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Has anyone here taken a pay cut to work on something you're more interested in? Was it worth it?
I am absolutely miserable in my job. I hate every second of it. But I am making way more money here than I could earn anywhere else. I am starting to think the income doesn't compensate for the massive hit to my daily happiness.
how long have you been working?
>>17281353
Yes.
Your daily happiness and content will easily make up for the missing cash. Think about it, you spend half your day at work. What good is having money to spend during your other half of your day if you already hate most of your day? you'll still be stressed and pissed.
>>17281353
Depends on how much of a pay cut and whether or not you need the money. If you are making a whole lot, if you can deal with the misery for a few years, you can potentially set yourself up so you don't have to work for the rest of your life.
I'm self-employed and don't really make too much money, but then again I also don't work all that much, tend to only take jobs that interest me, and I have very little need for money. In part I got myself to this situation because I spent three years...
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when you feel like you want to fuck someone who is not your SO, what do you do? i normally jack off but she's gone for a few months and ive been getting bored of jackin it 2x a day
ways to ensure i keep my urges under control¿ i dont want to mess up a good thing you get me?
"what she doesnt know wont hurt her" is a bad way to look at it i think. i just want to be cool and not think about acting on this
>>17281341
Realize that you're only infatuated with the idea because it's new/a thrill/a chase/risky. Utilize some fucking discipline and just stop thinking about it. Fap to your SO and how attractive you think she is.
If you can't do that, break up and maybe kill yourself.
>>17281341
>"what she doesnt know wont hurt her" is a bad way to look at it i think.
When she does find out, it will hurt her. How's that for a way to look at it? Keep your dick in your pants, for god's sakes.
>>17281341
It's too late OP. You're a weak faggot and I think anything I say will be dust in the wind. If you really don't want to cheat though then you should maybe stop focusing on sex for awhile, hang out with friends or something, indulge in hobbies, anything that can keep your mind off fucking. I don't know why you need someone to help you, seems like you've got problems as most normally functional people would be capable of controlling themselves. Are you really, truly committed to this girl?...
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I have a crush but there's two problems one he's my best friend and two he's gay advice please
Are you female?
If you're a chick there is literally nothing you can do about it. Get over it, and move on with your life. We all have someone in the past that we cared about that didn't care back.
>>17281322
Be really nice to him and tell him you like him. It's worth a try. Still better than meeting him regularly and having unrequited love.
My boyfriend's older brother stole $80 and my credit card from my wallet. His brother is a 32 year old unemployed bum that physically abuses his mother that financially supports him. This is the second time this has happened and I don't know how to approach this to my boyfriend's mother or anybody else.
Trash his room, why you letting him steal your stuff? anything over 50 is a theft
>>17281188
It's my boyfriend's room but he bullied him and made him surrender his room to him. I'm afraid because if my family knew, there is a chance they wouldn't let me see him anymore. I don't want to stress his mother, she is sickly and has enough on her plate.
Stand up for yourself or no one else will.
After posting a youtube link, this came up. What did he mean by my id?
>>17281177
Prob the channel's name of the uploader
>>17281183
Nothing to do with me then?
>>17281189
Doubt it. No
I recently broke up with my gf of 3 years. I was paying all the rent, the bills, and buying most of the food and I could bore you with all the other problems we were having but the catalyst was this: We weren't fucking, and she stonewalled me hard every time I brought it up or tried to fix it. Eventually I started to chat and trade pics with other sexually frustrated losers to get some sort of sexual release, I'd like to point out I never actually fucked anyone else. She found out, and we broke up. She insisted she had come out as "Ace", I was cheating on...
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>>17281144
She's played you good. It's no use stressing over it now. Just move on and don't fuck up once again.
>>17281144
>She insisted she had come out as "Ace"
dafuq does that mean? does she sexually identify as a WWII fighter pilot or something?
>>17281160
Cringey term for asexual.
So a friend of mine had sex with the girl i was into. We've been texting and making out before, she drops hints about us being together. They don't know that i know they had sex; and i'll meet both of them tommorow. How do I react? Do i just ignore the shit outta both of them or confront them?
You had your chance and wasted it. You should have made a move while you still could.
>>17281097
she fucked the guy she wanted to fuck so don't humiliate yourself by being pissed. If she wanted you she would have fucked you and told the friend to take a hike
>>17281097
If she is still droping hints just drop her. Otherwise there is nothing to be done
Soon acquiring my driver license, getting an 1980's Mercedes v126 and attending senior highschool, would becoming an Uber driver actually pay off? Considering the cost of gas and maintenance of the car, could I expect to make more than a few extra bucks by driving people around within a 35 kilometer radius?
No cars over 10 years old. No children either.
You have to be 21 or older,
3 years of driving experience, and have a 4-door sedan that's 2001 or newer. So your application would be instantly rejected. That took me 10 seconds to find out on Google.
>>17281019
>You have to be 21
>You car must be 2004 or newer
>You are is old enough to be your mom if she got knocked up in high school.
You cannot be an Uber driver.
I'm thinking of putting together a meetup group for people who like writing and drawing art. But I've never done something like this, and I'm not sure what would be interesting for people. I just want to make a group for people to hang out, share there work with each other, and get advice for things like drawing and writing. And depending on how much interest there is, maybe meet up once or twice a month in places like a library, or maybe a local cafe. Is this enough? Or do i need more activities.
