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tl;dr
i'm in love with my boyfriends best friend
Me and my boyfriend met 6 months ago and we hit off really quickly. We talked for hours, had many dates, and honestly it felt like he was the one. It was crazy to see how he kept up with my terrible personality. He often says how he wants to spend the rest of his time with me, get married and stuff.
2 months ago I met his best friend, he is more attractive, funny and even seems to understand me better. We don't chat or anything, but whenever we meet we get lost in time and talk for what seems forever.
Honestly the more I meet up with him the more bland my current boyfriend starts to look. He dosen't look like the perfect guy that I first met. Our conversations are just getting more and more awkward.
For the last part, I don't want to ruin their friendship, because I know how much it means. Their bond is so strong. I'd hate to interupt it, but my attraction is growing stronger daily.
>>17268140
Leave your boyfriend and walk away from the group all together. You have realised that after 6 months of dating you don't want to be in a relationship anymore.
If you want to perform some sort of switch then just say it. But if you really want to preserve their friendship then just leave their lives completely and cleanly.
Sometimes you don't get your cake and eat it too.
you all sound like psycho unstable fuckheads
>>17268140
I hope you will get raped in a hobo gangbang.. The grass will be always greener on the other side for you because your thinking is cancer.
tl;dr Ex girlfriend moved in with me, how do I stop feelings cropping up again?
>dated for 4 years, broke up when she fell in love with another guy
>cut off contact with her and went into a spiral of drinking and fucking for a year
>got my life in order, started working and got my own place
>3 years later she gets in contact and her life has gone to shit
>broke up with the guy, started cutting, got thrown out by her mom, started drinking
>not sure why, guess I still love her a bit so I took her in as long as she cleans the place up until she can get back on her feet
>It's been 6 months since then and it's almost like we're dating
>watching movies together, playing games together and shit
>when she gets drunk she sometimes comes into my room and falls asleep next to me
How do I stop myself from falling in love with her again? I sort of like her, but don't want to go down that path again. The guy she fell in love with still loves her and flirts with her and sends her dick pics, but she laughs at them when she shows me. I can't throw her out as she has nowhere else to go, but I can't really date someone else if she's still living with me.
>>17268125
It's clear. You've gotta fake your own death.
>>17268125
>>17268158
But in all seriousness, you can't live with her much longer. I think you know what to do but care about her too much to do what's best for you. You have given away 6 months of your dating life to help her for nothing in return. I think it's best to not live with her anymore.
Why would you even agree to that in the first place? She's your ex for a reason.
I've had sex with 5 girls in my 18 years of existence, and all of them had foul tasting vaginas except for one that tasted sweet and was actually really nice.
My girlfriend said if I can come up with some suggestions on how to make it taste better she'd be open to trying to make it taste better. What works and what doesn't?
>>17268046
tell her to wash her filthy cunt?
Worst case scenario is she has a yeast infection or STD. This is unlikely if she has not noticed a change in smell and has no irritation. Also, she should smell less strongly right out of the shower if it's not a medical issue.
Other than that, it is likely diet. What helps is drinking a lot of water, eating fruits (especially pineapple) and avoiding too much foods like red meat, garlic, onions etc that make your bodily fluids smell/taste bitter. You can find whole lists online. Smoking also affects it negatively.
Apart from this synthetic panties (cotton all the way), too tight pants/underwear, washing the inside with soap or douching and shaving the pubes can all contribute to stronger smell.
>>17268080
It's definitely not an STD, it tastes the same as all the other vaginas except that one good one, and she was tested and has nothing. She hasn't noticed anything different
Why is the physical/material world so boring?
It's dawned on me recently that indulging in digital escapism is the high point of my day, high point of my life.
I absolutely do not want to go back to the real world and I'm wondering how people there manage to stay sane
>>17268009
you're asking this on 4chan of all places. No one here likes real life.
>>17268009
It's only as boring as you make it, travelling and exploring the world, trying new recreational activities and kicking back with friends/family is some of the best fun you can have.
