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What are some good resources to start to learn programming? Also what languages are good for beginners?
I'm not programmin myself but I heard that there is a lot of sites that can help you. Best language for begginers seems to be Python.
>>17284755
C is the way to go for newbies
https://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/C_Programming
C is a solid choice, but Python isn't bad either. If you're more interested in web programming, I'd jump straight into Java or Javascript though. I suggest you check out Codeacademy, they offer free, accessible tutorials.
I met the perfect girl 2 years ago and now we're talking about getting married.
I love everything about her. The problem is she never sucks my dick and never will because she's a brainwashed christian. She's never done it but I had bj from my past gfs and I loved it.
Is there a way of convincing her or should I just deal with it?
>>17284739
tell her you spoke to god and he wants her to suck your dick or she's going to hell
get ready for one MEAN blowjob, shes gunna suck the devil right outta your dick.
also if she's catholic she's probably already sucked the pastors cock for "confirmation"
Wait until she marries you and force her, she's brainwashed Christian so she should understand you wear the pants, or you won't be...
>>17284765
what if she doesn't believe me?
>>17284773
what happens if she tells her pastor? I don't want to rape her
Title says it all really. I do things because I know they are right. Just sometimes I don't want to.
One example:
>eBay purchase
>seller sends me wrong item
>they email me asking to return it
>open parcel anyway
> $160 value
> mfw I only spent $20
>could just keep it, their mistake. Not like they can do anything about it.
>actual...
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Depends what the $160 package was, anon.
>>17284708
You could try keeping it. You might get a court summons through the letter box one day though. See what happens, you could get away with it I guess
>>17284708
This is what morality boils down to. Do you do the right thing out of social guilt, or personal guilt?
If it is only ever social guilt, then you are likely a bad person who simply doesn't want to be caught (leading to isolation etc.) Bad however, is relative - if you consistently have feelings of wanting to murder someone, that is a far different bag of worms than the urge to shoplift.
Now, personal guilt - if you genuinely feel bad for doing bad things, then you are likely a good person. On top of this, if you are compelled to do nice things for others with no expectation of a reward, that is another strong point in the favour of a good person.
But this isn't exactly fair, as most people experience a mix of both, constantly and somewhat interchangeably. For example, a good person would never hurt a dog. But lets say they are having the worst day of their life and want to scream at something living - they might just terrify a dog by screaming at them, and then feel guilt and remorse later. But in the presence of peers, maybe this person decides to not shout, because it isn't socially acceptable - it's twofokd morality. The threat of being socially isolated is a handy backup for when a good person might lose themselves for a moment.
It's messy, but always go with what feels right to you. If that is social pressure, fine, do the right thing for a shallow reason. No-one would think less of you. But don't fight your true nature out of spite - if you genuinely feel bad for doing a bad thing, it will eat away at you until you make it right.
Tl;dr - do the right thing for whatever reason feels right to you.
How to get over the fact that you will never be with the best girl you could spend your life with, because she is a lesbian?
I swear to god, this fucking life of mine.
>>17284650
THERE ARE LITERALLY MILLIONS.
I fall in love errryday. After a breakup when I was 16 (which at the time I was devastated) I learned to respect how unfair life is. If a girl doesn't like you then move on. That doesn't mean I don't feel any pain but I understand that it isn't meant to be and I go and find someone else.
>>17284807
There's the difference between you and me. I don't purposely look for girls. I don't date girls, I think that the whole philosophy of dating is fucking stupid. If I'm gonna be with someone, it has to come up from a random encounter...
>>17284807
>THERE ARE LITERALLY MILLIONS.
*billions.
There are about 3.6*10^9 women on the planet. Well, females at least.
How do I make eye contact with women? Whenever an even just moderately attractive woman looks at me I can't look back. People look at me a whole fucking lot, it's because I'm 6'6" / 225 lbs and live in a country where the average male is maybe 5'10", I should be used to it, but whenever women do it I don't know wtf to do and immediately look away and ignore them.
What is wrong with me??
pic unrelated.
>>17284647
Where are you from? Sounds like southern europe or south america or something.
Just speak to them as if they were guys. Don't give a fuck really, it helps.
>>17284647
eye contact implies sexual attraction and conveys confidence, you looking away signifies that you don't find them attractive and or don't have confidence
Anyone here been on antidepressants? How did it go?
I went to the doctors in hopes of seeing a therapist but since she urged me to go on lexapro first.
I'm very on the fence if I want to start using them for my anxiety and depression.
Any advice would be very helpful
Here is my conclusion of the year I took antidepressants
you should use antidepressants to push yourself to a new state of wellbeing, not on your daily life. They should be temporary.
they will do nothing if you aren't willing to study what it is causing your unhappiness.
What I experienced when I took them was that the veil of sadness I always carried with me suddenly dissapeared and it was somewhat easier for me to deal with my problems. In particullar, I became willing to meet new people.
However, they dind't make me completely happy....
