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i'm so lonely ive lived here for several years and haven't made any genuine connection of friends or a girlfriend. I would like to distract myself and do something fun but there's this intense agonizing pain that things will never work out for me. i'm in my 30s so the reality hits hard every day. How do I not care or how do i be normal and process this. My debilitating shyness only compounds other peoples avoidance.
>>17270659
start lifting
>>17270659
Wow, there's literary a comic a bout how to be easily successful in life and with women they saved. Still those unhygienic disgusting fat/anorexic slobs complain about how no one likes them raging on women and people in general. Rather than taking a little effort (really only watch what you eat/wear, be healthy and do a little sports, take care of your hair and body posture) to have a very much more easier/healthier life while feeling so much better themselves.
>>17270659
>. i'm in my 30s
It never is too late
>My debilitating shyness only compounds other peoples avoidance.
Maybe it's just your looks, really. Improve your looks (read here >>17270659 and >>17270680) and people will actively seek your attention. There's nothing better than a shy qty.
>Loose weight, smell good, clean teeth, good body posture, good hairstyle, good clothing, feel awesome and attractive every day, stay shy pure hearted awesome guy inside
>Hello awesome nice friends
>hello awesome nice girlfriend
>Be careful not to associate with lying egoistic scum
>???
>Profit
Does anyone know how to find someone for a long term relationship?
Every girl I meet either wants to be friends with benefits or not be serious. Maybe I'm childish but I want a relationship more than casual sex, I don't care about looks or distance. I tried online dating, I don't know what else to do. Thanks for any advice guys.
Question: do you sleep with these girls?
Go with the flow. Girls say a lot of things and do the opposite.
It's kind of like poker; if you have a strong hand, you act weak, and vice versa.
Get the girls in bed and see how hard you can make them cum. This is your metric for how into you they are.
>>17270601
I have a few times, but that isn't my focus.
>>17270603
I've been told I'm good by 2 people, I'm by no means endowed but I can make a girl cum. Still that isn't what I want to do, I usually try to put off sex because that isn't my priority with these girls but most just want that.
How do i stop being a beta and start fucking some bitches, need some legit advice, i have female friends, but i fear aproaching girls at parties and bars for some reason. Im 19 atm and a virgin, haven't even kissed a girl yet.
>>17270540
You start by realizing that the "beta vs alpha" thing is total bullshit.
Be confident in yourself.
Find things you're good at and do them.
Everything else will fall into place.
Girls are not all the same, but they tend to like to feel special, not "some bitches".
>>17270571
The complete opposite is true. Women like to prove that they are special, not being told.
Green text time boyz
>Be me
>Best friend introduces me to girl he might want to get with
>shes cool and we become decent friends
>have lots in common
>Talk a good amount everyday
>Eventually get to the point where we talk and hang out all all day and text all night and blah blah blah
>Both of us confess feelings to each other
>Basically low-key dating and have sent nudes and all that jazz
>Can't do anything because my friend likes her and I don't want to be a dick to my best friend
I just plan on waiting it all out, but I'm not 100% sure exactly what I should do.
>being that guy
Be ashamed.
>>17270510
That's what I am tho
>>17270507
>I don't want to be a dick to my best friend
But you're already a dick to your best friend, he just doesn't know it yet.
How do you accept your limits and stop comparing yourself to others, /adv/?
College, is ivy league equivalent, hard for real and getting a D is kinda good and takes some effort.
My parents are satisfied and sure i will get only shit grades, it makes me feel down.
My highschool was shit, and my town didn't have great courses am i fucked forever or can i fix it?
Should i ditch my hobbies completely to do so? I would have removed video games, but i get real depressed without them, they were my only true friends in preschool. What hobbies are stress-relieving and more productive?
I don't drink, have trust issues, so won't bond with people who easily make friends while drunk, i think.
Why would you go to an Ivy League equivalent if you're going to get Ds? Decent grades at a lesser school will always look better than shit grades at a good school
>>17270494
>ive league equivalent
>equivalent
lol seriously though my moms the opposite of your mom. i applied for film school and she convinced herself it was a really hard to get into prestigious film school. as if those two things weren't contradictory.
the problem with asking for hobbies that are productive and stress relieving is that they are often contradictory. some people might say painting and such is leisurely, but a lot of people (especially people like you) are just gonna end up hating the painting and feeling like they're doing a shit job.
my stress relieving stuff isnt productive. my productive hobbies are fun but stressful.
>>17270494
You're an adult; start acting like one.
