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I've developed a habit of collecting relatively effeminate stuff related to comics/media. Pic related, some art I bought tonight from a cool artist at a comic-con.
How do I explain this, or stop this, and how do I tastefully display my purchases? I'm a guy who is very confident in his masculinity, and very few would ever expect this kind of thing, but art/statues/etc. of women I find alluring for some reason.
I've been holding myself back until recently and suddenly anything based off a couple of different characters I really want to have.
Collecting pictures of hot women is effeminate now?
>>17270585
Sorry that my pictures are rotating sideways on my phone, but like, I bought this, too.
Pictures of cartoon women are iffy territory in the first place. I have a Spider-Gwen statue that I ordered that won't be here until October, and I also bought a Sailor V Figma.
I'm also too old to be buying toys/statues. Not that I normally believe that age should be a factor there as long as you're not excessive... But...
>>17270624
do you have elsa too
also, you'll get more useful responses at >>>/toy/
I'm a weary of how I am these days
I am.so bitter and cynical, I think I am alienating myself because of it.
so I ask, how do I change and become optimistic and full of love? it's not so much that i am depressed but more that I am always just so damn angry
idk I guess I just wanna stop being such a toxic cunt
>>17270503
the problem is that you are asking how to change soemthingi n your head. and while its possible, its not really something we do easily. you are asking to change something that is possibly inherent to your personality. and personality is hard to change. otherwise we'd all have the same one.
people say im pessimistic, except on /adv/ they say im optimistic. really i just love life and whats happening around me but dont ignore the problems. i think most people think you can only be optimistic, or pessimistic, but never realistic.
if i think something bad is going to happen i address it, but i maintain my happiness cuz i built my life in a way that doesnt make me deal with those problems very much, especially since i address them.
that being siad, i used to feel a bit like you and what changed me was purposely taking the time to enjoy the little things.
take out yuor phone and open the calendar and set two random alerts a day. set them to vibrate. no matter where you are or what you are doing when you feel the vibrate, take a moment to acknowledge how nice something is. is your seat comfy? food tasty? the sky look nice? and if ur a total edge lord who cant enjoy anything, enjoy the fact taht you can take three deep breaths, cuz its better than having a cold.
over time this condition syour brain to take these regular moments and think of them as positive things.
now im the kind of guy who cant stop thinking about how great the day is, even if its just a normal day at the office.
the downside is, if you can call it that, is you tend to examine whats going on a LOT instead of simply living in that moment. when i was on vacation (my first ever) i was sitting on the beach, and i wasnt even doing anything but i was sitting there giddy and thinking how exciting and amazing it was that im on the beach and i found an old sandcastle. it just felt amazing to do something that is so 'human'.
thanks anon, that actually sounds like a pretty neat idea,
>>17270658
worked for me. one size doesnt fit all, but sitting there and enjoying th ethings you like cant hurt right?
in my defense though that was an epic trip to the beach. i happened to stumble upon a wedding that was happening. check it
Can you give me psychological tips for taking exams?
I freak out, forget everything and stutter every time. So I always appear less competent than i am.
There are lots of people with high Bluff skill who are the opposite, how can i do that?
>math and physics are problematic because you can't just spill everything you remember and go home, they make you solve problems and think on the oral exam.
>getting to know the professor won't work we are assigned to random member of the faculty.
Masturbate beforehand.
Chew gum.
practice like its the exam, and do the exam like its a practice
>>17270414
Thanks, I'll try!
How do you make reciting by yourself not weird though? I don't want to whisper and i live in the dorm.
So I've started going through some hair loss last year, I've tried to not worry about it but lately it has been increasing. I am working on changing my lifesyle to be healthier and planning on going to the dermatologist to make sure it's not the worst (Genetics) getting to me.
My question is, is there any temporary solution to keep the hairloss at a minimum? I'm well aware that most stuff is BS but I'd like to hear your input, thanks.
Minoxidil slows the rate of loss.
>>17270382
There is no easy solution. If there as you wouldn't see bald men everywhere. The best you can do is take pills, use those hair liquids, and use special shampoo. They probably won't work but then you can at least rest knowing you tried everything short of surgery. Best you just try to overcome the fear of losing hair.
