary 50k+, and doesn't require another 4 years of college.
I am tired of the horribly low offers $15/hour and no career path. I considered pharmacy but that is another 5 years. I don't do marketing as I am not aggressive enough for sales. Please give me some suggestions.
Can I please have some advice so I no longer have to sell my ass on the street for $5 a shot?
Are you dumb? You have no real experience thats why they give you low offers, you could make 50k with a few years of experience within the company
>>17275099
talk to the career services at the place you got your degree from you mong
Alright /adv/, I'm in a stupid situation. I think I'm falling for my friends girl. They've been together for well over 4 years, probably, and I didn't meet them until about a year ago. Along with them and one or two other people we would hang out a lot, but he started doing other shit without her so it slowly dwindled down to just me and her. He usually chooses to leave her out of things for one reason or another. Since then, me and her have gotten real close, she likes all the same music I do, we play the same games, we have the same humor, she's into...
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Bumping my own thread to hopefully get some help from you guys.
>>17275060
At some point one of you is going to have to discuss this relationship with the other, or neither will know where you stand. If she's not happy in her relationship, she should deal with that and make a decision, but having it both ways is a recipe for ruin...
>>17275060
you either spill your spaghetti or distance yourself. Or you can do both. something along the lines of "I'm starting to develop feelings for you, but I dont want this to affect our friendship with your anon and I..." sort of thing.
Truth be told I would tell her how I felt and that I needed to get it out before you hang out anymore. But then again, I'm a shoot from the hip type of guy
To be more clear, I'm strongly considering a gonadectomy. Basically the same process as castration on a dog. It can be professionally done here for several reasons, it'll take some work but from everything I've read it should work out.
As for the reason, I despise women and I'm not attracted to men. I don't have the time or energy to get into a relationship and prostitutes are nasty.
Yet I still have a sex drive, and it gets in the way and annoys me most of the time. I just want to focus on work and my hobbies.
Does anyone have some form...
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How old are you?
>>17275017
Good choice m8, you'll also gonna keep your hair.
>What is chemical castration
might be a viable option
if people ask why u have no balls just say u lost them in a accident or something.
but I think making a permanent decision like that is pretty ducked , what if your mom wants a grandchild one day u can't. Also adopted kids are not the same so that isn't a viable replacement.
idk just think about it, I understand ur reasons, but good luck
I was at a festival this weekend. During the last band on saturday night I had a panic attack. Severe death anxiety.
I don't really believe in an afterlife and the idea that my very being, concienceness and all will just end at one point made me feel such dread it's hard to describe.
Always kinda feared death, but never like this. Ever since that panic attack it's been haunting me. How the hell do you deal with this shit? I wanna live my short life without being petrified of it's inevitable end.
Had there before mate, best way is to just not think about it. Go have fun, enjoy life, always be doing something. I mean, we all know things will eventually end, right? A good movie will stop after its credits, a delicious meal won't last long til its gulped down. Life is just the same. Enjoy it while you can.
>>17274992
Used to do this. Used to also think: If there's an afterlife then good, if not then I won't even realise since I'm gone. It helped me accept death, but recently it just stopped working for me.
Ignoring it won't do anymore.
>>17274979
Stop doing drugs.
A friend of mine is hearing voices in her head. She's getting medication. She's getting time to clear her mind. She's doing her best to cope.
I, unfortuantely, don't live near her. I can be a comforting voice on the phone, but that's all. I want to start sending her some small things in the post.
What would be a good thing to comfort you? I was thinking heart-felt items, such as origami, letters, small keepsakes, etc. Any ideas?
>>17274953
Those sound like good ideas! A book of positive sayings, a photo of yourself that she can look at and keep, and your remaining in touch can all be helpful for her! If you hear of anything that interests her--like, say, flowers--a small gift of a living plant that she can watch flourish can also cheer her up! GL!!
>>17274964
thank you. I don't want it to come across as super soppy, or anything. But something small and physical she can hold does sound great.
I'm already helping her have something to focus on, by giving her some stuff that she can use to learn a language that she's said she's interested in.
But I was thinking something stupid, As an example, an origami lion to "scare the voices away"
But I don't know if that would come off as insensitive that it's not that easy
>>17274969
Giving her an Origami Lion can be a nice gesture--let HER decide that it's to "scare the voices away." Consider giving it as, "For strength and courage (...when things get rough)" or "Something to watch over you..." With gifts, watch her reactions carefully...don't give too many too soon or too close together, but when it's appropriate and when she seems receptive. Again, GL out there!!
