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I like a girl from my group of friends. I want to ask her out face to face but there's always one or two annoying friends around making it awkward. They've known her for longer than I have. We get along but we aren't too close. I've asked her before to do something more casual just the two of us but she couldn't go because she said she was busy with college.
I only meet her about once every one or two weeks. Is it okay to just ask her out by text? Every week I think "I'm gonna just ask her out for coffee, in person, next weekend" but either I have that problem of no privacy or she doesn't show up.
And I feel like I'm too overwhelmed by how cool she is. Like I can't "just" ask her for coffee because that's too simple for her, but it's all I can afford now. As time passes I like her more. That's normal and I should just ignore that thought right?
>>17271775
>Is it okay to just ask her out by text?
No. Ask her out face to face.
>And I feel like I'm too overwhelmed by how cool she is. Like I can't "just" ask her for coffee because that's too simple for her, but it's all I can afford now.
Stop that. She's a human being who drinks coffee just like the rest of us. Putting her on this pedestal and wringing your hands because she's "too cool" for you isn't going to do you any favors.
Come at her like a real person. The sooner you stop worshipping women the sooner interacting and engaging with them will stop being such a daunting task.
No one is too good to drink coffee and hang out. She's just a girl, not the goddamn queen of england.
>>17271852
And she's not Ramona fucking Flowers either. Speaking of which, what a bitch. Kime Pine 4 lyfe. Comic-book Kim Pine, not Alison Pill.
If you left that fucking theater crushing on Ramona, OP, then reevaluate yourself for your own damn good. You're not supposed to really like her.
>>17271896
The picture was supposed to be ironic. I know I'm not supposed to really like her. And I don't "worship women", this is the only one time in my life this happens to me. I don't have trouble interacting with people.
What are some worthwhile hobbies, something other than videogames?
>be 24
>only interest ever has been videogames
>starting to grow increasingly sick of it, want to do something else with my life
>can't feel any interest towards anything else i look at, other than porn, but what the hell
Try branching out, get into programming and start making games of your own.
Or, try getting into board games and enjoy some face-to-face contact.
Or do something totally different. Do you like food? Take of cooking. Are you sedentary? Take up exercising. Try a bunch of different stuff and find out what makes you want to keep doing it.
>>17271774
>get into programming
I tried, it's too much numbers and text for me. I probably have ADD or something but I never did well in school because of disinterest, slow reading and bad memory.
I tried and humiliated myself in a chess club once, so I'm probably not gonna try something like it again.
Cooking isn't a hobby, it's a necessity.
Exercising is something I'm getting a lot more into, but it isn't a hobby, it's something I want to do to stop being a useless piece of shit all day + maybe look attractive in a year from now.
I should probably mention that I'm a depressed, unmotivated and socially awkward dumbass as well. I also recently completely destroyed any chance to get along with the ex whom I still thought I loved, so after having been in break up itch for a year and almost being over it, I'm now back in feeling like the most useless and unlikable person ever.
>>17271792
>I should probably mention that I'm a depressed, unmotivated and socially awkward dumbass
No need, you're conveying that quite well already.
Look, I'm not going to list a hundred different hobbies for you just so you can go "No... no.. no," to each one. My main advice is: try a whole bunch of different things. Find out what your friends are into and ask if you can join them. Eventually you will probably find something that interests you.
And go into it with an open mind; if you go in thinking that you aren't going to enjoy it (which seems to be your default mode), then, surprise surprise, you aren't. I know this is easier said than done, but it's so important. And you may surprise yourself.
I feel like I've lost the love of my life, someone I really felt close to. I've had relationships before, but never anything like what I had with her.
I would do anything for her, I would kill myself if it would make her happy. My life is nothing compared to hers, she makes me so happy, so full of love and life. She makes me feel like I can do anything, that I can accomplish whatever I want.
I used to make her feel that way, too. But I had a moment of weakness and fell into depression and the way she sees me has changed. I know if she would give me a chance she would see the real me again, but she doesn't want to.
