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Is it possible to force romantic feelings over time? Im meeting this girl for a few months now and we share everything with each other, we talk and write everday and enjoy our company, meeting at last one time per week. Because i wanted to avoid the friendzone, i managed to kiss her many times and nearly slept with her when she came over. However she doesn't want to be with me because she just doesn't feel "it" and doesn't want to get physical. Even she admits that she feels stupid because everything would fit and i would have everything she would want in a relationship. Of course i can still hope and pretend everything is fine, i would also manage to get her visiting for another sleepover, but slowly its getting harder for me. Any thoughts or experiences with situations like that? ( She is always looking for conversations and makes time for dates,even asks me herself most of the time, so she is not avoiding contact with me afterall. To make sure ,she is no slut and says herself that she is strange in regards of romantic stuff, she is a very sensitive person and gets really upset when someone is sad or she forgot to answer a call).
Why not just be bffs?
>>17285536
Kidnap her and hope she develops Stockholm.
>>17285536
not really. you can tryt to manipulate it but its hard and not real so...
i undersatand her though i met a girl once. she was perfectly my type in every single possible way. she lived right down the street, understood when i needed space, perfect tits, perfect ass, virgin when i met her but extremely open to everything i wanted to do sexually and we did everythinggggggg. perfect curly hair, and even outside of that just did whatever the fuck i wanted in regular life, helped me clean, etc.
but i felt absolutely nothing for her. meanwhile a much harder to reach not nearly as attractive girl drives me wild so i ended up dating her.
chemistry is magic, not science.
So the other day I was drinking with my buddy and his wife, when all of a sudden she started sucking his dick. I said whatever I'll enjoy the show, until HE said to come over and she will suck me too. I said ehh what the hell why not. So she's there sucking us both, taking turns,. We're squeezing her boobs and all that,. She has her top off, when my buddy slowly starts to go limp, I'm still rock hard mind you. She just kind of stopped sucking him and focused on me until I blew a huge load on her titties. I realize it was the heat of the moment and that I should have stopped when my bud went limp but i was horny. I kind of said my goodbyes and left right away, and Im pretty sure I saw the face of devastation in his eyes as I left. Ive been trying to text him so we can at least talk about this. What should I do adv, he wont return my texts?
>Sorry too upset to green text right now
Jesus fucking christ this board has gone to shit
kek
>I should have stopped when my bud went limp
...Why?
How do I clean my room in ~1 hour?
You start doing it and stop wasting time here.
>>17285484
Vacuum the floor.
Tidy up all your stuff, pile the trash and the laundry on the floor.
Clean the desk and all the furniture.
Change the bed sheets.
Pick up trash and do the laundry.
Don't sit down till you're done.
>>17285487
What's the fastest way to do so
Ok so recently i got my hands on original xbox and i cant stop playing halo ce and halo 2. I want to play halo 3 but no pc version and i dont have money for xbox 360. If i started a go fund me would people donate so i can play halo 3? Or would they laugh at me? I cant get a job because im autistic and have tendancy to say offensive things that get me fired.
Fuck off.
>>17285474
Why answer his question if your not going to help?
>>17285464
Get a job. The autistic thing is just an excuse so you don't have to work.
Besides, if you are too autistic to work, then you probably will be too autistic to succeed with a gofundme account.
Anyone know what are these white patches on back of my throat, since I have them I have difficulty breathing.
I was taking antibiotics but nothing helped.
Its constantly forming some whitish mucus and it seems this musucs is blocking my air passage.
>>17285457
It's amata
>>17285477
What is that more info?
How do I step my texting game up, so it doesn't always end up like pic related?
I'm pretty talkative IRL, but act really autistic when it comes to texting.
>>17285456
Good thanks
>>17285456
You asked the same fucking question twice. Maybe say something different instead of "and you?"
>I'm pretty talkative IRL, but act really autistic when it comes to texting.
That's a good thing. Talk more. Text less.