How do I deal with extreme insecurity? I recently started working out, but the lack of immediate results makes me feel like shit. I've also noticed that one of my problems is that I think too much, which usually leads to me throwing a pity party.
I have friends, and I'm pretty extroverted in general (in live interactions), but that's just a front. I can't even make a Snapchat because I'm afraid of having low points at the start.
Pls help /adv/
What do you want out of life?
>>17270489
Become succesful, keep my family's business going, and travel around the world at one point, a la Che Guevara. Although I kinda regret not going to film school, instead.
I also want to have a nice body.
Is your face attractive? Has someone ever complimented you on your appearence?
Please drop some advice.
practice
i will kiss up that cute face
No need for symmetry
How do you deal with it? I'm trying to find some sort of zen head-space I can occupy that will allow me to stay composed around this person for 40 hours per week.
>>17270443
I'm in the same boat, OP.
But my boss is also my dad...Fug.
More deets needed
>>17270446
Just a textbook bully boss. Comes at the very end of the day and gives me meaningless deadlines because he knows I will have to work late to meet them. Calls me stupid in some way or another a couple times per day. Sneaks up behind me five or six times per day while I'm working and watches me until I notice he is standing there. Luckily I'm a hard worker, I don't even check my personal email while at work, so the faggot has never had an opportunity to "catch" me doing anything I shouldn't. And as far as being stupid, I regularly have to redo his code and explain to him in baby language why what he did is generating an error. The problem is, I have two posses, the one who actually hired me is not my supervisor. My supervisor, the bully, wanted to hire someone else. So he's doing everything he can to sabotage me there to prove to the other boss they made a mistake choosing me over his pick.
>started 1st year med
>failed 1 mandatory subject out of the 4 so far and probably more to fail
>a few people have said that there isnt a point to go back redo the first semester and just quit if i fail the first semester
I want to go back and redo it but would that be stupid?
>>17270428
well duh redo it?
what happens if you fail the mandatory subject? you don't get the degree do you
Not at all.
I have a friend who retook a first year engineering core multiple times. She's in second year now.
>>17270428
Are you talking about med school? Once you get in you're gold man, try to talk to your advisors and stuff. There are alot of options.
Med schools want to keep their retention rate high because it looks good on paper so they will bend over backwards and fuck their own assholes to make sure you pass.
Alright guys, need advice on what to do with this girl.
Met this hot girl three weeks ago, and we've hooked up the last two weekends. Kinda seem that she has slight feelings for me cause before we hooked up the second time, she had her head in my chest and I was kinda holding her and she was telling me this feels nice, and that it feels right and shit like that. I was just like uh yeah cause I was just trying to hook up with her, but I remembered on Twitter her saying she wanted like a summer relationship.
Catch is, she's going into her senior year of high school, and I'm going into junior year of college. She's 18 I'm 20. That's why I just wanted to hook up cause I didn't want to be that guy who's 20 going out with a senior in high school, even if we're only two years apart in age.
However my friend tells me to just do it, cause if we do have a summer thing we'll hook up all the time. He wants me to ask her to go to the movies tomorrow and I kind of want to also. But again I feel like I may look weird Going with her or people may give me shit, which wouldn't really matter cause in two months I'll be hours away again at college.
Also, the thing is is that I've never had a girlfriend. I've hooked up with plenty of hot girls, but I don't know if my personality Is fucked cause I never can go further than that. I lost my virginity five weeks ago when I was blackout drunk and barely remember it, so I kind of what to have sex again cause I feel like I'm on a weird border of virgin and not virgin, cause technically it happened but since I remember five seconds of it, mentally it feels like it didn't happen.
But also, whenever I've had chances like this in the past, I end up talking myself out of it. Like, I get nervous cause I don't really know what the fuck I'm doing, and I start to backpedal, which kinda feels like I'm doing it now. I may fuck this up so it feels like part of me would rather not even try in case I do so I dont have to deal with it.
Help
We only regret the things we didn't do...
Not weird at all. You insecure fuck.
>>17270374
I know bro I know. I just needed someone to tell me it wasn't weird.
Any folks native to LA have any information on LA's apartments? What parts of the area are good, what parts are bad, what complexes are shady and will get you robbed, what places are where fairly rich hipsters live safely and comfortably.
Pic unrelated.
Silverlake is the hipster neighborhood
Don't live in LA. Live in SGV and commute to LA if you have to.
Everybody uses this:
http://maps.latimes.com/crime
How do I fight the sadness /adv/?