Without her, I don't think I can change. I think it's never going to get better without her. I just feel like killing myself if I can't have her. She's what I live for.
Is there anything I could do to show her this? I don't want to lose her.
>>17271756
love yourself as much as you love her.
>>17271769
It's easy to say that, and I do love myself. without her I dont feel right, I feel like something is missing.
>Is there anything I could do to show her this?
Try talking to her. FYI: suicide is okay, even if it's taboo.
Is it possible to from a culture/shape a culture exactly how one imagines it? Is there a way to force behavior exactly on individuals?
ask hitler
>>17271749
Yeah whenever anyone tried it turns out disastrously. Even had Hitler succeeded in his genocide and military conquest, the society that would have been built would have been all kinds of fucked up,
>>17271749
not EXACTLY how one imagines but yes you can find ways to control and influence culture.
the problem is that you as the orchestrator would spend all of your long life trying to get to that position of power and even if you happen to get there you wouldnt getr to enjoy the fruits of your labor.,
me and a group of friends went camping, one of our friends was guilted into bringing her sister on the trip by her mother. Her sister was fat, and really nerdy, but overall really nice, but she didn't seem to like her. Everyone was really rude to the sister, making fun of her behind her back, and also honestly sometimes to her face... during the night, the girls kicked her out of the one tent they brought for all of them... since I was alone in my tent, I offered her to sleep in mine, as I was getting out to let her have it, she told me I didn't have to leave so I stayed. Every animal noise seemed to startle her, making her scoot in close to me... next thing I know I basically have her squeezing me. We talk a lot and I found out shes generally incredibly nice, a bit strange, but incredibly smart and nice. During the rest of the trip I seemed to see a lot of her, she would always opt to sit next to me, if I went swimming she went, if I went into my tent she went... the next night she went straight to my tent rather than even attempting to sleep in the girl's tent. We ended up kissing, and honestly, I can't get it out of my mind, I don't know what to do... do I try and contact her more? do I try and get to know her? is it a bad idea? she is my friend's sister and I know that friend has a thing for me, would it be to ugly of situation? what do I do?
>>17271716
do you genuintely want to get to know her and date her? would your friend be okay with it?
thats all that matters. ask your friend if its okay first. im all for a bang and ditch, but she is your friends sister so thats not an option here.
you dont have to make a life long commitment to seeing her, but you do have to at least want more than just sex with her if you go through with this.
>>17271750
Oh no, its not a bang and ditch at all, I want to date her. Shes way different than girls I normally date... shes shy, quiet, sweet, and actually has ambitions. Shes fat, and plain, but still very cute, I imagine if she just put on a little make up and didn't dress like it was winter all the time, she'd be damn attractive. Talking to her at night really won me over.
>>17271716
Ok, when you say that your friend, the sister of the girl in question, the one you didn't kiss - has a thing for you, how do you know this?
If both sisters are attracted to you and you are more attracted to the fat one, then go for the fat one. You don't owe her sister anything just because you were her friend first. The sister took steps to come on to you, and the friend didn't. (can you give us some initials or something to make this easier?)
How do I unfuck my life? I fell into the neet trap and I've gotten into a very precarious situation and I see no way out. I want to get my shit together now but I'm stuck at home with my literally crazy parents and I can't see a way out of this. I have no job experience or money. At best I could get some low tier job, maybe, but that's not going to pay enough to escape from home.
Meanwhile I'm having to deal with my paranoid schizo mother with multiple sclerosis who has problems walking and my father with parkinson's that has been dragged into my mother's delusions and now I'm getting ganged up on for not believing in their crazy shit. I can't even concentrate on my life because this shit is just ruining me mentally.
