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I'm a girl with quite severe agoraphobia who very rarely leave the house (and have few to no friends) - is this something I should actively hide when dating?
tl;dr back story: A year ago I met a guy and while I didn't shout it out it became quite apparent for him early on as he picked up signs and I didn't lie when he asked questions. Things never succeeded as I had hoped, maybe partly because of this. Now when I'm ready to retry I'm wondering if I should have a different approach.
I'm uncomfortable being deceitful but on the other hand maybe it's more about not taking out your dirty laundry before you've had a chance to form a deeper first impression of each other (other than me being the "mental case").
>>17262583
Post pic, don't show face and delete EXIF.
>>17262594
Why would I ever do that? Are you insane?
I'm a guy with pretty bad agoraphobia, and I've pretty much given up on dating until I get over it. I would imagine not wanting to go out and do things can be a real downer for people.
Personally, I wouldn't come right out an mention it. Maybe talk about how much you prefer being at home instead. Just don't come off as mentally ill and don't desperately try to hide it.
What is wrong with me? :(
If any guy shows interest in me and wants to date me I get the strong feeling of disgust and do everything to cause distance finally, it feels so ewwwww idk how to describe :(
Its just like I wanna run away and never see the person again, and even with too close friendships I feel the same way, I seek distance then.
But I have no problem with people, I love to socialize and make new friends but when things turn too emotional I feel disgusting and it feels so wrong, I wanna escape it as fast as possible.
Is this borderline personality...
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>>17262565
Lesbian
>>17262565
This is why I stay abstinent: girls' brains are just wired wrong.
>>17262569
nah I am not into girls I think :) It even happens with too close friendships with girls, like it feels disgusting then too
I've been on break for awhile now and I spent most of it in bed lounging around, staying up late and waking up after noon not eating too well. I've pretty much fucked up everything but lately this started popping up on my back and it looks like it's getting worse, what is it and how do I make it go away? Thanks
>>17262563
You're gaining weight too quickly.
Go outside and walk around for 45-60 mins a day.
>>17262568
Really? When I said I'm eating terribly I mean I'm too busy sleeping and I am missing meals. I've always had a fast metabolism and have never even gotten the slightest bit chunky
>>17262563
They look like stretch marks from growing taller quickly (like a teenage growth spurt). Stretch marks from weight gain would be vertical.
Why are people so seemingly averse to trying new things? Or have an apparently animosity towards artists, music, movies, games, etc. they've never heard of?
I don't get that. I love trying new things. As long as it's awesome, sign me the fuck up. It's an adventure either way. But I'm starting to notice that a lot of people feel the complete opposite (or at least that's the impression I keep getting). Women in particular seem guilty of this. One example happened just a few months ago. I was showing this girl some songs from one of my favourite...
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Because they're lazy. Learning about new things requires mental effort. Familiar stuff is comfortable and doesn't require shit.
>>17262560
Lack of confidence.
They are too insecure to go out try new stuff. Someone might think the wrong thing about them---that's insecurity.
Drop those losers and only consort with confident people.
Those people sound fucking weird.
I get being too lazy to check out something new, which is something I'm guilty of - my friends can pester me for months and months "watch this show, you'll love it" and I don't get around to it for forever only for them to be completely right. But if I actually experience it for myself, eg I'm hanging out and a friend actually puts on an episode rather than just telling me about it, and I sit there and watch the whole thing and enjoy it, of fucking course I'm going to get on that shit.
Just......
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I don't want my gf to know I'm a virgin, what are some dead give aways I can avoid
>>17262553
Don't tell her
>>17262553
tell her. Communication and honesty are cornerstones of a good relationship.
>>17262621
This
So I'm living in new city for a summer internship, and I was assigned a random roommate.
I really have not taken a liking to him. He is boisterous, rude, inconsiderate, messy and smelly. For example, in the car on the way home from work, I play music. He said he doesn't care what I play, so I played whatever. After a minute, he proceeds to unplug my phone, and plug his in to play this random youtube video of a guy making iced tea. I can't even watch the damn thing, and it was just uncomfortable.
We always agree upon a time to meet at my car after work, (we work in separate buildings), and he is always ten minutes late, without fail.
