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>dated my housemates best friend (mistake, I know)
>things are semi long distance but it seems to be working
>out of the blue, for reasons unknown she breaks up with me over the phone
>whatever, start no contact and remove her from social media
>few times after breakup she drunk texted me that she wants to be friends, ignore all
>about 2 months after breakup, she messages me on my birthday, stupidly have a conversation with her
>she messages me a couple of times a few days later until I make it clear that I don't want to talk to her
>2 months later (now) she's moving to my city
>some friends hang out with her, don't really care
>she starts messaging with some dumb shit again, multiple times eg 'do you want your sweater back' 'im not going to x event I said I was' etc
>she even invites me to her housewarming party that some friends will be at
What's her deal? And how do I deal with this situation without losing all of my friends
Considering just getting new ones
This could be a lot worse. You could just hang out with your friends without her? Why would you lose your friends over this? Who's making them choose sides?
But also, dude, let go of your anger. I know it sucks to be dropped, but harbor in resentment unnecessarily sucks more, and you're doing that one to yourself.
>>17277804
*harboring resentment
>>17277804
Yeah better to be a beta cuck who puts himself in uncomfortable situations amirite
I fucked up.
>parents are Americans
>have never told me because I never asked
>turns out I'm first generation Australian
>sitting at dinner, whole family is in lounge-room watching tv
>little brother even bothered driving over to parents place to see us
>parents talking shit about me not leaving home before younger brother
>I go on a rant how American TV has brainwashed them into thinking it's right for children to be kicked out of the house
>they bring up that I'm 26
>lose my shit
>throw food at them and tell them to get fucked
>tell them if they like American ideas so much to fuck off to America
>they said they were thinking about it and that's why they invited my little brother over
>they're thinking of moving back to take care of their old wrinkle ass parents
>they need to sell this house to do so
>they were going to give me some of the money from the house so I can survive but now don't care at all
>they think this will be a valuable life lesson
>ask brother if I can live with him
>he just laughs at me
I don't have any friends IRL and I have no job, and the house is in a pretty desirable area and will sell in a month or so. How do I get a job that will pay enough for me to not end up on the street?
Do they shit their pants in public?
You sound like a real winner.
>>17277724
Your 26 and sperg out at your parents, and somehow never knew your grandparents lived in America?
This is low tier bait, even for you Australia.
Damn I'm disappointed why could you be like the Canadian Muslims turk talking about how good sjw and feminism is.
Take a pointer straya, you've been thrown off the shit throne.
I was addicted to porn however in a long battle I got porn substituted by a platonic love in which I only masturbated to her.
Slooowly I got my ejaculation disorder healed and started feeling a lot better.
The problem starts here:
Platonic love has started to eaten myself like porn did. I cannot stop thinking about her. It generates a lot of anxiety knowing it is almost imposible for me to get her.
At the beginning the idea that I could get her even at the most significant posibility was a healing idea that pushed me throught my day to do things.
But now this all has turned upside down, the idea that I could ever meet her and even don't know how to react, all my insecurities started attacking my platonic love turning it into a source of anxiety.
I cannot even eat properly like in my porn addicted times if I start thinking about her I just cannot continue eating.
Even at work I am starting to feel I cannot concentrate.
Please help me someone how to proceed I want to love her like the old times, because HOW CAN I DROP HER WHEN SHE WAS MY SALVATION OF PORN.
I CANNOT LET MYSELF DROP HER.
Please Help
>>17277684
>her
>her
>her
>her
You could stop being a gigantic beta faggot
>>17277685
How should I proceed? Are you saying I should drop her?
>>17277684
If you build your life around any girl, you are going to end up very fucking unhappy.
As far as "addicted to porn," nigger please. If I stood by you with a cattle prod and branded you each time you searched, you'd stop.
you get addicted to heroin, not porn. As far as GF...you're born alone, you die alone. you live in Spain. Get a fun hobby. Steroids are legal there, find a fun gym.
Can a normalfag guy or any guy like a girl who is nearly autistic or ocd about her interests? I don't remember any people ever liking that thing about me, so i usually never bring it up and behave normally.
Is it bad i have this trait defining me? I've been like that since preschool.
>>17277654
Ya, I would be down, charmed even, but I'm only really a normalfag pubicly/externally. In private, I'm fairly ocd about my interests as well.
>>17277654
Shut up, cunt.
>>17277654
how autistic/ocd are we talking about here? give some examples
I'm 18 years old about to start my senior year of high school. I'm a kissless virgin who is too awkward for the normal people and too mature for the weird people. My main problem is crazy social anxiety. How do I get over this and learn to talk to girls? How do I meet new girls? Is it possible for me to get laid? Pic unrelated.
