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Hi /adv/
I have a problem that I need to bring up with my boyfriend.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and while he is my best friend, funny, intelligent and good looking; he is (what I think) a major coward.
We live next door to 2 guys who are very nice people but also rowdy and pretty inconsiderate. They piss near our front door, loud at ungodly hours and they smoke weed near our bedroom window, which makes it impossible to sleep because the smell creeps in. They block our driveway but he won't ask them to move their trucks, he would...
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Stop dating nu-males.
>>17276849
You're being a dick.
He's not a coward. Some people just prefer to not deal with petty bullshit.
Have you considered that he might have an anxiety disorder? Maybe some trauma in his past?
Christ. Realize that if something is bothering you, you don't need to belittle your partner for not being your bitch.
>>17276865
How would you handle it if you were in his shoes?
Ignoring the obvious fact that this is morally shitty, I need a hypothetical answer.
If I went so far as to tell someone with a kid that lives with the father and is still in a relationship, that I want to be with her... what're the next steps? Do I immediately tell her she can move in? Do I expect her to dump the guy and move out on her own?
>literally my wife's son thread
Is this bait?
>>17276834
Just be honest, and do what you have to do. Morality is make believe crap anyway.
Although be aware that she might just be using you for attention and validation and it might not go further than that for her.
>>17276840
Not bait. We have a thing going on, she never really intended to be with the guy she has a kid with forever, they decided to have the kid anyways. They moved in together for the kid's sake with the idea they could make this work, and it's not.
>>17276843
Well aware of that point, yeah. Like I said, this is hypothetical, not an actual plan.
Through out my life with other girls I never really wanted to be around them as much as this person. We both have a love for music, art, and are both musicians and we talk a lot during class breaks and I feel stupid for having these feelings. What should I do?
What is the age difference?
dude ask her. seriously go for it. ive been in ur place and ur probably not a permavirgin like i am so she'll probably say yes. please. do it for me.
>>17276860
Im 23 shes 37-38
She toys with me too much. It's obvious she's emotionally unavailable. Every time I go to leave she pulls me back in because I'm a fool. The other day (3 days ago) I gave her an ultimatum and she let me walk, she says she's not ready to commit and that I deserve better. Today I go on WhatsApp and she had unlocked me, replaced her contact pic with a picture of flowers I sent to her the week before and her status reads "desolate." It kind of infuriated me that she's trying to act hurt when she's the one who let me walk. Do I contact her...
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delete her from whatsapp dumbass
>>17276809
You should fuck her best friend in the ass while you watch reruns of MASH
In the thres years I've been here, I have only recommended once that someone break no-contact, and that was because he'd just found out that he had contracted HIV and may have given it to her. Do not break it for anything less grave than that.
What is a good lamp that can light a room good?
Kinda like a hotel lamp?
>>17276792
Which hotel lamp?
The ones by the bed? That have that sivel arm thingy?
>>17276792
Look for a floor lamp, especially halogen style.
Example: http://www.gilt.com/brand/ore-international/product/1117045664-ore-international-halogen-tochier-floor-lamp
They're very bright and tall, and light the room well.
They're sold everywhere, Home Despot, Overstunk.com, etc.
>Try to get one that is rated for 75 Watt incandescent bulbs, the 60 W ones are weaker.
Holy fuck, /adv/ I caught a serious case of feelings for my co-worker and I need help. She's pretty new at this place and she's got a reputation for being shy and quiet and such, doesn't really talk to people. I didn't really understand why people were saying this, because whenever I'm near her she always smiles at me, or stares at me and brings up awkward conversations. She doesn't say hi like a normal person which was offputting at first but I figured it's her style so whatever.
Anyways, a few weeks go by and she's getting more...
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"Pic unrelated" should have gone at the end, my bad on the typo
>>17276791
Just casually ask her for some coffee or a drink. Don't come off too strong, let if flow.
>>17276815
This whole post is a coffee pun. How sweet.
I'm in ove with my friend. A very nice guy. Sadly, I'm not his type. He likes thin girls with nice boobs and a nice ass. I'm kind of a fatty. What bugs me is that he is not the sexiest guy on earth, he also as a little extra weight. Anyway, We spend more and more time together (we go out to eat just the two of us, we spend hours just talking about random stuff). Should I tell him I have feelings for him? What do I do?
Drunkenly seduce him
>>17276786
Alcool is a bad idea. I've done stupid things while drunk (slept with ugly and stupid guys) and my crush knows about it. I want something serious with him.
My ex was an ugly balding pimple face that had high standards.
Improve yourself and date a hottie, he'll notice you more as romantic potential then.
He'll always feel like he's settling if he dates you as you are with your history of ugly drunken mistakes.
