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i dont know if this is the right board for this but i need help right now.
im on the shitter and i am severely constipated. im in alot of pain right now. i can bearly stand up straight and i simply cant get this shit out of me.
i cant find any information on the internet about what to do in the short term. its also 4:am and i live in the middle of nowhere and as far as i know i dont have any laxatives in my house. i just drank as much water as i could. i sware the pain is getting worse by the minute.
4chan is the only place i can think of where i can find people who...
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got anything with plum in it? that works wonders. also going for a jog might help
>>17262895
http://www.youthhealthmag.com/articles/1875/20141106/homemade-laxative-remedies-so-you-dont-have-to-run-to-the-store.htm
>>17262903
youre a hero man
I have gay fantasies about my best friend right before i fall asleep.
It gets me aroused . But the morning aftrr these thoughts are gone.
Im confused desu.
Am i gay if i have these fantasies?
Pic unrelated
Probably just a bit bisexual. No big deal.
>>17262797
i hate to sound tumblry, but human sexuality is rather complex. anyone who spends enough time looking at porn will find them exploring weirder and weirder things.
you may be gay. you may be bi. you may just be really close to your friend. you may be gay for him. you may be wanting to feel closer to him, but cannot understand how that is possible without sex (because anything more than a hug is now gay).
its hard to say without knowing your sexual history or any other thoughts you've had, but...
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>>17262797
Look we live in a weird age where homosexuality is pretty accepted, but still taboo. If you want a gay experience, try getting involved with the community. Don't worry yourself too much about having gay thoughts. Nothing wrong with it.
I don't want to work in manual labor, but I'm not smart enough for a desk job or rich enough to go to school.
What do I do?
Adapt. It's what people do best.
>>17262790
Developed skillsets independantly. Don't have to go to school to learn.
Your problem is finding motivation to start
>>17262790
One path is "I can't" and the other path is "I don't want."
Guess you're going down the "I don't want" path.
>23 years old, living with 21 and 18 year old brothers, mother, and 14 year old sister
>do some stupid teasing, pretend like I'm sneaking into her room because she's a teenager now and her room is sacred
>tells me to get out so I get out no problem, and then kicks me in the thigh like she meant it
>really got to me and my first reflex was to kick her back in her thigh
>she didn't go flying or anything (she could...
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>>17262780
Thought this was going the usual 4chan route. Yes, you were out of line.
You need your own place though, suffocating in an overcrowed is no good.
>24 years old man child kicks his little sister
Behave dude, that sounds unappropriated. This is one of those moments were a sorry would fit.
>>17262780
>she didn't go flying or anything (she could have if I wanted to)
Thanks for clarifying that, I was wondering whether a 23 year old man could beat up a 14 year old girl.
If a girl never initiates a conversation with you its correct to take that as a sign that she's not got any interest in you right?
Prettty much.
When a girl gets in contact with a high-value guy, she doesn't beat around the bush or play games because she knows he has pick of the litter.
Yeah, move on.
Worst thing you can do is waste time on a girl who doesn't see you in the same way.
Oh. Okay...
Thanks.
Why do people cheat?
Is cheating something that happens to everyone/everyone does at some point?
>>17262740
Human nature.
It's easy.
People get bored.
Lack of attention from their partner.
Want any more justifications to validate you? It's all garbage. People are garbage.
If you find a good one, never let them go.
>>17262751
>Want any more justifications to validate you?
What do you mean by this?
>>17262740
>Why do people cheat?
People cheat in their teens/early 20's because they're stupid kids with no concept of impulse control or dedication.
People cheat later in life because they suffer from an untold variety of psychological and emotional disturbances that, for the most part are so benign and ingrained in everyday culture that they typically aren't even considered disorders.
Fear of intimacy is an accepted part of modern society so a lot of people...
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So my doctor prescribed me citalopram (10mg) not for depression but to help with my alcohol dependence, though I'm not sure if he believed me when I said I wasn't depressed since he mentioned multiple times when I asked about the drug that it would "make me more happy". I started reading about it before taking it and I'm starting to psych myself out on the side effects even though I'm assuming it's all the normal rare shit drugs have. Does anyone here have any experience with the stuff? I've always been wary of antidepressants since I've...
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>>17262730
if it sjust about the alcohol then why not just quit drinking alcohol?
>>17262738
in the process. I went to the doctor a few days ago and told him about the medical issues I'm having from some things in the past and I also told him while trying to quit or cut down drinking I'm unable to sleep and I get kind of shaky. This stuff was his solution. tonight I'm just going to flat out not drink without taking the new stuff but i work 12 hour shifts selling cars so this not sleeping shit needs to stop.
>>17262753
selling cars doesnt sound too exhausting. dont get me wrong you need your sleep, but lets not pretend its physically taxing.
i feel ya though. have you tried melatonin?
Is there a way I can get back in touch with my friends after about a year of being away from them without seeming like an asshole and/or desperate? I would see them mainly through school when I was in touch with them, and I never really hung out with them outside of it apart from a fee instances.
Now that this way of connecting has been lost, would it be right to gradually get in touch with them again and spend time with them through other means? Or should I accept that I am not a part of their life anymore, and if they never spent time with me outside of school initially,...
