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>Have crippling OCD
>Always counting things
>Scared of becoming a hoarder
>Only buy 12 albums/books per artist/writer
>Realize this is dumb, end up with 15 Beatles albums
>Realized I only needed about 14 Beatles albums
>Scared of the number 13
Should I keep the collections at 14 or 12 items per person? God I hate being this paranoid...
Also I'm scared that if I go over 12 my "favorites" would seem unrealistic.
>>17286179
Are you getting your meds?
>>17286179
>>Realize this is dumb, end up with 15 Beatles albums
You went against your own OCD rules?
That's fucked up, dude.
I made a thread about a breakup that happened on Saturday, and i'm starting to think my girlfriend might be suffering from PMDD.
She's been telling me that she just wants to be alone and she can't give me what i'm giving her in our relationship, but there's admittedly (by her) no other reason. I was convinced that she was just being crazy and Ive been bothering her trying to change her mind... but after talking to an ex about whats going on, she basically opened my mind to the fact that she might be suffering PMDD. It definitely makes sense because...
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>>17286172
You don't know women very well yet, do you? She really does want to break up, she just doesn't want to tell you the real reason. Women always give an excuse. But make no mistake, if she says she doesn't want to be with you anymore, she doesn't want to be with you anymore. You're sure as hell not going to save this one by saying "oh no, honey, I KNOW you still love me, you're just having some mental difficulties that make you think I'm not the one. I'm not going anywhere"
If...
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>>17286186
I find that hard to believe because I've literally begged her to tell me that If there is a further reason that it's better off to just tell me then hide it and she just gets angry that I don't believe her.
Maybe you're right, but I figure if I give it 1-2 weeks to let her cool down and then present the possiblity of PMDD that she might be willing to believe that.
I also strongly believe this possbility because she hasn't had her period for 4 months now, and hits literally...
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>>17286200
>>17286186
If she still holds the same feelings after another week when I decide to talk to her one last time, then yeah, Ill believe that she just wants to be done and wont tell me the true reason.
I should also say that yesterday we were together after she had refused to see me for 4 days, and we were hanging out like however we normally would and she wasnt reluctant to give my physical attention and was even giving me all the signs she wanted it, but as...
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I really try to expand conversations, but everytime I do I get an answer of which I can't respond to, resulting in the usual silence.
Anything I can do about it (except speaking to more people, I tried and miserably failed)?
>>17286166
At 26, I haven't been able to. Kinda stems from the fact that I've been doing the bare minimum i.e. work, eat, sleep & repeat. Tends to leave you with not much to say.
>>17286166
You're still in the mindset that people can change.
If you're 21 or older and you're still not talkative: you won't ever be.
>>17286242
People can still improve. I'm 23 and much less of a moron socially than I was at 21. What changed is I got a job that forces me to interact with people a lot. It made me a lot better at conversation. People over 21 can still improve.
So this is the first thread I've ever made, and I rarely comment. I've observed that the biggest thing with 4chan is negativity, people either whining about their problems and then never accepting viable solutions, or people calling the former gay and autistic. I've decided to make a thread dedicated to improvements we've made on our lives lately, tiny or huge, doesn't matter, and our short term plans to become even better :)
bumpity bump bump? I'm sorry, I just can see my idea catching on, it just hasn't happened yet
soooo i'm touring the US this year with my band, the tour's gonna be called "One Last Bump"
If you smoke weed daily, seriously, take a 2 or 3 week break.
I know it sounds "bogus" but you'll thank me after.
Hey my friends. I am 29 years old with a somewhat steady gf. Well on the last few months I have been hooking up with this hot chick on the side. She is wonderful and amazing. However she is moving into another continent in 4 months. How do I cope with reality after she leaves? She is trully one of a kind as I have met many, many girls in my lifetime. Thanks in advance
Just die
just follow her where ever she goes. she may cuck you a couple of times but in the end you'll know what its like to be someone's fuck toy.
>>17286124
Kill yourself.
