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Burger here. I don't feel any deep love for my nation, although I admire its history and figures. It can be seen as a cool older brother, but I just can't relate to it, and I wouldn't dream of sparing my life for its success. Whenever I see other burgers on 4chan talking about the US, I have a hard time thinking that we are of the same nation. I think this is because I don't have any history in this country, on an ancestral scale from those I respect. Yes, I was born here. My mother, however, is Colombian, and I had spent some of my youth there. Even though objectively it is a shit hole, I could die for those people more than I could for the US. I can also feel patriotism for my distant Spanish past, and my recent French and Italian past. I can't see America as a brotherhood either because of the sheet hatred I have for the people's ignorance and attitudes. I don't get it. They're like clowns. I don't know what I'm asking. America has no culture I can call my own. Is what I'm feeling normal? Any comments or help?
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I cant relate to this regarding my country, though I wish I could.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PC2qipLRfbk&list=PLqrSIuBVwGdzuVnfJxZljChr6wrTd6I4d&index=43
>>17283024
Once you have taken the red pill thee is no going back.
Nationalism is stupid, be glad you never fell for that meme. It's fine to draw inspiration from American heroes but the people who feel a sense of superiority simply because of an accident of birth are beyond ridiculous, take pride in your own accomplishments.
That said do you not feel a desire to want to help improve America and help it to live up to its ideals?
I don't know... I want to believe it's because of some conspiracy against good, but Europe is really the basis of brotherhood, the distinguishable identity. Makes it much more depressing that the lower bit of the pic in my post is going to take over my... brothers? I feel repulsive because I'm not even related to the bloodline of some of those nations, although I want to protect them.
I've been seeing this girl for a couple of months now and I really like her. She's really attractive but I don't find her as sexually attractive as I find other women. Maybe it's something to do with there not being much good porn with girls that look like her (slim and black). I feel like maybe my brain has been warped by porn. Sometimes I also find myself looking at trap porn. Since I've been with her my porn habits have been quite healthy and when I do watch porn it's usually something normal but every now and then I find myself looking at trap porn. I feel like porn has fucked up my brain. What do I do? We haven't had sex yet so maybe it'll all fix itself once I have sex with her (I'm a virgin btw). Sorry this post is such a mess, I just find its better for me to write things down as the thoughts come from my head otherwise I end up writing nothing when I think about it too much.
>>17283018
It is completely normal. You just don't cheat.
>>17283018
Porn can and will fuck you up. I'd suggest you stop cold turkey if possible.
do you realize that your attraction to different girls will never end? even if you traded your gf for a more attractive one, you might look back at your slim black gf and say how you wish you can now be with her instead. it's natural for us to constantly want more in life, but for certain things like a gf/wife, you just accept that you found her and you can still appreciate the beauty of other people you see, just not act out on it. it's kind of like if you already owned a house and instead of just appreciating and taking care of your house, your constantly looking at mansions down the street. then if you got a mansion, you'd want a castle or whatever. It's endless and stupid.
To put it simply, when you dip your virgin dick into her pussy, you will probably love it.
ok
so ive had this best friend since i was in 2nd grade, right? and she has a really nice looking brother and I kinda want to hit that but im just a sophomore in college and hes a senior in college, hes really nice and has the same interests as I do, Ill feel like a stalker or some shit if I message him, so what do I do?
You're both in college. 2 year difference is negligible.
>>17282977
The thing is, he goes to a different college.
>>17282966
Ask out in person. You have an established social connection. Its not weird or stalkerish.
Is it true hospice care just morphines you to death? As a catholic is going to hospice like assisted suicide? Should you die a painful death?
Uh, hospices look after people who are terminally ill and have no chance of recovery. They're going to die anyway (inb4 we're all going to die)
>>17282949
Yea but as a catholic killing yourself is still a sin even when terminally ill. I was just wondering if entering hospice is like assisted suicide since hospice is known as a place of no return where you go to die.
>>17282953
What difference does it make? You're going to die either way, in the hospice or out of it.
I feel like I'm more into my boyfriend than he's into me.
He regularly points out other guys and says they're cute, and looks to me for agreement but I just don't look at other guys like that I only have eyes for him. He knows I don't like this and he says sorry every time yet he keeps doing it. He doesn't like intimate kissing, he says he's just not that into it even when he had gf's but I really like it and he knows this yet never kisses me properly.
