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>I wake up 8 pm, my head is killing me. I have a toothache
>No matter what I do
>4 pm shaft I pass out
>I have tried to keep sleeping and get a full 8 hours
>But the next day it happens again
>I have tried forcing myself to stay up later
>But when I do I sleep two hours and wake up
>My home is always dirty and my phone low on battery
>I never get to buy healthy food because I wake up when everything is closed and when it opens again I'm too tired to go
>Please, I'm dying
>>17279300
Go to dentist
Clean around your house
Buy fresh vegetables, lean meats, whole grain foods, etc. They aren't that expensive if you stay away from those fancy supermarkets.
Charge your phone, or change the battery if it loses charge fast
>>17279311
You don't understand, I sleep 4 hours a day, half of the day I have a killing headache and its also nigh and the rest of the day I'm really tired.
I want to do all those things but I can't, its even hard to shower since the lights went off and I have to wait until the morning to do so
>>17279311
The pain in my tooth isn't real, im just so stressed I keep imagining that pains I had this year come back to the point where I feel them like the time I woke up with neck pain or the time I woke up without being able to move my arm
My ex-girlfriend dumped me about a month and a half ago and I think about it all the time. The reason why is I don't understand why it even happened and the way it happened doesn't really help answering the question.
I really want to text her and ask why, even though it might hurt me I just really feel like I need to know to move on.
Should I do it or not?
>>17279282
If you think she'll respond in a constructive way, go for it. If you feel she'll just give you some bullshit excuse and beat around the bush, don't bother. Looking back's never the best way to move forward though
>>17279282
It will hurt you. She will either bring up your actual inadequacies or shortcomings, or she will name things about yourself that are perfectly fine that SHE had a problem with and likely force you into a period of self-loating based on this OP. You don't need to know. If you focus on being the best man you can be, it won't fucking matter at all. Don't let her call shots on how you act or grow.
Burn it down and walk away.
>>17279286
I want to do that but it just keeps popping into my head, like the shit she said to me, and where I went wrong, stuff like that.
If this won't help, what do I do so I can move on? This is not rhetorical, I could really use some suggestions.
So my ex broke up with me about a week ago and I tried repeatedly to make things work with her and offering to grab a coffee to talk. She wants to take a 2 week break, but in the meantime she doesn't mind fucking, so long as her friends/family don't find out.
Thing is, I feel completely betrayed by her after we repeatedly used to tell eachother "I love you forever no matter what". She tells me she still loves me, but is committing to the break. If she truly cared for me, we would work things out. Her suggestion to fuck during the break is the shit eating icing on her treasonous cake.
I want to make an evil plan of fucking with her head, but the best I have so far is dropping her off after a fuck session and saying "thanks for the fuck whore, we're done"... but since I doubt her love for me, I don't think this will affect her too much. Can anyone offer a way to fuck with her head?
Really want to fuck with her head?
Pass, and let her go. Still be friendly if she contacts you, but keep her at an acquaintance level distance
obviously it sucks at first because you don't get sex, but later on you get the satisfaction of knowing you kept your dignity
plus it will rack her brain like crazy why you are passing up free sex
the only thing you have to do is just be able to bear the thought that she is gonna get plowed from other dudes asap (probably already is now) and that ultimately this is move where you are cutting your losses and there is nothing to gain.
There is no way to fuck with her. You can either continue to get your nuts off or drop her. Your call. There's no revenge plan other than becoming the man that got away.
>>17279237
I was really considering this. she was actually stunned when I finally agreed to have the break (I think she wanted me to fully break up with her) and I think my agreement naturally fucked with her head already.
But you might have a point. Refusing free sex from her could fuck her head up a bit, or at least until she gets slammed by some random BBC ( she said no sex was part of the break but she might be prospecting it as you mentioned)
Am i a psychopath for trying to be one in front of my therapists? I've got the 'symptoms' I lie to them. I care not to show emotion.
Not a psychopath but kind of a retard. You are wasting their and your time. What the fuck is the point?
>>17279223
i find it interesting. To watch them. I don't see anything wrong with me.
>>17279213
you would make a great therapist.
I know this may be seen as rude, but I very much like this girl and she likes another man. I want to act as swiftly as possible to prevent falling in the friendzone. Is there any way I could drift her emotions away from that man so I can safely ask her out? :p
>>17279182
Your first misstep is thinking that it's 'rude'. If this girl isn't currently in a relationship with this other man, it doesn't matter at all. You're counting yourself out of the game without even starting.
Another thing is that acting swiftly will lead to nothing but you forcing it. If you force it, you will fail, and you'll watch those two get together. Keep being yourself, remain confident. If it doesn't work with this girl, then what does it matter? Move on to another girl.
