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Something happened to me that I felt humiliated for, which may not even have been an actual situation beyond something that I imagined, and a few follow up fights with my retarded parents and WHOOP, all my confidence that I've worked for the last had and this is completely vaporised.
How did I notice this?
>in store
>girl that I know I left a good impression with last time we met in like 7 years ago is there, she works there
>I get a horrible feeling and turn away my vision...
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You write in a horrible and inconsistent way.
I won't judge you for now because all i can make up of your story might be wrong.
>>17281777
The humiliating thing was not what happened in the store. I made a number of assumptions, leading up to me making a conclusion that I was humiliated.
As I said, I shyed away from a girl I knew fairly well because my confidence was robbed by my asshole parents and this one assumption-incident. I'm devastated because I'm back to where I was before I became more confident.
Does that help? As I said I'm depressed and it's hard for me to put things into words. I'm also not a native English speaker.
>>17281809
It's still ambiguous. I can't explain why now because i'm in a hurry.
I'm 19 and just lost my low paying job, I have bills coming up and I don't know what the fuck to do, what are some jobs I can do right now until I can go through the whole hiring process to get a more reliable job? I put up an ad on Craigslist to mow lawns but I'm worried I won't make much doing that. What else could I do that I could start today or at least this week?
I don't know how it works, it may have to be full time but I believe you can file for unemployment. That's what it is for, to help you get by while you find another job.
>>17281745
Does your city have sites where people pay for you to do tasks for them? Like picking up things or whatever. Might want to do some of those.
>>17281745
Get your ass outthere and hustle.
also look at the gigs section on craigslist. people always need someone to clean, paint and/or move furniture.
Any other ugly males here have mild depression due to it ? How do you guys deal with it because it's getting in the way of my studying.
At first I thought I could fix it by eating better, getting fit , get a good haircut and keep my fave clean as fuck. Well I think I'm just hopefully fucked. Did this for over 2 years and my body is around 10 percent so I'm not fat and I was never fat.
I'm about to give it one more try and take the day off from studying today and compile a list of foods to eat that may help improve my looks and also add on...
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>>17281736
>Any other ugly males here have mild depression due to it ?
Not really. Getting shot in the face did but I'm comfortable with myself now. Couldn't care what anyone else thinks of me.
What are your problem areas? Do you have a narrow jaw, bug eyes, a long midface?
All of these can be corrected, but it's difficult to make any suggestions without seeing an image of you.
>>17281758
Well I'm at work so no images of me. I don't really know my problem areas. People say I have really deep set eyes and a slightly larger nose which makes me look waspy. Generally I just feel
Like every area is a problem area.
How dangerous (in terms of getting addicted) is it to take hydrocodone?
I've taken it on about half a dozen occasions over the past year, and I don't want to get addicted.
I would rather smoke weed or something, but I don't have any. All I have is hydrocodone.
I enjoy taking it, but I'm very afraid of getting addicted.
>>17281718
See you in rehab.
>I'm scared of this drug and worried about what it does it my health
>Yes I still take it regularly
>No I can't be assed to find something else
>No I haven't considered not doing drugs why do you ask
Dude just deal with your own boring sober ass.
>need to take some kind of drug
Have you ever considered trying out straight edge for at least a little while so you don't become an escapist pussy? There is no escaping reality, friendo. I used to take hydro, basically ruined my life. Weed made me a shitty person and hate myself, all the other drugs I dabbled in drove me to madness.
What I do is drink, but not very often. Stop being a bitch and get off drugs before it's too late. You're already down that road, taking hydrocodone anon
I want to learn it as my third language, been studying it for like 10 days and i got into basic-middle sentence forms, artikels and declensions: It gets frustrating over time. I also try duolingo and rosetta stone at the same time too but many comments are negative. Any advices?
>>17281713
>duolingo and rosetta stone
Absolutely not. Stop right now.
What other resources are you using? Don't tell me that's it.
>>17281713
Sprechen Sie mit Deutsch Menschen, mein Freund. Im Deutsch.
My German is very bad as you can see, but I definitely think the best way to improve it is speaking in German. When I went to Germany I tried to speak what I knew, and got in a bit of a mess, but it improved me straight away, because you learn how people ACTUALLY talk. And especially with today's internet culture, you will find that conversation language can differ from what a textbook teaches you.
That said, I do think Duolingo is...