He says he loves me and wants to live with me, but he wants me to get a job closer to him before he'll commit to moving in. Which is fair, I don't expect to be financially dependant on him but he has more than enough money to do it tomorrow and yet he doesn't. Which is fine, it's his money he can do what he wants with it but if our places were switched I'd have him live with me tonight.
I dunno, there's a lot of little things like this that make me feel like he's less into me than he's saying he is. I still like him and I don't wanna lose him but I feel sad when I think about those little things.
>>17282935
Sometimes we guys have a hard time letting go of our independence and sharing our life. Give him a kick in the butt to show him he needs to make some commitments to you.
Mostly all the detail you are saying just seem like nitpicking, but you never talk to him about it so how would he know? This seems like a classic silent devotion, but does not speak up about problems till they make you explode.
>>17282951
Actually we have spoken about all the topics I discussed apart from me thinking he's not as into me as he says.
I explained I don't check out other guys and I therefore don't wanna have discussion with him about cute guys he sees on the street or in movies. He didn't believe I was telling the truth, I asked if he'd ever done this with his gf's and he said "of course not" yet he does it with me despite me reacting the same way his gf's probably would. At first I shrugged it off, but he does this at least once a week and often more. He KNOWS I don't like it yet he keeps doing it.
>>17282967
Because from his perspective its hard to believe you are not attracted to other men. I would not dwell on it so much. For him its like someone is trying to say they hate eating any food but plain white bread. He is like uuuuuuh i am just plain white bread....
Hey /adv/
>be me
>have a gf of nearly 2 years
>she started talking and snapchatted a guy again that she used to date for only like a month
>he "cheated on her" even though they weren't exclusive so she cut contact with him last year
>she tells me they're close friends
>they've been talking for 6 months now, and she hasn't cheated on me as far as I know
>she tells me not to worry and even calls him her "best friend" when she messages him
Is he a threat or is he a beta phaggot who I have nothing to worry about?
>>17282877
Try to be that guy.
The guy who fucks girls with boyfriends.
It's more fun!
>>17282877
Personally I'm not fine with my partner being close friends with an ex partner.
While I do understand being somewhat nice to them in general, I wouldn't be fine with them being close.
It usually doesn't end up well.
>>17282881
This is dumb.
>>17282877
Sends up red flags for me. I would nip this in the butt sooner rather than later. Or ditch her ass. Women only need one male best friend and that is their husband(or really gay guy bestfriend)
How do people manage to hook up thanks to tinder or other apps?
can you guys just give me examples of how it's supposed to happened, or how it happened for you?
it's just such a foreign concept for me... I need help with this
thanks
>>17282862
They don't.
It's called lieing. Everybody does it.
>>17282862
Ok. Storytime, brother.
I'm 21. Average looking, slightly chubby and at that time i had a terrible breakout in my face.
But I'm taking care of myself (meaning I'm not fat) and dress well.
But I'm super confident. even after my last breakup in november, i worked my ass of:
Improving my grades and stuff.
So i joined a social network for kinksters, wrote to some girls and one of them agreed to meet me the next day.
It literally was "You go to XY on saturday?"
"no. have to go to work there"
"you free tomorrow?"
"yea lets meet at XYXY at XYXY"
"yea great will be there"
"ok but disclaimer: I'm not able to have sex atm. I hope that's not a dealbreaker"
"no it isn't"
Next day we met. went to a pub. after two hours of talking about random stuff and movies (especially a movie she alway has with her) i asked her if she wanted to go to my place (which is an hour drive). She agreed, we went to my place, watched the movie before we fucked for hours.
that went on for three weeks and she is now my girlfriend.
what i found out one week after we met: she is one of the most popular gonewild girls on reddit.
What i want to tell you: you found a match? meet up, asap. no need to aim for sexting and shit. be confident and do not be afraid of asking if she wants to come over. save your subjects for your actual meetup
>>17282903
>having sex with redditors
Why isn't suicide socially acceptable or at the very least more supported by letting people suicide correctly and painlessly?
http://mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/01/06/top-11-professions-with-highest-suicide-rates/
>>17282859
Primarily because most people suicide over temporary issues or problems they simply need help with chemical imbalance, life coaching, etc. Allowing suicide would open the door to an easy way out of most problems as well as resulting in a lot of murder/borderling murder of people pressuring other to suicide.
Though there is some merit in letting Elderly dying with honor so to speak. Canada is actually making a big move to legalize it.
>>17282859
Because it is a permanent solution to a momentary problem.
