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Figure I'd type in an anon board because why tf not?
I want to move states but my job isn't giving me much work hours and I don't have a stable home to move to. I don't have a college degree and I have a 6 yr old. No family whatsoever and I'm at my wits end.
How fucked am I, 4Chan? What do?
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Why do you want to move to another state? And from where to where?
Do you have savings? You need to have savings if you're going to move.
What do you do for work? Can you line up a job before you move over?
>>17280632
Cali to Oregon or Washington. Don't want to go to the bible belt and I'm unsure of the midwest. Don't want to leave the ocean. I feel like there's nothing here for me but bad memories. I have to find out why I'm not advancing much.
How do i get over a broken heart? Please give me advice. For the first time in my life i actually cant deal with something. this is /adv right? help me. She told me she loved me and i believed her
>>17280582
Heartbreak sucks, at least you were able to love someone. Just because she wanted out doesn't mean you did something wrong; some women are just heartless and selfish.
One way to get over it is to go for a cheap hookup, to get your mind off of it temporarily. Or if that isn't your thing, get on some dating sites and get right back on the horse. New relationships always come with that new "fire" that will always remove the last one you had
Women can seriously mess with your head. Time...
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>>17280582
People like to pretend they like you, or even love you. Take your time to heal, because heartbreak hurts like a motherfucker. That's all I can say. There's no specific guideline or "DIY Getting Over Heartbreak." It's something you have to do for yourself. Whether or not you choose the high road or the low road is up to you.
The old saying "time heals all wounds" is true. You feel like crap now because the wound is fresh, but it will heal, probably with a faint scar, but you won't be bleeding for life.
Talk to your best friend, sibling, parent, someone who you can ramble to without judgement. Get every emotion out. Then, accept that it is truly over and do everything you can to focus on other things in your life. Do not talk to her. Do not try to get her back. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. Spend time with your friends, dive into your hobbies, talk about the pain when...
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I have a serious problem that usually ruins my relationships with girls.
I cannot stand seeing a girl I'm talking to talk to another guy. I realize this is pretty fucked but I just can't stand it. I literally get sick--even if the guy is "just a friend."
What's even worse is that I have no problem hooking up with other girls while I talk to someone. Yeah I'm quite the hypocrite.
Any tips on how to not be so controlling or to be more trustworthy?
Imagine how big of an asshole a woman would be if she got pissed at you for simply talking to other women.
Don't be that asshole
>>17280616
not OP but i would find this flattering tbqh
>>17280579
You've got issues there dude
If you can cheat, but are possessive, you are being extremely selfish
It's easier to trust shy girls - ones who look away when you stare at them. Most likely they will be loyal and can be trusted with "a friend" - especially if they are a punk
If you are keeping the forward/outgoing ones, you might have to learn to share
My experience is that if you are cheating, you will end up dating women who are cheaters; it's like the pool you...
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This is my first YouTube video I would like to have opinions on it and advice on what to do to improve on my content
https://youtu.be/PGD2Yxp8jR8
I don't know if this is bait but you need to get a better microphone, I could barely hear your voice without turning up really loud, speak to be understood, articulate your point and don't leave big gaps of silence
>>17280594
It's not bait. I was generally looking for advice. Thank you. I will try to find one better.
I think if you're going to stick with playing games while discussing unrelated topics, you should at least be original and play different games. Not necessarily a different game every video but spice it up a bit; play games that aren't as popular. Watching somebody play Generic FPS 2016 That Every Other Content Creator is Playing gets boring.
Please tell me your opinion on how I handled this, because I feel like shit and need to come to terms. Was I justified or was I an asshole?
I had a phone interview today, a pre screening with a human resources recruiter. I applied for this position a month ago, and by now I've already accepted a job offer at another company.
But, I figured I'd ask some questions about the position, just in case it was an even better fit/offer.
The HR Lady (henceforth known as HRL) had written me two weeks prior to this for clarification on my application, asking "Do...
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I tried to ask how much the position paid and if she could describe the day to day duties in more detail, but she would only tell me "the manager can go over that with you." I do not want to waste the manager's time if the job duties and pay arent what I'm looking for, so why can't I know now? "Erm, you really don't know? You can't look it up for me?" "It is the company's policy not to reveal that information at this stage." What. The. Fuck. The last two phone interviews I've had with two other companies...
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I pointed out that this was a question that was more appropriate for managers as they handle those situations, and asked if other entry level candidates really had examples of this. She said yes, they did. She, ah, hung up on me shortly after.
So: was I an ass or was my questioning of the whole process justified?
She sounds pretty shitty, don't worry about it if you have another job lined up anyway though.