I'm so desperate to escape I've been looking into joining the military but I recently found out I have some potential medical problems and could get disqualified for them. I don't know for sure yet. Would need to talk to a recruiter again but knowing my luck I'm fucked. This is literally my only way out right now. I don't know what I'm going to do if I get turned down. I have no friends or relatives to help out either. Any advice at all for me?
how old are you
where do you live
what's your current education level
>>17271709
the problem is you want to be fucked. you know how i know? you've decided this situation is the only situation.
you already decided you are going to get medically disqualified, and though you could get a low paying job andj ust move into a studio with four dudes, you have decided thats not an option.
life is full of hard choices. its often about picking hte lesser of two evils. its like a game of 'would you rather'.
would you rather live with your parents in continued neetdom, or would you rather work minimum wage for 6 hours a day then come home to your studio apartment filled with 4 dudes in the asme situation as you?
thats waht we all had to do to survive out here in los angeles, i imagine you could do just two dudes to a studio though out in the not crazy city areas.
as for hte medical issues, dont admit to anythign they dont test for, claim ignorance wherever possible and STUDY FOR THE FUCKING ASVAB CUZ YOU CAN INSTANTLY BECOME FUCKING RICH IF YOU STUDY FOR FIVE FUCKING SECONDS.
knew a guy who never did good in highschool. you'd never think hed do military. he was less than 5 feet tall and litearlly less then 100 pounds. even had a crimincal record, being kicked off of the military base (we were military kids) cuz he was at the skate park when it was raided for drugs and some guy threw a bag of weed in the center.
he took the asvab, and got offered a job as some crazy shit like 'geo political analyst' or something crazy.
whereas my brother who was big talll and ripped didnt do good on asvab and had to take entry level marine.
just fucking study.
>>17271709
Hopefully the military works out for you. Otherwise, what I did when mommy and daddy threw me out as a neet, I moved into a sober living. Extremely cheap, and they'll often help you put together a resumè and help with finding a job as long as you're sober for as long as you stay there. My parents paid for the first month and told me to 'figure it out' from there. It was only 300 per month and i slept on a bunk bed with 3 others in the room, but I had laundry, a shower, and access to the internet and that's enough. 2 years later I have a comfy job making 16 an hour when i have no trained or educated skills of any kind.
They want to fill beds, so even if you don't have a drug problem, if you let them know your life is in shambles and you have nowhere else to go, they'll probably take you in.
So i used to be in a relationship for the past year. And my ex GF had a cute class mate/friend i really liked. How can i get the cute friend of my ex GF without her noticing.
Any Advice ?
U cant just go whoring around m8
Why do you care if your ex finds out? Just do your thing.
>>17271703
I think she could mess it up by shittalking about me.
ok so, i'M about to upload a new profile picture and I want more than 15 like ( lol ). I thought that public pictures were able to be liked by everyone but it'S not the case,.. But I feel like alloowing people to follow me instead of letting them sending friend request make them feel that i'm selfish. should I activate it?
You have to be 18 to use this site.
>>17271662
is there a written proof that is explicitly saying that i'm under 18? pure speculations fucking /b/astard
>>17271719
Your retarded op is proof enough
Who the fuck cares about likes outside of marketers and 16 years old?
(I made this thread last night, but not a lot of people responded, I'm hoping it's just because it was late.)
Hi, /adv/, I've pretty much taken nothing but AP classes all throughout my highschool career (about 14~17 of them to be exact, I'll have to check to make sure), passed pretty much all of my AP tests, made a 28 on the ACT, but I'm probably going to be coming out of high school with a 2.7 overall.
I was feeling pretty confident about getting into the flagship state school, but now I'm not so sure.
Are my stats good or bad? Do I have a chance at getting into something and scoring a semi decent scholarship?
Should I retake my ACT and aim for a 30+?
>>17271626
>2.7 gpa
Sorry
You know AP classes are weighted right? Do you mean 2.7 weighted or unweighted?
>>17271626
You've got two things that almost balance each other out - only fair grades, but all in hard classes. The thing is to make sure that the admissions people see the hard classes. Ask the teachers who write references for you to mention all the AP classes, and mention them in your essay.
>talking to this qt for a while now
>mutual friend is having a birthday party, she's going as well
>its almost 2 hours away from me
>fuck it, go anyway
>we hang out, I try to woo her but fail miserably
>she tells me "it's not you, i'm just not interested in being in a relationship with anybody, idk what led you to think i was leading you on" bullshit to make me feel better
>eventually leave, go fuck some other girl
>I don't feel any better
Why do I do this to myself?
