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soo my boyfriend said he would text me this morning if he woke up early enough for us to hangout before I had work at 3 because we have a couple days of not seeing each other
he never texted me at all and it's almost 8pm, and he was on Insta at lke 11 this morning so he just sorta blew me off for some reason and didn't even text. we didn't have legit plans but I think it's weird he never even texted me at all..
I'm just deciding if I should text him now, it's almost 8pm, or just not do anytning? I sent him a snaochat selfie of me...
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>>17265912
Just hit him up and be direct about how you're feelin' anon.
>every woman in every relationship: "Why doesn't he want to talk to me sometimes?"
>every man in every relationship: "Why does she want to talk ALL THE TIME?"
>>17265921
Not sure about this
>>17265912
I think you'd honestly seem desperate or clingy. You checked up on him to see if he was on IG and he was. Maybe he got up to shit and was on his phone and passed out. Maybe he didn't think the two of you had enough time to hang out. Maybe he had a headache. It could be anything really. Talking everyday might not be what his idea of a relationship is, and he won't know thats how you feel unless you say so. Personally...
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This girl I've been texting that I met at my university takes hours to respond, and usually doesn't initiate the conversations.
Typically, I'd just write this off as her not being interested, but when we're together, she acts like she's really into me. When we first started texting during the school year, we would text back and forth and she would reply fairly quickly but now it seems like it has been taking longer and longer? When she does respond though she will often ask questions and give longer messages so it seems to me like she is trying...
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>>17265886
Hang out with her more and text her less. Only text her to hang out. Could be she's shy, could be she's a bad texted, could be she's uninterested. Instead of pulling your teeth texting, invest in the actual aspects of her that you're getting some return on.
>>17265886
She likes physical male attention, you ask her out if she says yes she likes you as a potential partner otherwise you are just orbiting and need to move on
>>17265905
Ill try this, it is summer now so more free time.
She invited me over recently and I got another kiss when she got me alone.
I've locked up and make no counter moves when she kisses me. I just smile and thank her.
Should I try too kiss her next time?
You should not wait until "next time." You should be the one to make "next time" happen. Man up, or she'll move on.
>and thank her
Run. She is a succubus and only wants your soul.
Hello /adv/ I have been feeling weird lately.
Feel very bored almost all of the time, and have almost no motivation to do anything.
Could be early signs of depression not completely sure.
Feeling kinda empty at times, and sometimes i'm literally thinking of nothing.
Have been sitting in my room for the past week most of the day.
Do any of you have any experience with this?
I would appreciate any insight.
frankly I've felt that way since I was 15
(25 now)
i just force myself to enjoy SOME thing - one hour at a time and honestly it works - my gf and roommate both struggle with the same kinda deal and we just keep ourselves occupied - indulge in the bad vibes sometimes but otherwise it's all about productive distractions
Yes (a lot).
Do something with yourself. Exercise helps a lot...a LOT.
Make a goal for yourself. Make sure it's something you can accomplish in a day. Fulfill it. Make more goals. Repeat.
Meditate. Explore philosophy.
As one of my therapists once said, "Do things that are self-validating."
Prove to yourself that you're not just another shitbag taking up space on this planet.
>>17265884
>I just force myself to enjoy SOME thing - one hour at a time and honestly it works
What do you mean by this?
Info:
19y/o (male) immigrant in a Scandinavian country (I'm white). Currently in education in uni.
Difficulties:
Can't push myself to get a stable job or seriously learn the local language (which I want to).
Feel lonely af eventhough quite social if out (dont go out ever).
Have severe body acne. Want a buff body. Eat poorly.
Want to develop a skill and cant push myself yet again.
Want to become more social.
I just spend most of my days playing vidya and sleeping. Feel very depressed.
I do not want my life to be like this. I want to reach something in life, I want women to want me.
Please anons, give me a pep talk and red pill me.
>>17265837
Remove the saftey blanket and support structures that make you lazy.
Start by getting rid of the majority of your video games. Not all of them. Just the ones that are a horrible time sink
Fixing eating poorly will assist in fixing acne , flabby body and some of the social issues. There's no excuse to get healthy fresh food at the grocery store.
>>17265850
Saddest thing is I mostly play the "skill" based vidya which as we all know is the biggest time consumer and I dont want to quit because of the time I put in that to develop my so called "skills".
