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Hi I'm an alt right guy who recently hooked up with a BPD girl and she seems really into me. She says stuff like "I don't want to ever lose you" and seems to want to take it further. I'm just scared of what BPD means for our future.
My two questions are
>1. How do I redpill her/bring her to more "alt right"/far right views?
She's Christian and moderately rightwing but apolitical. Seems to like going to church and her Irish heritage.
>2. How do I get her into a healthy and happy relationship?
She seems like a good hearted person and is not selfish or bitchy, at all. She's goofy and goodnatured with a lot of trauma. I just want to save her. She also self harms, frequently. And goes off on tangents about many weird topics in her life with seemingly no brakes.
I have STPD and PTSD.
>inb4 omgracist
Go screw thyselves PC police.
invited:
people who won't have heartattacks when they read the term 'alt right'
disinvited:
the other idiots
>>17284659
>>1. How do I redpill her/bring her to more "alt right"/far right views?
Don't.
>>2. How do I get her into a healthy and happy relationship?
Just ask her what's wrong.
>>17284668
>Don't.
No.
>Just ask her what's wrong.
I know what's wrong. She's a messed up lost person with no solid identity who needs to be loved. I just want advice on how to get along with her. I'm somewhat socially awkward, and I have never known a BPD girl.
She's 24 I'm 26
My girlfriend wants to start doing cam girl stuff, to get some money and because it's fun and likes the validation (kind of a red flag, but I always knew she has shitty self steem, and I've tried to help it but no way). I like the idea and even have always wanted to upload videos of ourselves or webcam, but she keeps telling me that doing it alone would probably get her more money, which I could understand and probably doesn't want to share the money, but oh well.
Apart from that, the thing that bugs me is that I'm a rather jealous guy, so if she started doing it alone it I told her that I'd be grateful if she sent me the stuff before, if she told me when she's going live and so on. She thought this was an "ask for permission" kind of thing and got really defensive, and told me that she'd do it even if I didn't like it, and that it isn't that important for her, just some money, so I felt like she was downplaying my feelings saying it was an overreaction
We talked a bit about it and we seemed to get to a common point, that she understands how I felt, and if she ever does it we'd start together and stuff. But I'm still slightly worry. I'm a really jealous person, and maybe now the concept doesn't scare me that much, but once it starts I might get trust issues if she does private shows and that kind of thing.
Is it wrong for me to want to decide some kind of rules to it? I don't want to sound like a manipulative jerk, but for me this thing is way too related to intimacy and our privacy, and I don't want to live forever thinking about maybe she's having some kind of affair with a viewer online...
>Is it wrong for me to want to decide some kind of rules to it?
It's understandable. This seems like an unusual situation.
Kinda whorish but whatever dude, she's making money. That's the way I see it. I knew a girl that did that, she was almost ashamed to share it with me but I thought it was hot
>>17284442
>you are okay with her camwhoring
>Manipulative jerk
Just leave, shes a piece of shit that will go through any amount of mental gymnastics to feel like shes right. Abandon fucking ship before you are trapped.
I just got out of hospital for a month
I cant fap, why? Blood clot and anaemia
>>17284329
Yeah cause your fucking anemic
>>17284329
Sorry pal,
This is the only way to escape this torture
>>17284329
seriously, you cant figure it out? do you know how boners work?
I have a feeling all my relationships are doomed to fail. Not only romantic ones, even friendships.
I'm an outgoing person, or at least that's the impression I give off. I'm loud, I talk a lot, I'm smart and funny. People tend to like me automatically. But that's not who I am, not really. I've just learned to act like that because my real personality just isn't interesting.
And so while I have no trouble making friends, I have trouble keeping them because, as I get comfortable in their presence, I slip up with the act and act more like my true self. I have accepted on some level that I'll probably end up forever alone, but sometimes, like today, it bothers me a lot.
Wat do?
>inb4 bee urself
I've tried that and it was even worse.
Pic unrelated.
>>17284309
Just be alone, im exactly the same way OP so ive learned to keep people at a distance so theyll stop hurting me when they leave
I'm similar, although there are a couple of people who like "the real me". The only thing I hide these days are my edgiest beliefs.
>>17284312
I'm honestly starting to think this is my only option.
>>17284317
You're really lucky. As for me, my problem isn't in being edgy (actually those are things I don't bother to hide at all since I can deliver them in an entertaining way), the problem is that I'm just really boring.
Anons, how do u know I love her? And how do I know if she loves me? We treat each other's like sisters, and she's the only one I can talk about my problems. She makes mundane things seem magical. Anons pls help, I don't want to ruin my friendship with her, but I don't know anymore.
>>17284180
when u nut but she keep on suckin
>>17284182
Thread over, op here. Thx for the help
>>17284182
Thread over, op here. Thanks
for the help
My anxiety has completely taken control of my life.