You have to be alluring to him.
I just found out one of my friends raped another one of my friends a few years ago. I found out that they dated after I became friends with them both and that the rapist did something really fucking bad and hates himself now but I never put two and two together until I heard the victim talking about her rapist one time and then it clicked. She knows I talk to this guy and has said not to worry about it when it got brought up one time but I didn't even know rape happened until just now. She could have just been saying that not to cause friction or cause she might have felt...
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>>17276771
Don't do anything. It's none of your business and the ship has been sailing smoothly before you found out what happened and now it's not your place to start rocking the boat.
>>17276778
It just feels really fucking awkward whenever I'm near or talk to either of them. How do i get over that?
>>17276771
Very slowly back out of the friendship with the guy.
>Be me, in first year of uni
>Complete autistic sperg until recently
>Somehow make friends, considered lady's man and all this bs
>Get really popular, people outside of campus know me
>This one cunt ex who broke my heart (uncomfirmed but adamant she cheated)prior hits me up on facebook probably because I'm popular now
I want to humiliate this bitch, gimme ideas please and thanks
>>17276731
Do you want people to see what a horrible, vindictive person you are or something?
Success is the best revenge
>>17276743
Yeah this. Revenge can just be a side plot, keep it in the back of your mind until something comes up. It's not even important.
Just fully max out your potential meanwhile.
I need you to roast me specifically for being traumatized over what some useless Neckbeard said like months ago. Knock me down a few pegs, don't go overboard.
I don't need to because you're already doing it to yourself.
>mean words and insults
>traumatizing
You're mentally and emotionally a child if words can traumatize you. You don't even deserve the influx of insults and 4chan-tier mockery. Harden the fuck up.
>>17276725
What did he say?
im desperate /adv/ how do i stop getting so angry at stupid shit like video games?
friends do taunt me occasionally so im sure that has something to do with it
git gud or start fapping. or both
You will never not see a setback. Pros still get shot or killed in games.
Why fuss over it?
>>17276714
I bet you type "omg u hacker" whenever you get fragged.
Get over it or get off the video games and go to gym/work.
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
I had a dream that I should move to Milwaukee. I know nothing about Milwaukee.
Should I do it? Pros? Cons?
>>17276673
Only if you live far away from Milwaukee.
>>17276673
It's soggy and cold, smells like beer and has a lot of niggers.
My boyfriend does a few habits that kinda irk me, like letting his wrists limp when he lifts his arms up and keep it close to his side and bunches his knees and arms together when sitting. He puts his hands in between his legs too. Sometimes when I see him do these things I can't help but see him as a wuss or pansy. Is this normal for guys to do or am I just looking too much into this?
Standards
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Your boyfriend has effeminate habits. That's okay. If it bothers you, communicate this to him instead of us. If you don't want to hurt his feelings, if he's overemotional, then maybe he doesn't possess the masculinity you're looking for. Maybe you love him in spite of it, he recognizes his behavior irks you, and changes. Not for himself, but you. Because you asked him to. He's not man enough.
I'm glad that's the most of your problems. You've never had your home burned down. Never known the fear of being robbed. Your life, your...
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>>17276659
Trust me. You do a few things that irk him too.
I'm a UK guy who fell in love with a BPD, schizophrenic girl who lives in the US. She constantly hears voices and is on a massive regime of drugs. We have known eachother half a year and we started off talking while we were in relationships. She is a little girl submissive and had a Daddy Dom. She kicked him out after professing her love to me and for a few months we have been happy and planning meeting and a life. I have taken on the role of her Daddy. I plan her days, her outfits, her meals, when we play.
For the last few months she has spent all her time at work...
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Millions of healthy chicks in the world....
>>17276652
You know, you don't even deserve advice, OP. You want to get into a LDR with someone who is schizophrenic, has BPD and hears voices and expected things to go smoothly?
>Help me /adv/ something went wrong with this scenario
No way, really?
>be britbong
>dating BPD schizophrenic girl
>who lives in the US
Stop being 16 and get a fucking grip
>want to be with people when I'm alone
>want to be alone when I'm witch people
what the fuck is this
it's messing with my mind
get me off this fucking ride
u gotta figure out what u want and stuff. like really everyone needs company every now and then you just have to sort out some inner feelings. maybe ask yourself, what is it on your mind preventing you from enjoying the company of others? maybe you have some unresolved deeper emotional issues, maybe you don't trust others because of past experience. that needs to be confronted
>>17276647
That's normal for middle schoolers.
>>17276665
what am I missing to stop being /middleschooltier/
>>17276658
a big majority of it is that I can't feel anything toward the people I hang out with
probably have to sort that out