I just sold my house and after paying off all my debt I have $80k in the bank. What should I do with the money?
im 33, semi NEET, and uneducated. I have this fantasy of moving to a European country like sweden, or somewhere similar, to start a new life
Any suggestions?
>>17285430
give me 1k and ill give u 2k in a week
Where do you live now?
>>17285439
California
I moved back home with my parents
Can't even have an opinion anymore without being labelled some kind of human e.g. Feminist. Seriously the fuck tho? You're worse than the people you're trying to shame you twats.
Welcome to 4chan.
Lol fuck off Tumblrite, none of us are pandering to your Reddit-tier moderated safe space discussions.
Did someone call you a naaaame? Why don't you go cry to your mother about it.
Emancipated myself from the dating world entirely. Seen too much bullshit and I want no part of it. Have things to enjoy, a direction to go in. Women are dead last to my aims.
What are some great things to do that you've done which women tend to have no part in?
>>17285378
Gay sex.
>>17285381
Couldn't even laugh at that.
>>17285394
>He thinks I'm joking
How do you tell someone that their tattoos are awful?
Open up with a joke.
>Knock knock
>Who's there?
>That tattoo looks like complete shit
It gets the point across without being too subtle.
>>17285364
You don't. Giving your opinion on their tattoos will give no help, foster resentment, and make the world a worse place.
Be nice and say you're glad they like them without staying what you think of them. That way you refrain from being rude.
>>17285364
why would you tell them? Think about this for a second, the only thing you are telling them is that they are shit. I know your message is "that tattoo is shit" but people perceive it as a personal attack. So my advice would be keep your opinion to yourself on this one brah.
>office air conditioner broken
>call in one of the approved vendors to take a look at it
>says its got freeon leaks and claims he cant fix it
>says either put freeon in and possibly have it all leak out in 3 days
>or just replace it for thousands of dollars
is this my responsibility as the tenant or the landlords? they say repairs is ours but this things 40 years old.
>>17285329
this is in california. los angeles if that makes a difference.
>>17285329
Depends on your lease. Was the office leased as air conditioned? If so, they have to deliver air conditioning.
It could be argued - and probably has been, creating a precedent, that in southern California air conditioning is assumed, just like floors and walls.
>>17285347
ill have to get our hands on the lease. i came in to the office years after everything was established. with summer here we need AC, we have no windows that would provide ventilation unfortunately.
california law says its our job to repair the AC but if it cant be repaired i dont know whats up
So I came across a dilemma /adv/. I hired a hooker a few weeks ago, it all went great and we went our separate ways. Called her again a few days ago, told her I wanted to start out with a blowjob and then do anal until I cum. She agreed. We start off, blowjob felt great, lay her down and start going for the butthole. I lube it up normally and start going to town, pounding away About 15 minutes in she says she can't do it anymore and I didn't even cum yet. I finished myself off all over her back. I told her I didnt get what I paid for and I would like a partial reimbursement. She argued for a few minutes but I wouldnt let up, eventually she threw one of the twenties I gave her at me and ran out of the room crying. Am I wrong for not feeling bad? She was the one that stiffed me and she got all uppity about it.
>>17285324
I don't know. I have no idea. I would never hire a hooker, I would completely lose my boner knowing the girl was in pain and crying, and don't touch strange buttholes.
You requested a service, and the service was not delivered. I see nothing wrong here.
>Inb4 all the whiteknights and Tumblr
>>17285324
Anal isn't pleasant, especially 15 fucking minutes of it.
Everyday I see rich girls with unemployed loser ass boyfriends who smoke weed. How is this possible? I was told you needed a job and a car if you wanted a girlfriend. Both of which I have.
>>17285301
Do you have 9"? See...
>>17285301
That's a rule of thumb, not immutable law. Their bfs are probably good looking, tough talking(confident), willing to lie and cheat others for what they want(ambitious), and always down to party (fun)
You only have a job and a car.
