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How do I become a more chill person? I just want to relax when talking to people sometimes and not worry what people think. I also seem to think people think I'm condescending because even when trying to be sincere.
fake it till you make it
>>17270213
That's what I've been doing. What bothers me is that I put to much thought into what other people think of me .I know that I shouldn't. How do I just not give a fuck?
Smoke weed everday!
I have a gaping hole in the side of one of my wisdom tooth. When I rinsed with listerine I found pieces of whitish black tooth enamel or dentin coming out in the sink. I haven't gone to the dentist yet and I can't go until the second of July because of insurance. How fucked am I?
>>17270187
Damn son, that's nasty.
Anyways, in my completely non-professional opinion, if there is no swelling and the gun doesn't feel especially warm then it is probably not infected so you're good until July.
Still, brush your goddamned teeth.
You can go months without a problem unless it starts to hurt.
Eat soft foods softly until then
/adv/, tell me what's up with women who text you all the time and seem super interested.. And then they suddenly start texting less frequently then start ignoring completely? How do I get them to respond more often, even if our convos are amazing?
By going on a real date or three, then giving them orgasms.
>>17270178
Don't be such a boring asshole and ask them out somewhere.
"If you are still interested in speaking to me, please respond." Just like that.
In particular, never EVER do the reverse (i.e. "If you want me to go away, please respond").
Hi guys,
So I am in a relationship about 5 months. I really like her, even love her, and the feeling is mutual. We started saying we love each other but we don't do it regularly even though we talk every day and see each other almost all the time. It is a very comfortable relationship, but both of us are maybe shy so we dont say 'love' all that much because it might feel fast. We usually say we miss each other or that we really like each other and kiss & heart emojis and all that bullshit. sex is there, nothing to complain, good stuff.
So my question is in regards to a gift, I want to buy her a tiffanys silver bracelet for her birthday next week. I work two jobs and can afford this 400 dollar bracelet however it is a chunk of change. Is it maybe too soon to give it to her? Should I wait until Christmas? Thanks guys.
I don't know about her, but I don't feel comfortable accepting such expensive gifts, even if it's for a special occasion. Maybe I would if it was a real milestone, like 10 year anniversary, but definitely not as a casual gift.
That said, I'm pretty low maintenance.
How's the sex?
Buying lots of small gifts for a girl is better than buying one expensive gift once in a blue moon.
Not that you shouldn't get the bracelet, just saying.
Well not having one may be a little hyperbole, but still yeah, it's fairly lacking.
I don't really have some sort of inner vision of what I'm reading or listening to, or envisioning.
My experiences with Dwarf Fortress really suffer because of this, a lot of people say a lot of fun comes from imagining the situation that's happening rather than just looking at what's happening on the wall of ASCII characters, and eventually it gets fairly boring. Doubly so when it comes to writing, which is also something I do fairly often.
Is there...
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I think if you find something boring, it just doesn't appeal to you, man. It's like asking "how do I improve my taste buds so I can enjoy eating shit". The thing is, people who enjoy a particular kind of stuff aren't exerting effort to deliberately enjoy it. They just happen to.
On the other hand, if you're asking "how do I make life more fun in general", that's a different issue altogether, and yeah, you can make progress in that area.
Meditation... Sit down or laydown or whatever your comfortable close your eyes andbtry and picture a fairly simple object, just focus on the details of it. The more you use your imagination the more you can imagine. Might help to have the object your tying to visualize around so you can look at it if your struggling to visualize
>>17270112
If I understand what you're saying correctly, then what you're describing is very unusual. Why would you want to become like everyone else in this respect?
What is reading a book like for you? You don't imagine the characters or places you read about? I can't imag-- er... I can't fathom what that'd be like. Can you describe it?
If you're a writer, you want to hold on to anything that will make your writing different than everyone else's. Can you post a bit...
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So many people showed their true colors and left me for dead. I used to always go out of my way to help others
Even my mother and eldest bro kept kicking me when i was already down and rotting,struggling.
Needless to say,i was extremely bitter at how people waited till fucked up things out of my control kept fucking me up before twisting the blde in the wound
few miracles happenned. Another miracle could possibly happen,it would be the greatest relief ,if it happens,it would wipe away my "downfall"
As i'm getting back to normal,my anger...
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are you roleplaying game of thrones or something
how far did you fall and what did you do to recover?
>>17270114
Health issues fucking me up big time.
Was supposed to start med school or pharm school this year. Everyone who has grades similiar to mines or a bit lower than mine got in.
I used to be the guy who always went out of his ways to give notes i've spent 100+ hours working on and shit, always helping others whenever i could,make sure everyone was alright
My health issues were so fucked up. It wrecked me so badly, it fucked up my gpa, got me in a severe depression. People were now indifferent...
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>have gf of 2.5 years
>came up with plan to propose in a couple of days
>she leaves me about a month ago
>seeing another guy now
>every day without her is complete suffering, had the chance to sleep with other women/see other women but pass them up
>can barely eat or sleep
>been like this for a month and only getting worse
>getting...
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Sorry man, looks like killing yourself is the only way. I'm in a similar boat but I already have my hydrogen exit bag and everything. Good luck to you
>>17270093
Join the club bro, girls are sluts. There is no way to win. Come down to the pub and drink with me.