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>>17284606
i've been on them (zoloft, specifically) for a month and a half now. it's been pretty good for anxiety, hasn't done much for depression - so it's harder to get the motivation to do things, but when i actually do it i'm not as scared. i was really worried about starting them at first but the worst that can happen is you decide you dont like taking them and stop (gradually, don't quit suddenly).
if you have any specific questions i'll track this thread
>>17284644
Thank you for telling me about your experience.
The way you've described it to me has given me much more insight on exactly how you feel on them.
How did you find getting off of them later on?
Anyone can tell me how can I do some realistic face swap so it looks like it's not me and that this photo is a fake??? Or do it if u are good in photoshoping please
Only if you tell us the backstory behind how this happened to you
>sides in paradise
why did you walk around naked?
>>17284538
is that realistic enought?
Hello anyone reading this.
I have 26 and have phimosis, if you dont know what that its, basically the skin around my dick dont retract compleatly because the neck its too tight.
I had read a lot, and seems a circuncition its the best option to this, but i really wonder if should do it.
I asexual, the only sexual experience i ever had was really unpleasant, was concencual but still...very unplesant and maked me affraid of have sex with anyone, so really dont see the point if fix this if i would not gonna have sex with anyone.
The only point in favor its the bacteorological...
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>>17284528
I had it pretty where it was painful to stretch it back.
but a regime or stretching solved it (mostly, still a little tight)
stretch it regularly until you can get it right back
Pull it back every time you piss.
Pull it back and leave it back while you sleep
worked for me
>>17284548
>I had it pretty
*pretty bad
>>17284548
did you know where i can info about the stretch regiment thing? i had seen it mentioned but never found any links
Readings for anyone interested using tarot and animal cards. Just need date of birth.
Sept 10 1987
18 augusth 1990
>>17284529
Ok let me start by saying you always feel like the odd one out you are very picky and like order almost to the point of perfection. This causes you to feel emence issues with self confidence because you set yourself this unbelievable high standard of what is "right" you are complicated but instead of seeing the good in that you see the bad and continue to self hate.
So. As easy as its said and not so easy done stop with the critical side of your nature stop worrying about perfection, this will take...
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Should I visit a psychologist or psychiatrist? I won't write my whole life experience, but ATM:
1. I definately have depression
2. I definately have OCD
3. I am afraid of people, I get high blood pressure when being in big groups and meeting some certain types of people on the street (social anxiety)
4. I definately have anxiety neurosis
5. I definately have the lowest possible self worth
6. I don't go out AT ALL, since I finished my IT engineer college studies last march I barely got out of my parents' house
7. I have literally ZERO friends....
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>>17284520
Do you want drugs? Psychiatrists are the ones that do that, psychologists do things like cognitive behavioral therapy. Sometimes a mix of both is most effective. You should probably just find one you can go to for an initial evaluation and hear what their opinion is.
>>17284649
I just want to end the suffering.
which of these illnesses do you recommend? i want attention too. social anxiety is probably best because it also gives me excuses...
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Good morning everyone. This won't be worded the best way, nor may people get it, but please listen to what I have to say, and what I have to ask. I am 31 years old. I am African American( In before standard black person jokes. Trust me, this comes into play.) I dislike my job. I work with someone I have known him 10 years and I can't stand him. He is very high and mighty, he acts like he owns the entire world and it owes HIM. IF you want details as to our "extensive" history, ask and I will comment. I want to get a new job, I want to leave but a few things...
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>>17284511
I don't need any more details than this
>1 The reason for anything; money. This job pays well.
Well good for you. Learn to appreciate it, faggot.
>2. Getting another job that pays as much may be difficult.
Well then the more of a reason to learn to appreciate your current then.
>3. I am unsure if this same thing won't happen at another job, were I to get one.
There's no such thing as dream...
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>>17284718
A bit harsh, but yes, I do have those things outside of work. Problem is I am stuck with this guy in a tiny room for 8 hours, 5 days a week, kinda sucks.
>>17284511
Can you talk to Your boss, or HR, about it? Not even to get him in trouble, just to see if you can be partnered with someone else instead.
So..
>girlfriend oftentimes will do something that doesn't make sense to me
>I ask questions to understand first, to make sure I'm not hearing anything wrong
>See that something could have been done a lot better and in a way that would benefit both of us
>Normally she used to understand and say she sees what I mean and agrees, then we move on with no problems
The thing is, this sort of thing usually involved both of us, and...
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Any thoughts on what I/she/we can do better? Willing to do anything at this point..
You just described my relationship with creepy accuracy. I don't have answers, but I've come to the conclusion that her behaviour is due to a combination of narcissism and anxiety over the way she's perceived.
I guess it helps a little to understand where her emotions and responses are coming from, but if you're anything like me it's not much help.
The longer it goes on the more I believe it just can't be fixed.
Sorry bro.
>>17284949
Thanks bro, I appreciate the response.
Idk, I guess whats really affecting me the most now is shes starting to try to say its all my fault, because now I get so upset its so fucking bad to the point I end up yelling, which is apparently the reason she gets so bad. But it always starts with me pointing something out to fix it and her sounding upset or bothered or stressed. Sometimes she even apologizes now and says her throat derps when she says something with a bad tone, even though that doesn't make...
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