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>>17281723
I try to test myself with some grammer teaching sites like german.net, deutsch akademie
http://www.dartmouth.edu/~deutsch/Grammatik/Grammatik.html
http://www.german-grammar.de/grammar/content/english_german_table_of_content.htm
And solve some quizzes. As well as the stuff i stated. I study one issue and test my comprehension by producing some German sentences about it.
Dont have much choice; cant afford to go for a course. I also watch Katja(Deutsch für Euch)'s videos, shes really nice and comprehensible. People also recommend pimsleur and such stuff but i dont know. Everyone says different things.
How long do I have to wait after taking painkillers before I can drink? Is it even true that you can't drink when on painkillers?
>>17281617
Do you really NEED to get drunk that badly?
>>17281617
You can drink whenever you want. More even, alcohol is neutralised by the compounds in painkillers so you should end up drinking more. Consider doubling or even tripling doses of pain killers if you are drinking to excess to avoid a hangover.
>>17281626
I had plans for today and I also take painkillers because of my back. Just forgot that people says painkillers and alcohol is a bad combo.
>>17281675
It is "light" painkillers so I wouldn't assume it could cause any serious damage, and people do take painkillers as a way to avoid hangovers so it makes sense. But whatever, if I die, at least I died happy.
How do you accept the death of a pet?
So today I just put down my dog that Ive had since she was a puppy. Why does it hurt so much to do the most humane thing possible?
This is the only time Ive come home and wasn't greeted by my dog. I cant get used to this feeling. It hurts too much.
Recollect all your fond memories, photos and write down stories.
Dont blame yourself, putting her down the humane way was for the best, you would not have wanted her to suffer from pain and agony.
The pain dulls after a couple of days, maybe even longer. But you did good, you were her owner and you did your best each and everyday of her life, the giver of food, love and safety. Rest In Peace Pup, may you find happiness running on the endless grassfields of Heavens.
Take care OP, make sure you never forget what she brought your daily life, and maybe see if...
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Curse god, swear eternal anger
>>17281613
I lost my best friend (dog) years ago. I cried like a little bitch all day and night so I feel your pain.
Time heals and eventually you'll think about him/her less frequently and you'll just reflect on the happy memories.
Me now.. I only think about the awesome times we had together. She was an amazing dog and I feel so grateful to have had her in my life, even if it wasn't as long as I'd hoped.
The fact that you are hurting so much shows how much love you had for your dog.
Sounds...
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Help /adv/
I'm trying to decide whether or not I should join the coast guard
Pros:
>Cool Job, I have a buddy whos in and he loves it
>Free college after including free rent while im in school
>Only have to serve 4 years
>Ill never get deployed unless a war breaks out (even then its a possibility not a guareentee)
>I get to pay off a car and a motorcycle
>New adventures...
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Additional pro: you only need to stay in 20 years to become eligible for a lifetime government pension. You could retire at 40.
Your con is essentially negligible, per her own words. Besides, it's not like you'll disappear for 6-12 months on deployment. Coast Guard doesn't do that.
Go for it.
Is it short-sighted to distance from people who constantly lie for lulz, make up stories?
Even if lies are harmless, it annoys me, i fear them and can't trust them at all.
My friends are friends with them and i can't feel relaxed when we get together.
No I don't think so. I value honesty greatly because without honesty, you have pretty much nothing.
Those kinds of people who make up lies for no reason or to look cool are extremely annoying.
>>17281545
Shallow people are the dumbest. They'd either freak out or look at you with a long dumb face if you ever told them something serious like "I want to kill myself, will you please supply the pills for me?"
Well /adv/, I probably fucked up. I have been out on something like 15 dates with a girl and I have not like held her hand or anything. I want to but can't. Anyway, I have run out of ideas for dates. I am super limited in transportation. So basically, all 15 times we went out, we had dinner and saw a movie. Dinner at the same restaurant.
I told my guy friends this abd they called me retarded abd borderline maniac for taking a girl to the same restaurant abd same theater 15 times. What the Fick is happening?
Jesus Christ, the fucking typos. Fuck typing on phones.
>>17281525
That is borderline crazy. And she's just been...going along with it? No complaints or snide comments? Is she fucking crazy, too?
Honest question: does she know these were "dates"?
How to stop having issues with lack of acting feminine?
"Fake it till you make it" is shit advice, i fake it when i have a crush on a person, but it's hard to keep that image for long.