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sounds like you arent telling us something. you are nervous to do something that this generation is famous for.
if oyu want to talk just add them on facebook, say 'hey how ya been?' catch up a little bit then suggest you hang out. throw a party and invite them, or just meet up to catch up.
but the way you are talking and comparing this to a divorce with a father abandoning his children makes me think you were an asshole on the way out.
so maybe start by apologizing if you were.
tell us the story? in one paragraph or less please.
>>17262750
I have depression and anxiety issues, and towards the end of last summer, I was having severe difficulties in dealing with it. By the time school began, I soon realized that I couldn't handle being in school in the midst of what was going on, and stopped going after the first few days without warning and never returned (leaving my contact with friends through social media as well). I have gotten treatment since then and have worked on some issues, but my mental health still fluctuates periodically.
Excuse...
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>>17262848
that didnt seem poorly paraphrased at all.
ultimately it sound slike (unless of course you omitted) that you did anything mean. you simply crashed. i have my own issues with that, but assuming you are more or less 'stable' (fluctuating, but not prone to life changing bouts of depression) just add them on facebook and see what happens.
ultimately it doesnt matter what is normal, or polite or a social norm. if you log on and the yall told you to fuck off your life would still be the same as it was an hour ago, they'd forget you again in ten minutes, and that'd be it.
they wont though. worst case scenario you catch up with at least two people via chats.
What's the best substitute to being loved?
alocohol
loving
>>17262713
Wrong
Girlfriend admitted that she Guilt trips me frequently.
Today, she told me that she thinks her love for me has "Settled". I became angry at this, and she claimed that she didn't mean it that way and that she was sorry and that she was upset for telling me that.
I've also noticed that I've become considerably more depressed, paranoid, and sensitive since the time she's started this.
What do I do? I'm beginning to trust her less, and I feel as if we're becoming more distant.
>>17262684
Leave her before it gets worse. She's your girlfriend, not your wife. Just leave her and gtfo before it gets more toxic.
>>17262694
I really love her, though. I know for a fact that she loves me as well. I just wish I could express how I feel without her trying to guilt trip me.
>>17262700
>>17262694
Look, I just posted a ton the other day in the thread about borderline personality disorder, so that's all fresh in my mind, but:
She can love you very much and still make the relationship toxic. There are people who compulsively and consistently undermine the relationships they're in because they're paranoid, insecure, mistrustful, or ill, and they do this even to people whom they love.
Ok so I don't know shit about...
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Hey /adv/. I've lived in a developed country in Asia all my life. I live with my parents. I took a gap year and will starr my second year at uni this summet. My parents pay for all my expenses.
Recently, things have not been going well. My parents are not happy with me and they think of me as a lazy, unmotivated sack and they are right. I don't have much passions/hobbies except learning a European language that is not widely spoken in Asia at uni. I spend most of my time surfing the web each day. I got really awful grades at uni this semester. I do not have...
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I really wish I could help you, but the only solution I know is a shitty one.
I used to be in a very similar situation. Worse, even, because my parents straight up gave up at one point and stopped bringing it up, instead opting to show their disappointment in small passive ways. It got unbearable.
So I started faking it. Forcing myself to do this and that, pretending I liked it, and so on.
Fast forward two years and they're no longer ashamed to have me as their son, but I hate every single part of the giant lie I built up.
If you think sacrificing...
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>>17262731
It's not like I disagree with my parents. I know that they are right - that I am a lazy sack with no ambitions in life whatsoever. I want to change myself, but I don't know how.
After they get angry at me and I start taking action, they will say that I am faking it, and the truth is I tend to lose the motivation to improve myself a week later.
>>17262777
Well, of course they are right. So were mine. But the thing with motivation and ambition is that getting them isn't as easy as they'd like, and that difficulty is hard to see for someone without the problem.
They say that the initial part of forcing yourself is the hard part, and that you're guaranteed to find something you want to do/achieve if you look hard enough. But I've spent two years forcing myself, while at the same time looking into every single fucking hobby I could think of,...
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>girl of my dreams happens to move to the same city as my best friend
>they hook up, are really close now looks like they might get married
>haven't spoken to either of them for like a year
wat do? thinking about offing myself
>>17262642
Be happy for them.
>>17262654
that's the kind of level headed behavior i'm just not capable of right now. am i a bad person?
>>17262642
You selfish piece of shit, just be happy for them and find another girl.
Where can I meet new people?
>>17262614
Work or school.
>>17262614
Have money. You will make a lot of new friends.
Join a sport, club
I'm at home, doing chores and baking. I'm a lawyer and I'm bored and a little drunk. Ask me. Keep in mind that I'm from Canada and do mostly family law. If you have a specific legal question, tell me what country you're from.
>>17262612
What do you call 10,000 lawyers at the bottom of the sea?
How hard is it to get a new title for a vehicle you paid for if the title holder has not answered the phone for in over a year?
Insurance for the vehicle is in my name.
>>17262623
adding to this, usa
How do I tell my professor I have depression?
He is emailing me asking me what's up, how do I tell him the reasoning as to why I'm isolating myself and trying to get off the grid?
Don't know how to do this professionally.
>>17262591
He probably just want sum fuk
>>17262591
>Don't know how to do this professionally
You don't, because it's unprofessional.
Keep your work, academic, and personal life separate.
>>17262591
"Sorry I've been uncommunicative, I've been dealing with some health issues. Thank you for checking in."