>Be me
>Live with single mom in middle-class, mostly white community
>Sophomore year of high school
>Good grades, lots of friends, bright future
>move across the country
>start junior year
>always had emotional problems but something snaps
>become detached from everyone
>give up on schoolwork
>the only classes I don't fail are the ones I barely pass
>the only time I feel alive are in English class
>school year ends
>English teacher tells me how disapponted she was in me
>Mom tells me when I turn 18 she wants nothing to do with me anymore
>Every adult in my life tells me how disappointed they are in my wasted potential
I deserved it though. I really fucked up
>decide I need to start over
>move in with dad
>Go from mostly white, middle-class neighborhood to the ghetto
>Go to inner city school for senior year
>thrive
>get good grades
>meet great people
>learn about myself
>not unhappy anymore but still malcontent
>graduate on time and get accepted into university
I've managed to completely turn everything around but it all feels so hollow.
>Graduate
>stop talking to friends
>move back in with mom to save money before college
>everyone's happy
>except me
I feel terrible and I don't know why. I haven't talked to my high school friends in a month so I can't go to them all of a sudden. I know what my parents will say. Are some people just supposed to be unhappy? I don't want to feel like this anymore.
Which friends?
>>17270312
The people I met in my senior year of high school
>>17270304
Hey, do this.
Text your friends "If I shared something personal with you, would you care to listen?" It doesn't matter if you haven't talked to them in super long. It's cool even if they don't respond or blow you off, etc.
It's very likely most people will go "yeah what's up man" because I know if someone not that close to me said that, I'd listen, at least for a bit.
If anyone responds positively, you've struck gold, just share your feels with them.
Okay I have never been in this situation before. I am somewhat socially inept thanks to a dark past. Slowly, I went back to school and I have been doing really well. But sometimes my anxiety takes the best of me. Anyways, my class started and my professor gave me lots of compliments at the beginning of the class. I was paired with three girls.
One of them is very competitive. I thought she was nice to me but lately she yells at me and makes a big deal out of every mistake I make. Now, I can't even boil water properly thanks to her tearing into me, she knows what she is doing - she is just like my father. She is 19 and I am much much older than her.
Now I like this other girl in the same group, she is also old. When ever I try to flirt with her, the girl starts disrespecting me again. To the point where now I look like an ass infront of the girl I liked thanks to this crazy young chick.
How do I deal with it? I started ignoring her from yesterday. She always asks a question, then says I am wrong and then builds upon it from there. So should I continue to purposely ignore her? I know some abusers tend to ignore people so I dont want to come across as an abuser infront of the girl I like (if she even has any respect left for me anymore =/....). But yeah? how do I deal with this girl trying to bully me?
She then started going around the room and flirting with all these boys. Then the boys came over to our desk. Then she would ask me to "hand her things" like water bottle and shit like that. She acts like she's really enthusiastic or someshit..... what the fuck do i do lol? not only am i being abused but lol this girl is enjoying it. I dont know what her deal is
She wants to fuck you--and is imitating her parents' relationship to get your attention.
She sounds like a bitch, but people in life will be assholes. There's really nothing you can do but ignore it, because you're stuck with her and it sounds like no one's going to take your side if there's a conflict between you and her.
ignoring = silent approval
at least take some action, come on
"why are you always so obnoxious?"
"do you feel victory when you cause others pain?"
"i'd take a good look at myself if I were you"
or if, at any point, you're alone and she doesn't have whiteknights to save her, just tell her to shut the fuck up. it's simple.
I'm such an idiot, I changed my cellphone and somehow can't access my kik account... And I don't remember this guy's kik username, nor anything useful to search for him... That he sees this is my only hope!
I met him by making a thread here about a month ago, about how I missed teasing my ex with nudes and shit, and he said he liked that and so on
I was almost sure my kik account was summer.sleepover or something like that??
I remember his kik "name" was giga nigga, and he's from america.
Stop faggot. Your other thread was just deleted.
the only thing where /adv/ could help would be how you can't access your kik account.
You know you can turn on your old cell phone and look at your account even tho it isn't going to be able to go online, right?
My gf and I fucked without a condom and I masturbated maybe 10 minutes before we did and I didn't finish at all during the sex.and she's not past the 14th day of her period being over.and I'm scared for my life.pleas advise.
What are the odds of her getting pregnant?
Couples that are trying to get pregnant have a 20% success rate per month.
why isn't she on oral contraception? saves all the trouble
