I'm not 30 but I think at this age, you are at the moment of your life when you are the most in control ; a steady situation in general.
There is a thing that lots of people do that I call almost a harem ; you befriend lots of girls and invest in your friendship, and then you choose. Also, trust me on this, it's better to be alone than with people you don't like.

At least you're a man. I'm a 25 year old woman and all I have to look forward to is being a spinster. Each year is lonelier than the last. My friends are mostly in relationships and/or exciting careers. I couldn't find a real job after graduating and it's just a long, slow wait for death from here.

My life started becoming really good at around 30. Of course that's because I worked on turning it around. As the end result I have a great career going and a well paid job and can do all these things I never could afford in my 20s.

She's just a cold bitch, she knows that she can use you whenever she wants, so she won't stop untill you'll tell her to. Or at least ask her for a head few times a week as a refund, you pathethic pussy.

>>17285242
Next time she messages you just say you're busy or won't get time to do it. She'll have to go herself and eventually just get used to going without asking someone else cause it's quicker.

I don't understand why you let her walk all over you. Next time she asks you to buy shit you don't use, ask her for money
Money is still money and i don't see why you should spend yours for here repeatedly if your only roommates

>>17285241
it is best they are not in the same city or frequent the same places. I also do the same type of activities with them both and easier to manage conversation. Sometimes it's easy to confuse the two or three in conversation. I even encourage the same sex acts and compare and contrast for my own amusement. Good luck

>>17285241
>As long as I make both happy
I'm quite certain if they knew you were cheating on them they would no longer be happy.

>why would it be bad?

Because they think that they have something they don't- your loyalty. If they knew who you really were neither would want you.

Faggot

A bit of backstory.

She's a hairdresser. That's how we met. I walked in during a quiet part of the day. She was dressed like a Barbie doll in a tight black dress. She's 5ft tall About 110lbs. I thought she was gonna be one of those "plastic girls" who's main staples of her vocabulary were 'like' and 'totally'. I was completely wrong. She turned out to be one of the most interesting people I've ever met. We hit it Off completely and my 15 minute haircut lasted over an hour. She's 24 I'm 26 btw

>>17285223
If it didn't work out there are still other people out there, people that will put her to shame. Go out and find them.

I immediately asked for her number and arranged to take her to dinner the following Saturday (we met on a tuesday).

Every night leading up to our date we talked for 3 or 4 hours. You know, the usual. We decided to just hangout on Saturday instead. Because we just wanted to spend time with each other.

Saturday rolled around, she showed up, I had a dozen roses waiting for her and I immediately kissed her. Needless to say the date went amazingly. We did small stuff, ran to the mall for a few things. I ended up getting her mom flowers for her garden and then I decided...
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>>17285217
Fellow bipolar & ocd sufferer here, I stay away from drugs and alcohol because they make everything worse. There are plenty of reasons to live OP, just gotta find them. All life is precious, please stay strong, and don't hurt yourself. You're worth more.

>>17285230
I understand it's different in the case of bipolar, but does medication help you?

I was thinking about drugs as a one time experience as I've read and heart about quite a few awe inspiring positive experiences that changed people's perception and overall mood and has got me really curious

>>17285239
Are you talking about recreational drugs or medication? I am not on any, never have been and I don't know how I feel about it because of the pressure I put on myself to deal with the issues myself.

>>17285196
Talk, listen, be attentive and keep topics like religion and politics to yourself.

>>17285199
wouldnt she be bored? I would be

>>17285196
talk about what you like and find intersting, talk about politics and religion. Don't talk about sex or a relationship.
in the best case you really have just met someone you find very interesting, ask questions.

extroverted outspoken girls are easy mode, they will basically lead you through the talking and will ask you quite a lot of questions.

Also the place and the setting isnt that important, it will always matter more, how you two get along. I had a pretty bad idea: took my girl on the first...
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where do you live
what's your age and sex
what's your highest education level and work experience?

>>17285171
I'm sorry to hear about your family, but you will make one of your own. Some day you will be there for someone who needs you, and that is your reason to stay alive.

>>17285171
Oh boy
Dont be fucking pussy and man up
Let me tell you something you already know....
Im kiddin boy just be stronk

>>17285150

Make sure you talk to your friend first. If you wouldn't want to talk to your friend about it then don't do it.