>>17268025
>He thinks friends exist
So I'm a depressed 23yo, and I recently came to the conclusion that I'm probably just not a content creator kind of person, which is probably the only thing I ever really cared about trying to become.
>pretty much only had video games as a hobby ever
>tried making literally hundreds of videos of various games for years over multiple accounts with different styles and everything
>never got anywhere with it, the stuff i make just isn't good enough
>always wanted to become an artist and create all sorts of amazing art
>never got better than the bare basics, almost never even tried to actually learn anything, the motivation and energy for learning is absolutely zero
>i tried making my own music
>can't play any instrument i tried, only had minor success with a harmonica once
>don't have the energy or patience to learn to make anything out of computer audio tools
The only things that interest me even the slightest seem to be what I'm absolutely worst at.
>>17267987
Fuck it I'll just keep ranting.
Hell I can't even make myself talk to people or share my thoughts on anything anymore.
I don't even want to meet strangers and get to know them to then become friends, I don't enjoy the experience.
According to various actual test I've made with a psychologist, I'm a horrible learner, I read slow and I have a shitty short-term memory (however, apparently once I've actually learned something I do have a pretty good long term memory).
I'm absolutely garbage at anything I try to do. As mentioned I only really used to care about videogames, but I've never fucking managed to actually get decent at anything I've played. I'm around average tier in everything, no matter how much effort I put into it.
I've wanted to die for years but there's no RELIABLE option for me to do so where I live. I'd really just want an exit bag but they're fucking ILLEGAL here.
>>17267992
The only thing I can think of at all that I still enjoy to some degree, is masturbating and talking about porn with people over at /soc/, /h/, /d/ and /trash/.
I always wished I could be attractive, but I don't have the energy or discipline to exercise and actually lose weight and gain muscle or anything.
And why would it fucking matter anyway, because there's always going to be bigger, buffer, tougher, stronger and more handsome guys around, pretty much literally everybody would be just that either way.
I never bothered to cut myself, but over the last few months I've had a genuine desire to hurt myself. I want to stab myself just to have something to feel other than anxiety, and something to think about other than constant overthinking about everything else.
>>17267999
I haven't had someone to call a friend for years now. I don't even know if I desire friendship anymore. I don't know if I enjoy being completely lonely.
My job fucking sucks and I work too hard for the absolute underpayment I receive, and there's no sort of appreciation from it either.
I hate both of my parents to the core, I pretty much always have. They're everything that is wrong with people, in my opinion. Disgusting attitudes, unreliable, unthankful, etc. Yet I'm forced to live with them every single day because I can't afford to move out. That's right, I'm god damn 23 and I can't even AFFORD to start the baby steps of becoming a decent person.
I'm 22 and I still play video games a lot during my free time. I tried to quit a while ago, but when I started dating a girl that plays, I started again.
I believe I use it as a way to cope. I don't have any real life friends, and even if I did I would rather just play games with my online ones (with the exception of my gf)
It also makes it hard because I was majoring in Computer Science (which I now switched to Information Systems) and all of my classmates seemed like man children.
This behaviour wasn't a big deal when I was 15, but I am getting older now and I feel that it may be hurting my chances of getting motivated in life.
I also don't want to be known as that guy who never grows up.
>>17267939
Video games aren't immature. I know fifty year olds who play nothing but doom, quake, and ut. Use in moderation anon.
Treat vidya like tv or movies. Don't overindulge all your time but use in moderation. It's all entertainment so treat it as such.
Hello, OP. I'm 27 myself. What kind of games do you play? Some of that shit can turn to motivation in real world jobs.
So I got knocked out yesterday by some faggot who thought I stared at him and smirked, which is true, but it doesn't matter.
How do I find this fuck and get my revenge? I know nothing other than his looks and the location where it happened.
go back to the exact spot it happened and start sniffing around until you catch his scent, once you do, the hunt is on, who know where the trail will lead. maybe it will lead to the restroom where could collect a stool sample or some of that DNA material. of that doesn't work start checking your social media stuff for location tags and maybe he was stupid to check-in somewhere and leave evidence for a hardened killer to collect whilst on his pursuit. from there you should gain greater access to his personal life like who his friends family are where he goes etc. when you catch make sure you get with three feet of him and give him that very same glare you have him that night he knocked you out and sealed his fate. godspeed
>>17267900
this is good advice
>>17267883
Look for cameras in the area. Ask shop owners to look at tapes because you were attacked try to look for car plates.
