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How do I assure myself tonight that tomorrow I will do the things I want/need to do and not procrastinate my day away for the umpteenth time?
You can't assure yourself the night before, unless you uber motivate yourself before going to sleep in order to wake up early. You have to actually start it the night before or you never will. This is a "do what i say, don't do what i do" deal cuz i failed hard like 2 to 3 weeks ago.
Just do it one day at a time
make a list of things you want to do
do and cross out at least one of the things daily until the list is done
pro-tip: the list is never done
Hello,
i live in social housing for 6 yrs in the UK and i have got a notice to seek eviction from the housing association, they said they could smell weed from my store room.
can i contest this, should i see the CAB, am i likely to have to be evicted, im worried
thanks
I don't know how contesting it would work. You can't prove a negative, i.e. that weed wasn't there, and even if they re-inspect, they'll just assume you moved/sold/smoked it to hide evidence.
I don't know how UK housing laws work, but call the council or the equivalent to discuss this, don't ask /adv/.
Unless you have a history of anti-social behaviour or they have proof you were growing to supply, they won't be able to touch you. It's likely that if they take any action, it'll be a notice or a warning and then the housing officer from your area will watch you like a hawk to a few months.
I work in this field and we have let people stay in houses for much worse.
Just be more careful in future and don't piss your neighbours off, you filthy pothead.
If all else fails you'll have a clean test after 2 weeks if you need it, besides that they can't throw you out for smell.
There is perfume that smells like weed, if you're clean you should be fine but if you live in a complex be so thoughtful and smoke while going for a walk and come back not smelly.
My GF took a morning-after pill 6 days ago and since yersterday she has not been feeling very well, having stuff like headcache and nausea. How it's possible to reduce those side-effects? She is also still bleeding.
That's not normal after six days. Take her to the damn doctor your mongoloid
>>17275496
You are legitimately retarded and should never breed. Ever. It's good that she's using the pill. Keep doing that.
>>17275510
>morning after pill
>it's good that she's using the pill
>keep doing that
Your heart is in the right place but you sound just as retarded
>grandma just died
>shit sucks and she was an amazing person but I honestly don't feel it that hard, people die
this isn't weird right? I'm not a sociopath I just don't think I'm really gonna be devastated about this, I'm more worried about how my mom is gonna feel
She wasn't as close to you as your immediate family.
That's just how it goes.
>>17275436
this is completely normal. i mean i imagine you dont see her often right. once a year? twice a year?
thats not like feeling bad that someone you saw once or twice a year just got busy. or a friend moved. its not THAT different. yes their life ended but in relation to you its not a big deal.
we all 'love' our grandparents and its great, but they arent like our parents who raised us from the beginning. you are not a bad person for not being devastated. the fact that you care about your...
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>>17275436
my grandmother died not long ago and i too felt little to nothing. I was not saddened by her passing . My dog died a week after her and i cried like a little bitch.
Sup adv
I need advice
I wanna change, i don't like myself, im always anxious, stressed out, unorganized, lazy, don't like people etc etc
How do i change myself? I don't expect it to be over night of course but in a year so i can look back and say im different for the better
I have a job, a good one at that, that im blowing because i suck, no social life whatsoever tho
I need a change because i don't feel like spending rest of my life like this, it fucking sucks
>>17275254
List out all the things that you want to change, then sit with that list and write out 1) What it would take to make that change realistically, 2) Benefits of that change and 3) A reasonable timeframe to do that change in. Commit to actually doing the steps towards your change as best as you can, focusing on the outcome i.e. I want to be a singer: 1) I need lessons, a demo tape and an agent--I will work toward each! 2) Becoming a singer will make me happy, as I fulfilled my dream. Money, popularity, etc. are also...
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>>17275254
Another vague bullshit thread.
Seriously kids, provide more info in your OP.
>>17275313
there isn't much more to provide honestly, dunno what else could i write
Just broke up with gf of almost 2 years. How long does the brain take to rewire itself into being as happy as I was before the relationship. I have consistent anxiety and lack of energy. Just really want this feeling to end.
No one went through some shit like this?
6-9 months (depending on how in love you were with her, how it ended, etc etc.)
It's pretty subjective so.....
>>17275257
Holy fucking shit... a few months would make sense, but the better part of a year? Never heard of that before
I'm tired.
My uncle came to live at home and he and his wife take care of his animals as a child.
Gives food pro dog on the couch, sleep with it, and get angry if I do not give the necessary care or exaggerated treatment.
They treat better dog than the children.
He despises his mother. It is rude to everyone, but speaks very generously with your dog.
What is happening?
Because all people think that way today?
Go fuck yourselves, it's just a dog!
And people who say, "animals are better than humans," go...
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>>17275178
Are you too scared to say that to his face?
>>17275181
what?
up
Hey people of /adv/,
I recently got a position helping around a charity store on weekends, and I was offered to either work on the cash register or help in the back, steaming/ironing clothes.
I kind of want to work around the front on the register, but I'm basically a shut in and I've not done anything like that before and I'm kind of scared of fucking up in front of people.
Am I just overthinking this because I've not done it before? I kind of want to know what I'm supposed to expect working out front on a cash register.
Man up.
>>17275166
>fucking up in front of people
Customers literally don't give a shit if you mess up a little unless you somehow give them the wrong change or something.
Just do it, you'll learn that way and realize that it's not nearly as big a deal as you're building it up to be.