>>17285152
I hear that loud and clear, but I feel like I don't wanna talk to her before I even know if it's gonna happen, you feel? Like, telling your family you've found an awesome guy before you've been on a date? Not just because why worry her if there's nothing to worry about, but like it would ruin it somehow?

>>17285156

Yeah then I can't really you help. I don't know the girl personally. I use to bag my best friend about his hot sister all the time and even asked jokingly in a serious tone if he'd mine if I got with his sister and he was completely fine with it. He's a really chill guy though. I know plenty that would flip their shits.

>>17285111

These are the dumbest questions

>How do I get a girl?

What the fuck do you want us to tell you? There is no magic answer. Just fucking talk to her you idiot.

Pro tip: It's never going to happen virgin.

Tell her you'll marry her and take care of her offspring.

Go Elliot Rodgers allover her ass.

>>17285095
>holiday trip with my oneitits
>1 week in another country, just us two
>I don't know where we stand to each other
What the fuck?

>>17285120

Supposedly oneitis is where a (usually beta) person is extremely infatuated with a member of the opposite sex who is a part of their life, to the point where they believe they're 'the one'.

Just calm down OP. Use social ques to identify whether your friend is interested in you. Your life is not over if she isn't. Worst case move to Sweden where every girl is at least a 8/10.

>>17285126
Yeah, I know that. What I want to know is why this oneitis would go with him on a holiday trip alone if they were not in a relationship already.

>>17284942
Maybe you could choose a special edition based on something he likes? That shows it's more of a "thoughtful" gift and less of a "hey look at how I spoil you" gift.

My gf has bought me things like this from time to time (we are both pretty poor so we usually talk about it first) and it makes me feel good because I know it comes from a good place. But you need to make it clear you aren't buying it to show off, but to show you care and to give him a way to relax now and then.

>>17284942
Why the dubts? how can expensive gifts do any harm? if you can afford it and you don't think you will regret the money spent, then do it.

>>17284950
Yeah, his life is fucking miserable and I won't be anywhere near him until October and I want to do everything I can to make him happy.
He emphasised a game he wanted so I'll be getting him that as well.
>>17284952
I just have fears about him feeling extreme guilt or feeling like he owes me.

>>17284874
then dump her you spineless pussy let her date a real man. meanwhile you'll post on here in 2 weeks whining about how perfect she was and she was the only thing that kept you from suiciding, now she's riding chads dick wondering why she ever setttled for your

why don't you try and be honest with her about how you feel? not about breaking up with her, but about how you are down and probably depressed? if she loves yuo, she'll have your back and be there for you, even if you aren't your bubbly self all the time.
remember: to have and to hold, for better, for worse

It will hurt her more if you keep faking it, until one day you break and she has to face the reality that she loves a broken and depressed person, and there is nothing she can do, though she will try and try to make you happy, you will only drag her down until she questions what's wrong with herself.
End it quickly, or prolong the misery for possibly years. Work on yourself first. I don't understand why fucked up broken people don't work on themselves before dragging someone else into their hell spiral.

It takes time. You need to talk to him about it and be open, and ask him to do the same. But if you felt betrayed by him, even slightly, that's not just going to disappear immediately.

>>17284895
i'll see him tonight and i plan to be really honest and open about how it left me.
problem is, the betrayal i feel is all basend on assumptions. there's nothing he can say that i can think off that would be able to get back the previous levels of trust i had

will giving it time help?
i feel very disconnected to him atm and like his words don't have any impact on me anymore

>>17284906
>the betrayal is based on assumptions
Explain

- Get dex instead of adderall

- Which university do you go to that doesn't have online lectures wtf?

- Tell your parents that you were struggling with some stuff that you can't really talk about, but that you think you're better now and you'll do better next time

- Fix your work ethic.

>>17284848
I mean missing lectures as in I attend/view them all and take notes up to one day where I burn out or get sick or whatever. From then on I'm apathetic as fuck and keep telling myself that I'll do notes on the weekend or whatever.

>>17284861

Why do you give up though? Is there a specific reason? Tbh you shouldn't even be struggling with university, I study 2 days before my exams and get D/HD easily. I might be gifted or whatever, but if I can do that; then surely if you just do a few weeks of work you should be fine.

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you are so lost we don't even know where to start.

>>17285030
Back to tumblr ya queer

First, stop going on /r9k/. That must come before anything else.