It had always been a problem, but it got really bad a little over a year ago. Which is when I began therapy.
I'm still doing the therapy thing, along with everything else they say to do, such as exercise, eat heathy, get enough sleep, no caffeine, no alcohol, no drugs.
And things have gotten better and all. But it still controls my life. I make almost all of my decisions based on avoiding panic attacks. It doesn't feel worth it, you know?
Has anyone ever actually come out of something like this? How'd you do it?
Does it ever get better?
My anxiety has just been getting steadily worse since I turned 20. At 24, I'm not even the same person anymore.
>>17284176
What's the source of your anxiety? You make moves based on how others perceive you? Or do you just have panic attacks thinking about random shit like why do lemurs have triangle dicks which I don't know btw
>>17284176
what do you think would help your anxiety, what triggers your anxiety?
It can.
>>17284185
>>17284187
Mostly a phobia of getting sick/throwing up.
Plenty of things help it. Like running and other forms of working out. But nothing gets rid of it to the point where I can live my life normally.
I'm a teacher. I want some device (like a soundboard) to bring to class so I can play sounds for certain games. No phones allowed. Does it exist?
Think of a yak bak.
Ya dude there's like tons of things that can do that.
How are you a teacher and also be this daft?
>>17284086
Yet you failed to mention one? :^)
>>17284083
So get a yak bak
My best friends and I do a yearly trip to my friend's beachhouse for 4th of July. It's amazing every year. However, I'm always the party coordinator, and I help everyone get there and get the party started.
My uncle killed himself, and I'm kinda giving up on life. There's 7 of them going without me. I just want to sleep at home. I just want to give up and be by myself instead of pretending I'm having fun. I'm so tired... I gave his eulogy, I traveled across the world, I just want to stop caring, even though my friends are around.
Can I cancel on our trip?
>>17284044
You can but it's a mistake.
You should go and live life.
Ask for help, get someone else to coordinat but it will be good for you to take your friendsfriends' cocks up your ass.
The prostate releases many mood boosting hormones
>>17284044
Sorry, I left out so much. Our friend who shares her beachouse turns 30 in a few days and is one of my best friends.
This is something my closest friends do always, and they look to me to connect us all since we live so far away now.
I'm just so sick, so unhappy
>>17284044
>My uncle killed himself, and I'm kinda giving up on life.
That doesn't make any sense.
So I have been buying lottery tickets for over 4 years now, and likely spent $5000 on gambling by now. Unlike most NEEts on 4chan, I actually enjoy being outside most of the day, doing fitness activities and socializing, so while a career or even a wagecuck job would be a drastic lifestyle improvement for someone who satys inside masturbating, watching anime and playing video games, , for me it would make life dark and depressing having to show up at a place and time and spend 9 hours there, when I'd rather be out in the sun moving my body. Further limitations are that I am so dumbed down by excessive computer use that I can only post on 4chan, send emails, read wikipedia and watch videos, but too much screen fatigue and low attention span to do anything productive on computer- would rather be outside. I also have aspergers, which makes it difficult for me to read and respond to nonverbal communication, ruling out all customer service and sales work, and also anything that requires special clothes or shoes because of extra sensitivity. Need to wear pants with an elastic waistband and my special wide toe zero drop kicks.
One improvement I do plan on making soon is finally learning how to drive in my late 20s, which itself will expand my financial opportunities. Any other ideas how, given my situation, can become financially independent without being a work-slave? If I take a big financial risk and say fuck it all, go buy a car and rent an apartment, I would definitely try to make money doing app based driving work such as Uber, Instacart, etc (and I predict these type of on demand gigs will expand a lot in the near future).
My only experience if being in community college and a wagecuck for 4 years right out of high school, and I am not bright enough to do more studies- or anything that requires lots of sitting on your ass reading.
I have no illusions about winning the lottery making me any objectively happier, but it will allow me the freedom to have life experiences which require the free time and money that 'having a job' would not allow.
>>17283974
People like you need to hit rock bottom before they can begin to change.
Keep gambling, Anon.
The next one's a winner! >:^)
>>17283981
How is being a neet in your late 20s not bottom?
I certainly feel low enough.
I want to track my friend but how would I do it?
Is there an app I can install on his android phone that would tell me his location or can I physically put a GPS in his backpack?
I know his phone number but idk if i could get into his phone unless he gets drunk and i sneak up on it
any other good ideas?
pic is a pic he sent me of where he is
This sounds like its got an interesting story to it
I'm pre sure if you've got a computer, put the picture onto your PC and check the properties. On the far right selection it tells you the details of the pic
>>17283864
Yeah there are tracking apps, just google it. They are made for lovers or children tho, so if your friends has half a brain or he suspects something he will prob finds out you're tracking him.
You sound like a fag.
Stay out of your friend's business.