What happens when you talk to girls? Do you spazz out or something?
>>17277608
Pretty much, I just get nervous around girls I like/find attractive. Think Michael Cera.
Two ideas for you OP:
1. Go fuck an escort/hooker. Find one on AdultWork in your area with a good reputation that'll provide you with a good experience. This should hopefully get the pussy off the pedestal, and you'll lose some of your anxiety from interacting with women.
2. Imagine that the females you talk to her actually dudes. Don't treat the interaction like if you fuck it up you'll never get to fuck her. Chances are 99.9% of the time, the female you're talking to isn't going to want to fuck you anyway, so just focus on making friends. Use the FORD framework to talk to people, Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams.
To be completely honest, women enjoy it when you ask them a lot of questions; and make it seem like you're interested. If you feel like you don't have anything to say, ask them something.
What's the worst that could happen?
Is it too late to get out of the friend zone when she calls you her "best friend forever" like do I just accept this or what?
>>17277567
You're not friend zoned until you've been rejected.
Go for it desu.
There is no such thing as the friend zone.
There is only rejection.
>>17277567
work on your neck muscles to make you look more dominant
it works srs as fuck
I was with someone for 5 years. We lived together for 4 of those years. We talked every day, laughed, learned from and supported each other, had great sex.
Six months ago, she told me she wasn't happy anymore. She immediately left the house to go have sex with someone else; I later found out she had been setting it up for weeks, waiting for the right time to end the relationship. Then, in the following days while I looked for a new place to live, she begged me to go out for the night so she could have a guy over. I hadn't even packed yet. I can't even describe how much it hurt to hear her ask me that. Not that I'm bothered that she will fuck other people, but that she seemed so totally over it, and had no regard for my feelings at all. We bought the bed and all the furniture together. What the fuck happened?
This is the first time in six months I've collected my thoughts about it. It's just been streaks of misery and suicidal thoughts. Not just because I lost my best friend, but I let my life dissolve around that relationship, and came out with nothing. I slept in my car for a few weeks, then I got in an accident and totaled the car.
Now I live with my mom again. I quit my job because of how far it was. And to be honest I couldn't get out of bed. I still have trouble with that.
I don't know what I want from you guys. I just keep struggling with these feelings of worthlessness or apathy at best. I don't know what I want to do. All I've done for months is play video games and sleep.
I don't think I can ever be in a relationship again. I've had messy breakups in the past, but this was by far the most brutal soul shredding anything I've experienced.
There's nothing to do than to give your best to deal with it. When something as terrible as this happens, then it's normal for people to feel terrible about it and to take a long time to deal with it. Try to do small positive things, to contact people, to find someone to talk to again and to be open with. If you're in a slump for such a long time, it can be good to seek out therapy in order to deal with your negative feelings and get back on your feet again. Ultimately, if you hold on and try your best to find purpose and an emotional equilibrium again, you will be alright.
Take "TheRedPill"
>>17277548
Try to come to terms with yourself. Humans are going to be humans. We are all just animals with a facade of decency, which always melts away at some point.
Don't blame yourself for it OP. It happened, there is nothings else you can do about it. Use this as an oppertunity to work on yourself and focus on how you can be happy by yourself. Don't start with anything big, just do small things.
Good luck on the recovery/getting out of the depression
Hi /adv/! So, I'm turning 19 in 2 months and my parents finally allowed me to get tattoos! Thing is, I want some on my back and chest area, since my work doesn't allow me to have any tattoos showing. I need ideas for tattoos with some meaning, pic related.
>>17277540
Get the one in your pic related.
It's has about as much mean to you as any other suggestion we will make.
belly tattoo.
When I woke up this morning I could see trails of movement. It did not last more than 5/10 mins of waking up, but it still freaked me out a bit. Is this simply because I was verry tired? Or something else?
>>17277536
Do you drink?
>>17277536
You probably slept in a bad position that restricted blood flow.
>>17277539
Not last night. Had a J before bed though.
How to stop having feelings for my friend?
>>17277533
So you want to stop being friends with them and just have a neutral emotionless connection with them?
Probably some medication out there that could do that.
>>17277554
Not really, rather I just wish I could be content with the friendship I have with her and not have to experience the inevitable soul crushing that's going to occur when she does eventually get a boyfriend herself.
But I doubt that's possible so I'll look into these meds.
Meds are sort of like those engine oil and gasoline additives that claim to clean your engine, repair blown gaskets, and clean your injectors.
Yeah, we want them to be true, and sometimes they appear to work, but deep down inside we know that they're all a crock of shit.
This is such a stupidly simple problem, and drugs is the first thing you hop on? You're hopeless.