>>17270400
>Minoxidil
Will look into this
>>17270407
You guys are right, I gotta just ease up to the situation, it just gets really annoying having to get a good amount of strands of hair off my hands every time I shower
Hey, all I have a problem about going out by myself sometimes. It's not an everyday problem but I get torn between about going out to the bars or local breweries around my town. I feel as when I go into a bar for the most part (around my town at least) it's like all eyes are set upon me. As I enter I feel like I'm being judged on the spot. Not "cool enough to be here" kind of attitude from most people. It's pretty annoying...sometimes I just need to get out by myself and maybe make friends. But then I realize that bar culture is kinda lame and it's almost like this adult hook up, or come look at me kind of place. Which I don't really want to be part of. I just get this spark inside of me telling me that I should leave my house and do different things. I don't feel this way when I go to coffee shops at all if you can really compare the too. For the most part, I'm pretty observant about my setting and all I see are horny men, drunk girls, groups of people, close friends, and or people just like me getting out and about at night. In all honestly, I would love to meet people that are willing to be friends not just "bar buddies" that kind of people is just pointless to me. Maybe even have smart conversations and or have same ideas. Do you guys have any advice about this subject? Or maybe any experience with the same feelings I have in a shape or form? How can I overcome these insecurities?
You need a wingman
>>17270351
have u had a sad event happen at a bar before? maybe you feel that way because everyone has friends there and you think theyre thinking hes all by him self? does it help to bring a friend along?
It does help to bring a friend along with me. But I barely have a group of friends to call up. Only a few good people we go out occasionally.
I have a hole in my butt!??
you are suppossed to.
Nnnooooooooooooooo!!!
>>17270295
No, you have a hole hidden by your butt. The anus is the body's dirtiest secret.
>alone in this city, no friends
>options are to stay in, browse tinder, fap and sleep
>or go to this after hours place by myself, enjoy some good music, maybe chat up some hawt girls, but be down 20+ bucks and a good couple hours of sleep
What do
order a pizza, watch a movie, fap, go to sleep
god damn i wish i lived alone in a city
no pain no gain bruh
>>17270048
Wut?
Sup, /adv/, lately I've had a massive lack of motivation to do pretty much anything, and things I used to enjoy, such as video games and movies, have just felt very redundant, and I don't know what to make of it. Is this depression, or just some phase?
(Sorry if I sound like some tumblrfag, but I'm really feeling low, and I didnt really know what else to turn to)
i'm in the same boat
i have no motivation for anything, nothing to look forward to, bored of life
i don't think it's depression because i can still function normally
>>17270025
What would it be, then?
>>17270054
laziness? indifference? hell if i know
sometimes i get sad thinking about how much of a loser i am and how i want to die, but i don't actually think of killing myself
I wanna get a phone to car jack but idk what kind to get. I have a galaxy s7 but want a universal plug for all types of phones if that is possible. Pic Related my car Kia Rio 2007 LX
Just get something like this.
http://www.ebay.com/itm/Newest-Bluetooth-Car-Kit-MP3-Player-FM-Transmitter-SD-LCD-Dual-USB-Charger-Blue-/361353056050?hash=item5422520f32:g:ah4AAOSwie5XTUbP
>>17269965
okay I got one, thanks I just wanted to make sure it would work for a car like mine
>>17269959
>I have a galaxy s7 but want a universal plug for all types of phones if that is possible.
There are only really two types of phone connector - lightning cables for apple products and micro-usb for literally everything else in the world. The closest thing you'll get to a universal connector is to buy a micro-usb cable and a lightning adapter to go on the end of it for when you connect an iphone. The downsides to this plan are the fact that apple products don't allways work well (or even work at all) with third party hardware, and also that you'll probably loose the adapter the very first time you take it off.
A much better solution would be to follow >>17269965 sugestion. Those bluetooth/FM kits cost next to nothing, and yet they work really well. There's certainly no difference in sound quality between that and an aux cable.
What should I do with my life?
>>17269848
master the fine art of the kickflip
>>17269848
Listen, cat: You keep asking me that, and I keep telling you to ask yourself.
