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I'm a 20yr old NEET whos been applying for jobs since march and i've been either ignored or rejected by everything other than mcdonalds which has given me two interview invitations, i declined the first because my fucking mum kept yelling at me to find a better job, but then i applied again after a week of more job rejections and they gave me another interview, which i have in one hour. But my mum is giving me shit again, should i ignore her and go or wait for a better job opportunity.
>>17260503
Some advice. Take the McJob until you find something better. Be persistent, there's countless other people like you applying for jobs. Your mom is being a cunt btw. Move out when you can, trust.
Dude fuck your mom. Not literally. She shouldn't give you shit for getting a job, even if it's McDonalds. It's a stepping stone onto something better, that's what she doesn't understand. She should be glad you are getting an opportunity, she shouldn't shoot you down. Take the McDonalds job despite all the shit she says, and maybe in 6 months or a year apply to a higher up resturaunt or fast food place. Take the opportunities that you get, because you may not get any others. Good luck.
>>17260512
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>>17260512
This. McJobs don't have a lot of redeeming features, but they do have a couple. The shift-based nature of the work allows you to pursue better opportunities, and the high churn rate means that managers understand these things.
This is not a forever job. This is a stepping stone, a way to get some cash flow and stop the employment gap from getting any larger. If your mother does not understand this, then ignore her; that mindset is foolish and dangerous.
So me and my ex of 3 years parted ways a year ago, which was for the best for the both of us. We were incompatible in terms of where we were in our lives, maturity, sexually and maybe even personality wise. Both felt like shit at the end of the relationship and the decision to split up was mutual. I broke off any contact after we split up and though I glanced at her tumblr a couple of times during the first 6 months, we didn't speak.
We had a conversation over facebook 6 months ago when we had seen each other in the city and now when I got back from the city my...
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It's a bad idea. You haven't given yourself enough time to think straight.
You two broke up for a reason. Your brain is still wired for dependency on her, which is why you're feeling what you're feeling, and is also why you hear about people in toxic relationships breaking up and getting back together over and over.
You need to move on and give yourself time to forget that dependency.
>>17260542
Right. Do you have any advice on letting self worth depend on the approval of others? My low self esteem is an issue when it comes to relationships with women. Not as a reoccuring theme from relationship to relationship but as a theme of how I feel when interacting with attractive women
>>17260560
Find worth in other things.
Hobbies, platonic friends, working towards a goal for yourself.
I'm pretty liberal, and I've read a lot of articles about the dangers of the echo chamber and stuff, so I decided to follow my Facebook friends who were more conservative in order to expose myself to different views and be a better person. Unfortunately I've found that so much of what they say is wrong and it's making me question being friends with them (and I know some of them IRL!) Should I take it upon myself to engage them more and correct their thinking or should I just stop following them? Maybe unfriendly them? Report them?
>>17260451
kill yourself.
>>17260459
That's a little harsh.
>>17260451
You are confusing two separate issues.
1. It is legitimate to seek out friends for what they can teach you about life, and then to decide for yourself how "true" or useful their beliefs are.
2. It is also legitimate to remain friends with people you disagree with on key topics, because the other good qualities of the friendship outweigh that one disagreement.
Indeed, one could argue that friends with whom you disagree are as valuable as those who think the same as you, since they help...
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Bought a start house, needed a lot of work. I've been at it, but I am getting really discouraged, not really from the amount of work I have to do, but its my wife. She texts me 3 times daily asking what I am working on, then gets really pissed off for a solid hour if she doesn't notice something BIG.
She will then say she doesnt have enough space to move around, then rearrange everything, you know, right up against the walls I was working on then complain when it takes me a few hours to move everything back to work again.
How the hell do you deal with...
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>>17260448
>" I go to work for 10 hours, I expect 10 hours from you "
That sounds totally fair to me, to be honest.
How long ARE you working a day?
All the rest of the shit she's doing is horrific though, and it sounds like she's just too wrapped up in herself and doesn't realise how much you've accomplished or how much her actions are setting you back. Which is understandable, when she's not there to see what you're doing.
It sounds like...
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What gets me is that I AM a hard smart working person. I am so much smarter than her, and it really just fucking gets me going that I cant be mean or rude to her, because shit, shes my wife.
>>17260477
AGH holy shit that was the end of 2000 word count.
Well fuck. I guess the same thing I wrote in a shorter thing would be
Why DO I have to work all day at this? Is my worth related to what I produce?
