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Hey /adv/,
How bad did this go?
I had met this girl years ago in high school, and we met each other while out drinking on Saturday night. We spent almost all night heavily making out, and she told me to ask her out the next day.
>pic related
I'm not overthinking it when I say that it didn't go too well am I?
Ask her out next week after her exam.
If she still avoids, move on.
>>17276677
This.
>>17276626
Dude she has exams to study for. If she were trying to ditch you she wouldn't have answered "yes!!!!" when you said you'd hit her up again later
Gf and I fucked without condom, but i didnt cum inside her. her period isnt known to be late, but it is a few days late, and shes worried because she doesnt feel it coming like she usually does. she has previously taken the plan b pill so i was thinking that may have thrown it off. Advice?
Relax.
>>17276607
if she's on birth control, you're probably ok
If she took bc <48hrs after sex, you're probably ok
If neither applies, I would be concerned
Plan b messes with your cycle so that's probably why it's late. She should go ahead and take a pregnancy test just to be sure, though. And she might want to start thinking about birth control, since y'all are too dumb to use a condom.
i'm having trouble breaking up with my bf for a few reasons
>has my nudes
>has anger issues and tendency to be violent (has never been angry/violent with me though)
>suffers from depression; will abuse alcohol and drugs if it gets bad enough
>depends on my support a lot
>i'm already integrated with his family and friends
i don't know what to do, he loves me so much and has technically never did any wrong to me, and keeps telling me that i'm the reason why he keeps trying in his life.
and to be honest, he does make me very happy. he is extremely considerate of me and hasn't directed his anger at me yet... though i saw glimpses of it when i didn't get his jokes or if i try to offer advice. i just feel like i have to be on my best behaviour at all times, but i feel even my best isn't enough sometimes.
at the same time, when i saw him chimp out because the tv remote wasn't working and screaming at his dog for licking itself, i just felt afraid of him and felt like he's not the person i want to be with for the rest of my life. also, he got in a physical fight with his co-worker last friday for chirping at him... he told me he was trying to stop his violent behavior, but i don't think some name-calling should get a throw down... plus the guy was obviously stupidly drunk.
his family and friends love me because i make him so happy and his behaviour improved a lot... they were worried he was going to drink himself stupid and kill himself with his drugs. i feel like they also kind of depend on me and will blame me if he hurts himself.
how can i break up with him safely? or is there any way i can word this so he could understand?
pic kind of related, what i want to avoid in the future lol
Whatever you do, do it in a public place for your safety.
>>17276617
i was thinking of doing it over text once i move to my new place in about a month... is that bad?
he and i are already kind of in a long distance relationship, i will have a harder time going back home if i go to his town after a break up... and he will be angry as hell to be brought to where i live just to be broken up with...
>>17276604
>is that bad?
There's not gonna be a good way to do it with this guy.
How do I tell if a guy is good in bed or not? Is there like some visual cues or some way to tell beforehand? Trying to weasel off a guy you're already invested in is a nightmare and I don't want to do that again.
you are a cunt
If this is bait, you're a whore.
If this is not bait, you're a whore.
you will literally never know
Hi /adv/.
Today I came home and found a note on my apartment door informing me that I was two months late on rent. It was handwritten by my landlord. The shit of it is that I know that I'm not - I even physically handed my landlord my last check and have obsessively made sure every check I write him has been cashed.
I went to talk to him today, but there was a note on the door with a phone number to call for emergencies. So I didn't contact him (figuring something must have come up, I didn't want to ring him if say, his mom was in the hospital or something) but now I'm stressing that I'm going to come home tomorrow to find my stuff gone or sold off or something.
I printed out the copies of the past two months rent checks from my bank, and both have his little stamp from the apartment complex. I plan on talking to him immediately after work tomorrow, and maybe calling during my break at 9AM to let him know I am not negligent on my rent.
Am I going about this the right way? I feel so blindsided by this, nothing was ever mentioned or said to me when I talked to him face to face, and the checks are being cashed, so if that money isn't going towards MY rent, I'd really like to know what the hell is happening with it.
Has anybody ever had this happen before? I'm really freaking out about it.
>>17276521
he's only human, maybe he put the notice on the wrong door or perhaps he has someone living with him that stole the checks.
>>17276547
Well the notice wasn't on the wrong door. My apartment number is very clearly written on it.
I'm just worried because I know when a tenant gets evicted or moves out, if anything is left in the apartment, he sells it and gives it to other tenants. I've only lived here since February, and have never had any other apartment. The thought of coming home to him going through my stuff or getting rid of it terrifies me.
I didn't get an eviction notice or anything, but I'm not sure if he could be like "oh well, anon hasn't paid me and I put a notice up on their door yesterday, so...time to kick them out!"
I know I'm probably over-thinking it, but still.
>>17276567
>I know when a tenant gets evicted or moves out, if anything is left in the apartment, he sells it and gives it to other tenants.
This is completely illegal, unless we're talking about the tenant just abandoning his belongings and not attempting to retrieve them within a certain period of time.