>>17271606
most all of us have done it and refuse to believe someone we crush on won't like us back. You know when a girl cares and when one really doesn't and you are pinning everything on hope. Just pay attention and if they aren't into you don't waste your time
>>17271625
I just feel like she thinks I'm one of those "nice guys" now, and that's just embarrassing. I would just leave her alone, but she's actually a really cool person...that I also want to fuck.
>>17271649
The more time you spend with her now, the less she will think of you. You will eventually become a creepy creep in her eyes, if you are not already .
I've had a long distance friendship with a girl for some time now. We talk often and we hit it off very well, to the point where we developed feelings for each other. Recently I found out she has a tendency of playing with guys and leading them on. For the attention, the power trip, idk, but she toys with people and ditches them when it becomes too serious. Recently she has tried to end it with me but she keeps coming back after she tells me it's over. I'm looking for some real advice guys. I feel like there is a lot wrong with this girl but deep down I want to help. She can be a really good person but shehas this terrible side to her. What do I do? She tells me one day that I'm so important to her and she won't leave and the next day she dips and comes back immediately. Do I just break it off for my own good. She keeps saying I'm "too good" for her.
>>17271591
Maybe you are misinterpreting what she is saying to you?
What exactly does she say when she is "leaving" ?
>>17271591
OP this is part of her game. Pull you in and push you away. I cannot believe despite what you have seen that confirms what you have been told you still want to fall for this shit. Run
>>17271591
Drop her.
I had the same done to me recently, and it ain't worth the emotional pain.
Just cut all contact with her.
I'm trying to get my local news website remove an article with my name in it. Can anyone give me advice? I typed up an email and haven't sent it yet. I'm going to send this to the guys in the IT department (I found contact info on the site). Any tips/advice greatly appreciated.
>Hello, my name is [redacted] and I was hoping you could help me. Last year I had a court case for drunk driving and it was documented in the [redacted] Police Log. I was wondering if there’s any possibility of removing my name from the search engine index or censoring it somehow. The case did not result in a conviction and after sending out numerous job applications and speaking to recruiters I have found that [redacted] ’s article is preventing potential employers from giving me a face-to-face interview. I am working in construction right now with entry level pay and unable to find a job in my field (biology) because of this article. If there is anything we can do to make this not searchable it would mean a lot to me. I am happy to pay a service charge for the assistance.
Just do it. If they refuse I'm sure you can threaten to sue or something.
>>17271583
Google "European court orders Google to forget people" It won't apply to you directly, but you can cite it as a precedent
>>17271617
That was part of my inspiration, but yeah maybe its worth mentioning in the email
today and old friend ask me to hang out next friday, but the thought about that its a trap to hurt me or beat me or humiliated me its killing me, and i actually im afraid to go
>>17271581
Why would your old friend want to harm you?
>>17271619
dunno, but when i start to think about it, i imagine crazy, almost impossible conspiracies
@OP
Did you use to, or do you smoke a lot of weed? (serious question)
What makes a man an eligible bachelor today? Serious question.
Why is she looking at her phone?
>>17271546
Pretty much the same things time and again...single, financially secure (or with the potential to be soon), reasonably attractive, has his own place, possesses confidence and basically has their life together except for companionship...
>>17271549
Because shes female.
Hey /adv/, I'm 18 years old and I can't stand the direction my life is headed, I'm going to my first year of community college next fall, and I don't want to stay where I am. I love my direct family, but I can't fucking stand my extended family, I need to get away, and Florida seems like a good idea. I've done some landscaping in the passed, and hard labor isn't a real problem for me, I've also been told my entire life that I'm a "genius" but I'm 99% sure that's bullshit. What I'm trying to ask is, what should I do for work, and is there a place better than Florida to head to (btw I'm currently in NYC)
Pic unrelated
>>17271537
*Past, fuck this phone
>>17271537
Wherever you run, when you get there you'll still be you.
>>17271537
Bump