Is anyone else going through a breakup? The only woman I've ever loved it said I love you to is gone. Won't reply to my messages. I'll never see her again. I'll never kiss her again or wake up next to her again. I'm drowning it in alcohol and sending her messages that are unfair but I can stop myself. I've totally fucked up the best thing I've ever had and I don't think I'll ever get over it.
Tell me your stories so I don't feel so pathetic and alone.
>>17280493
I haven't broken up with anybody in a long time, but I remember that feel.
the first one usually hurts the worst. at least that was the case for me and for a lot of people I've talked to. it took me a year and a half to get over my first bf. the second one, it took a few months. after that it was maybe a month or two per breakup (been in 5 relationships not counting current).
but yeah I remember that first one. we were together less than a month, but when he dumped me I felt like I'd...
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>>17280493
I found out my boyfriend cheated on me. When I discovered this news I got down on my knees and prayed for the lord to ask him to protect my ex, because his ass is going to die. I didn't have to do most of the work, as he basically destroyed himself. All of his friends abandoned him, because as it turns out no one likes a cheater. A group of guys I know took it upon their selves to beat him up anytime and anywhere they saw him. He stopped leaving his house except to go to school and back. The girl he cheated...
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>>17280578
> A group of guys I know took it upon their selves to beat him up anytime and anywhere they saw him
holy shit that's terrible
lmao
/adv/, I've got a serious problem.
Throughout my entire life I've never been in love or even had anything more than a petty school crush on someone. I'm currently nineteen and studying at my local community college. I was recently introduced to the most incredible girl I've ever met and I think I've really fallen for her after a few dates. She is very into me as well, but here's where the problem comes in: she's leaving town for college in September.
Not to mention that although she is pretty much perfect for me in every way,...
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>>17280424
>I'm afraid that not only is she going to leave before we become serious, she's going to forget all about me and move on instantaneously.
This is absolutely true and you knew it from day 1. She's leaving. You cannot sustain LDRs of this nature. Don't even try. It's a fool's game at your age and with your life situation. She's embarking on a great new adventure at college, where she will be around new people and new guys who can actually be with...
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>>17280424
She will leave and move on and so should you.
Welcome to the real world.Take it like a man.
>>17280444
I know, anon. I completely agree. But this is the first girl I've EVER felt anything towards, and I really like her. It's gotten to the point where I don't feel right unless I'm spending time with her. What the fuck is happening to me? Can I do anything about it?
Okay long story short, i hooked up with this guy like 3 months ago, we were chating before that really great. After hooking up (we both aren't the type to do that) he didn't wanna talk to me before i heard from a souce it's because he thought i didn't like dogs or his dog (i have dogs myself maybe he forgot that) and things were abit awkward because i had the flu but i told him this before we hung out.
So i messaged him like a month ago, he messaged back for awhile then just stopped.
I messaged him today but one message says pending and i 'm...
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You write like an idiot. How old are you?
>>17280422
Cut me some slack it's like 5am and i haven't slept
>>17280390
Wait for reply, if it doesn't come a phone call would scream of clingyness. Then move on.
Hey /adv/, first time poster. Might take a few posts. Explaining backstory and all that.
I got to know this girl over online games about six months ago. We hit it off as friends pretty quickly. At the time, I didn't know she was a she. After getting to know her for a good while, it turned out she was suicidal. Having been someone who was in that position in the past, I did my best to talk her out of it. It took a few weeks, but I finally managed to get through to her and she managed to reconcile with a few issues at the time. Throughout her life, she has been involved...
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Now, while it might be because it seems like I'm desperate (I'm not, I didn't even believe in love until I'd met her, although I've had a few relationships, but never was affection really felt from either side, but stories for another day), I really, really wanted to make her happy. Truly happy. I wanted to make her forget all about the people who had hurt her in the past, I wanted her to feel that listening to me and surviving for even a day longer was worth it. As such, I started aiming to better myself. I told her that I had no issue with her not...
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Anyway, here's where the problem is - the hours of the job are shit, I'm treated with very little respect, and i don't get paid fuck all, but at least it's something to save with. It'll still take two years at this rate to save up enough cash to move both of us across seas (neither of us like where we live), put a deposit on a house to rent, and have enough money to survive for a few months until I can find a job elsewhere. On top of that, I've been beating myself up each and every day, wracking my brain on how I could find a better way to make...
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As such, realizing what a monster I was being, even unintentionally and not directly attacking, I've worked to better myself. I've made very, very precise care to settle my issues and insecurities, I avoid topics that could bring up stress between us (old issues, talking about subjects she knows I get heated over, etc), and we've come to the agreement that we will agree to disagree (we disagree on a lot of topics - we're almost total opposites in most regards, although we're both intelligent (or so I believe) so we both have a lot to say and can make...