I got her the job she has right now, I did the resume, cover letter, pre interview letters, she was just going to ignore it.
She acts like I am lazy, when I was a retail manager for years, working my ass off.
she acts like 10 hours a day is a lot, when I used to pull 12 hour days,...
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>3 years ago
>went to the barber
>got these pimpels on the back of my head
How can i get rid of them
>>17260392
It's staph. Go to your doctor.
clean pic
>>17260409
Lose weight you gross fat fuck
I don't want to be a misanthropist, I know it is not safe to my mental health to hate everyone but damn, I can't help it.
I have normal social relationships and I have a girlfriend but I feel deeply disgusted from the human nature.
I can't trust anyone, I know that everyone one around me can make me suffer and probably will. I have no interest in making new friends or meet new people in general.
I hate the fact that everyone around me pretends to be something else, like everyone is moved by appearences.
Even the little things, such as Facebook posts,...
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>>17260402
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>>17260383
>everyone sucks but me
maybe your first step to getting over this is accepting that you aren't wrong, but you are also one of them. you arent doing anything they do 'ironically' and you do a lot more of what they do then you give yourself credit for.
sure maybe you dont go to starbucks, maybe you dont listen to the latest pop hits, maybe you are a little less mainstream.
just like everyone else :^)
You are me anon
i've been with my current girlfriend for a year and a half. she's a really good person (the best I've met probably), very beautiful and hot, pretty good artist as well.
however, i only now realized she's very very dumb. For instance, she can't even do "1 million times two". She thought it was "100 million at first" and I said it wasn't and then she said she didn't know. There were other instances too of shit like this but I just ignored and assumed she was tired or something, but now I am 100% sure she is really dumb.
So,...
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there are not nearly enough intelligent women out there for every man, so you only have a chance if you get lucky or are above average.
>>17260378
Fem here
I know a lot of girls in their teens feign stupidity because men find smart girls intimidating, could she have been faking?
>>17260378
>she's a really good person (the best I've met probably)
>very beautiful and hot
>pretty good artist as well
> I can't handle that much stupidity. Was I right or wrong to do this?
Your call. But if i was in your situation i think it would have been the wrong one.
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Convince me that NoFap is bullshit. Every time I orgasm now I feel this foreboding guilt that gleams over my mood for basically the next 2 days.
I'm not addicted to masturbation, but I'm convinced the longer you go without masturbating the better your ability to socialize and remain confident is.
I orgasmed recently because I'm seeing a new girl. I haven't actually ejaculated in two weeks though. (I practice tantra masturbation, basically cumming without shooting semen....
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*my most recent orgasm was via my own stimulation not the new girl
>>17260319
>Implying NoFap is bullshit
>>17260479
What's the verdict with my case then? If you orgasm but retain sperm, do you keep testosterone levels and dopamine returns to normal faster than ejaculating?
I'm beginning to feel a little better now that it's been several hours later. I'm assuming here that orgasming without ejaculating has a similar effect to edging. What's the actual brain chemistry behind this?
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Hello /adv/isors,
I need to confess but I have no one to tell my story.
I fell in love with a girl 8 years ago. I felt she was "the one" but it seemed she just wanted to be friends. So we were friends. For 8 years.
This winter we were on a party, got drunk, kissed. I found out she was in love with me for some time now but she didn't want to ruin our friendship. Now we are dating and holy shit we really understand each other and it seems I was right about her being "the one".
Wow! What a happy story!
Our teenage years were really...
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>>17260290
I even talked about this with her (we agreed on talking about everything and not lying to each other) and she's obviously mad.
One thing is I feel like some kind of cuck for waiting all these years when she fucked everyone else and I think that this would help me get over it.
Second thing is that as I said, I've always wanted to meet a lot of other girls and I'm worry if I don't do this now, I'll never do it and then regret it for the rest of my life.
Am I just retarded?...
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ayyyyyyyyy mannnn chill out
youv got your dream girl. congrats. your stuck with her for the rest of your life. this is the problem with relationships. if your like me, cheating is NOT an option. so might i suggest some possible choices?
1) (what i would do) youv told her how you feel about it, and if she loves you she will understand your need to sleep around. but maybe go travelling for a couple months and have a 'free pass' to fuck around. then stay committed.
2) sleep with no one else but her. complete her and have as much fun with her as possible....
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>>17260400
I've tried number one.
She's thousands of miles away but she won't accept this.