This girl is going to send me to jail. What do I do?
>Me 25 M
>Get integrated into this whole existing friend group, almost all of them women
>Through them get a lot of new friends, again mostly women
>This one girl is super flirty with me, is exactly my type, has a killer body and is very pretty
>Problem is she's just barely a minor
>Damn
>Months pass and it's her birthday
>I text her, "Hey, what's it like to be 18?"
>She responds, "Ask me in a year."
>Try to move on because obviously, but keep comparing women to her
>would be almost 30 before I can date her without it being creepy
So what the HELL do I do about this?
pic related is how I feel
If she'd be interested and you can make her happy I don't see why not. You can still date, just don't do anything sexual and you should be fine.
>>17276518
What state are you in OP? Could be legal
>>17276518
>would be almost 30 before I can date her without it being creepy
is she 10? what the fuck?
I lost my father 2 years ago in January to Cancer. I was 18 at the time. It's cliche, and I didn't really understand the meaning of the cliche until he died, but he really was like superman. Any time I needed help with anything, I knew if I went to him everything would be okay. He was in the millitary for over 5 years, and taught me and my older brother lots, and was an amazing story teller.
I still haven't accepted losing him. I logically know everything, but its like no matter what I say to myself, I end up sitting the corner of my room on my laptop playing whatever I can to feed my escapist tendencies.
The littlest things make me throw a tantrum now. I used to be proud of myself as a disciplined man, who kept a cool head, and now even if it's something small like hearing the mention of the word father I freak out. Or if anybody is even slightly critical of me, I shut down.
I think I probably need to see some kind of psychologist or counselor, but I've always been very prideful, like my father was. I can't bring myself to ask for help or admit how much this is destroying me to anybody in person. I tried seeing a therapist once and I just basically sat there and made jokes the entire time because I couldn't talk about my feelings. Every time I tried to talk about my feelings it was like my throat closed in on itself.
Somebody help me. I don't know what I don't know, maybe there's an alternative or something. Please.
reply somebody damnit, there's a million dating threads a night.
hang out with your brother and talk to your brother about it if you can. Spending more time with your family and talking to them about your father if you're close enough is a great idea. A really-really-close-person-that-I-super-value's father died last year (to a disease I believe). and when they started spending more time with their brothers and cousins they started to get better, with conversations here and there.
>>17276702
Thanks for the advice. Unfortunately I don't really get along with my brother, and we've never connected the way most siblings seem to, so that doesn't seem like an option.
I've never really connected with any of my family.
since i quit school, i dont have any contact with other humans i dont have gf or friends, in all day i say only 4 or 5 words cause i have no one to talk, i go outside occasionally to buy things, sometimes i wish have friends and meet people, but i remember im not made for that and i feel bad,i just wanted to say that /adv
>since I quit school
Funny you say that, I feel the same way, yet I have a job and full-time school. I am still a social outcast
>>17276488
no one is made for socializing, it's a skill you have to learn and improve on
>>17276818
>no one is made for socailsing
what the fuck are you on about?
How do you know if you're a lesbian?
Porn doesn't really do anything to me either way, I get maybe mildly wet whether it's a guy or girl, but I can never get masturbation done either way.
If you constantly cut your hair short and cant go 5 minutes without talking politics or how much you hate men. Then youre a lesbian.
>>17276497
What counts as politics?
>the "what kind of snowflake am I guys?"-thread
So 2 days ago I shaved my pubic hair while I was taking a hot shower. I think the drain is backed up or something. Ok, it is backed up. Have you ever made this mistake and how do you fix it?
Pic related lets you pull the hair out and it's cheap. I think there's also a chemical you can pour down the drain to dissolve it
>>17276480
Pipe snake
Drano
http://zipitclean.com/
I swear by these things, man. Cheap, easy, ludicrously effective, and not bad material for making shock sites. I do recommend double-bagging the bezoar you pull out of the drain, though (not so much because of the bezoar itself as the strip: those things are sharp).
For all of those who got bullied in kid years, some fags are partying at my house. (Younger brother) They invited some kid just to make fun of him and bully the shit out of him. Help OP get back at these fags. OP is thinking of something online, nothing physical, what is plan? Okay, fag bro having gay teenparty, how do I get their info from wifi connect?
Just hook them in the jaw.
>>17276477
OP here, kind of pussyfag, they are all stronger than me.
>>17276486
Go out and party only with poor kid being bullied, make him feel king and get good comeback at all the other kids who try to humiliate him etc.
Get lil kid on your team and bully the shit out of anyone who tries to bully him, no violence necessary.
After masturbating I become complacent and lose the motivation to pursue women for a few days and overall don't feel a lot of sexual urges driving me, but when I don't masturbate I feel like I'm going crazy, I feel the urge to just tear the clothes off the next attractive women that walks by and take her right there in the street (I would obviously never do this since I have self control and some modicum of humanity and decency). The problem here is that there is no middle ground. If I masturbate I'm lax and don't care about pursuing sex and feel lonely, and if I don't then I become a thirsty motherfucker. Either way I think it shows in my behaviour a bit and it's pushing women away. What the heck and I supposed to do in this situation?