You're a really great cat. I mean, how many cats can drive a car? You can drive a stick, for fuck's sake. *I* can't drive a stick. That sets you apart from other cats. You need to capitalize on that somehow. Just my opinion.
Learn to do this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23B017ZVIx4
Hi. I want to be a correctional officer. And I'm going to community to get an associates in criminal justice so I can easily land a job anywhere in the country. But there's a problem... I was born with club foot. Unfortunately I still have complications with my feet. I expirence pain on a regular but I'm getting surgery to hopefully fix that. Though I'm worried about future problems with my feet. Plus I don't have very good balance and my feet are really wide that require me to get special shoes. Do you think I'd be able to get into the academy with my feet problems? Even with an associates? Should I try? Pls give me your advice.
>>17269807
You will never get a correctional job. Focus on something else. sorry op.
>>17269807
you should definitely try, even if they turn you away for the academy you're still going to open up so many doors on the way there that you might find a very close alternative to correctional officer.
>>17269811
I know correction officers who have a bionic leg. Don't get how having post club foot can effect me getting a job. Idk what else to do. I wanna do truck driving but there's going to be self driving trucks coming and I'm too young to drive.
>female
>beyond red-pilled
>crippling depression
how do I even begin to make friends? I often break jokes and most of the times everybody laughs. They just don't like it very much when I joke or talk about death or mortality. Should I tuck away my black humor and accept that I will never have good friends?
>>17269784
get out more often and talk to other people about their stuff instead of your shit all the time.
Too scary? Too hard? That is just how you do it.
>>17269784
>redpilled
do you want to save the white race with me?
>>17269784
>red-pilled
>have cats
Clearly not redpilled at all.
I recently graduated, and my wife told me I should shave and cut my hair short for some upcoming interviews.
Well, I did, and it turns out I'm pretty fucking ugly and fat without all the hair to disguise it. Great.
I'm going to go down to 1500 calories/day and renew my gym membership. I want to know of foods that are filling but have low calorie counts. I hate the feeling of hunger, so I want to avoid it. It doesn't matter to me what I'm eating. It doesn't have to be enjoyable food. The disgust I feel when looking at myself in the mirror should be motivation enough to push past it.
Thanks for any replies.
1. Wholegrain oats is one of the most low-cal and satiating foods around. A cup of it microwaved with some water will fill you up like crazy.
2. Broccoli is good for vitamin C and fibre. Can be quite good raw or steamed.
3. Beans of just about any variety will work. Good for protein and can be prepared in a number of ways.
>>17269774
Avoid pretty much everything processed.
cook things from scratch as much as you can.
Get a rice cooker and have rice with everything and reduce portion sizes of everything else. the rice will help you feel full.
Have popcorn as a snack over everything else.
Ditch all sugary drink cold turkey. This is probably the hardest but most influential in weight loss.
>>17269783
>>17269786
Thanks guys. Much appreciated.
My life feels meaningless. I currently have no friends. No interests. Nothing. I used to work out but i have huge lower back pain because i broke my spine. I insanely miss a girlfriend. Someone that's intimate with me. I miss a few of my ex's at the same time and it's confusing, because at the same time i hate them for leaving me or cheating on me etc. I think that the only remedy is a girlfriend. What are your thoughts? I'm dealing with a lot of shit. Yes, i am in therapy. No it's not helping me. Yes, i've had sex with a fellow therapy girl. And yes i am very confused about it. No we are not dating y
>>17269756
you are craving social iteration and intimacy.
Expand your social life. Get out more for anything and everything. Try to make friends and meet people. And yes it is scary and yes it is hard, but anything worth doing always is.
>>17269760
Yes i am. and it's not hard for me to go out or fuck a girl... it's the intimacy feels like i'm missing something. I can't connect with most people either. Never had trouble getting sex.
ill be ur friend, add me on steam : dilapidated asshole
Im graduating soon and i never made the best grades in highschool ,what should i do with my life?
>>17269705
You have to be good at SOMETHING.
pic related?
just graduated college with mediocre grades
good at nothing
no experience
what can i do with my life
