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What clubs or spots on an American college campus am I more likely to meet innocent girls? I'm pretty conservative and am against drugs, alcohol, and iffy about premarital sex.
I'm transferring to a relatively large college soon and I'd live to meet a girl I can really get along with but she needs to be drug free and a virgin.
Meeting girls casually obviously doesn't work that well so I wanted to know some better spots to meet girls.
Fencing has lots of homely looking autistic girls, although maybe only 1 or 2 per club. Besides that, can't say, but you can often spot the vulnerable girls with no friends on the street, and you can try them out.
>>17281395
College conservatives
>>17281395
Fencing actually sounds fun, but I didn't think it was popular enough for a club?
How do you stop missing someone who left one month ago and will be away for a long time?
>>17281351
Do things. If you're missing them that's fine, but if you're sacrificing too much of your time and thoughts on them, then you should probably realise that there's something wrong with you.
Go out and do a hobby, chat to people, do something that actually uses your brain. Mindlessly browsing the internet does not help.
>>17281351
You don't
>>17281376
kinda hard, my work keeps me in the same place doing practically nothing from 9 am to 7pm, and I'm alone too, so there is no one to talk to, no hobbies. when i come home I go out with my friends, but I still feel this strange melanchony.
And I have lots of hobbies, and Lots of people to talk too when I go out (I'm really social and make friends easily). I'm even getting hit on by many, even If I always decline their offers.
It's like I'm living in a bubble, waiting for the day we'll...
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I'm super awkward ... around everyone unless I know that person smokes marijuana . Then I can open up a little more because that will be something we have in common to talk about .
Otherwise , I'm horrible in making conversation. I dont know about a lot of stuff . I'm not in school . Im not super close with my family . I've lived with my boyfriend for 4 years. I don't have a car.
There's just really NOT A LOT to me. I feel I have no substance.
Along with having no substance , I find myself making friends with guys. I flirt naturally....
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Adorable. So what kind of personality disorder do you have?
How old are you?
>>17281382
I honestly don't know . What does it sound like to you? I was thinking Stockholm syndrome because I've lived with my boyfriend since the day i met him
Anyone else find it really difficult to deal with women who are minorities? I find that women who are minorities want a man to be so many things in terms of dating. Like, if black, the girl you are dating is probably going to want a "real ass nigga". Date a Hispanic girl and she probably wants some super macho tatted up dude. Not really sure about Asian girls.
I feel inadequate because I am a minority and I just can't provide want these women want. I can't fist fight. I don't have a car. I am not domineering. I don't know what to do.
Women...
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Think about that shit you're listing. You have to be able to fist fight? Think about the fucked up kind of values it takes for a woman to care about something like that. Are you really losing out on anything? Fuck no.
This hispanic girl I was interested in some time ago was accused of "dating white" or whatever, when she never exclusively dated white men. She's currently seeing an arabic guy. She prioritized reasonable values, like fidelity, honesty, and other good shit like that. Go for women who care about shit like that.
Don't waste...
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>>17281348
You are buying into stereotypes and letting them give you anxiety/fear.
Real life isn't really like that
>>17281368
I understand. I just can't women like that. Maybe my area is just too ghetto? I will admit, I am a black guy and I just can't date ghetto women but that's all that's around here. Then I gotta deal with stigma. Which means dating while women leads to weird situations. I am 26 abd never had a girlfriend as a result of this.
People think it's unheard of to be a black guy my age and not have had a girlfriend.
How do I "get over" being cheated on?
It's what everyone keeps telling me to do, but I'm not sure how to do it.
>>17281344
Realize that people are assholes. Read some Marcus Aurelius. Stop giving so many fucks.
>>17281346
Realize that not all people are assholes, but you happened to have dated one.
Realize that the person who cheated on you was scum and better off out of your life. It may suck to miss them, but just remember that the person you're missing is not the person that they are.
The biggest and maybe toughest part is to not let this influence your trust in others. Everyone is different, don't paint them all with the brush of a shitty person.
Really sorry to hear, I've been lied to before...
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>>17281344
Damn that's a beautiful pic OP. Reminds me of smoking up with friends and just laying back. Good times.
Hello /adv/,
I've had a gf for almost a year who is way too good for me. She's smart, pretty and loves me. On the other hand, I'm selfish, depressed, and I can't give her what she deserves. I honestly believe she should be dating other guys, instead of wasting her time with me.
I thought we had a lot in common at first, but now the difference is much more apparent. She's such a positive person constantly, to the point that it pisses me off.
I'm very seriously considering breaking up with her now because of this. My question...
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if shes happy with u stay with her. u feel insecure about urself. u could be worse. you could be me. please stay positive i cant be cuz im an ugly fst foreveralone.jpg but u have her. enjoy her. like she enjoys you
>>17281326
Only do it if you feel like you can't talk through things and fix them. Talking through your differences might be one way to solve your issues and you both might be able to come to an agreement. If all else fails you tried at least and if you're going to break up with her do it in person and don't blame her. If it's your differences say that its your differences and you fail to agree on so many things now and it makes you unhappy. Pointing out how positive she is will hurt her and is completely...
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if you are going to do it, then you need to break her heart so bad that she will never want to think of you again, or she'll be constantly wondering why and if she can get back with you.
if you cant bring yourself to do that, then i guess you have your answer
I want to stop masturbating to and enjoying ir cuck porn
Im worried that I might get the urge to act this stuff out if I ever do get a gf. This makes me feels ashamed.
Can someone please help me?
Stop porn all together for a while. If you really have to, rub one out with your imagination and of course don't try to think about cuck stuff. If you do imagine cuck stuff in your head and masturbate on that, cut it off and wait longer before fapping again.