Geez, i miss days when i could hang out with guys, joke, discuss shit and swear. It feels nice being "one of the guys" as long as you don't romantically like anyone there.
Now I'm in my 20s and can't form even meaningful friendships with guys, i'm afraid i slip into "non-feminine" old behaviour and nobody will see me as a girl. Had...
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I think its only your phobia that is keeping you from having relationships with guys. I'm a more masculine chick with a feminine outside and I don't have any problems getting male attention.
>>17281523
Seconding this. If you look feminine you'll get drowned in attention. Even if you straight up behave like a guy.
>>17281523
So how exactly do you act with guys? I want to know how to stop my anxiety.
My only friends are girls and i act very gender-neutral towards them.
I don't get any attention, because i look aloof, busy and not approachable all the time. Maybe i should simply get out more though.
I want to become more of a man, should I get into boxing?
Has anyone here ever boxed? I assume you just find a boxing gym and turn up for an introductory session right?
>>17281503
Women box too, fag.
i would suggest learning the absolute basics before going to a boxing gym and trying to get yourself in. there are many tutorials on youtube that can really help you out
though, if you want to become more of man, and you dont really love boxing, i think it would be much better for you to give yourself an exercise and healthy living regimen. there are DEFINITELY many videos on how to start that on youtube. you dont necessarily have to box to be healthy and know how to fight. if i had to give you the advice on how to start it, i would tell you to start with cutting out...
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>>17281577
But boxing is still very manly isn't it.
>>17281618
Are you saying this from your own boxing experience?
>bodyweight exercises, such as pushups, squats, beginner stuff, etc. and work your way from there
Obviously.
I'm wondering more about boxing itself though, what it's like starting out.
Should I just never have children?
The other day, my sister in-law brought her kids over, and it was the first time I'd been around kids in a while.
It seems like the most madness inducing, frustrating thing a person could do to themselves.
I understand that they are just kids, but to what degree can children apply logic or reasoning to their actions? How the fuck does our species survive?!?!
While they were here, their mother basically spent two hours preventing them from getting in to shit. But because there were two of them, one would always...
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No, it's just that some people aren't completely selfish. The most important thing you can do in life is to ensure the existence of your family in the next generation, and raise those kids to be even better than you were. It's literally the reason we're here. Get over yourself, you can handle a little frustration. Tell me what else you're doing with your life that's so important
>>17281521
>Being so self centered you think out of billions of people it's your responsibility to reproduce
>Being such a narcissist that you think your bloodline has earned a place in the future based on some hand-wavey, spooky idea of "purpose"
For many people, the best thing they can do for their kids is not to have any. More people need to learn this.
Your sister just doesn't have any control over her kids. It's because they don't respect her. This is either because she appeases them and doesn't discipline them, or because she isn't around enough. Her kids don't have any sense of respect, nor do they have any sense of independence or personal responsibility.
The best thing you can do for your kids is support them in their pursuits, encourage them to push through and face obstacles, act as a guide, and not just do things for them. Show them how to do things, then make them figure out how...
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yesterday my crush turned me down and told me that there is no chance of her liking me after she found out about my feelings for her when I didn't want her to yet. Oh well, I'm not one to dwell on failure
...then at around 11:25 she DMs me on Instagram and says "Goodnight! I'm sorry about any confusion today or in the past"
I just said "goodnight, sleep well" and actually went to bed (I had been up since 6) but as I fell asleep my phone vibrated and what showed up is pic related. I assume there was more but I didn't open...
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>>17281430
Looks like you still got a chance to me
>>17281430
She feels bad, and is just trying to smooth over the situation so that you don't hate her. She rejected you, so she's not into you. If a girl wants to be with a guy, then she'll be with him. This one wants to stay on friendly terms, but that's it.
>>17281510
Or she wants him to do a better job at building attraction with her.
You know, like someone not a loser who understand women better than you naturally would think.
Does this sentence sound weird, or is it fluent?
Nobody goes there anymore after they opened the new Walmart recently.
"Goes there"
It's a fragmented sentence. Where is there?
Also you could either remove the word "recently" or put it before the word "opened" although I think that is just personal preference.
Nobody goes there anymore, since they opened the new Walmart recently.
^ sounds better to me.
>>17281422
What if it were "Nobody goes to Walgreens anymore after..."?