Talking to him is a chore. now, I'm not a natural conversationalist, but I tried to discuss some of my interests with him only to be met with pure neutrality.
I feel stressed when I'm around him.
What do I do? How do I get him to open up or be less of a jerk?
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>>17262548
He unplugged your music in your car?
He's a fag and you're a cuck.
>>17262557
wow, thanks.
>>17262548
What's stopping you from getting a new one or moving out?
Let me summarize. I am 21 years old currently, just turned 21 9 days ago.
I graduated from school 2 years ago and I did nothing at all since then.
I moved back to my dad's place 1 1/2 years ago and since then I did also absolutely nothing at all with my life.
I do not work (I tried to apply for a couple of companies but I never heard back from them, back in summer of '15), I actually never worked
a legit single day in my life. I unsuccessfully graduated from school when I was 15 years old and stayed with my mom (parents are divorced since I was little,...
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Fast forwarding to now. My day pretty much looks like this: Sleeping for 8-12 hours a day, being up for 12-16 hours, watching youtube (mostly just rewatching old videos) and browsing the internet
meanwhile. I used to play videogames like TF2 and CS:GO until a few months ago. but I stopped playing altogether. I also used to play emulators until like 2 weeks ago, but I have also lost interest in that. I mostly sleep during the day and stay up all night. I have basically no feel for thirst anymore, sometimes I don't drink anything in 12-15 hours and also not go to the toilet...
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But I doubt I can get any job at all. There is no big demand for that in my country and even if, there are people with more experience and talent than me. My grades from my high school graduation aren't that bad at all. I got A's in every subject besides the 3 main subjects and the coupled other subjects to them, which I only got C's, but in advanced, which are normal A's.
The final exams I did weren't layed out for advanced so you could only get adv. C as best grade. The exams were pretty simply and easy to be honest, so that's why I got all...
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I just don't know anymore. I don't know if I actually have any type of depression or burnout or if I'm just imaging it, because I can't deal with my situation.
I can't talk to people without breaking into stuttering at times and my stomach gets upset and I have the fear of getting diarrhea while in public.
I don't know what to look at, what do do with my hands etc. while talking to people, not like that happens that often at all, since I never go out anyways.
tl;dr, I know I should go to my dad and tell him about this all and get...
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Is my dog dying? She's a fourteen year old Miniature Schnauzer. She hasn't been eating much the past couple of days and, while she has been moving about, she's been looking downtrodden and it seems like she's just roaming around. She hasn't had any other problems like incontinence.
>>17262465
Take her to the vet, she may just be sick.
>>17262465
>Is my dog dying? She's a fourteen year old Miniature Schnauzer.
She could be. 14 is pretty old for that breed. But she could also just be ill.
Either way, you should take her to the vet.
take to vet ASAP
Even if she isn't dying this sickness (if that's what it is) could kill her since she is so old.
Broke with GF 4 months ago. She didn't knew what she wanted, she was through a hard moment in her life but didn't wanted help at least from me. Became cold af and indifferent about me. We broke up, she started dating other dude.
She used dude just to get rides. Still likes me. She'll be gone in a month to other country. We are "back" together (not oficially)
I feel love for her. But to be honest I feel I never made anything to deserve what happened. In private she's nice with me, kissing me and all that stuff. In public she doesn't...
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>I feel dumb, young, blind and used
You already know what to do: learn to say no.
It doesn't sound like she is into you, and she clearly isn't respecting you, so just get the fuck out
>>17262444
KEK
many red flags, run while you can
>>17262493
Too many, and there's a shit ton of stuff that I didn't mention. For example she gave me a letter saying that she wanted me to marry a week after we broke up. I think I fucked up in being with her again. Now I "like" her more but I know that a lot of shit happened, even after the breakup. Went to a psychologist, she told me that she's a mythomaniac and a manipulator. Found that hard to believe.
It's my first time falling deeply in love, I feel bad with myself because i'm...