Basically, do you. Flirt like you always do, and take your mind away from her until you're with her. Then, make plans when it seems like she's focused on you.
If not, move on to the other girl you know who works at the coffee shop or wtf ever.
>>17279182
By "with her", I mean physically near her. My mistake.
>>17279182
>Is there any way I could drift her emotions away from that man so I can safely ask her out?
No. But here's the thing: it's NEVER safe to ask someone out. You just have to do it anyway.
/adv/, I want nothing more than to move out.
I'm 18, and I just graduated from high school. I'm going to a local community college in the fall. I want nothing more but to move out. Long story short, my parents don't respect me, my privacy, my judgement or lifestyle at all. As of right now I work retail and make 300 a week, problem is I live on Long Island and that isn't anywhere near doable with these prices.
What are ways I could, as an 18 year old with a HS diploma, make enough money to live on my own?
Look for roommates on craigslist. That's the only way m8
>>17279128
I've definitely been on that, but I mean what are ways I can make more money than 300 a week?
>>17279126
Gotta move away from Long Island if you want to live on your on own.
You MIGHT be able to wrangle a whole bunch of roommates and get a place in Brooklyn, but even that is going to be obnoxiously expensive. Expect to pay at least 600 a month for rent in a city that isn't as expensive as New York.
Save up as much money as you can (I recommend enough for 2 months of rent) and make the move to a different, less expensive city.
I'm an emotional fucking wreck which likely stems from my attraction to any girl who shows any sort of attraction to me. Coupling this with the fact that I've been told that I often accidentally flirt with girls gives me a really hard time in public sometimes. I just throw myself at any woman who I think would have me, under the assumption that they would want me, and I have no idea why I do it.
What do?
It sounds like you need to be fancied and wanted to feel good about yourself , cos I'm the bloody same
>>17279106
"Accidentally flirt"? Dude...keep doing that.
I think you feel this way because you feel guilty about your sexuality. Who tells you that you "accidentally flirt"? Women, most likely. Keep doing what you're doing and fuck whoever tells you that you're wrong.
The reason you do what you do is because you're a male who wants sex, so you're going to try, whether you're aware of it or not, to get sex.
This is a pretty big thing that puts men and women apart. Men go out and actively (or passively like you, you lucky motherfucker) attempt to get girls, while women can wait around for men to come their way and try.
Huh.
Never thought about it like that. Cheers mate! Needed that.
If I take natural herbal sleeping pills then will I develop a tolerance for them? same for a herbal counterpath for xanax?
Obviously pills won't really help your brain to supply it with natural substances that make your life better. But there are other uses for pills such as gaining vitamins, memory issues, calcium, anti-vomiting, etc.
I'd be very happy if I knew the exact quantity and method of taking my own life simply for the fact I'd feel incredibly secure and ready to try and fail infinitely. Because I know there's an exit, I know I can control my life when it will end, and that makes me satisfied with life as a concept.
>>17279092
If I take natural herbal sleeping pills then will I develop a tolerance for the real thing? - fixed
>>17279092
>same for a herbal counterpath for xanax?
there is no such thing ?
alcohol would probably be the closest thing to diazepams
the only things that could work as natural counterparts to sleeping pills would be either alcohol or poppy seed tea.
It's too bad there isn't a natural herbal pill for xanax and anti depressants in generals.
Im at work and im having a breakdown. Its a relatively new job, just moved from intern to full time and recently Ive gone retarded or something. The most basic tasks i should be able to knock out in an hour are taking forever and I'm messing up a lot. It wasnt nearly this difficult while I was interning and the responsibilites are the same. Whats wrong with me? What should I do?
Sounds like you're nervous. It'll stop after a few days. It's actually pretty common when moving to a new position to be very nervous.
>>17279056
The problem is Ive been here for nearly 3 months. This all started last week when i found the other guys in my department whispering about something. I immediately assumed it was about my performance and have since been worried they think Im garbage and that Ill be fired soon
Three Conscious Breaths
by Pema Chödrön
Our habits are strong, so a certain discipline is required to step outside our cocoon and receive the magic of our surroundings. Pause practice– taking three conscious breaths at any moment when we notice that we are stuck– is a simple but powerful practice that each of us can do at any given moment.
Pause practice can transform each day of your life. It creates an open doorway to the sacredness of the place in which you find yourself. The vastness, stillness, and magic of the place will dawn upon you, if you let your mind relax and drop for just a few breaths the story line you are working so hard to maintain. If you pause just long enough, you can reconnect with exactly where you are, with the immediacy of your experience.
When you are waking up in the morning and you aren’t even out of bed yet, even if you are running late, you could just look out and drop the story line and take three conscious breaths. Just be where you are! When you are washing up, or making your coffee or tea, or brushing your teeth, just create a gap in your discursive mind. Take three conscious breaths. Just pause. Let it be a contrast to being all caught up. Let it be like popping a bubble. Let it be just a moment in time, and then go on.