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I'm seeing this girl who I actually really like. She's funny, we get along great and everything was going great until she told me that she believes white privilege is a thing and that she's a feminist.
I look at her differently now, things feel so different finding out shit like this. I don't want to do anything sexual with her anymore, too scared of false rape accusations and shit.
What do. Do I end it or keep going?
>>17280379
You will never find someone who is 100% the same as you. If you want to have fulfilling relationships, and ANY relationship at all, you have to get over peoples' personal opinions. You'd be a fucking moron to let someone good go just because they don't follow your ideology, or political party or whatever opinion it is that you hold.
You simply don't talk about it. the love you have for someone will always outweigh the opinions of that person. My hardline republican catholic father has...
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>>17280379
I say you end it - Obviously the more you get to know her, the more you don't like, ESPECIALLY if you are feeling a "accusations" vibe
Don't risk it
>>17280379
End the pain sooner rather than later. Modern feminism is a load of shit.
A lot of my friends, mainly the females honestly, are so fucking opposed to and HATE deodorant with a passion. Be ready for a 3 minute speech on harmful chemicals and ingredients, and how natural oils are healthier for you, etc.
But honestly, I cant stand the smell. Its fucking 80+ degrees outside. Ive been around it for a little over a year now, and a sharp inhale through my nose will make me gag. Even when they use those smelly Natural Body Oils, it just smells like onions and incense.
I hate to be mean to them, they are great reliable friends to me and we've...
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>>17280319
get friends who aren't stupid, or buy them all some natural deodorant like tom's or some of those deodorant crystals and give it to them. they'll probably be insulted and you'll have to look for new friends anyway, but at least you won't have to smell them anymore.
are you going to art school or something? I'm trying to rack my brain to think of where you could possibly be, where you'd run into that many people who don't use deodorant. I have several friends who are...
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>>17280319
That sounds a little odd; I wouldn't think they would want to smell bad
Maybe say after 30 seconds when you see them, "what is that smell" like innocently, and then the topic will be introduced, and go from there
>>17280357
Im in College yes, and suprisingly in Milwaukee. A lot of people for some reason are taking the whole healing gems, rocks, no-shaving, body oil shit very seriously for whatever fuck reason. I hate trends.
>>17280360
They are well aware they smell. 'ITS NATURAL OH MY GOD YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT' is usually the immediate comeback
How risky is it to bring an eight of weed with you on a 8 hour road trip?
>>17280291
Where are you going to be driving through?
Will you be smoking during the drive?
How old are you? What do you look like?
What kind of car are you driving?
>>17280337
Well I was just wondering if there's some crazy offense for traveling with 2-3 grams
>>17280341
You answered none of his questions
You seem like those boring '24/7 stoned' husks of a human being
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I'm 27 and never learned how to drive before. How do I go about learning how to drive and getting my DL in California? I don't have any friends or family to practice with in their car.
Also: How do insurance rates look like for new drivers who are older than normal?
there are driving instructors, but expect it to be expensive. I took a few lessons because I wanted to learn stick and it was $60-70 per hour IIRC
>>17280296
Is it less if I just learn automatic first, and show up at the driving school rather than them coming to me?
How much training is necessary to pass the driving test and be competent driver?
Also for written test, is that something you need to take a course for or you can just look up the info on DMV website? Lots of places offer "Driver's ED" classes but not sure if its necessary or something I can learn on my own beforehand, unlike actual driving.
>>17280296
Depends on where you live, I think it was only $55 a lesson where I live. Definitely gets expensive though, and if you need to borrow a car for the test, they may charge you another lesson's fee for that too.
So after months of games and volatility I had enough. Blocked her and started to work on myself. Two days later she sends me a WhatsApp message telling me she misses me. I pretty much let her have it, made her understand she played too many games and led me on. She seemed sincerely sorry and was very forthright about her intimacy issues. She says she wants to be JUST friends. No flirting, no nothing. I told her if I decide to do it she can't walk away and if she does, it's definitely over.
It's a little difficult for me because I liked this girl quite...
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>>17280274
Sounds dangerous.
just do it you fag
/thread
>>17280626
Care to elaborate Monsieur
How does one fake confidence?
You don't, that's like asking how do you fake lift a lot of weight. As soon as you have to use it you will crumble.
>>17280248
Confidence comes when you dont give a shit what other people think
If you are confident in your thoughts and feelings, and someone else tries to clown you, diffuse it; say " i guess you and me are different" and bring up a new unrelated topic
>>17280253
then explain the whole "fake it till you make it"