Why is my neck so fuckin red all the time? I don't even have to scratch it, it's just red from the morning all day - cold and winter...
Also why's my bone in the middle of the chest like that? I thought it was Pectus carinatum or some shit when I was younger but it doesn't really fit it's diagnosis.
helb
>>17286116
Just google "why is my neck red in the morning?"
Go to the doctors bro, they can help alot better than we can
I've been working my entire life, and my 18 year old girlfriend started at her job and already makes more than I do.
Do you think I can trust her enough to support me while I quit my job to take care of household things like cleaning, cooking, and playing video games?
Or is she more than likely to quit/leave me and screw me over?
>>17286080
she would leave you since you'd be a fucking deadweight.
>>17286080
>my 18 year old girlfriend started at her job and already makes more than I do.
Does she charge by the hour or by the act?
I don't really see a reason to do this if you don't have kids that need cared for.
Hey anons, Im a 19 yo fag who just finished high school in Switzerland and now I have to choose where I would like to go to college.
If I stay in Switzerland, i will live like a poor fag, weather will still be shit, and i will hardly get a college degree without repeating at least one school year. However I lived here all my life and love based Switzerland.
If I move to Dominican Republic with my mother, I will go to private college, will live better in overall ( will afford easily a car, better food, etc ), will get nice latina pussy cause they love aryan blood...
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>>17286065
>being poor
>Switzerland
Pick one and only one.
>>17286065
Do not under any circumstance leave switzerland, its is literally the best country you could possibly live in, i would honestly kill for swiss citizenship. You are also used to a country that does things right, the third world is not nice, trust me. If you leave, you will regret it.
>>17286088
he doesn't have to renounce his swiss citizenship to move to DR for a few years, senpai
Subject says it all.
I'm 19 years old, male, living with mom, enrolled in Western Washington University with 105 credits under my belt, working toward a degree in archaeology with the idea of having a career working in the field someday. The reason for wanting to work in the field is because I like being outdoors and I love history. The first thing I wanted to do as a child was be an archaeologist, but I've only very recently started considering it again. The only issue is that it seems like archaeologists don't make a lot of money and the field is fairly...
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>>17286064
My friend goes to Embry-Riddle. He'll be a junior there next year. If you really want specific questions, I can relay them to him to answer.
>>17286064
my cousin went to Embry-Riddle, he says the travel is nice but the job itself is shit. Other than take-off and landing you have nothing to do and just sit there bored out of your mind for hours, on most planes you can't even stand up or move.
>>17286140
Don't most jobs end up being pretty boring? Seems like the pay, benefits, and time off are all pretty sweet.
>>17286119
I'm wondering if you have to do anything besides go to school do well in order to get a job. Do I also need to do some kind of extra curriculars of some sort in order to get a job?
I did the right thing
If I'd have walked on by no-one would care or know
But I didn't , I tried to make sure some people were safe
now no-one likes me because of it
What should I do?
>>17286040
what did you do friend?
if you stopped some bros from consensual sex with some passed out chick behind a dumpster then you did the wrong thing.
I can't say in case I'm a prosecuting witness
How do you distance yourself from toxic people, anons? How do you deal with the grief when you leave those people? Please share your stories.
It could be friends or social acquaintances. It could be a spouse or significant other.
In my case, my family is pretty bad. They are mostly alcoholics and drug addicts. My parents especially go out of their way to start drama and fights, verbally abuse (and used to physically abuse) my siblings, steal money, etc.
But they are my parents so I have a thirty + year history with them, and I have found that it is impossible...
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I'm married with 2 kids a 2.5 yo and a 1.5 yo.
She's pregnant with child #3
I'm not invited to the birth at the moment.
She's just grown to hate me over the years.
I can't say I've done any one big thing wrong -- such as cheating, drinking, or a drug habit. I don't even have a temper and am emotionally sound.
I take the kids for more time than she does, I make all the money, I do all the cleaning, cooking, and laundry.
She says I just don't listen or support her enough.