I can't stop craving candy. I'm trying to lose weight, and I can resist just about every other food without issue.
But when it comes to candy, I just can't stop. I live within a tiny walking distance of a vending machine, and I love eating Reeses and Snickers. I cannot fucking stop, I crave it so hard.
Why can't I stop? I just want to quit it but every time I break and I just stuff my face with candy, even now I'm thinking about shoving another piece of candy into my mouth.
HELP ME.
It's okay, OP. Embrace it. Keep feeding the parasites and fungi slowly taking over your body. Give in to the peanut buttery goodness.
>>17267822
I also struggle with this. What helps me is when I fast for half a day to a day and then start eating slowly again. When you dont eat you have a smaller stomach and its harder to eat a lot of food. Your appetite is lessened. You just have to get past that initial hunger stage. It helps a lot to drink water and stuff like caffeine suppresses your appetite. Good luck
Don't bring cash to work.
Debate with me anons.
Is Facebook necessary today in order to actually have friends and thrive socially (and maybe even professionally)?
Will I have to play the game to survive, even if I don't want to?
No, I have facebook and nobody talks to me on it
Not really. I have one, and I mostly use it for events and political groups.
I doubt my social life would be really affected if I stopped using it. There are so many other ways you can keep in touch with people.
I have FB but I rarely check it. It's handy when you meet new people though "just add me on FB". Also you'll miss out on some local events or some stuff people invite you to.
if you had a partner that was PERFECT in nearly every way and supposedly wanted to marry you, but you broke their trust because you had insurmountable trust issues from past abuse and mistreated them as a result of that fear, but now they routinely block you and ignore you when they feel "upset" because they feel they had been mistreated, or jealous, and when you do need their help, because you, say, get infections that send you to the ER every 3-4 months, or because you feel fairly suicidal and live with an abusive family that threatens to call the cops on you, they would ignore you for days and block you, would it still be worth it to stay?
how long would you suffer for, alone,knowing you'd wronged them, to just maintain the relationship?
also, fun fact, apparently jimmy page collabed with p diddy!
also you did not cheat on them. just, during the beginning stages of the relationship you didn't take them seriously and tried to make them jealous, or spoke to friends they didn't want you speaking to
First question. How old are both of you?
"Trust issues" is such a bullshit, cop-out, buzz word, meme excuse for just about anything you can think of.
Sorry I shot you in the spine and paralysed you from the waist down. I have trust issues from past relationships. No, I don't want to talk about it. I don't like opening up due to fear of getting hurt. Y'know, because of trust issues.
You don't deserve to be with anyone until you can resolve your "muh trust issues" shit and stop hurting others.
I need some help
I got this tattoo 4 days ago and it's starting to cause some issues
The scab of the tattoo in the healing process is really puffy, kind of crumbly and falling off in one little spot.
This is my first tattoo and I went knowing everything I needed to know about taking care of it; proper times to wash it and with non fragrance liquid soap, not to soak it is water, etc. When it got to the scab faze (today) I used a tiny amount of aquapher one every 3-5 hours but an hour after my second application of the lotion was applied, the scabs became most and gooey so I let it dry it's self out. The current state of the scabs are not bad besides three letters. They aren't even letters anymore, just balls of scab. Halp me
>Pic related
>>17267699
What even is that supposed to say?
Go back to your tattoo parlor instead of whining about it on 4chan?
Jesus, some people...
>>17267714
It's 4 in the morning where I'm at. I'm asking to see if someone with experiences like mine had things work out in the end
Hey /adv/, I need some tips and help from you guys/gals. I'm 20 and pretty much getting myself kicked out of my parents house. I've never lived completely by myself, what should I do? I'm currently working a job that averages $800-$900 a month and will probably be living in a studio/1 bedroom apartment by myself on that wage. Anything I should know about living on my own for the first time that isn't common knowledge? I'm also considering to start busking for extra money in my free time once the weather isn't above 105°f.