Porn feels like a slippery slope where you want more and more of the hardcore stuff (instead of just vanilla). Porn in itself is already bad as it is.
I kinda know exactly how you feel and am on nofap day nr. 8 now, since I read about stuff that it might increase your overall libido and sexual drive with...
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>>17281393
Also, if you get the urge to fap/open porn, immediately switch to another task and go do something. Learning how to meditate (clearing your mind from thoughts) can help with this.
>>17281393
Do you know for sure if this works or is this hypothetical? How will I know if it goes away or even return
The police suspect me of a local crime and told me to come in for an investigation. Someone told me I don't have to show up since I'm not actually arrested is that true
>>17281286
AFAIK they can't force you, but why not go and clear your name?
What is there to be gained from not showing up?
Also
>not browsing 4chan every waking hour to give yourself an alibi through isp records
You don't have to show up, but
CALL A FUCKING LAWYER RIGHT GODDAMN NOW
TALK TO THEM ABOUT WHAT YOU SHOULD DO
>Tinnitus
Nake it stop
Please I just don't want to hear it anymore god
Help me
How bad is it? What did you get it from?
>>17281255
>enough to where I'm on sleeping (knockout) pills
>extended exposure to evil rock music
1) Sleep with a fan on. It's just enough background noise to keep your mind off the EEEEEEEE and not distract you from sleep.
2) Keep your mind busy with other things.
My boyfriend is becoming depressed because of his shitty job. Everyone has been trying to get him out of there and gave him job offers but he rejects them all out of pickiness. He has been demotivated about his self image, higene, health, etc. We have a long distance relationship and every time i go there, I try to go out with him on small walks or dates but he just wants to be on his computer. We haven't had sex in 7 month and in these last 2 months there hasn't been any cuddles/hugs/etc. He only kisses me goodnight, when he goes to work and when he arrives home.
Yesterday...
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why are you still seeing him? he sounds so unwilling to do small mundane tasks. also that he doesnt care about his personal hygiene is a big sign turn off.
seriously, its not your fault if you end up leaving him, he might end up having you mother him everyday of your relationship.
>>17281200
he sounds depressed as shit, this happened to me in a pretty similar situation (moved to a new city for a shitty job, gf a few hours away, general feelings of isolation)
If he wasn't always like this and If he is someone you really want to keep seeing ask him if he's been feeling depressed and maybe find some examples of symptoms online (lack of libido is a pretty obvious symptom of depression) get him to go to a doctor, he might need medicated or maybe he just needs someone to chat to who he doesn't...
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>>17281470
This.
>agrees to second date
>Tells me when she's free, I volunteer a place
>says yes
>no confirmation text in 2 days
>Date is scheduled 8 hours from now
She's going to flake. I know she is, the signs are there. I have a short window of time before she sends the inevitable "lol sorry I just remembered I'm autistic and can't go" text.
I do not want this smug bitch to get the last laugh- is there anything specific I can text her within the next couple hours to cancel the date and leave her feeling rejected and stung instead of me?
>inb4 just live your life
>inb4 just b urself
Allow it to happen, go have a nice day without her when she ain't on time. Give her 5-15min to respond and do something else
You're neurotic. Get help. Why do you care about this stuff? Pic related, it's you
If it will placate your autism just text her with some excuses as to why you can't go.
Posted this in the short rant thread but I was more or less expecting a reply.
My car was made in 2006. It's 2016 now. This makes my car a decade old. But I've had it for only seven months, and when I got it, it had like extremely low mileage. Like less than 50k miles on it. When I got my car first maintenanced, they said my car was young, referring to the mileage I think.
How can a car be a decade old but not have a shitton of miles on it?
Sorry for flipped picture but that's my decal. My name is Sam and I'm very serious. I also love...
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>>17281186
Driven by an old lady to go to the grocery store once a month, or parked under a tree it's entire life.
More likely the former as they would've pointed out rust and damage that would be indicative of the car having sat for long periods of time.
Why are you so concerned if it checks out mechanically?
>>17281194
Thank you for the reply. Not concerned at all, I just thought it was kinda interesting. I take good care of it. I just always knew my car as the '06 ford taurus but it never occurred to me how old actually my car was
grandad got 15yrs ago a used car (~50 000)
was being used maybe twice a week to drive to the nearest store thats 3 miles away (~5km)
Inherited it as he passed away two years ago as a summer car. Had 74 000 on its mileage then, now its up to 80 000.
Can rushing into sex ruin a new relationship? (Not actually dating, just seeing each other at the moment)
Only if it isn't rape + Islamic conversion via rape
>>17281157
In a single word answer Yes
>>17281157
>Can rushing into sex ruin a new relationship?
Happens all the time.
what is the best way to get revenge on someone who has fucked me over properly? Anonymously obviously
You kill him.
>>17281149
Just smash their car windows at night or something. This is really really easy to do if you live in a city/college campus and the other person does too.
I was thinking about a more subtle tactic that would really fuck with their head but couldnt be traced back to me
Hey /adv/
I've been hitting it off with an old friend of mine and she's everything I could enjoy and I think I'm starting to fall for this girl but I'm not sure since my last relationship is still pretty recent but anyways that doesn't matter
I love this girl as a friend and I'm crushing on her
She feels the same way for me
And I really would wanna be with this girl but
She believes in being polygamous
I don't know how (let's say she and i are together) she could fuck someone else and then come back to me and tell...
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>>17281120
If it's a FWB situation now, aren't you already in a polyamorous relationship with her?
You're willing to be her secondary boyfriend, but not her primary?
>>17281126
This
>>17281120
Rape her then convert her to Islam
This is the only logical thing to do