I'm sure that this has happened to many of you before, but in my current relationship my partner seems distant around me, and they never reply/read any of my messages. Am I just being too paranoid, or has this lead to anything in your experience? I would appreciate any replies. (file not related)
I haven't spoken to my bf since last night because I'm depressed.
I do this when I'm depressed-- to everyone, not just significant others. I know others do this cocoon mode shit when their depressed too.
Could that explain the distance?
Use common sense.
>>17275139
It could, but they seem really bubbly and friendly when we're both around other people
Hey /adv/.
I recently got offered a job at a garden, lets call it Plugs.. but there was another job I was after, at a different garden, which we will call sinks.
I had the interview at sinks. Which went well.
However the head gardener at plugs has started to get everything all set up and organised for my arrival. He called me and said he had my e-mail set up and had me on the system at plugs and was looking forward to having me there.
If i get the job offered to me at sinks, then I will take that one.
So I called him back and explained that there is...
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You fucked up, everything is ruined now. This was really stupid, you just sabotaged yourself. I can't believe what I just read.
People are generally understanding about things like this. You didn't fuck yourself unless you did it in an emotional way.
It's good to be honest with him that you're waiting on another position. I would not necessarily have said that I didn't want to waste his time overtly.
What's important is that you're polite, professional and you keep him in the loop.
>putting this much thought into a job that is literally watering plants all day
Go back to college, my man.
Maybe someone has gone through this before, and can advise me how to act.
TL;DR: same gender friend hitting on you. What to do/say?
>be me
>male
>have a girlfriend
4 am, a big friend, guy, of mine texts me, one night after we hung out with other friends on a bar "are you bi? I always knew, hottie. I found your haircut to tell so. I am, but I keep it silent hihihi". I kinda suspected he was, but I never cared to delve more into it.
So I answered, on the next day "No, bro, I'm not.. but don't worry, I won't tell anyone or anything. I'm sure you won't confuse our friendship with second intentions, right"
Which he replied "hahaha" minutes later.
On one hand I don't want to be very harsh on him, because I don't want him to think that him admitting to be bi means losing all friendships. And on the other hand, I don't want him to ever comment anything like that again, because it made me feel uncomfortable and I'd be forced to stop talking with him.
What do you guys think I should do? Leave it like it is, or send something else?
Feel free to comment how was your experience, if you had one.
Leave it. You did good.
>>17274853
Thanks. Anyone else has any more insights?
Nope, you did fine. Just continue with life as normal. Don't overthink it.
I want to go into Mathematics coming from a computer programming background but my parents are resisting my idea based off their experience with mathematics and pushing that on me,should I even listen to them?
No. Why would their experience in maths matter to you?
I can't really say, all I know is that I'm studying what my parents want and not what I want and I've had a bunch of suicide attempts on my way to college after 4 years of studying this.
hey, if you think you understand mathematical analysis and etc, go for it; not that many people do
Sup /adv/, I need some advice.
I am studying a first year at the university, and I can't stand it anymore. I was going to be a teacher, but I realised that I don't want to teach, I don't want to study there.
I would be glad to quit the studying, but I can't, cause I have a contract with some company. According to that contract I must to work as a teacher for 3 years after graduating. If I won't, I 'll have to pay them three times the amount. And it's a large sum of money.
What should I do? I am stumped, cause in the next...
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>>17274782
Unfortunately, you should NEVER have agreed to such a contract. Review the contract very carefully for any circumstances which may apply to you and lessen the penalties for withdrawal. If you truly hate what you're studying and must break the contract, then you should look into what kind of repayment plans are available and find work ASAP so you can cover those payments and survive financially while you decide what you do want to study or what direction you want to take next. GL!
Firstly, the fact that you signed that contract is probably the dumbest decision I have seen on the chans outside of some of the shit on /r9k/.
Secondly: Review the contract and see exactly what the terms are. Every contract has a release clause, if it doesn't it's not valid. I would consider talking to a pro-bono lawyer, because this contract doesn't really sound legal to me. An employer cannot force you to work on penalty of debt slavery if you don't follow through like this.
>>17274782
Suck it up.
I think I'm an incredibly self absorbed, and selfish person.
For example, when it comes to my taste in music, I sometimes go out of my way to listen to obscure music just so that I can feel somewhat superior. I don't like connecting with other people, or feeling like we share something unless it's me that discovered it first.
I don't ask my awesome parents about their past, I don't care to learn about them at all. I sometimes hesitate to say hi to people because I don't want to acknowledge them before they acknowledge me.
I'm...
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>>17274659
Congrats OP, you are a total faggot. Better change your worldview and find your place before somebody shows you to it. Faggot>>17274659
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Sounds like you're a teenager. Or you're still one developmentally. At least you realize it though.
You know what your problem is.. So you know exactly what to do, you just don't want to. Start reaching out to people and being nicer, and if you're not feeling it, you'll start feeling it with time.
>>17274666
I'm 24, but in a lot of ways, I am inexperienced in most facets of life. I often do find myself thinking about how my current life experience might be that of a teenager.
As an American, how do I speak Russian without sounding like a cunt? Whatever I say just doesn't sound natural.
>>17274599
Like any skill, it takes practice, practice and more practice. If you can, talk to Russian speakers and ask for their help in pronouncing difficult words or saying the correct phrases--every language has its own idiosyncrasies. You just need some practice and feedback from real Russian speakers. GL!
>>As an American how do I speak without sounding like a cunt?
Fixed that for you. Also, the answer is, you don't.
speak from your throat with slavic languages, not the front of your mouth.