Maybe you are on your way to whatever you need to do for the day. You are in your car, or on the bus, or standing in line. But you can still create that gap by taking three conscious breaths and being right there with the immediacy of your experience, right there with whatever you are seeing, with whatever you are doing, with whatever you are feeling.
-won't cause brain damage if I manage to survive
-won't be painful
-won't be certain
help?
>>17279045
>-won't be certain
What the shit does that even mean?
If you want to kill yourself, eat a pistol. Remember: bullets travel faster than sound, so you won't hear the gunshot that kills you.
I don't condone you killing yourself m8 but making a smoothie with a bottle or two of pills of your choice is pretty effective. That's how one of my best mates ended himself..
>>17279052
don't want to make a mess
I want to be able to go to bed after taking a pill, and have the uncertainty calm me down to sleep
For as long as I can remember I've had this problem. Every time enter any place of social gathering I automatically completely bypass anyone that's arranged to meet me and head straight into the back, whether that be the staff room, the kitchen, or the projectionist room. I can't help it, it's a compulsion. Last time someone arranged to meet me at a cafe I basically marched in looking straight ahead and marched directly into the kitchen, through the kitchen, ignoring the questioning of the staff, marching through their hands as they tried to grab me, and went straight to the manager, whose chair I sat in as he called the authorities to remove me by force. The authorities know of this problem and have done everything they possibly can to prevent it from happening, banning me from any place with access to a back room.
This disrupts the plans and arrangements of others and soon I fear they will give up such special plans and arrangements with me.
What should I do about this?
>>17278956
You need professional help. Talk to a psychiatrist.
>>17278962
I'm afraid not, I find psychiatrists to be second-rate at management, especially of the mind, so i do not go to them.
>>17278962
Besides I never really do anything that is considered remotely dangerous and always remain in control in the best way.
If someone you're close to would commit suicide, would you wish them to leave something behind for you, such as a letter, painting etc.?
I want to kill myself, but care a lot about my mother.
>>17278954
It's called a will, ask a lawyer.
Are you ok anon?
>>17278954
if you care a lot about her, don't kill yourself. It's horrible to outlive your child.
>>17278959
I thought about something rather personal, something selfmade you know? I'm curious whether it would be positive to leave something like that behind or if the people affected by it would feel worse or whatever.
I hate life and want to die.
>>17278961
I'm so sorry, but so powerless. I feel extremely selfish, but can't do this any longer
My gf and I argued a while ago, she said she needed time and told me to wait at least two weeks. Today it'll be one week and I took a two hour bus (it's a long-distance relationship) just to say that we shouldn't waste our time figuring it all out, that it is as simple as stating if we want to continue with the relationship or not. So I lied to her and said my sister was with me and that she asked me to have lunch the three of us. She said yes. I'm a couple of block away from were she told me she would be watching a movie. My question is, should I go find her and explain the situation (I don't know if she's with friends) or I propose to meet in a different place and then explain?
>>17278910
What the fuck
>>17278910
Hes probably at the movie with a guy so better just stick with the original plan and break it off during the lunch
>>17278910
what did you argue about?
Should I feel guilty about buying really good computer equipment from that are selling them ridiculously cheap and don't know any better?
I'm seeing a decent selection of perfectly good widescreen monitors being sold for $35 on craigslist, one of which was a quality $200 monitor (in 2009) for $19. 1/2 the titles and descriptions only mention the brand and no other technical info, so I don't think they know what they got.
>>17278886
*from people that are selling them ridiculously cheap and probably dont know any better
No. Fuck no. Profiting off the ignorant is the staple practice of 99% of good businesses.
Chances are they just want to get rid of it.
When I worked at Goodwill people donated expensive stuff all the time. They just didn't have a use for it, and the money wasn't all that important to them.
i have a 10 hour flight tomorrow and fucking hate flying. I have shitty ears that can't handle headphones, much less on the volume needed to hear anything on a plane, so i can't watch movies or do basically anything other than trying to read which never works.
so i'm contemplating skipping sleep tonight and catching up on the plane. i'm taking a taxi so i don't need to worry about being deprived on the road, i'd just have to make it to the plane and then hopefully sleep through the entire shitty ride.
is this a bad idea?
>>17278829
How sensitive are you? I'm pretty sensitive to noise, sleeping on a plane didn't really give me any rest when I tried it (I also skipped sleeping the previous night)
>>17278833
A little but I could probably do it. How'd it go, did you have to just suffer through a day without sleep until collapsing?
>>17278829
Well what's the time difference between where you're going? Judge by that if you can't get your sleep schedule back on track or you can't just take a medication or something to get over being a sensitive cunt with no self control.