Number two seems reasonable if I could be sure I won't regret it later as I stated in my second post. Plus that thing about lsd, I can't even smoke weed without having a bad trip.
And I just can't break up with her. I'd break her heart and never get her back.
Thanks for you advice though
>Be me (Asian femanon from developed Asian country)
>I feel like most people feel like white people are the best-looking and disagreeing will only make me look stupid
>Like people will immediately assume a half-white person is good-looking and they think having pale skin, double eyelids is good etc.
How to feel better about this?
>inb4 tits or gtfo, etc
(Pic unrelated)
You don't. Do you boo boo.
>>17260283
White guy here. Prefer Asian women over white women. Take that as you will.
My wife is Chinese and she harps on about all that stupid shit while her inner soul is very toxic. Looks shouldn't be everything but they are in this vain trashy society. Find a like minded counterpart and stop fretting over shit you cannot change. It is what it is
If your Chinese though I gotta say fuck your culture sickens me all your 有车有房, 高富帅,白富美,有钱就好了 retarded sayings sicken me. Its where any shred of pure "love" goes to die and gets used for status with feeling of superiority.
>whole family have dogged me/use me for money/treat me like dirt
>gf uses me for my money and is manipulative bitch
>friends are mostly dogs and are fake
Thinking of getting rid of all fr my life, possibly by deleting social media
Anyone else been in this situation?
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I'm not because I don't have friends but I know most ppl are cunts.
Take care of yourself anon, you got your back and that's all you need.
>>17260295
yeah oath they are, its like you may aswell be a lone and not have friends cause you'll die alone in th end
>>17260345
yeah but times are so tough
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How do you deal with loneliness? I can't get into a relationship with anyone. By that I mean, any time in the near future.
>20 year old kissless virgin
>At least a year of hard training before I'm an attractive weight
>A couple of months to get rid of acne
>Who knows how long to overcome social anxiety
>Have no bridges or connections to meet people
It's clear that I'm not going to be...
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Keep working yourself.
I was in the exact position you were in. I went to the gym and worked on myself when it came to social interactions.
All it did was get me into an abusive relationship and a ltr where I am miserable. My grades dropped and the little bit of drive I had in my hobbies are gone.
Instead of thinking that getting into a relationship will provide your happiness, find it by yourself.
>>17260280
I've been working myself all my life. I don't know how some people can say relationships won't provide happiness to someone who's lonely and wants to be in a relationship.
I'm actually envious of you that you got into a relationship despite being abusive. I'd rather have that experience of being in a relationship, even if it's crappy, than not having one at all. At least I know in myself that I'm desirable to someone, not a completely hideous loser.
Your post...
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Learn to get over your animal desires and just focus on your own improvement.
Find a hobbie and direct your energy towards it. Playing music, a sport, traveling, learning languages, reading. There is more to life than breeding, and hobbies like those will allow you to meet many wonderful people.
How do you start viewing all the good things and not the bad? How do people become content with their life?
Lots of older men are telling me I need to just relax etc, but I don't understand how they just wake up and go "wow, I don't have that car I want but I'm happy"
Acceptance is the key
Grant me he serenity to accept what i can't change, the courage to change what i can and the wisdom to know the difference.
>>17260198
But how do they accept it? They all told me they just did it some day, and that If I don't do it soon, it'll be too late to mean anything?
Im a freshman in college and I never have the desire to go to parties or go out with friends. Is that normal?
yes its normal
the secret is college is terrible but the ultimate buyers' remorse so no one will tell you that
>>17260189
Best rule is to not do anything you will regret.
You might not desire parties but you should at least experience one. You can always leave.
Only say this because I had a friend, didn't want to party or anything fun until he was 27 now we're all to old to party with him.
>>17260189
Yes.
Doing things because everyone else do them is fucking stupid.
do you think I've spent too much on gifts?
background: I'm 26 and I've been dating a girl for about 6 months
now her birthday is coming up. I went to a few shops and bought several gifts and, before I realized it, the total was $140.
I personally am fine with it but I don't want her to feel uncomfortable.
I can return a couple things or keep them for another occasion if you guys think it's too much.
she's not a gold digger btw, she told me I didn't have to get her anything, but I obviously ignored that. I like buying gifts.
>I like buying gifts.
That's your problem.
>>17260183
yeah I think you must be right
I had so many ideas and couldn't choose so I got 'em all
If you can afford it, it's all good. If not, make a budget and stick to it next time