>finally get gf
>she's amazing
>were doing long distance for a while but we're finally together again
>but now she's dropped the bombshell that she wants to move away or work abroad
Just fuck my shit up senpai
Things are always too good to be true
How do I approach this?
>>17283721
Been there, done that. If you like this girl a lot then try to make it work. If you think you can find someone else then let it go gently
>>17283721
Thats what happens when a manlet tries to mate with a normie woman
kidnap her
I was once a promising cartoonist and abstract artist, then I went to art school and 8 years later I still feel trapped in the world of formulas and technical accuracy and I'm paralyzed when I try to take a risk on abstract artwork.
What happened and what can I do about it?
Idk you sound like a real fucking faggot, maybe psychedelics or something. No clue how one would go about dealing with a problem that is entirely fabricated in your own head.
>>17283675
Gawd, I opened this thread with the same suggestion in mind.
Pic related.
>>17283672
What are you asking? You want art advice and you didn't go to /ic/? How is anyone here supposed to help YOU draw ABSTRACT art?
Go more in depth faggot. I don't understand the problem or the question
Do any of you guys miss your ex so much that you jerk off to the past nudes they sent me?
I miss my ex a lot, and we haven't spoken to each other for about 8 months. And I miss her so much. I've heard some of you guys say that you do, and you feel fine about it. I just did it and I just felt even sadder after I came. I don't know if it's because I miss her or I just sank to a new low.
>>17283660
Sorry for the shitty grammar, typing on phone.
>>17283663
Don't go back to these pictures until after you've gotten over the break up, dude.
Stash them away and when you're confident you can look at them and don't feel anything that you wouldn't at other porn, you can fap to them again.
>>17283676
It's been about a year since I dumped her. I honestly don't know for how long I have to keep dragging this.
How do i stop these fucking thoughts without killing myself?
I'm constantly overthinking and stuff and look at myself from a real, cynical point of view in my thoughts.
I can't sleep bc of them.
I make about 130 euros a day, i have a gf but i dont see her enough anymore. Need more love.
I have a few friends, but can't seem to make new ones.
I just need more company i feel very lonely. I have my own apartment i rent.
I'm 21, About 7,7/10 looks.
Should i risk my gf who i only see 2 nights a week because she doesn't want to spend more time with me for other chicks?
Just want to have more company from women.
My friends are pretty good.
But these thoughts they just wont stop, i can barely sleep bc of them etc. My self esteem is wearing down consistently.
Do i exercise more? Do i get more women?
Should i try and make more money.
Btw spoke about it to my doctor, and she didn't take me serious.
I ran in front of a car at night last saturday. Tried to start fights with a lot of people and drove 20 miles like a maniac running red lights at high speeds like a maniac because of these thoughts.
WTF do i do guys? I feel like if something doesn't change im gonna flip out more and eventually i'm kill myself bc of it and yeah.
All i want is more company from women but I feel like I am doomed for bad luck at that area and that it will eventually run bad and i will suicide bc of it.
I think i was meant to suffer at that area because it's all i ever had, i always run doomed and feel like it will turn me into a raging maniac.
Because every girl i ever met turned out killing me a bit more inside and i feel like if i take on more woman itll break me faster.
PS i definately don't have problems getting women.
>>17283622
Yes i have a car , it's an MB previous generation, and it's already paid.
WTF is wrong with me?!
Why the fuck do i care so much about getting a fucking girl who'll give me a good emotionally fulfilling year for once?
Whatever guys !!!! fck this shit.
>women
>money
>exercise
>women
>money
You fell for it, you poor fool.
What are you DOING with your life? Nothing. Chasing after meaningless things that will never, ever make you happy no matter how much you get. When was the last time you created something? When was the last time you experienced something unique? When was the last time you did something purely for yourself instead of for a girl or for money?
If you yourself become an excellent person, the rest will sort itself out.
>>17283638
Hmm, really good point.
Now i can start worrying about what i should create.
And yeah maybe i should just go and do something purely for myself.
Ive been wanting to travel for a while maybe i should book my flights today.
When shaving, how do I shave the fringe hairs that are right above my adams apple? No matter what i do to them it seems to leave redness while the rest of my shave experience is completely clean. I end up looking like I have small red bumps on my adams apple on my throat. What do?
PIC not me. Got from google, but very similar.
Used to have this same issue. Don't use a razor, use the trimmer off the back of most electric razors. BUT not the main head of the electric razor. Those are from the tearing action used by manual and the main head of electric razors. The trimmer is an electric cutter, so no tearing
>>17283571
Could you post a pic of what you're talking about? I have an electric razor, but it looks like pic related is what I have.
I eventually sprang for laser hair removal on that area, worked like a charm.
![neckhair[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/vZMtveg.jpg "neckhair[1]")
![c26-B002B4VBV0-2-l[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/ZyZXt2z.jpg "c26-B002B4VBV0-2-l[1]")