>>17265868
You don't have skills. If you did, you'd have sponsors and be a part of esports. Skill games are pointless.
You're just giving excuses.
Stop.
hey /adv/,
it's me again. i have been casting white magic spells on a particular person (A) (my most recent ex lover) and also sending him telepathic messages/love/affection.
I did a lot of the telepathy at night while laying in bed comfortably. Today in the afternoon, I get a text message from someone (B), but it's the wrong person.
This freaked me out because even though it's not exactly who I was aiming for last night (A), it's still someone (B) reaching out to me. I haven't spoken to them (B) in about 2 months, and they randomly...
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does anyone ave any experience in this?.. casting spells and doing telepathy on an ex lover, and sending out positive energy into the universe? you get results, however it's not exactly from who you were intending upon.
>>17265807
Take your roleplaying/mental illness to >>>/x/
>>17265807
>randomly sent me a text
>not a coincidence.
That is the very definition of a coincidence
How do I deal with being lonely? I'm 24 and live with my parents. We get along but I don't feel close to them, or anyone really. I've always had trouble opening up and we don't talk much.
I have a couple friends but one is moving to another city soon and I won't see him often.
I spend a lot of time alone, go to the gym, bars, concerts by myself. It's a good distraction but sometimes makes me feel worse because I see everyone out with their friends or significant other. Don't have girlfriend obviously. No real hobbies other than video...
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oh shit are you me? I'm 24, live with my parents, and I'm really lonely
Can't offer any advice but it fucking hurts
>>17265815
>>17265799
me too and the loneliness fucking hurts
>>17265799
Get a job, you bums!
OK, don't hate me for this, guys
Here's my story.
I started working at 14. My parents had lots of issues, and my siblings wanted to go to college, so by age 18 I was working three crap jobs trying to pay our bills and help my siblings get through school. I became a master of living on practically nothing.
In my late twenties, I was ina freak traffic accident and severely injured. The next few years of recovery kind of sucked, nobody wanted to hire a cripple, and I knew poverty like I had never known before and awful chronic pain and depression.
Then, out of the blue, I was contacted by a family member who managed an estate and found out that our family had inherited a small fortune.
My parents and siblings get a payout every year, as do I. It isn't huge - just above what most would consider poverty-level income, but it was an awesome godsend for me.
I used the money to get myself a little house with a cheap mortgage, pay for physical therapy and counseling, and get my life together.
Things are damn good. I stopped caring about working and instead I started doing what I loved, making art and selling vegetables and flowers at farmer's markets. I make enough money from this and selling my art to live very comfortably. I even paid off my brothers' student loans.
The problem is, my parents are freaking out because I won't hold a job. They have always worked at least 40 hours a week, but they suck at managing money and are perpetually broke, even with the inheritance. They don't understand how I can live on a pensioner income and have no bigger aspirations. I don't understand how they can want me to go back to working overtime every week at a soul-crushing minimum wage job.
Anyway. This week they have an intervention planned, where their pastor and my aunts and uncles are getting together to tell me I have to decide on a career and they are super worried that I am a dirty hippy with no job.
What the fuck do I tell them, anon?
>>17265692
Lay out what you exactly said here. Your family has no right to meddle in how you choose to live your life. You seem to be making positive choices.
They're up their own asses. You're doing the best you can and in fact are doing so much better than some. You are living by doing what you enjoy, that's amazing i'm honestly really happy for you.
Maybe they're just worried that when/if the payout money stops coming you'll be suddenly in financial trouble so they want to help but maybe not I don't know those details. All in all you're fine, it's not like you're living off welfare and intentionally doing nothing.
I want to live like you one day.
>>17265726
Side note. Is your payout in any way shape or form controlled by any of these people?
>many suicide attempts in the family
>seems to be genetic
>depressed cripple since i can remember
>finally decide to take therapy
>6 months wait for a health insurance financed spot
>can't pay for it myself
>drinking myself to sleep
nobody around to talk to except for this Chinese porn tapestry forum
How are you crippled?
>>17265674
Isnt the sunlight beautiful?
>>17265674
we all go trough ups and down man,
just work on improving yourself,
It's hard.
Maybe things will get better.
you are not alone.