Understand that your experience is entirely subjective, OP. It's not that you can't change, it's that you don't want to change. Deep down inside, you're holding some hope that you will be able to get together with her. Resolve that.
My girlfriend wants me to dominate her hard.
We have cuffs, a collar, a leash, a mask and a ball-gag.
I have no idea what to do though. Any advice?
>>17277530
Just tie her up during sex and call her degrading shit. Maybe rape roleplay
https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/13tu08/my_howto_guide_for_men_on_how_to_dominate_a_woman/
whats most important is you do what you want to do to her. You gotta have the mindset that its about you and what you want not her.
>make her eat your asshole
>fart in her face.
/adv/, I'm going to change my surname by deed poll to my grandfather's (never met real father and my grandfather only had a daughter, my mum, so I feel he'd be happy with me continuing the name for him)
However, I only intend to use the new surname professionally (and for bills, legal documents etc), and keep my original surname socially
I've thought of the following reasons and considerations, and don't really see any issues, but I was wondering if you guys, as a third party, can see something I'm missing
Pros:
>I'm a medfag and this makes it more difficult for patients and their family to find me on social media (I've had to deal with friend requests before)
>People I meet/know socially can still find me on social media
>Virtually all my friends call me by my current surname. No need to change this
>My current surname is actually pretty cool (certainly unique), and I won't have to drop it completely
>Perfectly legal to do so long as I don't use it to commit fraud
Cons:
>People who I'm not involved with professionally, should they attempt to, won't be able to identify me on the medical register (patients and their family still will as I'll use my registered name at work)
>Should people find documents in my new name, they'll probably think I'm a bit odd or have something to hide
>Awkward explanation to fellow colleagues whom I also know socially
>Awkward explanation to any future partners
Sounds worth it to me, I very much doubt anyone will find it strange, your story of taking up your grandfather's name isn't awkward or weird, I would think you a noble man for doing something like that. Do it OP.
Keep your current last name as a middle name. Solves most of your problems. I know heaps of people who go by their middle name instead of their last name, and most of my mates know me as "Firstname middlename", not "firstname lastname"
All or nothing. This wishy washy bullshit does not pay tribute to your family.
Should I watch Evangelion with the 5.1 audio or Stereo audio with headphones?
Now this is the kind of thing /adv/ was made for!
Surround, baby. Always Surround.
>>17277450
Use whatever format is optimized for your particular A/V setup. If you've got a 5.1 setup, use 5.1 audio. If you've got stereo, use that. Headphones are stereo, so if this is a queation about what to use with headphones, stereo is the answer.
>>17277450
5.1, idiot. Surround sound is better.
So, I had a fleeting interest in cuckold porn and told my gf about it while we were discussing our fetishes. At first she thought that I fantasized about being the bull, but then it was made clear that I fantasized about being the cuck. Since then, I realized that I'm not actually into cuck porn (it sorta disgusts me actually tbqh) and that I spoke prematurely, so now I'm ashamed /regretful about what I said and want to undo it so that she doesn't think less of me. Should I say:
>A) I was joking
>B) I was testing her
>C) I realized I don't actually like it (the truth)
>D) I realized that I actually fantasize about being the bull
>E) Nothing. Never speak of it again.
>>17277415
either tell her u changed ur mind OH MAN BIG DEAL
or
wait for it to be brought up again
>hey babe i wanted to present you with this special treat for our anniversary, a video if you will, it's me and chad having some fun, i knew you'd like it! ;)
>>17277430
Thanks, man. That's what I suspected. Honesty truly is the best policy in these situations I guess.
>>17277415
C
Being in a constant state of simultaneous arousal and disgust with your own sexual proclivities is a hallmark of the male experience. Its only a big a deal as you make it.
Okay /adv/, so I have a thing for older women (I'm 24), but I've never been taken seriously by them because I'm either too young, or they have moral issues with it. I'm fairly attractive (no trouble attracting cute girls my own age) and I can tell some of these older women entertain the idea, but everytime I meet a milf and try to go for them, they're too afraid or think I'm "just being cute". I started a page on CL detailing all this and have had several replies from the type of women I'm seeking, but most of them are constantly asking me to start accounts on sketchy ass sites that ask for my credit card number and shit.
Has anyone here ever went to CL for this type of thing? Any young anons that have tried approaching Cougars/milfs?
>>17277410
OP here. I kinda just want to know what steps to take as far as CL. Every woman so far has linked me to a site that asks for my cc number, and they say it's free or just $1 to confirm I'm not some creep or serial killer, which makes sense, but I'm not about to give out any info or do any transactions for something like this, unless one of you has already been through this. Help
>>17277424
Idk anything about this but those all sound like scams.
>>17277424
That's a scam, and you're a dumbass for even considering that.