This isn't what you want to hear, but you have to suck it up. You'll feel less shitty in a month's time, and in two month's you'll be okay again. It's hormonal. You're going through chemical imbalance and your serotonin levels are fucked because of "heartbreak".
Well, this is a long one, how about we start, 14 years ago.
>be me 20 years old
>In a 8 month relationship with, who was as the time, my gf.
>End up knocking her up
>For some reason, our relationship is kinda rocky
>before my son is born, we end up seperating
>see the birth of son, but my gf ends up marrying this other dude
>not mad, but upset, atleast my...
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>>17270056
don't potentially ruin his life and his relationships now by telling him
when he's older 20+ you can consider telling him
I say leave it if you're asking what's in his interests. Telling him now will fuck him up. If he starts to question it later, then discuss it with your ex and decide whether to tell him, but don't rock the boat unnecessarily.
>>17270065
Well, its because the other month at Dave and Busters, I accidentially called him "son", hopefully he forgets about it
Would a title get people's attention that resembles status? Can confidence get you far without knowledge? Who are people you are jealous of? Im specifically talking about what young people 18-27. How does this generation think?
I am 22 and a recent college grad. I am jealous of people who can afford to live alone and support themslves. That's it.
>>17270055
>college
see that's you went wrong
>>17270051
What you lack isn't status, but something else.
Tell us your real problem, and we'll advise you. Status is totally unimportant for friendship, love, happiness, and the things in life that are good. Point being that the object of your pursuit is misplaced, and if you tell us your real problem we'll help
Let me give you the quick and dirty:
> Be me
> Met really cool girl on Tinder
> Been talking pretty much non-stop for the past 2-3 weeks
> Have seen each other 5x since it started
> Broadway cast tour for Matilda is nearby
> Says she wants to go with someone
> Her b-day happens to be coming up too; show is several days before
>...
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if you're rolling in dosh it's fine, but if you spend a significant amount of your paycheck for someone you don't know that well, it might be a bit too strong
either way it's a win-win for her lmao
>>17270053
We've had sex already so at least it doesn't seem like a hail mary attempt to bang her for the first time, at least I don't think that.
You think I can bounce back from this? Like, should I just not spend >$50 during a given date until we know each other better?
i mean, you've met each other 5 times for the past 2-3 weeks, had sex already
this can be just seen as a nice birthday present, you should be fine
also, she says she wants to go with someone so maybe she was hinting about going with you anyways? i dunno, but i dont think you fucked up
>I think I'm mentally ill
>I think about killing myself a lot
>I'm afraid I will be put in a mental institution if I tell my psychologist/family
>do I have any other options?
>inb4 kys
>pic unrelated
>>17270039
Probably not, but you're right mental institution are shitty, you don't have many options besides fill your life with busy shit just to distract yourself from thinking what you're thinking. Or you could go to a psychologist, psychotherapist and gradually explaining what's wrong, while avoiding the "I want to kill myself a lot" he will help you re-think your life, without knowing the depth of it.
Also philosophy is amazing there, reading a lot of it will help you get over it...
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>>17270039
What country do you live in?
>>17270039
You probably won't be institutionalized if you tell them you have had/have suicidal thoughts. But it you hint at a future plan to kill yourself you definitely will be.
I've been thinking about getting my first tattoo. It would be on my leg and I'm thinking about a copy of one of Rockwell Kent's Moby Dick (my favorite book) illustrations.
What do you think? Also, share your tattoos and if you regret them. Was it painful?
>>17269967
why permanently disfigure your skin just to have a picture on it?
>>17269967
That's going to look shit as a tattoo.
>>17269973
why not
What are some quality shoes that are still in style this year, but not terribly expensive to buy?
i would direct you to /fa/ but that place is a fucking joke
>>17269948
What type of clothing do your outfits consist of? What shoes do you already have?
>>17269992
Typically a graphic T and Calvin Klein jeans. Right now I wear a pair of Adidas low canvas walking shoes. I got them because looked simple and functional, but not overthetop stylish (also because I had a DSW coupon and they were on sale). They look something like this, but with red soles instead.
I'm 23 years old and my parents won't accept me or support me in my choices. I'm not making illegal or bad choices. I have my own job, place to live, pay my own bills etc. I haven't lived with them in years. I feel like I'm coming to the point where I need to cut them out of my life. Has anyone else felt that way? how did you handle it? or how did you cut family out?
>>17269941
What are the problematic choices they don't support
>>17269941
just visit them once a year out of obligation, answer if they call, and that's that
i'm jealous that you can support yourself financially. just graduated college and don't have a job, still living with my parents whom i'm not close with. looking forward to the day when i can live alone
>>17269947
my boyfriend. they have never even met him. ( I am a female just for those who think I am a male coming out to my parents. that's not the case)
With my new free time I've decided to start a running schedule, I found an old MP3 I can download music onto, anyone have a good site I can download free music onto? Preferably without getting a virus.
How fucking new to the internet are you? Pirate Bay and Kickass Torrents
>>17269939
>old MP3
>download music onto
fuck man are you 60 years old? do you not have a smartphone with access to pandora/spotify?
>>17269953
I'm looking a little faster than torrenting a couple hundred songs.