>>17280913
Ever see "Field of Dreams" where the phrase, "If you build it, they will come..." became famous? Point is, you can start the group and see who shows up and what kind of interests they bring to the table and go from there! Maybe some would like to meet up in a park or retreat to draw and write, while others may be interested in seeing inspirational movies! Maybe they'd all be willing to go to an amusement park just to get away from it all while sharing in like-minded company! First, get the group together and see what the chemistry is like and how willing they really are to organize and commit to get-togethers...one step at a time! GL!
>>17282147
If this was in my town you'd already have one person there. Do it
It likely exist already
I can't get my head straight in this.
I'm in high school and there is this girl that I really like. I never really talked to girls that much because I'm not good with the opposite sex. Anyways, I got this girl's number (a friend used it to prank call me) and she started texting me on a regular basis. She was very caring and sweet once I got to know her. Soon, we started seeing each other and talking to each other more to the point where I got her too much into my life. I was depressed at the time and even considered suicide so I decided to push her...
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>>17280737
>I'm in high school
I literally stopped reading there
>>17280737
Gotta be 18 to post.
>>17280737
>Do I really love her?
Do you expect us to tell you the answer to that?
>Or is it that I am seeking the comfort and happiness she gives?
There's nothing wrong with this. A lot of guys will tell you something along the lines of "I feel happy and comfortable with her" when you ask them why they like their girlfriends.
I have a guy that weve been hanging with the same friends for a while now but i have a crush on him. Where do i take him out so it seems friendly and not too straightforward to him?
Hiking somewhere.
What's the mistake?
>>17280984
This! I must know! Why would you do this, OP?
I'm lonely /adv/, I'm really lonely. I have friends and family, and I love them, but for some reason I just feel alone. I lost someone who understood me about a year ago, and ever since then I just feel like I'm trying to do good in life for the sake of seeming okay. Tonight, I tried something new and went out with people I didn't exactly know well. I acted like myself, and was genuinely nice and tried to get to genuinely know these people. In the end I just ended up as an outcast, again. I don't know why tonight hurt as much as it did, but after 6 years...
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>>17280590
Just go buy some booze like the rest of us.
>>17280590
It sounds like you are "relationship" lonely, like you wish you had a partner to be with, not just hanging out with friends?
Maybe you are tricking yourself by saying you were the "outcast". it might be you are thinking that, but it isn't really true
Having friends and family to talk to is more than some of us have; you should be grateful for that.
Cutting yourself is definitely not the answer; good lord I would suggest masturbation or something like that to feel better....
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>>17280590
>I couldn't help but to cut myself.
See a goddamn mental health professional.
This isn't a healthy or normal coping mechanism.
Consider looking up borderline personality disorder (the avoidant subtype) if you really don't want to go to a shrink. There's some self-help material out there.
So I have a predicament. My grandfather that I've never met, or even talked to, died today. My father left when I was four, the reason why I've never talked to them. My aunt asked me if I wanted to go to the funeral. Should I go to the funeral of a person I've never known and see my father for the first time? Should I not? What do?
I should also mention, my family on my father's side have all hidden him from me so he wouldn't have to pay child support for the longest time.
Your dad's side of the family seem like dirtbags to be honest and nobody would blame you for not feeling a connection to them and not wanting to get involved with them.
With that said, it might be worth it to go just to have the chance to form a relationship with this side of your family. It's not a guarantee that it'll happen, but if it does then you have a whole other group of people to meet and to make a part of your life. And if that's something you want to do, then this might be the last chance you get at that. Worst case scenario, it's...
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>>17280469
I do not think you have an obligation to that side of the family, ESPECIALLY if that have been sneaky over money. You are a human being with feelings for crying out loud. I think that is very shady.
Depending if you saying no would hurt your aunt's feelings, if you care about that, I would decline and continue your life the way it is going.
On the other hand, if you really want to meet your father, go and call him out on being a loser, and see how he reacts. Maybe he will feel guilty for what he...
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If it were me, I would go. I wouldn't expect anything from them and wouldn't offer anything except condolences. Your dad might try to pull some chummy shit but remember that he left you behind.
ive been talking to this chic for 2 months and heres the issue this chic has flaked on me 2x and first time used a questionable excuse second time i get she works. but this third time shes told me yea for sure sure. like should i be like fuck this shit. shes the type where she give bland response and doesnt say much i try not to feed her too much on her to back peddle and shit
I don't suppose you get very excited from this chick. On the contrary, she makes you feel 'meh'.
Why would you chase someone who makes you feel 'meh'? Because hope eventually hope that it's gonna work out.
Fuck it, she's not worth your time and hassle. She would have made an effort if she liked you as well. Move on.
3 strike rule.
>>17280414
More like 2 strike rule.
Why is it a red flag if she owns a horse?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yBKA42E3yKc
pretty much
It's a red flag because she likely adopted it as a boyfriend substitute. She'll say she just loves animals but she'll judge you if the animal doesn't like you. She'll judge you if you don't like the animal. She's so screwed in the head that the dog/horse/whatever is more important to her than you ever will be and she'll make time for her pet on a whim while you'll have to get in line and fight for her attention.
>>17280387
Fuck, I'm no horse whisperer but that does make a lot of sense. Guess I'll take it easy with this one