People who kill themselves are pretty much always mentally ill and not in the conditions to decide what to do with themselves.
>>17282859
I accept it as you're weak.
One night I was pretty drunk and me and my sober friend went to two dofforent stores Walmart and target. Both times he would grab a bottle that was fat and thin and walk to like the general area were all the racks of cloths are then put it in his pants and walk out. He made sure there was no sucirity cap on it first of coarse. How effective if this method and is there any other sucirity tag/ stickers to look out for when stealing liquor
>>17282853
>walmart/target
They hardly care. 2 drunks walk into a store and steal 10$ worth of beer in the middle of the night. Nobody paid minimum wage s gonna risk a broken nose over that.
>sucirity
>>17282853
My little brother did that, he is now enjoying the fact that he has a record to show to all potential employers.
Dumb shit, dont do it
Hey adv, my brain is sort of commission right now and I am trying to think of the best way to combat this conversation. Here we go:
Me: You are sucha cute little princess :P
Her: Haha you are so sweet but I'm not a princess at all ^^. I'm 19 :)
There is of course more to this conversation but that's just a small excerpt. I think the hook is firmly in my grip but what should say to that? I want to affirm that she is. Yeah yeah, she is fishing for compliments but who cares. Give me your best adv!
This could mean anything from i am interested in you to thanks for the compliment "friend" or anything inbetween.
Basically not enough context. Its just generic girl response.
This.
Also this.
I was texting my gf of two weeks for just about all the days since then
she stopped responding just a minute ago, i remember her telling me about some guy?
??
Yes.
Clearly she's cheating on you. There's no way she has a life outside of you or anything.
>>17282757
Clearly anything you do not have complete control of is out to get you. you should panic.
I had unprotected sex 3 months ago and I tested negative for HIV and a bunch of other stuff
But I'm still worried, what if my body still hasn't produced detectable antibodies or something?
How do I deal with the anxiety?
>>17282753
go get another test in 3 months
>>17282753
Was it a rapid test where they pinch your finger or did they analyzed your blood?
>>17282789
Both.
And both were negative.
I'm talking to a girl who is attractive, really attractive. Kind of an interesting person, like the hipster type so she has those weird anxiety issues that are annoying.
We've been planning on going a date for a week now. She's been working and I've been going through classes and a new job. Today she took the night off and I offered a date.
I offered to take her out to some really nice, niche restaurants and a coffee shop in the city. She said "I have this weird problem where I can't eat in front of people I don't know" so then she offered we go see Finding Dory.
I'm pretty sure I'm just going to drop her after this. Am I being harsh? Or are these justified concerns that I have?
I've heard that's a common issue with women but a lot of them just deal with it. The fact that she offered an alternative is good though. If it's a first date you're probably better off doing something where you can both talk and stuff.
If her anxiety is an issue then you're probably better off dropping her if you can't work with her on things.
>>17282747
why would u offer a date on the night she has off? let her breathe jeez
>>17282747
She probably agrees with whatever Bernie rants about. Go find another.
Is it a bad sign that my 2 years younger brother was able to get a girlfriend and lose his virginity before me?
I'm 20 and my brother was able to get a girlfriend and get laid in high school. I'm a junior in college now with no luck for the entire time I've been here and it's weighing pretty heavy on me.
Are you a loser?
>>17282744
Kind of when compared to my brother, he's always been one step ahead of me in his social life.
You can't define your life by comparing it to other people. You and your brother have a different set of skills and tools, and there are things that each of you can do better than the other.
If you have a good relationship with him maybe you can even ask him for help, ask him how he meets and talks to girls and how to act better in social situations. Getting jealous of him isn't the way to go, though.
I know your pain, my 2 years younger brother seems to be better than me at literally everything except for the fact that he's a social autist (I am a bit too, but not nearly as bad).
I got a good job so now I have stopped trying. I'm lazy at work and I basically have no goals. I don't know what to do. I don't even know what the point of working is anymore. I've always been frugal so I don't care about money.
>>17282731
Take up a hobby? Get a new job?
seriously if you think your motivations are stuck in park only you can put it in drive and go.
This may make me sound like an autist, but have you thought of adopting someone? Someone who you could spend your money on, the goal to raise a child or teen.
i feel exactly the same
people get too comfy or apathetic to strive for more
FUCK money
>>17282742
theres no fucking time. everyday is wake up, work, go to sleep. rinse and repeat