Nofap
>>17276451
That's clearly not working at the moment. There has got to be some way to be motivated and radiate the confidence and sexual energy that comes with abstaining from fapping without becoming thirsty AF.
>>17276571
You aren't doing it for long enough.
Yes, for a short period after you start nofap, you're going to have heightened sexual urges, but these will diminish back to normal levels after a period.
Just chill, dawg.
I stole a bunch of prepaid mastercards and was wondering how to activate them myself. I am desperate for money at the moment I'm leaving for a paid trip but I have no pocket money I just need to find a way to activate all these cards and put them into my paypal I need around 1500
And if you know any other ways to make a quick 1500 in a couple days let m know I also thought about stealing phones from people but I don't wanna fuck people over is rather just shoplift at Walmart or something and sell electronics stolen there at a pawnshop or Kijijji
If this is the wrong place for this tell me which board I should post to
I might just steal phones and sell online I can't shoplift to spooky
Are you a nigger or a spic?
Hey people, first time posting on /adv/
I'm with a girl for about 3 years now, living at her place. She loves me more than I do, here are the reasons:
1) I don't think she's really pretty now, I always stare at other girls at the street who are more beautiful and miss the opportunity to talk with whoever I want, to hangout with whoever I want
2) She gained weight after a year of relationship, she has gym membership for last two years but never goes there. I can't fucking stand cellulite and she has it, also a flat ass. We've been talking about this and she was promising me for two years now that she will lose weight but nothing changed and I guess it will not. We had something like a small fight, she told: "I don't want to go to the gym, I'm not in the mood. If you don't like something go find someone else". Should I?
3) She's not interested in anything, all she does is scrolling social networks, buying shitty clothes, just doing nothing. I've always came up with some ideas: wanted to help her to learn foreign language, wanted to learn to code together, wanted to teach her to write music. She doesn't want anything.
Now after we both have finished university, we thought about moving to bigger city for work.She doens't know anything useful and has no valuable skills to get a good job. But I don't want her to go with me. I don't feel attracted, I don't want to have sex with her. I don't want her to be with my anymore I guess. I'm I a bad person for keeping this relationship alive? Thank you.
picrandom
>I don't want her to be with me anymore I guess
Judging by everything you're saying you're 100% not fully in love with this girl and that sentence alone should be incentive to end it.
Sit her down, honesty is the only way.
Do you even lift bro?
The reason I ask is because maybe if she saw you become fit (assuming you're not) she would feel bad about herself and want to work out too (also assuming that her working out would fix your attraction issue).
I wouldn't say you're a bad person, you're just a person. People get "stuck" in shitty relationships all the time. You've realized there's an issue and there's probably no fixing it. Stop wasting both of your time and just end it. You'll both be happier in the long run.
So my new co-worker is a total chad who is actually pretty cool. He was asking me about who I had been fucking recently, and I told him I'm a virgin. Now he is hellbent to get me laid at a party sometime.
Here is my issue.
>I'm kind of socially retarded, never been to a party. Not robot tier, but cyborg or failed normie at minimum
>not horrible looking
>0 self esteem
And the icing on the cake is that I actually don't want to get laid. It is very unappealing to me. I've gotten a couple blowjobs from my only gf, but that ended about a year ago. It was meh. I jerk off all the time, but the idea of actual intercourse is honestly repelling. What's wrong with me? It's hard to get a boner, and I know I'm not gay. I haven't realized how little I care about sex until now. I don't know what I'm supposed to tell worker bro? I don't want him to net a grill for me and then have me just say "no thanks", but I honestly don't know what's wrong with me.
tl;dr don't know how to communicate the fact that I may or not be asexual without sounding like a faggot.
Bonus points to anyone who also tell me what I'm supposed to do at a party.
>>17276311
>>I'm kind of socially retarded, never been to a party. Not robot tier, but cyborg or failed normie at minimum
>>not horrible looking
>>0 self esteem
Given that your chad friend seems like a bro-tier dude, just ask him for advice
If it doesn't work the first time, alright, you'll always have a second chance.
>>17276311
Wow I wish I had a Chad friend that would try to get me laid.
You should just go with the flow on this one. Of course it will be awkward since it's your first time but gotta get over it and you may like it after
it sounds more like you may or may not have some intimacy issues that are stemming from your social anxiety and self esteem issues.
I was the same way, thought I was asexual for the longest time but it didn't make sense because I was still attracted to other people.
Just as soon as the thought of sex came up I'd freak out.
But yeah, you're going to always have issues with this if you don't learn to overcome your social anxiety and issues stemming from your self esteem.
Take him up on his offer to go out, have fun and don't think too heavily. You don't have to actually have sex with any of the girls he throws your way.
Work slowly, talk with people that work at grocery stores or retail to get more experience. Then slowly start talking to other people.