>>17285301
Ah, but do you have a personality? Girls will choose ugly interesting guys over pretty blockheads any day.
Is it normal for my 25 year old boyfriend of almost 3 years to only want sex like once or twice a week? It fucking kills me, since I'm only 21 and have an extremely high libido. We've probably had like 3 fights about this and nothing ever changes- he was a virgin before me so I don't get what his problem is. He'd rather watch Netflix for hours than do anything with me. I'm so resentful that even when we have sex I'm just pissed internally, like "oh you want it now? oh you only lasted 3 minutes? wow thanks I'm soo grateful". Is there anything that can be done to help boost his sex drive or make it happen more frequently or should we break up?
>>17285292
Well it looks like talking hasn't changed it. But you need to make it known that you have needs and if you aren't compatible it may be in your best interest to find someone who is.
If he has sex once or twice a week with two other plates as well, it's normal.
>>17285292
>lasting 3 minutes
Buy him Viagra, or dump him and get a man who can duck you well.
I matched this girl on Tinder who I've known remotely the past couple of years but never really connected with beyond saying hello to in the work place.
I asked for her number and then asked her to come to the beach with me. She agreed. So we hang out at the beach for a while, like a few hours. We're talking and sharing a lot about ourselves, our music tastes, etc. We seem to get along really well, I'm enjoying the moment and so is she. I do things like touch or hold her hand, put my hand on her leg or put my arm around her so I don't seem like too much of a "friend".
I offer to buy her dinner and she agrees. We go out to eat and we're listening to music in the car and I'm blown away because she has music tastes that are almost identical to my own, hah.
Later that evening she starts talking about her ex, how they dated on and off for a couple of years. I asked if she's still seeing him she says no. Apparently she thinks she fucked up by not being honest about her past with him (it actually sounds to me like she's still sorta into this dude). I mention that I've been single the past 5 years and it just hasn't worked out with the girls I've gone on dates with, she says "yeah I should probably be single for a while too, I haven't been since I moved down here". After some more words I just hold her hand and say "well I do really like you but we can go whatever pace you want, if at all". She just smiles and says "I think I just need friendship and support right now".
I know this is the kiss of death. I know it is. But I'm hoping to find out what I did wrong so I don't repeat the same mistakes. Was I coming on too strong with telling her I like her so soon? Should I have just changed the subject away from ex-talk? Should I have not been more mysterious? Or was there nothing I could have done and I just ended up not being her type?
Curious to know any thoughts. Pic totally unrelated.
The advice everyone is given for getting over a relationship is to go out with someone new. People do that and end up on dates when they really aren't ready to be. No way of knowing if you could have done anything, we'd have to read her mind and be able to measure how not ready to date again she was.
>>17285270
>No way of knowing if you could have done anything, we'd have to read her mind and be able to measure how not ready to date again she was.
Not sure if this would help, but to recap some of the things she said
1.) She had started dating a guy almost immediately after moving down here
2.) She then got involved with another guy for a very short period
3.) She mentioned that she can be "difficult to handle". She said maybe some day she can find somebody who can handle her flaws. I ask what her flaws are and she said that she can be closed off and just start ignoring people etc. (to be honest this sort of thing does not bother me at all, I've learned to not take it personally).
I figure either she's trying to let me down gently, or she's actually kind of afraid it won't work out so she's pushing me away. Both seemed equally plausible, I was just curious to know if folks here thought this was her "friend zoning" me (I mean this in a non-resentful, non-bitter way) or if it's something else.
>>17285311
Both seem equally plausible to me. Just saying it's hard to tell if you messed up or not. She may have been the one who messed up and went on a date when she wasn't ready to commit. Avoiding talking about her ex possibly could have helped the date, but she still may have thought of him herself the next day and texted you saying "I'm not over my ex, I'd rather just be friends for now." And you'd still be confused, wondering what you did wrong.