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Need advice. I got head from a girl who is a massive slut on Saturday and has been with well over 150 guys (I didn't know until after). The next couple days I noticed my cock had some red bumps on the shaft. Was afraid it was herpes so went to the doctor 3 days ago. Doctor said it is definitely not herpes but a yeast infection. Gave me anti fungal meds which are working and sent me for a blood test. I got the results of the test back today and he told me all STD's are negative. But, 2 days ago I started getting pain in my right testicle. It is not excruciating but is uncomfortable. I told him that today and he said it could be inflammation. Recommended I come back in 2 weeks if it persists.
Basically I am worried my dick will fall off
Anyone here deal with something like this?
>>17262402
Hahaha was in that same situation awhile back BUT I have a great perception of whether a girl is a huge sclut or not so I passed.
Interesting fact: she's a prostitute now.
So I guess my advice is: GIT GUD
I thought I had warts I had a few really small wart like things on my dick. I picked one off. the rest went away on their own. dunno.
>>17262433
But the pain?
/adv/,
I need help, i'll try to keep this short
I keep forgetting about dates i made to hang out with my girlfirned
Be together 6 months, i love her a lot
But a few times i have legit forgotten that i was supposed to hang with here her that day.
For example: yesterday we were hanging out, we had a great day. i CASUALLY mentioned that she should sleep over tomorrow (tonight). she calls me an hour ago" where are u, i thought we were hanging out, wtf"
Do i not love her as much as i think i do? I know i have a shitty short...
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>>17262397
What were you doing when she called?
Whatever that was is what you love more than her.
>>17262405
i was taking a nap. her phonecall woke me up.
she says i only consider myself, which could be partially true given my cicumstances, which she acknowledges.
i am taking care of sick mother and dog and full time college student.
>>17262397
nah if u feel bad afterwards u love her, ur just stressed or tired to remeber.
Anyone know how, in iTunes, to change the primary artwork for one track while preserving the general album artwork for the others? For example, when you're playing the song in question on a synced mobile device, the displayed artwork would be different from the designated album artwork. I've done it before, so I know it's possible, but I've forgotten how.
Thanks in advance!
>>17262373
Why would you want too?
The time I did previously was because the track in question was a mix. I'd made a pic related that showed where each song was, for if I wanted to listen to something specific.
Right now I'm doing so because the album is a compilation, and I want each track to have its native album artwork.
Figured it out. You have to load each track into iTunes separately, making sure they aren't assigned to the same album right off the bat, then select them all, set their album to something uniform, and select "album is a compilation by various artists".
Happy camping, dudes.
Fucking disgraceful and disgusting practice.
Shame FOREVER on anyone who does that.
COWARDS
Wat is gaslighting?
>>17262369
you know i'm actually grateful for it all, a process of elimination to show me what i'm glad for, no one is to blame for anything, they tried to torture and kill me and they set me free. they are fucking saints.
also GOOGLE
>>17262364
Now you're realizing that the feminist agenda is a huge sham.
Good for you!
>meet girl at festival
>hit it off and fuck
>said her ex was useless
>she just finished uni and broke up with ex 10 days ago
>stay in touch and plan to meet
... see screenshot I'm guessing she either has PMS, weird feelings or whatever, can someone explain what the lead me on bit even means
So I understand she ma
>>17262320
She's a hoe
>>17262331
Though that, can yoy explain how?
>>17262320
Pic related is basically
"Anon, I like u but I have a couple other dicks to ride before I settle first, give me a minute? kthxbye"
Anyone else been in a long term relationship (years), but it's also your only relationship and sexual partner?
Met my gf 3 years ago when I was 22 and she was my first everything. I'm starting to get wandering eyes and I know it's heavily influenced by the fact that I'm so inexperienced, not knowing what else is out there, secretly wanting to be a single ladies man (ya right) etc... Need some wise old man advice to level my playboy bachelor fantasies... grass is greener syndrome... how do you deal with it?
being a kissless virgin NEET id say dump her and play the field
Watch porn
Just crossed the 20-year mark. In two weeks, 13 of those will be married.
Nothing beats intimacy built up over that length of time, bonded in all the ways society says is "right" (sayings which survived for a reason, and those reasons have nothing to do with petty power and control). Give it up now, and you will never get it back. The grass on the other side looks greener, but truth be told it's not even grass. Nothing compares.