One huge grievance she has is that when we used to have sex I would spit in my hand and put it on my dick before insertion. She's asked me stop and I did.
She sees the spit dick as a sign I don't care about her pleasure. However we almost always have sex for longer periods of time and I frequently brought her to climax.
I deal with screaming and crying tantrums from her on almost a daily basis. I never really engage with negative responses I'm always the calm voice asking why and how can we work to make her happy.
I feel almost as though my removed and calm state and refusal to fight may exacerbate our issues.
She has 20% ownership of a 500k valued house with her siblings that her parents gave them.
My understanding is that since she got the property before we were married it wouldn't be on the table in a divorce.
However, her parents are selling the house and if that sale happened during our marriage the proceeds would be up for grabs in a divorce.
I can't help but think she wants a divorce to happen before the sale to keep me from receiving any portion of the sale.
Also who wants a divorce so close to giving birth? Someone who has a child by a man other than their husband. I was away for work for a large amount of the possible time the of conception. But we did copulate a few times during the window of conception.
I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to have my nice intact family and live and thrive
Help
how did the marriage go downhill? that type of thing is hard to comprehend... you just fell out of love? Did she get unattractive?
>>17286021
The way you describe it, it sounds as if you've done nothing wrong.
Shit happens, OP. Once you're paying alimony and child support it won't matter all that much, but consider MGTOW
>>17286021
>She's just grown to hate me over the years
And being the dumbfuck that you are, you've knocked her up not once, not twice, but THREE times in three years. Congrats bro.
>like this girl
>girl tells me she likes another guy
>girl is very flirty with me
>i'm very confused, what should I do?
>>17285981
You are either misinterpreting her signals or she's a slut. Find someone else
Forget about her.
She seems like a gigantic slut.
>>17286000
Trips never lies.
Hello...
A short backstory -
I met a guy who was dealing drugs and smoking them too,I became close to him he basically told me everything,Now this guy is a real psychopath,He did time in prison from age 14 to 16,started with the criminal activities at 12,so not too long ago he totally flipped on me and it ended up as we stopped talking,after a week I get a msg says "this was the last time u ever shake my friends hand" it was from this guy so I told about it to my best friend and my best friend decided to call him and ask whats wrong, here to there the guy calls...
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Now I can gather all this people but once we jump on him he'll simply jump on us with his friends one by one or get out of hospital and just stab me for that. All i want is fucking peace but this guy just looking to fuck me up. im sorry its a long story I really need help and dont know what to do... thank you....
Can you rewrite this with proper punctuation? Not being a grammar nazi here, I'm legit having problems comprehending.
From what little I did understand, call the police, show them the message where he threatened you, get your neighbor to give a witness statement, wait for him to be arrested.
>>17286006
Im sorry what do u mean when u say proper punctuation? English is not my mother language
And I cant go to the police as I said cuz as soon as he gets released Im back to the same situation only this time ill get killed for sure...
How does one stop gay people from hitting on oneself?
In the last few mintha i have been hit on(even molested) by gay dudes, and i don't really understand why, and how could it be avoided
Im a male btw
>>17285943
Welcome to the experience of every woman ever.
Really though, stop going to gay bars and dressing like a faggot.
>>17285943
Stop going to gay bars.
>>17285956
Oh such a tough life
>girl decides some guy she knows is boyfriend material
>guy notices this
>guy thinks the girl is okay looking/fuckable/why not
>relationship starts
Seriously, this is how most if not all relationships are formed, right?
>inb4 no
explain
>Person is attracted to another person
>Person can't stop thinking about other person
>Person pursues said person
>Person finds out person they don't actually love them
>Person tries to make it work anyways
>Relationship fails horrifically
>Either get cheat or get married and then cheat
>Physically and emotionally abuse...
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Yes? Sort of
Usually a person doesn't know if they are bf/gf material until after getting to know each other for a while. Physical attraction is the first stage, then it goes from there.
People get to know each other first, using the ancient art of verbal communication.
They don't just look at each other and suddenly decide they want a relationship.