Is government assistance worth looking into?
Is me being a grand in collections going to affect me getting an apartment?
Pic unrelated
Check the apartment THOROUGHLY during the first walk through and mark down ANYTHING that looks damaged or out of place, or you will pay for it.
If you have something worth assisting. I am crippled, and I never went for assistance, but I also apposed to the sort of thing. Depends on what is the matter with you really, just don't let that be your lifestyle.
What do you mean a grand in collections?
>>17267650
Stuff that isn't common knowledge? That's a little tough. Instead I will go for things that are vital - make sure you can afford your utilities (or that they come as a part of the apartment.) To begin with, make sure you have a plce to store food (fridge) and a place to cook food (most places come with an oven, or a microwave, but if it comes with neither consider a press grill, they cook meat well and are easy enough to clean. A hotplate can work well too.)
Budget your food, cleaning products, and relaxation money and save the rest for several months at least, having an emergency fund could save your ass bigtime.
I think that covers the basics, maybe someone who lives closer can cover the rest.
>>17267667
I've had to have an emergency surgery in the past and haven't been able to pay it off so I'm in collections for one of the bills that my insurance wouldn't cover.
I have no disabilities either, I was just wondering If signing up for food stamps is worth it. I figure if it is, it'd be me having tax free pay checks by receiving back my required government check deductions in food.
Does anyone have that thing where they have a relatively low libido for most of the month, but, when it's period time, or they're ovulating (fertile), they get horny and cock-hungry as hell?
Most of the month I am not THAT interested in sex unless coaxed with foreplay, but when I go into heat I suddenly transform into someone that wants to fuck like a rabbit. Too bad period sex is gross.
> Too bad period sex is gross
You're entitled to your opinion. It's never stopped me.
>>17267614
my ex would insist on it. it was no big deal, but she would sometimes try to get it on me like warrior makeup.
>Too bad period sex is gross
you'll grow out of that and learn to embrace the blood
what are the things that make you proud to call your gf/bf yours? where there moments you where especially proud of them?
>>17267577
OP no one is proud of people any more. We are all selfish, egomaniacal, sociopaths who can only think of what benefits us directly and immediately. This thread will die not because it's a poor question (it's not) but because no one will have answer.
When he does something stupid or awkward and I think "man, he's an idiot, but he's MY idiot"
Also because you're not asking for /adv/ice
Hey /adv/, I lost my virginity tonight (if not finishing counts) to a friend of mine and I hadn't seen her for 5 years and the first day we met, she decided to make moves on me, and me being a prude/virgin I got my first handjob, blowjob, first kiss and first foreplay that day and that was only two weeks ago. I met up with her again today and it led to me losing my virginity, but I never finished, and I never finished the first time as well (idk if it counts anymore), but i was on oxy the first time (about 25mg) and I only drank a little bit of rum today but I still couldn't cum
I could only come close when I was stroking myself for her and right now I feel really bad because I felt like I did a bad job
This might be all over the place but I just need advice on making out, fingering and fucking
This girl's my first sexual partner so i don't have much experience, anything before that was just sex over the phone
Any help would be much appreciated. Thank you /adv/
Cold turkey from porn and masturbation for few weeks.
/thread
>>17267585
This. And don't drink or do drugs if you don't want to be shit in bed. Also tell her that she's your first and she'll be more than happy to teach you (assuming she has experience)
>>17267585
Lmao thanks anon, much appreciated
>>17267598
I'm not much of a drug or alcohol person. That oxy that i took was also my first high. I had a lot of firsts that day i guess. She knows that I am pretty much a prude who gets really confident when it comes to things like this but still I feel like i did bad, i couldn't make her cum since her sex drive isn't as strong as a few years back, and yeah she has a lot of experience so I let her take the lead mostly, but keep in mind she and i have only met twice and these events happened within 3 weeks
